Hi All. Like everyone says, "I couldn't wait to share my bfp story here"
I hope this gives logical hope and deep assurance to any woman in their 40's who thinks she doesn't have a chance!
Im 43 and the mom of 7. I know i know. Its a little selfish to want another but I was put on the planet to be a mom. I love parenting. I adore my children's personalities and I learn so much about myself with each one of them. In many ways its me being parented. I love helping them achieve.
With that, at 41 I decided after sneaking and smoking for 7 years that I wanted to stop and have another baby. I never smoked or drank with my other children. I tried after stopping for a month and my body gave me a resounding... HELL NO.
I miscarried. I really do call for my children and I think this time that I had done so much damage to my body with smoking and not eating well that my baby was, from some ethereal state, outright refusing the call.
I stopped calling.
In December of 2015. I called again. I snuck and smoked in November, hadn't exercised a lick, wasn't taking vitamins regularly and my baby was like, "yeah, no thanks". So too in January, April & June.
I read everything. I gathered everything. I did nothing. Yet I longed for my little one to accept my call.
In September, I downloaded 2 african songs with heavy drumbeats. I downloaded a walking app on my phone and I put on my headphones and walked 2.5 miles in place. I last smoked in March. I started drinking 2 quarts of water a day. I started making smoothies every morning with maca, spinach, lucuma, banana, bee pollen, coconut oil, manukah, barley grass and 1/4 teaspoon of vitex along with the kitchen sink lol.
I started going to sleep at night. In October my husband started walking me around the neighborhood in the mornings and evenings. I loved the time with him and hated the exercise. I hate exercise.. well maybe hate is a strong word. I deplore exercise. Yes thats it! :)
All my bbt temps suggested I had thyroid problems.
I never get ewcm. I remember having it in my 20's and thinking "wtf???" Ah, i was so dumb.
My right boob has a lump bigger than Texas in it. My doctors said its fine.
My luteal phase bobbled from 9-11 days. My cycles 23-26 days.
With my husband, I finished 2 bottles of Geritol during September & October. I took selenium and B6, zinc, magnesium, and real b12 (methylcobalamin) 5000mg sublingual. I took vit c and serrapeptase and milk thistle and real vit e. I drank bladderwrack tea for the iodine. I drank pregnancy tea and healthy cycle tea and green teas. I drank 3-4 cups of tea a day. I made dandelion and nettle infusions.
I loved myself again. I thought myself important again.
My husband and I are weird so we decided that we would get pregnant in November to try for a baby born on the day of the eclipse of 2017.
Go big or stay at home my Grandma would say lol.
My husband doesnt share his sperm unless we're trying to have a child and being convinced that it was a day after my ovulation and that I couldnt get pregnant, I concocted some story about my body fighting his sperm as a foreign invader and so he should internally reacquaint himself . We laughed about it but I kinda sort of thought that way. OK, I really thought that was true.
5dpo M I G R A I N E
6dpo headache all day. Painful sharp jabs in my stomach.
7dpo my butt hurts so bad and I dont mean my cheeks. I start googling rectal pressure and bfp. The pain reminded me of a time I pulled muscles tilling soil. Grabbed the progesterone cream everyday from this point.
8dpo 98.38 bbt more rectal pain. Help me any God.. ALL THE GODS! Stomach cramps left, then right, then center.. then center, left and right.
9dpo stomach cramps, gassy and my butt is still being.. a butthole
10dpo 97.90 bbt less gas, less butt pain and same crampy stomach. Took a cheap Walmart hpt-- negative.
11dpo BFN hpt. Crampy butt pain gone. U mean to tell me I had a week of a bad relationship with my lower half and Im not pregnant!!
12dpo 97.90 frer-- BFP faint but definite positive. Crampy. A lil stinging on the arm side of my right breast.
I didnt think it would happen sometimes.. my husband never wavered and Im well pleased.
Take care of yourselves. Take out the time to prepare your babys first nursery.. your womb. Believe everything and nothing. Listen to your body's needs. Call your baby.
I truly will you the joy of being a mother as many times as you desire <3
Now to tell my son and his wife that their son is going to be a big nephew lol