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got a BFP at 45 with 2 nd IUI please don't loose your hopes

Hi Everybody,

I have been seeing fertility specialists and heard similar stories that for my age it is not possible to get pregnant with my eggs but donor eggs (Which was very stressful to hear because I did not have any babies ) and my chances are 1%.
I was hopeful and determined so I did not give up my hopes- infact I told the Doctor and Nurse that "I feel I am going to get pregnant"
for more than my belief I was just hoping that they would stop any discouraging words when I say so :)
I believe in self confidence, nothing works for me without it.

If you ladies would like to know anything about tww and other little tips I followed I am glad to share 'cos its too much to mention here.
I was diagnosed with a uterus polyp and the doctor recommended me to do a laporascopy to remove the polyp and me and my DH was very nervous but that was the best decision I ever made in this journey. Right after the lap I did the 1 st IUI and the next cycle which is the 2 nd IUI in which I got pregnant.I prayed everyday and cried asking for a one baby regardless of all negative comments from fertility specialists and nurses.

Conceived naturally at 42!

I just got a bfp this morning at the age of 42 and au natural! We have been ttc for 15 months and had a chemical pregnancy in February. I know it is early but at least we know we can conceive and hopefully this one sticks! After hearing time and time again that my eggs were "old", we finally had a consultation with an RE in early August. He basically told us our chances of conceiving on our own was slim and our best chance would be with IVF and would most likely have to use donor eggs. The only change we made this cycle was to use an opk and I started temping and charting for use by the RE in his evaluation at our followup.

CD12 positive opk :)
CD13 some cramping and nausea at bedtime
CD14 Huge temp spike, fertility friend determines this is my O day, cramping and mild nausea off and on

1-3dpo mild nausea and cramping off and on, huge temp drop on 3dpo

4-7dpo dull headache that just won't go away, feel like I'm getting the flu, just an overall feverish and achy type feeling, cramping and nausea off and on, temp spikes back up on 4dpo then dips again at 7dpo. Start to wonder if we might have got it this time.

8dpo headache finally goes away, sharp stabbing pain in lower abdomen when I wake up lasting just a few seconds, mild cramping and nausea continues, breasts slightly tender/full feeling, temp back up, tired throughout the day.

9dpo wake up with this feeling that I just know I'm pregnant. Temp still up, took a dollar tree test and had the faintest of faint line, not convincing. Throughout the day noticed no cramping, only one bout of nausea, feeling pretty good except I feel I could fall asleep at any minute!

10dpo temp still up, took another test, definite pink line within timeframe! Pretty nauseous throughout the day, breasts more full and still tender, extremely tired.

Thanks for reading my story. I hope it gives some hope to others over 40. Keep trying!!

We Let The Lord decide

Currently mother of 4. Am 44 years old and was exhausted by trying to continue natural family 'planning' what was right for my husband and my family. I decided 4 months ago to stop natural family planning and just trust The Lord would give us the family he desired for us. Just found out today I am 4 weeks pregnant. I know there's still a ways to go until natural miscarriage risks are safely passed. Have experienced a 6 wk miscarriage and 12 week miscarriage before however, I keep my trust in Jesus that this pregnancy may be brought to full term with a healthy baby!

BFP with severe endometriosis

I still can't wrap my head around it because we've tried for 5 years and I've pretty much given up. I'm 40 yrs old and will 41 in Dec. I just started a new job in June so this was so unexpected. When I first was ttc 5 years ago, I did all the charts, opks and nothing was working. I had some severe pain with my cycles that ended up being a cyst on my uterus. I had surgery and that's when they found my endo. They had us try to conceive for 6 months after to see if it would work but nothing. I than did 6 months of lupron and it than took a long time for my cycles to start back up. When they did I try Fermara. After that didn't work I was told to seek help with a Fertility Clinic. My insurance doesn't cover it so I haven't tried. So years later I ironically work for a Fertility clinic. I've only been they for a little over a month and now pregnant. Not the best timing but I'm thrilled. This is my first so I couldn't be happier.

I haven't been tracking anything but I know I was going to ovulate when we bd'd because of my cm. We bd'd 3 times around my ovulation. I guess it was enough. My only clue that something was up was my bbs were killing me at cd27. I normally start by than and my bbs normally don't hurt when I start. It's now cd29. No af. I average 25-26 days. I'm really tired and a fees cramps but otherwise feeling good. I needed to just know what's up so I stopped at the dollar store to get a hpt. And.....two pink lines. Please don't give up. Anything can happen

43 with BFP, only took 3 years...

