Hi, like so many others I have been haunting this site for the last 12mths trying to keep my hopes up and enjoy others BFP's. 12mths ago last week we lost our first pregnancy at 12wks, mmc followed by 2 d&c's due to retained product, I was devastated. I fell pregnant again quickly getting my next BFP in march this year, only it wasn't quite the BFP more like the faint positive and finally by almost 7 weeks I was diagnosed with an ectopic and after 2 round of methotrexate still ended up in surgery and lost my right tube. Again my world fell apart 2 weeks before my 37th birthday. Every month that went by after that I got more stressed at not getting my BFP again until finally I realized I just wasn't myself anymore, BD wasn't fun it was a chore. No oral (cos it's bad for sperm!) poor DH was getting performance issues having to rise to the occasion on command. So we decided to take a month off, no charting, stopped all vitamins (vitex, pre natals, vit b, coq 10 yes almost everything) enjoyed ourselves even though we only bd'd 3 times!
Today, dpo 11, on DH 37 birthday I got my BFP, with very few symptoms although I'm sure there were more every month before.
This month I was doing acupuncture still and ate pineapple only because they're in season and lovely, most if all I relaxed, didn't chart and tried not to stress. I said goodbye to my cat 1 week into the 2 week wait which emotionally was huge as she had been with me for 16 years but after 2 weeks nursing her as she was very unwell it was a relief to see her at rest.
Symptom by day:
Cd9 - bd
Cd12 - bd
Cd13 - suspected ovulation day bd again.
Dpo 1-6 - no symptoms
Dpo 7-8 - slight cramping remarked to DH that for first time in months I actually don't feel anything and feel quite normal
Dpo 9 - at shopping centre and smell of sushi hits me like a wall from 5 meters away (first clue)
Dpo 10 - bbs starting to feel tender on sides and heavy and sore when bra taken off
Dpo 11 - mild headache off and on, couldn't wait any longer something definitely going on. BFP with FMU on FRER.
Sorry for the long story, but all I can say is I was stressed and everyone telling me to relax was only annoying me more. But I'm going to say it now to you all, find something else to worry about, don't think about ttc. I've proved it's not just emotional stress because I certainly had plenty of that with cat dying, just not to do with conceiving. Bd'ing 20 times in the month isn't going to work any better than 3 quality times and most of all enjoy each other and RELAX, yes I know I hated hearing it too and easier said than done.
Hoping now for a sticky bean, and healthy 8mths more.
Baby dust to you all