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BFP at 40!

I'm so excited to be a mom again after 21 years. Been trying for 1.5 years and figured it wasn't possible. I used the apps that track your cycle and predict ovulation. I do think that helped. The one thing I did different this last month was instead of getting up to empty my bladder right after sex, I waited 30 minutes before standing up. In the past I've had trouble with UTIs so I would immediately get up, forcefully empty my bladder and wash. My symptoms with my first were extreme nausea and breast pain. With this one, I am gassy, sore breasts but nothing else and I don't "feel" pregnant. Praying for a healthy pregnancy. Good luck ladies :)

Pregnant at 41 after 11 months TTC

I am so excited to say I just got my BFP yesterday and I wanted to share incase I can help anyone else.

I gave birth to my first baby in September last year at 40. When my period returned in January the following year, we started trying due to my age. MY cycles were fairly irregular, they're usually 28 days but were around 40 days so after 7 months I went to see my OBGYN who prescribed me Clomid to trigger an early ovulation. She said because my cycles were so irregular, my chances of conceiving were disadvantaged. The first cycle I took the Clomid on days 3-7 and my cycle was super short - like 24 days, so the next cycle i tried 5-9. I should add, I have moved overseas so my old OBGYN was not monitoring me, just prescribed the medication, so I based this decision on my research.

I was beginning to get disheartened after trying for 10 months and so I researched what i could take. My concerns were around egg quality for my age so for this I started taking Maca powder and Royal Jelly. I also took Vitamin E as I read this helps fertility in general. I had been taking these for one month and just got my BFP!!! Dont know if it was a coincidence or perhaps taking the Clomid later helped. I read if you do this, it doesnt release the egg quickly but releases a better quality egg. When I got pregnant with my first I was also taking Vitamin E so I can really recommend that. Another thing to share is for the first time ever, I did not have EWCM, I think the Clomid dries this up, so I used pre-seed. I actually never got a positive OPK either, I was using the Clear Blue digital and was only getting flashing smileys for 8 days so I stopped testing but we DTD a few times when i first got flashy smiley.

Oh, and i had ZERO symptoms. Not one.

Baby dust to all xxx

Turned forty, first baby took over a year - pregnant first try, no symptoms

I'm posting this story in the hope that it will give other ladies out there the hope that I didn't have going into this.

Me and my partner tried for a baby for three years and I was told that although they couldn't find a reason, I'd need IVF. My partner refused. I was devastated. The next month I fell pregnant. Sadly I lost it a few weeks later and my partner a few months later. This left me at 35 and single and really worried I'd never have children.

I met my now husband at 36. We started trying for a baby quickly as I'd been having night sweats and my (useless) GP panicked me by saying I was perimenopausal (I'm not). We went private and had a load of tests to see if we could still conceive. Tests basically came back ok but there was some endometriosis and one of my tubes was partially blocked. Month after month I got negatives and was really losing heart.

To stop me going bananas I tried a new 'wacky' therapy each month and after the month of acupuncture and two months of Chinese herbs (oh my god, they're disgusting) I finally fell pregnant after 13 months. I had an implantation bleed at 14dpo, we'd had sex more than every other day for over a year and I tested at 18dpo as my boobs were so sore I couldn't shower and I was horribly constipated. I had a horrendous pregnancy and got cholestasis on top of being practically crippled by seven months. My wonderful baby was born by csection at 37 weeks to prevent still birth.

I didn't get my period back until 16 months post birth as I breastfed. We decided to start trying again shortly afterwards but I didn't want to stop BFing as I thought it would be my last chance and I didn't want to stop that on the off chance we might have another. So, with pessimism in my heart we started trying. I'd had an ultrasound a few months previously which revealed my ovaries were 'stuck' to my bowels (thanks to scarring from the section) which was causing me some pain, I was told this may mean I would need IVF to conceive again.
Immediately I contacted my consultant to ask for help, contacted the Chinese herbalist and acupuncturist for appointments and braced myself for a long journey that may well end in heartbreak.

And now, miraculously, I have my bfp. After one month of completely unassisted trying. I NEVER thought I'd be so fortunate and I'm praying with every fibre that I keep this little baby.

So I'm over 40, I did absolutely nothing special. I did use ov tests but im still breastfeeding a toddler and my sore nipples told me the same as the ov tests did. We did the deed three days before ovulation and I assumed that I had no chance at all.

