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BFP on a Break

Isn't that just the way it goes: you try for month after excruciating month to get pregnant, but to no avail. Then you decide to lay off for a bit, take it easy, re-charge the battery… and voila – you're pregnant!

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First BFP after 3 years. Endo, LPD, weak ov, hostile fluid, low progesterone, laparoscopy (laser).

Hi everyone!

I really cannot believe I am here to share this story. I have been reading these stories for 3 years and never ever ever thought I would get pregnant, I truly believed that and it had taken an emotional toll on me. The only reason I am writing this now is to lend some hope to you ladies out there, because I know how much others stories would help me when I was in my darkest moments.

My background:
Saw 3 different fertility specialists over 3 years, Used multiple OPKs, IUIs, HSG, sonohysterogram, laparoscopy to remove stage 2 endo, hysterscopy to remove polyps, clomid, letrazole, bloodtests, ultrasounds, progesterone, trigger shots, etc, and every home remedy (pineapple core, preseed, mucinex, guafenin, legs in air, etc.). My lap was Dec 26 2013, I had it done due to SEVERE debilitating period cramps and infertility. It did not help whatsoever for my pain nor my fertility, so the last few months I have been researching the leading endo excision specialist in the world in California who changes women's lives apparently. Also been setting little money aside each week for IVF, but at the rate I was going, would take 30 years to have enough money.

Anyway, for some reason, as of the last 3-4 months, I just finally became burned out and tired, mentally exhausted. Got rid of all OPKs, medicines, everything. Only marked when my period would start so that I had an idea when to expect it and I could plan around the pain that would come. Was so consumed with buying a house that I just completely put TTC out of my mind, which I never thought I could do, but in a way, I "let go" for the time being. Didnt even have much sex at all, just wasnt in the mood.

I just found out 2 days ago that I am expecting. Got my first ever positive pregnancy test in 3 years of trying. Only reason I tested was because I noticed my period was 4-5 days late, which is weird for me. It was a very strong positive and my betas are very good. Of course, I am TERRIFIED of miscarriage or something else going wrong, but more than anything I am truly SHOCKED that it finally happened when I was trying the least. I used to HATE when I would read those stories of relaxing and letting go to make it happen, but I am living proof, or else its just one hell of a coincidence. This should not be possible, all 3 docs told me I had less than 1% chance of conceiving. Anyway, DONT EVER LET GO OF HOPE. I let the anxiety and depression of infertility destroy my social life and some friendships. Hang in there please and good luck!!!!!! <3

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BFP after 7 months & going NTNP!!

After 6 months of obsessing and let's downs. I decided to stop all the madness of tracking my cycle, opks, timed BD, no pre-seed... and just relax and enjoy another summer without a baby. Sounds crazy but I was at peace with not being pregnant & made lots of fun summer plans to go out boating, drinking, dancing, and just have irresponsible FUN! Lol

well.. the universe had other plans.. suprised? Me too!

I seriously did not count my days. No opks, no google stalking, no cervix/cm checks, no tww.com visits either!!

hubs & I had sex only TWICE this month, the second time being 3 days ago, the first sometime after my period ended. We had long trips apart, and the flu hitting us at alternating times. The only thing I noticed was TONS of EWCM right after we BDed the first time this month which I thought was odd since it was only a few days after my period ended, so I must have ovulate early on and his swimmers lasted a few days in the EWCM!

Symptoms? I thought for sure there were zero chances in hell this would happen so I didn't pay attention or track days. I did notice that startimh a few days ago my boobs, which are normally sore after ovulation, we're hurting A LOT more. Ive been super emotional & tired. Had a weird dream I was breast feeding one night. a bit more acne than normal PMS, and that's about it. Like I said, I felt like just every other month during PMS.

This morning, after blowing up on my husband for not loading the dishwasher (he ended up storming out) I thought why not take a test, I had one more in my stash, and since it had been about 25-26 days since my last period.

i used a first response RAPID. not at all sensitive & only to be used after a missed period so again I totally thought I'd see a bfn right away.

the test line showed up IMMEDIATELY! so bright pink, so perfect, not even a squinter.

Still in shock. hubs bday is on the 28th so I have this little onesie I've been saving just in case and it says "Daddy's Little Farmer" (we own s family farm ;)) that I am going to give him! Oh my goshhh so excited!!

lets pray I can keep a secret for the next 4 days & that this little bean holds on tight.

