Here's my story to help others still in the process. It'll happen, just keep doing what you're doing.
Husband and I both are 31. Got off BC February of last year. Like many others I naively thought we'd conceive right away. In my excitement, I blabbed about it to everyone which later backfired as I kept being asked. Pro tip: Keep it to yourself if you can!
For the first three months off BC I didn't get my period which was very unnerving. Finally got it, after some acupuncture and vitex, and kept trying. Started temping- never got a clear chart. Gave up on temping. Tried ovulation tests which were hit or miss. More acupuncture. More BFNs. Cycles erratic. I exercise regularly, drink infrequently and in moderation, and started taking supplements like bee pollen, spirulina, B12, Vitamin D, baby aspirin. Friends got pregnant by blinking, had babies, talked breastfeeding and whatever, while I carried on living that BFN life.
In November I went to a specialist, was told I have mild PCOS i.e. I don't ovulate every month. Husband's count perfect. Started monitoring. Then December took Clomid which made me crazy and found out made my lining very thin. January Femara, BFN. Then February we decided to go forward with IUI with Femara because why not? Insurance covered it.
Trigger shot the day before then the morning of IUI my husband's count was at 2.9 million which the doctor told us was very low. They did it anyways, offering for us to go for second IUI at their other location an hour away the next day if we wanted to. We decided against it (didn't want to make it more stressful than necessary.) Evening of IUI I had a beer at a friend's birthday and then we had sex that night and again the next afternoon. Doc had me take estradriol to support lining.
Because of the low count I was pretty sure it was a no go this month. On top of that I had practically no symptoms (while other months I was CONVINCED we had conceived because I'd be feeling everything: sore breasts, tingling nipples, bloating, pulling, etc.) All I felt this month was like my period was about to start the entire week before the day it was due and I was PMSy af.
DPO 1-7 nothing but some creamy CM
DPO 8 - very faint blood after sex. Mild cramping.
DPO 9 - Got anxious, took test, BFN. Mild period-like cramping.
DPO 10 - PMS, crabby, barely tinted CM, little watery CM
DPO 12 - PMS, slight sharpness behind bellybutton, wet but no spotting (CD27, day before period due.)
DPO 13 - PMS cramps. Sex, no spotting. Period due.
DPO 14 - Dark blown/black blood, not full flow. Figured it was my period, used tampon. Disappointed, drank a glass of wine with dinner, a beer later on in the evening. Later in the night realized something was up when tampon was practically clear. Hello implantation bleeding?
DPO 15 - Took cheapie wondfo test first AM urine. Couldn't believe I was seeing a second line for the first time ever. BFP! Took two more cheapies later in the day, both positive.
DPO 16 - And another, BFP.
DPO 17 - FRER two lines right away.
DPO 18 - Blood test at doctor's office. Confirmed!
Relieved and hoping the next part goes smoothly. We haven't told anyone yet as we're both still stunned. Also gonna work on the whole keeping it to myself thing for a while until we learn a little more about how this pregnancy is going. But thanks for letting me at least share here, anonymously, with all of you!
I know it's tough and can be a real mind-fuck with each passing month. Just remember you're a person first with interests, good qualities, and other attainable goals and that (hopefully) you and your partner like each other for reasons other than just becoming parents together. Good luck out there.