At 14dpo I had a brown mucusy 'bleed' in the morning which I assumed was the start of my period. I put in my menstrual cup and was surprised that it was empty that evening. I don't get any premenstrual symptoms ever so I wasn't surprised to feel nothing was on its way. Days passed and still no more bleeding. I had absolutely NO symptoms at all. My boobs weren't sore (still breastfeeding and I would have thought that would have hurt). I was getting worried I was going through the menopause or nature was being really cruel and taunting me.

18dpo and I had been so obsessed and worried I was out of bed at 5am. Still no symptoms. Maybe boobs a bit weird feeling, maybe a bit lightheaded but by this time that was probably worry rather than anything else. So I bought a test and as soon as I dipped it, the two lines appeared.

I know it's early days. But this baby is so so so loved and if love can help, I think we will be ok.

Good luck ladies x

43 bfp & you can too!

Hi All. Like everyone says, "I couldn't wait to share my bfp story here"
I hope this gives logical hope and deep assurance to any woman in their 40's who thinks she doesn't have a chance!
Im 43 and the mom of 7. I know i know. Its a little selfish to want another but I was put on the planet to be a mom. I love parenting. I adore my children's personalities and I learn so much about myself with each one of them. In many ways its me being parented. I love helping them achieve.
With that, at 41 I decided after sneaking and smoking for 7 years that I wanted to stop and have another baby. I never smoked or drank with my other children. I tried after stopping for a month and my body gave me a resounding... HELL NO.
I miscarried. I really do call for my children and I think this time that I had done so much damage to my body with smoking and not eating well that my baby was, from some ethereal state, outright refusing the call.
I stopped calling.
In December of 2015. I called again. I snuck and smoked in November, hadn't exercised a lick, wasn't taking vitamins regularly and my baby was like, "yeah, no thanks". So too in January, April & June.
I read everything. I gathered everything. I did nothing. Yet I longed for my little one to accept my call.
In September, I downloaded 2 african songs with heavy drumbeats. I downloaded a walking app on my phone and I put on my headphones and walked 2.5 miles in place. I last smoked in March. I started drinking 2 quarts of water a day. I started making smoothies every morning with maca, spinach, lucuma, banana, bee pollen, coconut oil, manukah, barley grass and 1/4 teaspoon of vitex along with the kitchen sink lol.
I started going to sleep at night. In October my husband started walking me around the neighborhood in the mornings and evenings. I loved the time with him and hated the exercise. I hate exercise.. well maybe hate is a strong word. I deplore exercise. Yes thats it! :)
All my bbt temps suggested I had thyroid problems.
Maybe.
I never get ewcm. I remember having it in my 20's and thinking "wtf???" Ah, i was so dumb.
My right boob has a lump bigger than Texas in it. My doctors said its fine.
My luteal phase bobbled from 9-11 days. My cycles 23-26 days.
With my husband, I finished 2 bottles of Geritol during September & October. I took selenium and B6, zinc, magnesium, and real b12 (methylcobalamin) 5000mg sublingual. I took vit c and serrapeptase and milk thistle and real vit e. I drank bladderwrack tea for the iodine. I drank pregnancy tea and healthy cycle tea and green teas. I drank 3-4 cups of tea a day. I made dandelion and nettle infusions.
I loved myself again. I thought myself important again.
My husband and I are weird so we decided that we would get pregnant in November to try for a baby born on the day of the eclipse of 2017.
Go big or stay at home my Grandma would say lol.
My husband doesnt share his sperm unless we're trying to have a child and being convinced that it was a day after my ovulation and that I couldnt get pregnant, I concocted some story about my body fighting his sperm as a foreign invader and so he should internally reacquaint himself . We laughed about it but I kinda sort of thought that way. OK, I really thought that was true.
1-4dpo nothin
5dpo M I G R A I N E
6dpo headache all day. Painful sharp jabs in my stomach.
7dpo my butt hurts so bad and I dont mean my cheeks. I start googling rectal pressure and bfp. The pain reminded me of a time I pulled muscles tilling soil. Grabbed the progesterone cream everyday from this point.
8dpo 98.38 bbt more rectal pain. Help me any God.. ALL THE GODS! Stomach cramps left, then right, then center.. then center, left and right.
9dpo stomach cramps, gassy and my butt is still being.. a butthole
10dpo 97.90 bbt less gas, less butt pain and same crampy stomach. Took a cheap Walmart hpt-- negative.
11dpo BFN hpt. Crampy butt pain gone. U mean to tell me I had a week of a bad relationship with my lower half and Im not pregnant!!
12dpo 97.90 frer-- BFP faint but definite positive. Crampy. A lil stinging on the arm side of my right breast.
I didnt think it would happen sometimes.. my husband never wavered and Im well pleased.
Take care of yourselves. Take out the time to prepare your babys first nursery.. your womb. Believe everything and nothing. Listen to your body's needs. Call your baby.
I truly will you the joy of being a mother as many times as you desire <3
Now to tell my son and his wife that their son is going to be a big nephew lol