Well here I am again - I posted a BFP in 2012 but that pregnancy lasted all of 9 weeks.
Tried IVF one and a half times (first time had highly graded eggs but they did not implant. Second time the drugs didn't work at all).
Just had an HSG flush as a final thing to answer any question about blocked tubes (they're all clear) 3 weeks ago.
Heard the flush can help with boost the chances of conception so - this may be a reason, who knows.

BD'd one day before and one day after ovulation which was CD13. Did it at night and lay there "in it" the whole night. Used a heap of Pre-seed. I use OPK's and the DuoFertility monitor - so it's pretty easy to pinpoint ovulation especially in hindsight.

1 to 8DPO - Big fat nuthin.
9DPO - Watching TV - had some pretty sharp pinching in the middle of my lower belly which I visualise as the uterus. Three distinct spells of pinching so noticeable that I unzipped my jeans to gaze at my navel as if that helped edify the situation. I decided that if this wasn't "it" then I'm going to lose faith in all things.
10DPO - Had two bizarre dreams each ending with me holding two positive early HPTS. Got up and tested at 7am - nope, BFN - but I'm no fool- I know that it takes at least a day after this pinching stuff before HCG shows up. I throw it in the bin and pull it back out to squint at it 700 times throughout the day because like I said I'm no fool. No sir.
11 DPO - Snuck out of bed at the crack of dawn to test - didn't see a second line and so went back to bed to sulk quietly. Decided to wake husband and tell him about how life is just one long farcical gag but check one more time in the dark and could see something. Threw open the blinds and saw a very, very faint line. Yelled my husband awake and he was very confused and then excited. We hugged for an hour.
12DPO - appropriately darker second line and possibly a tiny bit of spotting.

I really hope this works out.
I will say this - I upped the protein - heaps at every meal and good fats and fish oil and I left out the sugar and flour about 7 months ago - I did have a terribly low AMH (less than 0.5) and it elevated to 2.29 as a result of the new diet and hormones regulated. It also could be a bit of luck.
Good luck out there y'all.

Natural BFP at 45

Time to share my news to give hope to others that at 45 (will be 46 when deliver) I am 16 weeks pregnant and all good so far, scans, test results etc.

Had a miscarriage back in 2012 which was really tough and really just hoped for the best that we would get pregnant again. Checks after miscarriage showed I had a fibroid (not one I was told would affect pregnancy) and also two cysts. Decided just for nature to take its course and after switching off completely back in March as thought there was no chance for a natural pregnancy we got a BFP in May. Fibroid is still there and not grown any.

Apart from eating fairly well not super healthy, I'm a non smoker did nothing else apart from folic acid.

Leading up to positive test nothing noticeable and I just waited for normal cycle to appear and it stayed away.

Sharing to say stick in there and wishing you all luck for BFPs soon.

Pregnant at 45 naturally

My DH and I decided to TTC our first together. I was worried about my age and if it was even possible at this point, but no reason not to try. So I went to the gyn/ob and had my Mirena IUD pulled and of course he gave me the are you sure speech with all the possible negatives. I decided that this was going to be done naturally or not at all. I didn't want to do all the medications etc. After 8 months of disappointing BFN's I was on the verge of giving up. So on my 9th cycle I decided to let what happens happen and not worry too much. Well, it ended up being our cycle! It IS possible to get pregnant naturally at the age of 45. Don't get me wrong, I will be worried until we get the ultrasound done and tests to make sure all is well. The ob/gyn made sure to let me know that m/c's are very common at this age. sigh I'm holding on to the fact that I'm thankful to have never had a m/c and my AF cycles have been perfectly normal so I'm hopeful all will be fine.

