I'm usually a lurker in the TTC Boards and the BFP boards when TTC however, since I'm now 18 weeks pregnant with my second after months of trying I wanted to share our BFP trip. WARNING- It's a long one.
My sister was engaged last year of August 2013 and wedding was set for August 2014. She made me her matron of honor and since this was my first time I was super stoked about it. I'm sure some or most of us knows what duties matron of honor does for the bride and with the bride; lot's of planning assistance and discussions plus planning bridal showers and bachelorette parties. In the beginning of 2014, at the brides' request, she didn't want any of the bridesmaids to get pregnant before her wedding so that we all can enjoy, drink, and party like no one's business and I thought this was a rather difficult request to fulfill as my DH and I were already planning for our 2nd baby in January since our little DD was going to turn 2 in July 2014.
As the matron of honor assisting on wedding and shower duties, my DH and I were also were working on baby #2 at the same time so stress from both worlds collided not to mention receiving my layoff notice in early in May, right after our family vacation, wasn't a piece of cake. I worked so hard on making sure to take my temps every morning, using digital opk's, checking fluids. My cycles came every month but it was always late, early or I would have it twice in once month so this just added another 20 pounds of stress. I did everything I could while handling my job crises, matron duties, plus family just made me so overwhelmed that I decided to take a private break on my own. Not telling DH that I was on break gave me a mental and physical silent break myself.
Bridal shower from bride's side happened at the end of May, bridal shower from husband's side happened in June and bachlortte happened at the end of July, just before the wedding. I took a break in May to focus on the three main events happening in the coming months with no worries of planning for #2. I worked out, went on a diet, focused on my job search, matron duties and so forth.
Beginning of June, I had two cycles which was at this point regular and not surprising. One cycle at the first week of June and the second at the second week of June. That month came and went and DH and I BD whenever we felt like it then the last week of June came and I thought "hey, why not take a test because I"m super bloated and weight isn't coming off from exercising." I took a 97 cent test from Wal-mart on a Wednesday at 6 p.m while my husband went to the store. My guess? It's negative...WRONG, came back positive and the best positive sign I've seen in months. I was nervous, excited and balling my eyes out. I kept it a secret from my husband until Friday which I surprised him with a little package full of peanuts and a card saying I was pregnant with our number two. The awesome thing was that I recorded him opening and the expressions, so while I'm filming I'm tearing up. This was great timing because my DD's birthday was the weekend right after. I had to break it to my sister that I was expecting so drinking at the bachelorette and her wedding wasn't going to happen but she rejoiced and was a great sister and couldn't be anymore happier for us.
I'm currently 18 weeks and my gender scan won't be until October 24. Expected due date of the little one will be in early March, two days after my DH's birthday! As for my job issue, I took another position with better pay with a different department in the same company and this all happened in June!
It's difficult to tell someone that "good things comes to those who wait" but I really do believe in that as this miracle happened while I wasn't planning or thinking anything of baby's. Our journey may be short for our BFP however, I feel the pain and the hardship of what every women goes through TTC.
Best of luck to everyone TTC and already with a BFP.