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Donar FET @43 years old

Dear Friends, I just created my account today after reading all lovely posts by all of you. I am 43 years old, never pregnant before. Tried two IVFs with incomplete cycles in year 2007/08 due to poor quality of eggs, that's when I knew I have high FSH and was told to try donor egg IVF which we did in 2010 which ended up as failure also messed up my periods, upon which my doctor(in 2011) put me on vivele dot patch & progesterone to regulate my periods. It took us courage finally after 6 years to try another IVF with donor egg this year. I got 3 donor FET transferred on October 31st.
My symptoms- not really much, just a bit sensitive boobs, a mild pain above pelvic area( I think this might be due to meds too). I feel very anxious and nervous to know results (its only 8th day today). My doctor advised me to blood test on 18th of November and irrespective of value of Beta to continue the meds and progesterone injections till 25th of November &have ultrasound done . As you know the progesterone injections are painful after administering it ( my husband is cute/funny makes jokes during administering the injection and I rub it a bit after so it does not swell). we also pray during the injection just to make it easy. As you all know the waiting time is very hard. Each day passing is hard and this wait makes me more worry or eager just to know. But I guess have to wait. Some women are so lucky who doesn't have to do anything and become pregnant so easily . I know I need to be positive and not to compare others as each of us are different beings. But sometimes some thoughts are beyond my control. Anyways I will share my results irrespective of what they are. Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and hope we all have healthy babies :)
love you all :)

46 BFP Naturally

Hello Everyone, I am so glad that I found this blog. Now I don't feel all alone. I am 46 and currently 6wks 4 days pregnant, naturally. My fiance(53) and I had tried over a year ok, but gave up. I thought I was experiencing perimenopause as I had been have weird things going on with my cycle. I would get early cycles, back to back cycles (once I got it every other week for six weeks- I had three cycles in six weeks), and late cycles. Not to mention PMS symptoms that were like early pregnancy symptoms every month. The latest my cycle had been was 11 days. This time, it was 14 days late before I decided to test. Got a BFP!!! I was shocked, elated, and scared at the same time. My oldest son would have been 31 (he passed at 24yrs) and my youngest son is 29 years old. I don't have any children with my fiance and this pregnancy has brought us closer to each other and to God. I keep hearing all of the negativity about giving birth after 40. I believe that this MIRACLE BABY is God's will and is going to be just fine. I am glad to hear all of the success stories. I pray for those that are still trying. God Bless.

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BFP Au Natural 45!!!!!!!!!

Hi ladies......I have one healthy daughter I had at 34 she is now 11yrs old. I was not trying and not even really expecting a baby at this age, however here I am. Ive already had well meaning people suggest to me not to keep this baby.
I had two misscarriages at age 39 and 40 back to back but ironically I feel more sure of this baby than at that younger age. I am a very young 45, have friends of all ages and I am excited. I am fully aware of my level of risk, but I really know that if God wants this baby here they will be.
I have not been keeping track of my symptoms as I did not expect this, I do know what a blessing this is and I am greatful for this opportunity to be a mommy again. A bit shocked but pleasantly surprised:)
Syptoms I have noticed since 9/17 the day first test taken:
Nausea
Tired
Moody
VERY hot wow
Some lower abdominal discomfort (mild)
Breast pain ouch lol
Running to pee alot
Mild headaches
Dizziness/balance off
Irtitability
No appetite
Extreme thirst

Tested blaringly (wow) positive at 11 dpo as of today 9/20 four to five weeks only
Confirmed same day with
Digital.