You know how they say relax it'll happen & you want to punch someome?! Well, they are right! The second we relaxed, we nailed it! Lol

obese, bfp after 1 year ttc

hello everyone,
i have been a silent reader for more than a year and finally i got to share my bfp story. i am 28 and dh is 27. i am obese with bmi more than 40. i was diagnosed with high bp but normal blood sugar level.

dh and i were married in november 2013 and i got pregnant right away (i was about 20kg lighter). sadly, i had a miscarriage in january 2014 and started to gain weight. i waited for about 2 months after my d&c and start ttc (charting, opk, etc) . fyi, i usually have 35 days cycle and i got my period every month. after months and months of ttc, i thought i am infertile due to my weight.

i started to take daily supplements of 3000mg of fish oil, 1 tablet of similac pramilet and black seed oil (in october 2014). and still nothing happen. the only difference was i started to get shorter days cycle around 33-34. oh and less painful menstrual cramps too. i gave up hope and we decided to stop ttc in february 2015.

i got my usual period on 20th march 2015 and 3 days later i decided to go for wet cupping (hijama) cos i heard that it gives lots of benefits to our body such as improving blood flow. but it was for the muscle pains that i suffer from. and on 5th april 2015, we bd twice and that was it. i didnt even know when did i ovulate and such.

since last weekend, i noticed that i crave for unusual things and i want it like immediately. and my husband dreamt of having a son, the first time ever, earlier this month. and my bestfriend told me last week that she had a dream about me getting pregnant. and the thing that really made me think i was pregnant is that i started to have really really sore boobs since monday (but i was still debating with my thoughts saying that its pms cos im so tired of being frustrated with lots of bfn few months back). i also noticed that i got really hard nipple over the weekend.

so, today i went to pharmacy to get a hpt and poas and immediately i saw the long awaited second line of bfp like in 2 seconds. i didnt have to squint like i used to do in past cycles. it just appear straight away!! i hope that this one sticks to full term and i dont get any complications. alhamdulillah for this miracle that i thought would never happen again. so ladies, never lose hope. when the time comes, youll get your bfp. baby dust to all.

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Age 45 BFP Naturally

Hello,
I hope my story brings hope to everyone. I'm 45 and DH is 40. We've been ttc for almost 3 years. All the fertility tests for both of us were completely normal so the only factor was my age (old eggs). In the last year we did 8 IUI's with Femara or Clomid and trigger shot at the Kaiser REI clinic. It didn't work for us. Finally, my doctor tried to convince me to do IVF with donor eggs. The estimated cost was $30,000-$40,000. So, I looked into doing IVF with my own eggs in Mexico. We went to visit a clinic in Nuevo Vallarta called Liv Fertility Center. It was brand new, spectacular and at the beach, across from the Hard Rock Hotel! The total quote for IVF everything included was $7,000. So our plan was to go in June and stay for 21 days. But, BIG CHANGE OF PLAN. I kept hoping this cycle would be successful so I used the Clearable digital ovulation sticks. I kept getting the flashing happy face and it never turned solid. So we just BD every other day, while it was flashing. I wasn't very hopeful due to it never turning solid. However I did notice that I had much more CM since not taking the Clomid. I started doing the HPT on CD11 with the Dollar Tree test and there was a faint BFP. The next day my husband came home from work with the First Response 6 days earlier tests and they were positive too. Finally, I got a positive blood pregnancy test at Kaiser. We are so excited and still can't believe it!

A DADS STORY; how blessed we are, the strength of a woman is amazing!!!

Firstly I am a 26 year old full time primary school SEN teacher, I am also a dad of two beautiful boys born 01.01.2013 and 26.07.14 who mean the world to me and I have the most wonderful and supportive wife and family! I have posted in the past on this website and it was assumed I was the first dad to post on the website ever! I posted for the first time back in 2012 titled; BFP Thank You So Much! On the 28 April 2012 regarding my DW BFP and again in 2013 titled; BFP After Early MC and BF "A DADS STORY" on the 8th November 2013; most recently I posted in the IVF forum on behalf of my aunty titled BFP ICSI/LOW EGG RESERVE after 3 years TTC at age 38 on the 25th October 2014).

After the birth of my second son I made it my priority to aid my aunt/uncle with their dream of becoming parents in October they got their positive result fortunately on their first fresh cycle but at Christmas sadly they lost their IVF twins at 10weeks! This Easter break I once again supported my aunty in her journey for their final frozen embryo transfer and thus this is where my story begins!

