For all you "older" ladies out there this is for you! It can and will happen!!!! Be proactive and stay positive!!
My fiancé (who is 56) and I decided to try for baby number #one 4-5 months ago and this was our third cycle of TTC!! At the onset of trying, we decided to get totally checked out to make sure everything was in working order and if not, to do whatever we needed to do to fix and/or bypass any problems - we did not want to waste any time! We went to a fertility clinic and got complete fertility evaluations. I would recommend this for anyone who is worried about their maternal clock! For me, they tested: AMH level, FSH, antral follicle count and ultrasound exam, TSH/free T4 (thyroid), progesterone, estrogen, prolactin, vitamin D. For him, complete sperm analysis. Everything came back normal/good except they discovered I was hypothyroid (TSH 6.5) and had mild vitamin D insufficiency. I immediately started taking synthroid to treat hypothyroid and my TSH was 2.4 by the second cycle of TTC. I also started taking vitamin D.
We tried on our own the first cycle and BFN. The next we tried IUI with clomid and had my cycle monitored, another BFN. I felt totally pregnant both times!!! Was convinced! Low and behold, while monitoring my cycle with the IUI, they discovered that my progesterone plummeted toward the end of my cycle (peaked GREAT cycle day 21 and then fell to almost zero too soon (Day 23) before AF). This is why my clinic tests progesterone twice - first on day 21 and then on day 23-24. The nurse explained that even of I had or did get pregnant, the pregnancy would not progress with this luteal phase defect. She said they would put me on progesterone supplements the next cycle. Then they discovered I had a huge cyst from IUI/clomid cycle and so I could not do another IUI, but we could try on our own. I insisted that they give me the progesterone to take the second half of cycle even though we could be trying naturally with the cyst. We used an OPK to track LH surge, BDed 3-4 days leading up to predicted O, day of and day after. I started taking the progesterone 48 hours after LH surge per Dr. One thing I highly recommend is Evening Primrose Oil to increase cervical mucus! I had never seen this egg white CM everyone talks about and so started taking the primrose oil this month starting 1rst day of period (supposed to stop after ovulation). I had copious amounts of egg white CM!!! I took a ton of the stuff - 1000mg a few times a day. I was also taking a prenatal vitamin, co enzyme Q10, vitamin D (5000 iu), synthroid for hypothyroid, vitex, and probiotics.
Symptoms (or non-symptoms!):
1-10 DPO: I had NO symptoms prior to my BFP on 10 DPO. Unlike other months where I was obsessed with symptoms and seemed to have every single one in the book, this month I hardly thought about it because I was convinced we would not get pregnant with a huge ovarian cyst. The only thing I noticed was a LACK of symptoms. I had major bloating, irritability, queasiness, cramping/pinching etc. and even had implantation bleeding (still convinced I was pregnant) in the prior two months and I had none of this, except some bloating, which I seem to have all the time! The only thing that made me test was something a friend said about me getting pregnant this month (I am superstitious)! I tested at 10 DPO with no symptoms and got a clear BFP on first response 6 days early and then a digital.
12-14 DPO: Boobs and nipples sore, especially on sides, but only off and on - it comes and goes. Mild cramps and sense of fullness in lower abdomen. Bloated and gassy. (had all these the other cycles as well). Pregnancy confirmed twice with Dr. office and beta hcg levels great, but I keep home testing because I don't "feel" very pregnant!!
We feel SO blessed that we got a BFP so soon and I hope all of you get yours very soon, especially all of you who like I did, feel scared that maybe you missed your window because you have been busy focusing on so many other important things in your life!! If I were doing it again, I would no doubt be proactive and do everything I did to make sure we were ready and able to make a baby even though we had no diagnosis of infertility.
Best of luck and prayers to all of you who are still waiting!! xo