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Older Couple and PCOS

My husband is 51 and I am 37. I was diagnosed PCOS at 13, and have struggled with the side effects my whole life. I suffered with obesity despite dieting most of my 20s. I went off birth control when I was 28 and had a surprise pregnancy the next month. I didnt think I would be able to get pregnant without help, hence the surprise. I saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks, and all looked good. Went back at 12 weeks and the babys heartbeat was very slow. They said I would lose baby, and I did. My body didnt recognize it, and had a missed miscarriage. After 45 days of waiting to pass the baby and nothing, I finally demanded some help. They gave me pills that did start the process, but it didnt complete it. 48 hours after I started bleeding, I started to hemorrhage and went to ER for an emergency D & C. Fast forward 6 months, and I felt ready to try again.

I did 2 rounds of Clomid and NOTHING. I was so bummed, as my sister tried for a year with nothing, then did one round of Clomid and bam was pregnant. So, I decided to clean up my diet and work on the weight issue. I went vegan and lost 30 lbs that first month, and then bam found out I got pregnant while I was dieting that month. Happy news!!!! I had found a new dr before I got pregnant, one who knew about PCOS and how challenging it could be. Everyone else wanted to wait until i had 3 mc before doing bloodwork or tests. Not her, she brought me in the moment I got a positive test and checked everything. She discovered my progesterone was low, so she started me on suppositories. They kept checking my blood twice a week (oh joy haha). About 8 weeks or so, my progesterone took a dive. They called me (sitting at my desk at work) to tell me that I was likely losing the baby,. I freaked, and demaned I come in right away for an ultrasound. They agreed, and low and behold my baby was sitting in there just fine. So they took me off suppositories ad switched me to shots every day, for the next 6 weeks. I was still on metformin 1500 a day and kept me there until 12 weeks. I took the shots till 16 weeks. That was rough, but I got through it. Rest of pregnancy was uneventful till 39 weeks, they said my urine protein was beginning to go up a bit, and thhey didnt want to chance pre-eclampsia with my pcos and being overweight. So they scheduled me to be induced. After 16 hours of uneventful labor, no pain, and I was only dialated to 4 and then st there for HOURS, they said he needed to be csection. I threw a fit, as I wanted natural all the way for his sake. They gave me 2 more hours, then said he must come out before he starts to have issues jjust sitting there, so we csectioned.

After birth, I breastfed and lost a LOT of weight that first year. My baby boy ended up being MSPI, which is milk-soy-protein intolerant, so anything that I ate that had those foods made him very sick to his stomach, and he was losing weight. Once I noticed that ne eating certain foods made him worse, we figured it out. So, there wasnt much I could eat that first year, so I lost alot of weight. Through that, I discovered a whole new world. I researched the heck out of food and diet, and learned a lot. I lost the rest of the weight, started going to the gym, and discovered I LOVED working out, and fed off the challenge of it. I became a personal trainer and started bodybuilding. I know, weird story coming from a girl who had been really fat her whole life. I felt something I had never felt before-HEALTHY!!! AND I was so happy to be a better example for my new baby!!!!

I ended up divorcing due to his infidelty when my son was 6 months old (he couldnt handle my new lifestyle). I was single for a LOT of years, dating but never finding the right guy till my new husband. He is older than me, 51 now, and I am 37. So we decided to try for one. I got pregnant the first month we tried. But the hcg levels stopped very early, my beta only got to 15 and then 17 two days later, so I miscarried 5 days after my period was due. It was a painful period with lots of clotting basically. The next two months I had SOOO many symptoms, which I usually dont get much in the tww. I may get a little sore breast in the week before af, but thats it. I was having like every symptom imaginable the 2ww of those 2 months. I would have swore I was super pregnant, but nothing.

Almost 41 and got BFP at 11 dpo

Hello everyone so yesterday I got my BFP. When we started this journey I really didn't know what to expect.
I never have had trouble
*conceiving
*never miscarriages
Always healthy pregnancies and deliveries 4 children. Here I am 11 years later and have somewhat of a new start in life, phenomenal children but new partner. He is younger and figured this is probably going to be my last child. My new husband has never had children or been married so it was really important for me to give it a good try.
They say at 40 your chances are conceiving are in about one years time. "O Man" I thought, well here we go. The second month after really trying we succeeded. I have never obsessed about looking for symptoms and as I have gotten older my body has changed before my period which really was tricking me. It was the most textbook signs this month that gave it away.Hopefully my journey below will help someone else as I was a bit lost myself.