Upon helping my aunty I was focussed upon her medication and appointments and ensuring her diet and vitamins ect ect were all in place and I had not really thought about my own wife and how our own fertility journey may be going! My wife was still breast feeding and there was no signs of AF, she is also a firm believer in natural contraceptive methods reluctant to try the pill, coil, iuds ect it is important to identify however we do not believe anything is an accident everything is meant to be and we firmly believe in the grace of god and his blessings and as a couple we had decided long ago we would love a large family and would just allow nature to take its course as long as all were healthy and happy.

As my aunty began her treatment at the beginning of the Easter holidays my wife began to feel tired and her appetite began to increase, followed by breakouts of spots and then finally increased cervical mucus! The day of my aunt’s transfer two weeks ago we found out we were expecting our third baby however our happiness was tinged with a sadness developed from empathy for my aunt and her individual journey! We saw this as a good sign and although initially reluctant we decided to share our news with our aunty who was over moon for us and also took this as a good omen! It coincidently happened that her test day was due on the same day we had been given an early ultrasound appointment today the 15.04.15! We went for our ultrasound today and saw our baby who is 8wk2days and a beautiful beating fetal pole. Sadly my aunt’s test came back negative and this cycle is deemed to have failed. Although we are so very happy it can’t be described the pain we feel for my aunt and uncle, her strength and happiness for us humbles me and as I sit writing this I am brought to tears. As we came home this afternoon she asked how the scan went after sharing her news I was reluctant to share our good news as I did not want to further upset her and she saw this. She very bravely said “Do not worry and do not be upset, I am blessed and fortunate to have a family who loves me and I am fortunate to be surrounded by your babies who I see every day and who love me just like I’m their mother, your happiness brings joy to my heart, that you do not have to struggle as I have and that you happily take the blessings that god provides brings me joy, anyone having the gift of pregnancy and a baby is a very fortunate person it should be celebrated, I am grateful that I got to say I was pregnant and see a test and experience pregnancy with the twins (miscarried at Christmas) I will cherish those memories”.

I write this story due to my own conflicted feelings at my aunt’s struggles and our happy news. To also share how even whilst breast feeding one can become pregnant but mostly because this forum and the network of ladies are so supportive and strong and your strength is exemplified when I consider people like my aunt. I wish all baby dust and ask for prayers for my aunt and my wife and our little baby bean!!!

So Excited and Scared all at once!

Hi all, well we've been trying for a few months now and in January we had m/c. This cycle we went to Cuba during my O week (just worked out that way) and have been back for just over a week now and I wasn't due for AF for another few days but decided that since my boobs were sore and I was really emotional this past weekend that Id POAS, just a cheapie I had. It was positive! So I couldn't wait to tell DB but I wanted to make sure! So I bought a clear blue with weeks indicator because my line was very dark for testing as early as i did. I used it this morning and behold.... 2-3 weeks pregnant!

I'm so excited to start this journey and hope that this one sticks! Im worried about it sticking, im worried about keeping this a secret! it definitely feels different this time, compared to last time. I have more symptoms this time. slight cramping, sore boobs, emotional, fatigue, and cant stand some smells.

Im mostly worried about money. Taking a year off work seems impossible and when planning all this we thought we were financially ready but what if were not? I guess if were not well have to make due.

Good luck to everyone trying and just relax! my BFP happened when I stopped charting, stopped testing 1DPO and stopped worrying about looking for the symptoms! I used preseed and enjoyed making love with my DB while on vacation, before we left and after we got back. Baby Dust to All TTC! And Happy Healthy 9 to all you lucky expecting ladies!

I cant Believe it!

So we've been TTC for a few months now, with m/c in Januaray. This cycle we went on vacation to Cuba for a week. The week we were away was my O time. We used PreSeed the whole time we were away and yesterday morning I got my BFP! I retested again this morning with a brand name test to be sure. So I guess I need to make a doctors appointment!!

Is it normal to be scared? Im mostly so worried about money and not working for a year. I went to school to be able to have a decent job but with school comes a school loan and I have a car payment. I hope that were financially ready. I guess if were not itll have to do.

I still can't believe it!

