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BFP over 40

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43 with BFP, only took 3 years...

Well here I am again - I posted a BFP in 2012 but that pregnancy lasted all of 9 weeks.
Tried IVF one and a half times (first time had highly graded eggs but they did not implant. Second time the drugs didn't work at all).
Just had an HSG flush as a final thing to answer any question about blocked tubes (they're all clear) 3 weeks ago.
Heard the flush can help with boost the chances of conception so - this may be a reason, who knows.

BD'd one day before and one day after ovulation which was CD13. Did it at night and lay there "in it" the whole night. Used a heap of Pre-seed. I use OPK's and the DuoFertility monitor - so it's pretty easy to pinpoint ovulation especially in hindsight.

1 to 8DPO - Big fat nuthin.
9DPO - Watching TV - had some pretty sharp pinching in the middle of my lower belly which I visualise as the uterus. Three distinct spells of pinching so noticeable that I unzipped my jeans to gaze at my navel as if that helped edify the situation. I decided that if this wasn't "it" then I'm going to lose faith in all things.
10DPO - Had two bizarre dreams each ending with me holding two positive early HPTS. Got up and tested at 7am - nope, BFN - but I'm no fool- I know that it takes at least a day after this pinching stuff before HCG shows up. I throw it in the bin and pull it back out to squint at it 700 times throughout the day because like I said I'm no fool. No sir.
11 DPO - Snuck out of bed at the crack of dawn to test - didn't see a second line and so went back to bed to sulk quietly. Decided to wake husband and tell him about how life is just one long farcical gag but check one more time in the dark and could see something. Threw open the blinds and saw a very, very faint line. Yelled my husband awake and he was very confused and then excited. We hugged for an hour.
12DPO - appropriately darker second line and possibly a tiny bit of spotting.

I really hope this works out.
I will say this - I upped the protein - heaps at every meal and good fats and fish oil and I left out the sugar and flour about 7 months ago - I did have a terribly low AMH (less than 0.5) and it elevated to 2.29 as a result of the new diet and hormones regulated. It also could be a bit of luck.
Good luck out there y'all.

Natural BFP at 45

Time to share my news to give hope to others that at 45 (will be 46 when deliver) I am 16 weeks pregnant and all good so far, scans, test results etc.

Had a miscarriage back in 2012 which was really tough and really just hoped for the best that we would get pregnant again. Checks after miscarriage showed I had a fibroid (not one I was told would affect pregnancy) and also two cysts. Decided just for nature to take its course and after switching off completely back in March as thought there was no chance for a natural pregnancy we got a BFP in May. Fibroid is still there and not grown any.

Apart from eating fairly well not super healthy, I'm a non smoker did nothing else apart from folic acid.

Leading up to positive test nothing noticeable and I just waited for normal cycle to appear and it stayed away.

Sharing to say stick in there and wishing you all luck for BFPs soon.

Pregnant at 45 naturally

My DH and I decided to TTC our first together. I was worried about my age and if it was even possible at this point, but no reason not to try. So I went to the gyn/ob and had my Mirena IUD pulled and of course he gave me the are you sure speech with all the possible negatives. I decided that this was going to be done naturally or not at all. I didn't want to do all the medications etc. After 8 months of disappointing BFN's I was on the verge of giving up. So on my 9th cycle I decided to let what happens happen and not worry too much. Well, it ended up being our cycle! It IS possible to get pregnant naturally at the age of 45. Don't get me wrong, I will be worried until we get the ultrasound done and tests to make sure all is well. The ob/gyn made sure to let me know that m/c's are very common at this age. sigh I'm holding on to the fact that I'm thankful to have never had a m/c and my AF cycles have been perfectly normal so I'm hopeful all will be fine.

