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How is this possible even???

My name is Ava, the photo on my profile is a childhood photo of mine and I am ....49 years old. A mother of two grown up sons and a grandmother of a lovely baby girl. I have had 4 pregnancies of which the last two were aborted by me, all in my 20s and since then no pregnancy, no attempt, no treatment, nothing.. But there was some little hidden voice inside of em always telling me that I want it again..I never acted upon this voice..I just let go life take its course.. And it did..And nothing was happening, nothing at all.. At age 38, I was told by a gynecologist that I have had a scar on my uterus which has completely healed. I did not make a big notice of it.. At age 44, I was told by another gynecologist that I had fibroid and my fertility days are over. I did not make a big notice of this, either. I never had any treatment or any chance of getting pregnant because my partners either had a vasectomy or were not with me long enough or having any serious feelings for me, I suppose, to make me a baby, or at least to try... This September, after being with a man older than me with a decade, I got pregnant. Accidentally. Completely accidentally. Initially, having the symptoms attributed to pregnancy: missing period, cramps-like ovaries pain, breasts tenderness, change in eating pattern did not tell me anything except that I am perimenopausal and yes, this is how it is...Later however, I started having gags and again did not think it was pregnancy, gagging happens in so many other instances.. Fast forward 5 weeks, I got the pregnancy test ( have not touched one for 24 years), did the first urine thing and it came out positive. Was I in shock? No. I always knew somewhere deep inside that I could get pregnant again some day. It just took 24 years to happen again and in a time of my life when I least expected it. Least. Next week, I will redo the test and I will think about this again then and there. Because if I am pregnant to stay, at my age, there are many important decisions to be made. But this is true for any age in which a woman gets pregnant.
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44 natural BFP with APS, PCOS, suspected Adenomyosis & previous m/c

Quick Background: One daughter just turned 14. 2 previous pregnancies both at 42 with M/C at 9 and 10 weeks, both within 48 hours of perfect ultrasounds. Got a full workup by RE and found to have Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome, as well as being a carrier to several other blood clotting disorders (but not diagnosed with)... hemotolgist found it unusual to see so many carrier genes in one person. So... on baby aspirin for life. Was told to stay on Lovenox while TTC. Tried for about 6 months and gave up. Since we have been NTNP (not trying not protecting). That being said, we felt time was running out and I did get serious this month, used opk's and temped. This cycle we only BD'd one time due to both of us traveling. Got a positive OPK on CD 16 and BD'd on CD 17. That was it! I did symptom spot and will post below everything I noted, but in truth the only really OBVIOUS symptom I had that was totally unusual for me, was the most intense heavy full swollen breasts and sensitive nipples that started at 3 days post ovulation (confirmed with temping). And it never went away. I did NOT expect that and have never had that with any of my 3 previous pregnancies that early. In fact, I even worried my last two because I read so much about breast tenderness and it didn't really start for me until maybe the 6th week. So... here is my story... fingers crossed I stay pregnant, but I am grateful for the chance even with odds stacked against us. Most my life pcos has had my cycles all over the place, but for last few years eating a clean paleo diet & low in carbs... I've been super regular (by my standards)... periods are 30 to 35 days apart pretty consistently. Ovulating between CD 16-22. Typical is day 21 for me. CD 16 +opk at 2pm (had taken one at noon and it was "almost positive" so felt inclined to check again) Called DH who was out of town and arriving next morning. Ovulation Day: BD'd around noon that was it for this whole cycle 1 DPO confirmed O with temp rise, very large glob of clear super stretch cm in the morning. Slight breast tenderness, CM dried up and gummy by afternoon. 2 DPO cm scant but creamy/sticky, stong twingy cramps on left ovary (typical for me), mild uterine cramps, mild lower back cramps...also typical in early luteal phase. 3 DPO runny nose upon waking,. Breasts more tender than usual, nipples way more sensative than typical for me. On and off mentrual like cramps all day... stonger on left. Nipples were so tender I felt tortured playing softball everytime I ran... never happened before... even with previous pregnancies, never had such sensitive nipples until way later in pregnancy. Boobs feel full and very heavy/achy. 4 DPO cracy how heavy and full my breasts are and nips... OMG super sensative. Woke up in the night from a really strong cramp (too early for implantation?), mild headache all day, very gassy. Can't stop crying today, super emotional. Cried at daughters choir performance (never done that and felt silly). 5 DPO same as 4 dpo. I think I just had a really strong progeserone response or estrogen dominance or something this cycle. It's too early for Pg symptoms, but feels like the worst pms of my life. Emotional, boobs are killing me, just weird for me. 6 DPO Same as last 2 days, but noticed complexion looks great! Even had compliments which is also not normal for my luteal phase. 7 DPO BFN Same as aove, heache all day, lots of pain twingy cramps around what feels like left ovary. Radiates into hip. Feel really wet, have had light creamy cm since O, today it is thinner and wetter... even left wet spot on panties. 8 DPO BFN feeling out, all my other pregnancies (3) I tested positive by 8 dpo. Only really unusual symptom is the persistent incredibly sore breasts and crazy tender nipples. I have had some, but not quite like this and never this long, usually by now it lets up a bit. 9 DPO BFN Same as yesterday... Boobs still KILLING ME! 10 DPO BFN boobs and nips still super baaaaad! Seems like more crampiness today. Had a super sharp and very painful cramp while in line at grocery store in the afternoon. Honestly IF I did conceive that had to be an implantation cramp... I wanted to double over but it passed like in 15 seconds and then I've had on and off mild cramping in the area since. Kind of curious if this could be implantation... it was super intense but not gas, radiating pain into hip and down leg, it was different. Seriously, even thinking maybe with all this crampiness if I'm not pregnant (which I really don't think I am because I'm sure I would have a bfp by now) I need to go to the Dr. I'm worried I might have a pelvic infection, BV? I don't know, but a lot of cramping and discomfort lately.