So it's hard to say how many dpo anything occurred, because after 7 months of ttc, I gave up completely after a hysterical meltdown of epic proportions when AF arrives after month 7. Now of course I know that 7-8 months of ttc isn't terrible in the great scheme of things, but I am also a doula & childbirth educator-which made the process that much more difficult to deal with. Month after month I am supporting women as they give birth to their own babies, and teaching women all about the process of pregnancy and childbirth-while secretly yearning to start my own family.
It became stressful quite quickly, even despite my original promise to myself not to get "too crazy" about ttc.
So after 7 months, I gave up-defeated. I was doing everything right, healthy weight, healthy diet, exercise regularly, drinking herbal teas, I had even tried ovulation tests & preseed to no avail. My DH and I had been doing the baby dance 3-4times per week, every week, for 7 months...I was exhausted and it wasn't fun anymore. I admitted defeat and my supportive husband said "no no! Don't give up! We'll just try harder-we'll do it twice a day!"
"Darling, my sweet amazing husband-I have no interested in doing it twice a day-I'd prefer to take a break all together, take it easy."

So during month 8, we did it 3 times total. I didn't check my CM, I didn't check my cervical position. I couldn't, I was done-I was done caring. It was all too stressful and I needed a break.
Ever since we had started trying my cycle had gone kinda haywire anyways. I started going for acupuncture in month 6, and it had regulated it a little bit, but then month 7 was 6 days late and BFN! In fact, every time my cycle was late, once I took a pregnancy test and got a BFN, my period would come within 24hrs-almost as though it would convince my body "okay, you're not pregnant-get over it"
I continued acupuncture in month 8, but didn't put too much hope into it.

AF was due on 4/4. Never showed up. I didn't look into it too much, just figured it was late again.
Had typical AF symptoms, swollen breasts, light cramping...still waiting for AF to arrive.
By 4/8, my bloating, swelling and cramping were accompanied by very mild one sided lower back pain. I thought maybe I over exerted myself at yoga or something.
On 4/9, I decided to take the one remaining HPT I had in my cabinet-I wasn't even taking it hoping for a BFP-I took it so that at least when it said "not pregnant", I could go back to convincing my body that it was time for my period to come.
I took the test, brushed my teeth, did my hair, made some coffee-after 20min I came back to check the results-and to my absolute ASTONISHMENT it said "Pregnant"
Plain and day.
I didn't believe it.
I had a false positive once before and it broke my heart.
I went out that afternoon and bought 4 more tests.
I took all of them that evening (despite knowing my urine is most potent in the morning)
ALL 4 of them were positive!

So that's my story.
I still don't believe it
And I honestly don't feel very much so far-no nausea.
Some slight shooting pains in the breasts.
When I checked my cervix yesterday, it's still slightly firm in the center.

So all those symptoms I lost my mind over for the past 8 months, don't even apply to me (at least not just yet).

Lesson-don't give up....or actually-GIVE UP!
It's the best thing I did.
Total meltdown aside, I felt better after I let go of dissecting every tiny thing I thought I felt.

I wish each and every one of you the same good fortune I had, however long awaited it may be.

Baby dust to you all!

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16dpo, didn't test before as i thought no chance!

I was convinced this wasn't our month. Tried OPKs for the 1st tune but couldn't get a positive result. None of the usual ovulation symptoms (i have pretty clear cramps on one side always). Also i had been exhausted- a couple of nights I was fast also when DH came up and said no, not thought. So thought there was no chance and didn't symptom spot, although I did have a bit of heartburn which I had never had before.

About 12dpo felt like AF was imminent but every time I went loads of CM and nothing else. Thought I'd seen the faintest tint of pink on the loo roll but just figured it was the beginning of AF. was so convinced of that that i didn't bother testing. Then the next day...and the next day...all with a feeling of heaviness and look, this is about to start any moment, but it never did. Also AF had been due Monday and my mum came to stay on Tuesday so didn't really want to test while she was there! By now i was regularly waking in the night needing a wee.

Finally decided Weds night I'm gonna test in the morning whenever I wake up. Try half 4. Ugh. Dragged myself to the bathroom and grabbed a test (last one) instantly got this.

Obviously I didn't go back to sleep after that and was trying to wake up DH as early as possible!

Thanks for all the stories and support, you guys are ace!

In shock!! BFP yesterday!!!

My husband and I have been trying since last June, and with many heartaches...AF kept coming each month. In January, I was CONVINCED that I was pregnant. I had every symptom in the book and then some and yet, she still came.

I FINALLY stopped worrying and trying to hard, and this month I randomly went and purchased a test because I was 6 days late...which isn't unusual...and BAM!!! Pregnant!!! After 4 positive tests yesterday, I finally got to surprise my husband!!

We are OVER THE MOON right now and we're just hoping and praying that we have a successful, healthy pregnancy and that we get to meet our little nugget in the beginning of December!

Symptoms this month....tender breasts-that is it!

Any other new mommas out there expected to have their bundle in Dec??

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