AF lasted 2 days as normal
cd12 temp spike telling me I ovulated. We DTD on cd10, cd12, cd13
1dpo constipation, bloated, gassy
2dpo bloated, diarrhea, gassy
3dpo Allergies acting up, gums swollen and bleeding, bloated, bad diarrhea still, tired w/headache and heartburn. I was VERY irritable. Everything was getting on my nerves and I broke out on my chin.
5dpo bloated, tender BB's, tired
6dpo backache, bloated, tired, heartburn, irritable, sleep deprived
7dpo same as 6dpo
8dpo same b/c with some nausea
9dpo Had a dream that I had implantation, had temp drop. same symptoms as before
10dpo Had pink spotting off and on, same symptoms
11dpo pink spotting in the morning only when i wipe. Diarrhea again
12dpo same symptoms, positive HPT!
13dpo Had more spotting but light reddish color...made me alittle worried, another positive with Clearblue digi "pregnant". Spotting stopped after the morning.
16 dpo Another positive HPT

Someone made the comment that maybe I have twins b/c of the spotting at two different days. The thought scares me! LOL Anyway.... pregnant naturally at 45 is possible!!

BFP at 42!!

My husband and I have been TTC for close to two years. We conceived and gave birth to our two beautiful children via medicated IUI when I was in my late 30's. Neither of us has ever been diagnosed with anything except for the fact that my eggs were getting older. While trying for our third we have experienced two failed IVF cycles and more than a dozen failed inseminations. Two days ago we began exploring egg donation.

This cycle was the first and ONLY cycle in two years that we tried naturally with an OPK only.....and it .........WORKED!!!!!!!

I did not keep track of my symptoms. All I can say is that over the two weeks following ovulation I have had significant PMS cramping and acne. I usually have a short luteal phase though so when the two week mark hit and I wasn't bleeding I thought I had a shot.

I am still in a bit of shock but I am cautiously optimistic, tremendously grateful and just unbelievably excited.

If you are over 40 and you know you want this , all that I can say from my experience up to this point is "Don't give up!"

Good luck to all of you!!

Bfp at 40 after ttc 10 mths

Hi all
I wanted to share as I have looked at this site for inspiration and hope over the last few months. I started trying at 39 3/4 casually at first and then got the pregnacare vitamins, opk tests the works basically. That was up to xmas and all I had to show was spotting days before cycle, bloating and a a feeling of failure. After the holidays I went to the drs who took day 3 and day21 blood tests which were all normal. As I have always been regular 24 to 27 day cycle he told me to relax, chuck out the opks, vitamins except frolic acid and aim to BD every other day from day 6 to day 18. Took a couple of months and spotting for days stopped (convinced that was the vitamins) until one day before af as before.

Still nothing and a friend suggested reflexology so I had 3 fertility sessions and thought ok give it a break until after my holiday. Anyway 4 days before holiday on cd28 I took a test and got a bfp. Sorta thought I might be pregnant after cd24 as no AF symptoms and still none at cd38. Only now starting to feel a bit of nausea and loads of cm which was dry before bfp.

My cycle only folic acid and reflexology x3
Cd 1-4 AF
Bd cd8,9,10,13,15,16. Think I O'd cd15 as ewcm disappeared on cd16 but had been around cd12-15
1-5 dpo nothing
6dpo to bfp at 13 dpo bloating, some headaches normal pms stuff

I hope this helps all you ladies to not give up. This will be my first time ever bfp and hopefully full term pregnancy to be a mum at 41 and a shotgun bride to boot! We had booked our wedding as I didn't want to put it off any longer just in case it never happened and it has. Perhaps I just needed to chill out and let go before nature took over.

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BFP one month before 43rd birthday

Hello all, I wanted to give some encouragement particularly to older women who are trying to conceive. I got a BFP in March of this year, one month before my 43rd birthday. I had been trying to conceive for 15 months but my attempts had been patchy at best, for instance I had completely missed out trying some months and during other months had only BD once or twice, so I would not describe my efforts as consistent.

I am now almost 23 weeks pregnant and all scans and blood tests have come back normal (i.e. a normal low-risk result for downs syndrome). I was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago and since then had made some real lifestyle changes, e.g. avoiding alcohol and emotional stress; yoga, transcendental meditation, swimming (though I go for long periods of time not keeping up with exercise!); Generally I eat very healthily, with occasional lapses and had been having regular acupuncture as well as herbal medicine (western and more recently Chinese herbs for fertility); I have been trying to heal from childhood trauma and I believe this helped in my conceiving. I am by no means an orthodox Christian, having become interested in aspects of many religions and I'm undecided about the nature of God, but I had started to pray and I had found this to be powerful. Both my mother and only Aunt had children into their 40s and only stopped because they did not want any more children, rather than Mother Nature putting an end to things!