Already 10 months old

Hi everyone! As I am lurking on this site because I am trying to have baby number 2 at age 42, I thought it would be appropriate to give you my story. I married my husband late and we begin trying as soon as we married. I had one chemical pregnancy, and one miscarriage at ages 39 and 40 respectively. Then at 40 I became pregnant and delivered my daughter at age 41. I was tracking my ovulation and my periods using the cervical fluid method. I was also on a low-carb diet. I knew I was pregnant the moment we conceived. I had what I can only describe as fuzzy static in my uterus. I had to wait 3 weeks for my bfp. I even went to my Midwife and had a blood test which showed negative. I was so discouraged and confused because I knew I was pregnant. One week later after a negative blood test and at cycle day 34 I finally got my bfp. My daughter is now 10 months old. I had mild cramping, Electric shock like pains in the lower abdomen for a couple of days. And sore breasts on the side up to and through the armpit. I also began getting a lot of hot flashes. Looking back over my cycle that time I can tell you that I am truly confused about the timing. I believe that I conceived late in my cycle after my documented ovulation. I can't explain how it happened and I can't explain the dates and I can't explain how a blood test was negative when I already had pregnancy symptoms. But what I can tell you is that God gave us this child. Many blessings to you all I hope you all receive your children.

1st child at 42yr, low AMH, vasectomy reversal

Like most posters on this site, I have been a lurker forever... I met DH when I was 38, got married at 40 and started our long TTC journey after that. He had a vasectomy 10 years before we met and the fertility gods suggested IVF with sperm retrieval . After 4 IVF attempts, I responded poorly to drugs, all BFN, we gave up that route. Decided we'd try vasectomy reversal as last ditch effort (July 2013). 6 months later I decided to take time out and just enjoy our dive holiday over New Year's with DH and my grown up stepdaughters (16, 19 and 22 year old). Started detox and exercise in January after break. AF was late (cycles usually 24-26 days), POAS on Friday (CD 29) as I was meeting friends (who would offer wine..) BFP !!!! so "I stuck to detox". Monday did first bHCG - 4245 (yes over 4000). After all those BFN, felt like I'd won the lottery! I didn't chart or do OPKs as I was taking a break. Only symptoms were missed period and the mildest ticklish cramps in my TWW (they're usually painful). I even bought sanitary pads while waiting for AF. After an uncomplicated pregnancy, I gave birth naturally to a healthy boy at 39 weeks (September 2014) just 2 months before my 43rd birthday (DH was 48). He is now a busy almost 3 year old and we've been trying for a sibling... so I find myself lurking here again for hope (at the young age of 45yrs). But thought I should at least share our miracle to give others hope.