I did not use OPK tests, and BBT in the mornings or ever, but just checked my cm daily, I found out that I was ovulating on day 17

Intimacy the night before ovulation day.
O DAY- Ovulation morning curled up in a ball cramping for about 3 min then I was fine
1-3 DPO- Elevated temp 99.6 dull and achy cramps felt ovaries distinctly when I sat down or bent over
3-5-DPO- Elevated temp 99.5 Cramps subsided but achy by armpits, under arms and sides of both breasts.
5-6 DPO- Elevated temp 99,6 Raised veins in Areola and blue veins going up along top of my breast to my armpit, starting to use the bathroom more, constipated three mornings in a row, horrible night terrors last night 3 times scared my husband and needless to say a very tired day the next day for both of us.
7 DPO- Temp 98.5 and crazy ache on my pelvic floor. Really weird faucet like runny nose.
Very sore Vagina internally, like the start of yeast infection but more severe, (not yeast by the way, just the feeling) and
achy pubic bone area
buzzing feeling through the entire front.
8 DPO- Temp at 99.6 again today and only breasts feeling fuller anytime to de-bra myself was taken
9 DPO- temp still up and my husband could not sleep curled up to me due to my temps up really high while I slept
10 DPO- temp is still up and have been exhausted last two evenings. At work in the afternoon caught myself at the edge of my desk (thank goodness no one was there) Started getting a lightening or pin prick feeling inside of my. Happened for about 1/2 hour then never felt it again. Can't keep up with hubby's night owl habits. Drank cranberry juice all day thinking the pain from the day before was a bladder infection.
11 DPO- temp is still hanging on at 99.6 and breasts do not feel like normal PMS symptoms, feel like they want to pop out the top of my bra and notice I didn't really feel regular menstrual cramps. Oh and CM was in abundance all the sudden!!! Yellow tinted and globby

So I decided today was the day to pull out the two First response tests I had (6 day early) used first morning urine and there was a faint second line. Totally in disbelief had no liquids and did it again and sure enough two pink lines.

So 11 DPO and BFP I told my husband and we both said "Well I guessed we proved science wrong and beat the odds of conceiving at an older age" We both teared up and hugged, for me it was so much more because I now knew I would give him one thing that he wanted in his life. Don't know if anyone relates but it's hard when you have kids from previously and your new spouse has never had children but desperately wants at least one of their own.

The biggest indicators:
Elevated temps
Veins on Areola (had with all my others)
Crazy jolts in cervical area
Pains in breasts on sides rather than front

DPO 12- Full breasts, nipples are SENSITIVE (no bra today, working from home ; ) ), lots of potty breaks, heartburn, hips felt a bit wobbly on walk. Walked for 1 1/2 hours today.

Pre- ovulation I did the following:

To ensure I had enough mucas I did some doses of Robitussin
Started pre-natals 6 weeks before hand
Took extra Folic acid
Drank 1/2 glass of milk each day
Drank a lot of water
Everyday had a yam for 7 days (you never know if the myth is correct for twins lol ) and at
my age the odds are up (will update if there are 2) : )

Good luck everyone at 40 all I have to say is:
"WE ARE NOT TOO OLD!!"

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Whoop Whoop Whoop!!

Hello

I am 41.5 and finally have a bfp on 11dpo!!! I literally stared at it in disbelief for ten minutes!! This comes after 2 years trying after a horrible mmc.

Things I did in the build up...

Took prenatal supplement
Magnesium
Maca
Ashwaganda (I'm a stress head)
Inositol (OMG this stuff should be handed out to all.women!)
Omega3

And cut out
Gluten
Dairy
Alcohol
Caffeine
Sugar

It's all about moderation so have the odd treat, but I did the 80/20 rule.

I really hope this sticks!!! Have a doctors appointment tomorrow and my boyfriend is home on Friday so I'm going to tell him then, taking another test together.

I'll be 41.5 when she arrives so it's never too late!

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