I got a very unexpected BFP last night!!! I want to share my story and give you all a serious warning to heed. Let me give you some background.
My husband & I had been trying for #2 for 9 months. I had been temping, charting, doing opks.. and was dead set that it had to happen immediately so the kids could be close together in age & I could be able to stay home part-time with both of them (an opportunity I've missed out on with my first). It became such an obsession & a focus in my life that my marriage began to suffer. I'd almost go off the deep end each month that we weren't successful. It was so depressing. Long story short, having done all that & adding a couple other small issues to the mix was the breaking point in my marriage. My husband was unhappy & we separated. I almost thought we were going to divorce.
Happily, a month later we reconciled. However, my husband said he didn't know if he ever wanted a second one, remembering what it did to us. So I put it on the back burner in my life. We used protection every time we had sex. He came around eventually & said over time he would like to have another. So we stopped being diligent about using protection & I secretly started trying to have sex when I thought it would give me pregnant.
That still didn't work. I was still focused on it & something about that "energy" prevents it from happening, I believe with all of my heart. Last month, (January 2014) we had a lot of fun & I decided that I didn't want it to happen then. I would just like to enjoy myself, enjoy our company we had staying from out of town, & just live life. We had sex a couple of times far enough out that I didn't think anything would come of it. I had made peace with it possibly NOT happening ever, and January I didn't want it to happen, as I had enjoyed lots of beer throughout. ;)
Well, imagine my shock when my BFP showed up last night!!! I didn't believe it, but I am the poster child for "stop trying & it will happen". Try it. (But by "stop trying" you REALLY need to Stop Trying. You need to make peace with the fact that it might not happen & just enjoy sex & life (and maybe some wine or beer ;) Put away the basal thermometer, the OPKs (unless you're using them to try NOT to like I was!!).
So, my symptoms. Not much different than PMS or my usual symptoms. I think the "PMS" was much worse this month. I was popping Pamprin a lot, as I had no clue.
So, My ovulation date was Day 17 of my cycle.
1-3 DPO: Nothing I could remember
3-4 DPO: Breast tenderness. This happens every month, and usually tells me "You are not pregnant".
5-7DPO: Maybe a little bit of on & off breast tenderness, but nothing out of the ordinary.
8 DPO: I felt a little dizzy & funky, this sometimes happens. Cramps were starting, as they often do about a week before AF.
9 DPO - 15DPO: I had the works. Bad pms, bad cramps, bad attitude, bad mood swings, a tad bit of nausea, bad cravings. I just thought it was going to be the cycle from hell. But, to my shock BFP on 15DPO!!!
I'll end with this: Stop. The. Obsession. It could be good for you & actually give you what you want. I'm sure for some of you it will be VERY good for your marriage too. ;) Peace & love, hoping for success for you all!! <3