Happy 40th Birthday!

We have one son, 3.5 now. We conceived him on our first month of trying, and it created some unrealistic expectations for us. We were completely unprepared for how difficult number two would be. 14 cycles, and nothing - except what I suspect were some super early chemicals - I never got a positive test with them, but I was starting to get symptoms (I don't have any pms symptoms normally until the first day of af), only to have them come to a sudden stop right when af arrived. I think they were implantation fails. Our age may be showing. I'm 40, DH is 44. We have been getting tested, and my results are all pretty great (especially given my age), but we were suprised to find we have moderate to severe male factor. This is our first cycle with interventions: Clomid, and IUI Clomid 50mg, cd 3-7 cd 14 - positive opk in the evening cd 15 - ultrasound: 14mm endometrium, 17 and 18 mm follicles on either ovary. No trigger, since I ovulate naturally. cd 16 - IUI. DH count better than when we first tested, but still low. The test last month showed 2.5 mil per ml, and only 2% morphology. The count is a bit up for our IUI, and we ended up with 7mil washed, which still isn't great. They told us to BD too, but we didn't - we were so exhausted, and I felt horrible and bloated and painful on the clomid. 1 dpo - I feel better as the ovulation pain is receding. Haven't ever had it before this clomid cycle, but it was rough, I felt awful. 2 dpo - some stabby pains in bbs, carpal tunnel flaring a bit. 3 dpo - one wierd, isolated cramp 4 dpo - a few more cramps, some mild nausea. Joint pains. LOTS of stabby pains all along my mammary line (I have some run-away bb tissue in odd spots. For me this goes up my upper arm, my groin, and even down my thigh a bit). Weepy. None of this is normal, I don't really get any pms symptoms until the day af arrives, with the exception of a little irritability. 5 dpo - this was a busy day, so I had less time to notice and jot down symptoms. It's my 40th birthday party. Heart arrythmia a few times - I never get this unless I'm pregnant. Weird rash on chest. A few cramps, including one really surprisingly strong one. 6 dpo - bbs get very tender. More arrythmia. Constipated (I'm normally regular like clockwork, so this is really wierd). 7 dpo - bbs still tender. More stabby pains along mammary line. Mild nausea, burping, and excess salivation. Joint pains (hips, elbow, fingers). Lower back pain. Still constipated. Mild cramping and discomfort in lower abdomen. 8 dpo - I'm 40 today. Mild nausea. Joint pain. Sharp stabby pains in abdomen. Still constipated. bbs felt less painful in the morning, which I took as a bad sign, thinking I was coming off a progesterone peak - but pain returned in the afternoon. 9 dpo - Nighmares of my son dying. (I dream of children and animals dying or in danger when I'm pregnant...fun times). A bowel movement, hurray! Lots of stabby pains along mammary line, bbs hurting, especially on the sides, joint pains. Some mild nausea after food. Here's some weird ones: marked increase in ocd impulses, and super sensitive skin in some places, like to the point where clothing feels painful on me. 10 dpo - Nausea after food, excess salivation, burps. Bbs seem only slightly tender. Gassy, constipated. Very mild cramping and some twinges. Joint pains, of the throbbing kind. Woke thirsty. Alternately hot and clammy and cold at night. Super messy, vivid dreams. Increased sex drive (like, from absolutely zero up to miniscule, because my drive bottomed out in the last few years). Mid-morning heartbreak: light touch of pink spotting, only when I wipe. My cervix, however, is closed tight... which is not my experience with spotting that signals failure. I try to prepare for failure, but secretly hold out hope that it's implantation. I run to the bathroom a thousand times to check for more spotting, but there isn't any more. Light abdominal pain, bit like a uti. Headache, but I'm ascribing it to constipation. 11 dpo - cervix *still* closed, and no more spotting. I'm convinced now, and I run out to get a test so I can test the next morning. Still constipated, gassy, joints hurty, bbs tender. Throat hurts, I'm sneezing, and I have a cold sore outbreak. I internally cheer for my immune system in retreat, because this was also a symptom with my first successful pregnancy. 12 dpo - clear, strong BFP within seconds (frer with fmu). I guess I could have tested a day or two ago, judging by the line strength. Or it's twins (a prospect I find terrifying, especially at my age). Fingers crossed for a healthy singleton. I know this is by no means guaranteed, it's super early, and a lot can still go wrong - but I feel a sense of strange calm. I'm reassured our first IUI worked, having been steeling myself for multiple tries. I feel optimistic, even if this one fails. We can do this again if we have to. I hope we don't have to though :)