AF lasted 2 days as normal
cd12 temp spike telling me I ovulated. We DTD on cd10, cd12, cd13
1dpo constipation, bloated, gassy
2dpo bloated, diarrhea, gassy
3dpo Allergies acting up, gums swollen and bleeding, bloated, bad diarrhea still, tired w/headache and heartburn. I was VERY irritable. Everything was getting on my nerves and I broke out on my chin.
5dpo bloated, tender BB's, tired
6dpo backache, bloated, tired, heartburn, irritable, sleep deprived
7dpo same as 6dpo
8dpo same b/c with some nausea
9dpo Had a dream that I had implantation, had temp drop. same symptoms as before
10dpo Had pink spotting off and on, same symptoms
11dpo pink spotting in the morning only when i wipe. Diarrhea again
12dpo same symptoms, positive HPT!
13dpo Had more spotting but light reddish color...made me alittle worried, another positive with Clearblue digi "pregnant". Spotting stopped after the morning.
16 dpo Another positive HPT

Someone made the comment that maybe I have twins b/c of the spotting at two different days. The thought scares me! LOL Anyway.... pregnant naturally at 45 is possible!!

BFP at 42!!

My husband and I have been TTC for close to two years. We conceived and gave birth to our two beautiful children via medicated IUI when I was in my late 30's. Neither of us has ever been diagnosed with anything except for the fact that my eggs were getting older. While trying for our third we have experienced two failed IVF cycles and more than a dozen failed inseminations. Two days ago we began exploring egg donation.

This cycle was the first and ONLY cycle in two years that we tried naturally with an OPK only.....and it .........WORKED!!!!!!!

I did not keep track of my symptoms. All I can say is that over the two weeks following ovulation I have had significant PMS cramping and acne. I usually have a short luteal phase though so when the two week mark hit and I wasn't bleeding I thought I had a shot.

I am still in a bit of shock but I am cautiously optimistic, tremendously grateful and just unbelievably excited.

If you are over 40 and you know you want this , all that I can say from my experience up to this point is "Don't give up!"

Good luck to all of you!!

Bfp at 40 after ttc 10 mths

Hi all
I wanted to share as I have looked at this site for inspiration and hope over the last few months. I started trying at 39 3/4 casually at first and then got the pregnacare vitamins, opk tests the works basically. That was up to xmas and all I had to show was spotting days before cycle, bloating and a a feeling of failure. After the holidays I went to the drs who took day 3 and day21 blood tests which were all normal. As I have always been regular 24 to 27 day cycle he told me to relax, chuck out the opks, vitamins except frolic acid and aim to BD every other day from day 6 to day 18. Took a couple of months and spotting for days stopped (convinced that was the vitamins) until one day before af as before.

Still nothing and a friend suggested reflexology so I had 3 fertility sessions and thought ok give it a break until after my holiday. Anyway 4 days before holiday on cd28 I took a test and got a bfp. Sorta thought I might be pregnant after cd24 as no AF symptoms and still none at cd38. Only now starting to feel a bit of nausea and loads of cm which was dry before bfp.

My cycle only folic acid and reflexology x3
Cd 1-4 AF
Bd cd8,9,10,13,15,16. Think I O'd cd15 as ewcm disappeared on cd16 but had been around cd12-15
1-5 dpo nothing
6dpo to bfp at 13 dpo bloating, some headaches normal pms stuff

I hope this helps all you ladies to not give up. This will be my first time ever bfp and hopefully full term pregnancy to be a mum at 41 and a shotgun bride to boot! We had booked our wedding as I didn't want to put it off any longer just in case it never happened and it has. Perhaps I just needed to chill out and let go before nature took over.

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BFP one month before 43rd birthday

Hello all, I wanted to give some encouragement particularly to older women who are trying to conceive. I got a BFP in March of this year, one month before my 43rd birthday. I had been trying to conceive for 15 months but my attempts had been patchy at best, for instance I had completely missed out trying some months and during other months had only BD once or twice, so I would not describe my efforts as consistent.

I am now almost 23 weeks pregnant and all scans and blood tests have come back normal (i.e. a normal low-risk result for downs syndrome). I was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago and since then had made some real lifestyle changes, e.g. avoiding alcohol and emotional stress; yoga, transcendental meditation, swimming (though I go for long periods of time not keeping up with exercise!); Generally I eat very healthily, with occasional lapses and had been having regular acupuncture as well as herbal medicine (western and more recently Chinese herbs for fertility); I have been trying to heal from childhood trauma and I believe this helped in my conceiving. I am by no means an orthodox Christian, having become interested in aspects of many religions and I'm undecided about the nature of God, but I had started to pray and I had found this to be powerful. Both my mother and only Aunt had children into their 40s and only stopped because they did not want any more children, rather than Mother Nature putting an end to things!

I hope this gives encouragement to all, especially to older women who are trying to conceive.

Blessings and Baby Dust to you all! X

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