I hope this gives encouragement to all, especially to older women who are trying to conceive.

Blessings and Baby Dust to you all! X

Natural BFP after years of fertility treatments

Hi all. I am four weeks pregnant and wanted to share my story, because I have been stalking this site for years. I always vowed I would post if I got my BFP as I have found the stories of others so inspiring.

So, I am 41. I have a 5 year old daughter, conceived with IUI. We have unexplained unfertility. We struggled to conceive a second child using natural method, IUI and even a shot at IVF. We started the adoption process. We thought we would give it a while longer naturally, whilst waiting for the adoption assessment. My symptoms were similar to all these months, where I was convinced it was positive, but never was. Anyway here is what I observed:

1-5 DPO - nothing to report
5 days onwards, some mild cramping and subtle waves of nausea
10 DPO - wanting to gag after spraying strong smelling toilet cleaner. Also a couple of hot flushes . . but the weather was warm so I wasn't quite sure. . . !
13 DPO - By this time nausea is becoming more noticeable on and off during the day. I had to HPTs so tested with an OPK and two lines came up. Holy cow. I want straight to the chemist and did the Clearblue Digital, which said Pregnant 1-2.

In my possession I have lubes and sprays and monitors and multivitamins . . . but didn't use any of these this month. It was just pure luck and goes to show you that Mother Nature can deliver you what seems like the impossible.

I never imagined writing my story on this site, as some of you reading this probably feel too! Good luck and keep trying.

44 and 20w5d!

I have been trying for the past five years. Got pg first time at 39. Ended in blighted ovum. Tried naturally for a while and decided to go to RE. Saw the stats and went the donor egg route. Did our first cycle. Ended in a chemical. Next cycle natural pg. ended in early mc. Did another donor cycle and NOTHING! Six months later pg again, naturally. Ended in mc. One year later to the day pg again at 43! Thought for sure this wasn't going to make it. However, here I am at 44 20w3d with a healthy (so far) kicking baby girl. Pretty uneventful pg. Unbelievable. Once I stopped trying here I am pg. I cannot believe it and I won't until she comes out screaming. :). God bless you all. It CAN happen!

BFP after failed 1st IVF

This site has helped me patiently get through my 2WW and I am happy to say that I have great news to post for my fellow readers. I am 41 and DH is 36. My issues are obviously age and high FSH/diminished ovarian reserve. DH had no issues and his swimmers were tested as excellent. After meeting with my 1st RE, he had me go straight to IVF with 300 iu Follistim and 300 iu Menopur (aggressive treatment.) This ultimately resulted in about 8 follicles. Two fertilized (one mature, one matured JUST in time for my transfer.) After a LONG 2ww, BFN. I decided to change my RE to one that specialized in diminished ovarian reserve. He told me that my body may not respond well to aggressive treatment and felt strongly that I should do a much less aggressive IVF cycle. Bad news was that the lab was closed for cleaning in July, so I would need to wait till Aug for my 2nd IVF cycle. He suggest that I not waste the time and just give IUI a try. He said, it was a long shot, but that it would be worth it just to see how my body reacted to Clomid. So we did an IUI cycle with just Clomid. The results were about the same amount of follicles (which was amazing since I hardly took any medication for the IUI cycle) Here is the daily breakdown:

* Trigger (had sex the night before...JUST in case)
* IUI 24 hours after Trigger. Also had sex the night after IUI and the morning after - esp since the IUI was only 24 hours after trigger. Definitely felt cramps throughout the day. I never felt cramps with ivf, must be a good sign.
* 1dpiui - First time I've slept through the whole night. Had some minimal cramping
* 2dpiui - No symptoms
* 3dpiui - No symptoms
* 4dpiui - Some white milky discharge
* 5dpiui - No symptoms
* 6dpiui - A little cramping
* 7dpiui - Woke up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom (never happens). Felt a tugging type of cramping on my left side. Also slight heartburn and gassy
* 8dpiui - Bathroom again in the middle of the night. Feeling very hungry.
* 9dpiui - Took cheap Wondfo HPT. There could be a really light line? Maybe not. I think i'm seeing things.
* 10dpiui - Wondfo HPT gave me a very very very faint line. Still don't want to get excited. More cramps/tugging on left side.
* 11dpiui - Definitely seeing a faint line. Things are definitely looking good.
* 12dpiui - Took FREP and its a solid line!!!! Strong tugging on my life side
* 13dpiui - Wondfo HPT giving me a stronger line. Weird tugging now on my RIGHT side. First time i'm feeling anything on my right side. Also felt a tightness around my ovaries during the night.
* 14dpiui - Beta came in BFP!!! HCG levels are high at 356. Nurse said I should prepare myself for the slight possibilities of twins. Will need to check 2nd beta at 16dpiui and ultrasound a week later.

I don't even know how this is all possible (thank you GOD). With a failed IVF, I can not believe my first IUI was a success, especially at 41 years old. For everyone trying...do not give up or lose faith.

Bfb @ 40 after miscarriage, 5 months of trying!!!

So ive also been reading here, almost daily and not getting much work done! here's the story...

last year Oct at 39yrs old i unexpectedly fell pregnant. Shocked since my daughter is 15yrs old and even though i always wanted another deep down, wasnt planning on it and thought my time was up anyway. After finally accepting the pregnancy and seeing the very strong heartbeat at 6weeks, my world was shattered when i started bleeding at 9 and a half weeks. the baby's heart had stopped at 9wks. On the 4th December i had the d&c. I never realised how devastating it would be. Started trying again in Feb this year, but just seemed like it was never going to happen. My cycle changed and did some strange things. I knew my eggs were "old" and i havent lived a very healthy lifestyle at all. Also a smoker. My DP had a SA and the results were terrible. i then turned 40 in March!! All odds were against us. i Started taking fertilpil, superfood shakes every morning (which contain maca as well) Coq10 and stayed on the prenatal. i also dicovered fertivor which i took the last month only. Only BD the morning of day 9 and the evening of day 10 when i got the positive OPK. Thought we were out since i ovulated on day 12.

6 dpo started getting bad period pains and thought i was having another dudd cycle, the previous month i had a 19 day cycle which i knew was VERY wrong.
7 dpo stayed off work. the pains had been so bad i was awake all night and was still quite saw the morning. Worst period pains i'd ever gotten!
8dpo pains had gone. thought i had a luteal phase defect the previous month and almost took progesterone supplement prescribed by gynae. When i woke up to no period i presumed my progesterone had finally kicked it!! yay! Realised i had been constipated for the last 3 days and was tired. put it down to progesterone kicking in strong!
10dpo had a skin breakout which i havent had since a teenager!! and felt as if my blood sugar dropped making me very woozy and dizzy, had to lie down for half an hour.
12 dpo bad period pains came back, this is it, period coming any minute, but at least i knew my cycle was almost back on
track. almost fell a sleep at my desk at work.
13dpo period pains still here and started putting the puzzle together. Also realised that i had been weeing more, felt dehydrated and the famous tell tale sign...feeling "wet"down there..... didnt think it was possible and i never test, i usually wait for AF to show, but had some free samples that came with the fertilpil so did 2 tests at the same time. Faint line on each after a minute!!!!! 2 days BEFORE AF was due to arrive as per my new cycle since d&c.

went for a blood test straight from work to confirm 1 to 2 weeks pregnant!! So scared to get excited, cannot go through that again, but have decided to think positive with this one!! even going to buy booties or something!!! My daughter screamed and is over the moon!! DP says barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen again! :)

i have prayed so much that this is the one. it will definately be my last chance at trying and the man above knows i cant go through that again!

so, what i did differently this month? Fertivor was new, the rest i mentioned above. Also only bd day 9 and 10, oh and one more funny thing... i spoke to God, my tummy and my body. Told them this is it now, i dont care about anything else, i only want healthy sperm and you get in there and fertilise a healthy egg and go stick! come on, go implant nicely and Lord,only healthy egg and sperm!!! :)

asking for prayers for a healthy 9 months!! :) :) :)

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