BFP with unexpected symptoms

Another BFP story from an older mom with TTC/loss/rainbow baby experience… I have a short LP (10-12 days), so by the time it makes sense to POAS, I already get my period or indications of it. And this cycle was the same. Here are my symptoms by dpo: 1-7 dpo: nothing in particular 7-8 dpo: stabbing pain in breasts (typical AF symptom for me) 9 dpo: I went and bought a big box of sweets for hubby and me. I was emotional and irritable. (Both, also AF symptoms for me). 10 dpo: My BBT fell, close to, but not below coverline. I also had a lower backache and felt moody/irritable. (All AF symptoms). I felt like testing late in the evening (10dpo), just to be sure. I fully expected AF to come soon, but I guess I didn’t want it to. I used a Wondfo dip strip. It says you should read it after 5 minutes (no upper limit given). I forgot and looked after 10 minutes. There was a faint but visible second line. Even hubby, who doesn’t know anything about POAS or faint lines) could see it. I thought it must be an evaporation line. I went and took care of some business. Two hours later, I wanted to test again, because I felt some slight soreness on my breasts and irritated/sensitive nipples (not AF symptoms). I used a SurePredict and a Wondfo. Read both at 5 minutes, but both were negative. After another 5 minutes or so, I looked with a flashlight and both had a second line. I couldn’t leave this hanging in the air. So, I went ahead and used a FRER and got a clear positive at midnight! I already got confirmed with a blood test and put on progesterone. Now in the waiting game and hoping and praying that it sticks!

2nd BFP at 44 ending in miscarriage

Hi All, I just wanted to let all the forty something's out there know that conception was possible for me, even at my age, but was not able to get a sticky bean yet. I've had two miscarriages in a row after conceiving two months back to back. First miscarriage was at 4 w 6 d and second one happened yesterday literally an hour after seeing me heartbeat at 6 1/2 weeks). I started bleeding very heavily, clots and all, followed by an intact gestational sac. Follow-up ultrasound today showed complete miscarriage. My husband and I are moving on to infertility treatment next, as the last two times we conceived have been completely natural but it looks like we may need some outside assistance. This is a second marriage for me. I have 3 children from a previous marriage. We tried for 19 months and I conceived on the 20th month and 21st month trying. I believe multi-vitamins, B complex and coq10 helped us conceive. Good luck to all!

Naturally after 10 months of ttc at 41 years old.

We've been ttc for 10 months. Finally on the 10th month I was about to give up because he is 41 and I am 40 but it was our month! I started taking prenatal vitamins 6 months ago and 50mg of B6 3 months ago. We also ordered the proven OPK strips 3 months ago. We were doing the deed every day and this month we did every other day at night so I could go to sleep and not get up to pee. I feel this was the trick! I also lowered carbs and lost 7lbs. 1-4 DPO Nothing! 5 DPO nipples tingle (normal). Huge glob of creamy white discharge. I am usually dry. 6 DPO had a dizzy spell in the evening before bed. I almost fell over and even grabbed onto the wall. 7 DPO flutters in stomach, like butterflies when you feel excited. 8 DPO cramps like AF is coming. Even felt wet and checked. Nothing. Took test and negative but I thought I seen a line. No one else could see it. Had a meltdown first thing in the morning. Felt moody and cried a lot. Went for walk and felt heaviness in lower pelvic. 9 DPO woke and had breast pain on the sides and major nipple tingling. At this point in cycle I never have the tingles. I always spot on this day too and NO spotting. Took test because I just felt pregnant and had a faint positive! Will check again in morning. Lots of bloating and gas. Sharp pains on right side. 10 DPO BFP! Woke with nipples tingling, heavy boobs, and morning sickness! I never have morning sickness this early in the game. Lots of gas. 11 DPO morning sickness again. Heaviness in lower pelvic and low back pain. Some acne. OCD I think I'm already nesting. Mood swings and crying easy. Feel like AF is going to start but we know I'm pregnant. Just shows how much it resembles PMS!!!! Mild indigestion. Bloated and gas. 12 DPO bloated and gas! Irritable and weepy. Pelvic feels flexed. Fatigue! Mild indigestion. Breasts feel heavy and big. Took another test just to be sure....BFP. First appointment tomorrow. 13 DPO Insomnia last night. Headache, light headed, and gas! Went to doctor and said uterus is enlarged. Maybe this is part of the bloating. Feeling less sick today. 14 DPO Fatigue! Still bloated. Heaviness down low. Lots of lower backache and twinges. Hungry! I can smell everything! I usually spot and I had no spotting this month at all!
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Natural BFP at 43

I was lurking and promising myself like others that if successful I would share what I did to get here. I conceived my DS at 39 with no issue and was 40 when he was born. I knew though that trying for a second would be a very uncertain road at my age. Looking back we were really lucky to conceive after only about 16 months of concerted effort. During that time I had two failed IVF cycles and travelled long haul for work away from my husband for seven 3 week trips and missed quite a few opportunities making the outcome even luckier, statistically speaking. I also trawled the internet, consulted a snake oil naturopath, charted, and took a buttload of supplements to help regulate my cycle. These included vitamins B (group) C, D, E (tocotrienols as well as tocopherols), magnesium myo-inositol, alpha lipoic acid, vitex, ubiquinol and red maca. I also ate two eggs for breakfast every day (gross!). I also cut out all alcohol and caffeine and soy and cold drinks and gee life was dull. As I added more and more to the daily mix it was interesting to see the effects. My BBT became much more stable and predictable and easier to map to my ovulation symptoms. My luteal phase lengthened slightly from 7or 8 days to 9 or 10. The follicular phase actually lengthened, annoyingly. The long weeks of jet lag from the 10 hour time differences made it harder too but I doubt they had much impact in the end. In the end I would put my money on the ubiquinol (500mg daily before tapering down to 200mg per day) and the red maca. Gross but I think that's what did it. A small disclaimer that I had a high AMH and low FSH at 42, and am in good physical shape. BFP Symptoms were same as all the BFN cycles (headaches, cramps, bloating) except for tender nipples from 6DPO, same as other pregnancy. Squinter BFP on IC at 11DPO when temps stayed up. Lines gradually got stronger then two strong lines 13DPO on FRER. Am now at 35 weeks and 4 days after a complication-free pregnancy. Tired and looking forward to welcoming LO to the outside not long before I turn 44. Wishing all of you the best of luck.

BFP @ 40 & breastfeeding

Hello there, Thank you everybody for sharing your stories and TWW for this site. I hope my story will also give lots of hope to all those TTC. I am 40 yo, have 16 yr old DS from previous marriage. Remarried at 36 and have another DS with new husband. He just turned 2 and still breastfeeding. He is a miracle baby because when I had him, the doctor had just diagnosed me with blocked ovaries because of cysts through an ultrasound check and said I can never conceive. At the time, we had been ttc for 6 months. I was scheduled for a CT scan the next week so decided to take a pregnancy test just to be safe. And BFP. I never went to see that doctor again. Present time, its 3:42am and I got up to wee. AF was supposed to show yesterday but didnt. I had done a test at 4pm and BFN. But i thought I would test again. It was a cheapie test and again BFN.. But then, just as I was chucking it in the bin, the faintest of lines appeared! I dug up the old test from yesterday, and it also had a very very very faint line. Here were my tww symptons. Tbh, we weren't actively trying. We BD'ed only when we felt like it. But everytime we did, I put in a prayer. These were the stand-out symptons that made me knew in my heart we had conceived. BD'ed on CD9 and CD12 (o day). 3DPO till now - Gasseous. A lot of flatulence!! 4DPO till now - mild sore throat and it gets worse with each passing day. I feel hot but dont have a temperature. Last night, DH took me to hospital because I was coughing all day. Doc gave meds which I didn't take because I googled them all and they weren't safe. I didn't say anything to doc or DH because I had had a BFN but I just knew.. 5DPO - face broke out in a rash because i was feeling so hot. Gone now after some cream. 10DPO - took test, BFN 14 DPO - period due (my cycle is 25-27 days) noticed heart was beating at 80 beats/min before bed. Today: got my faint line. God is great and most kind. You just need to ask of Him, and put in some effort. Baby dust to all, may you have a wonderful pregnancy and a healthy and beautiful baby.
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