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BFP over 40

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42 years old, BFP, conceived naturally

I am 42 and DH is almost 40. I have a 19 year old DD from first marriage and also had a m/c at 10 weeks in the first marriage. DH and I met, married, and started TTC right away since he has no children and I would love to have another with him, but given our ages (especially mine) we didn't want to wait. My GYN said that since I was still having very regular periods, 28 or 29 days and like clockwork, that I should still be ovulating but it may still take a while. It took about 14 months to get to this point, but there were some months when DH was traveling for his work that were my most fertile days so really we only had a good chance probably about 9 of those 14 months. Anyway - I started taking aspirin this month, had not done that before, but DH's Nurse Practitioner at his Dr. office got pregnant at 40 and recommended taking aspirin to increase blood flow to the uterus. I've also been taking prenatals for months and about once a week, doing yoga. I have been using Dollar Store OPK's but this month I sprang for the Clearblue smiley face ones. We also have tried Preseed a couple of times and used it again this month. Here is the breakdown: CD1 - March 3. Started taking one aspirin a day and continuing prenatals. Started Clearblue OPK's on March 10th. CD 12 - Blinking smiley face (high fertility) - BD CD 13 - Blinking smiley face, used Preseed, BD CD 14 - Blinking smiley face, BD CD 15 - Solid smiley face (peak fertility), used Preseed, BD, pretty sure this was O day and conception day CD 19 - 4 DPO - took afternoon nap, chalked it up to a long week CD 21 - 6 DPO - vivid dream of a positive pregnancy test, but then read 100 stories of women who dreamed of a positive test but were still BFN, so I didn't get hopeful. CD 22, 23, 24, 25, 26 - a little sleepy after work every day but the full on fatigue had not hit me yet, so I was still not really thinking this was from being pregnant. What I remembered from being pregnant before was being so exhausted I would lay down for a few minutes and wake up three hours later, drooling. That has not hit me yet. I did lay down to rest most afternoons but never more than about 30-45 minutes. I did not want to get too hopeful since being a little tired in the afternoon is not uncommon and I was not exhausted like my past pregnancies. Normally I would start testing like a fiend around 10 DPO but I held off this time. It's hard to see those BFN's all the time. The only symptoms I had during that whole week was I seemed to be having more BM's than usual. CD 28 - 13 DPO - at the beach for the weekend and had friends coming to visit, so I thought maybe I should pee on a stick before I sat in the sand with a drink in my hand for 6 hours, LOL. Took it around noon so it was not FMU, but it looked very faint positive. I showed my husband and he thought he could see something, too, but it was REALLY faint. I had another test to take in the morning and thought the FMU would tell for sure. But I noticed I had to pee constantly that day. CD 29 - 14 DPO - AF due today, had some faint cramps but not a drop of blood. Took the second test with FMU and this time a little darker but still looked like a faint BFP. DH said he thought I was not going to get my period because (TMI alert) we BD in the morning before we left the beach and he said my CM usually changed right when I was going to get my period and it had not changed. Peeing constantly, we had to stop every hour and a half on the seven hour drive home! CD 30 - 15 DPO - still no AF, but having cramps as though she would show up any minute. BFP with FMU, this time darker. Calling my doctor to get an appointment and confirm everything. Fx for all of us over 40, its still possible!! Praying for a healthy and happy pregnancy.

Natural BFP at 43, after high FSH

I started trying to conceive in December 2012, aged 43 yrs 2 months. I've had no previous pregnancies or miscarriages and am single but using a known donor (natural insemination). Almost immediately, my periods stopped, having had a regular 28/29-day cycle since age 13. I went for blood tests, FSH in mid December was around 60, then again in late January around 70. Doctors diagnosed early menopause and slim to no chance of pregnancy without donor egg. I continued to try to conceive naturally, disregarding recommendations for HRT (which has contraceptive effects). My period did not return, I was guessing at ovulation using temp, CM, and OPK (OPK didn't work for me even when I did ovulate). I had already cut out alcohol and started taking Pregnacare Conception multivitamins in November 2012. By February 2013 I stopped any high impact exercise (in case cortisol was contributing to any hormonal imbalance), cut out all caffeine (including chocolate) and started acupuncture once a week. Blood tests from Feb 26 showed FSH of 12. In March I started taking royal jelly and agnus castus. My period returned on 25 March, I had a relatively short cycle and my next period came on 18 April. Fluctuations in FSH and cycle length are symptomatic of perimenopause, so whether any of the changes I made contributed in any part to the reduction in FSH and the return of my period, I cannot say. I met with my donor the day before ovulation, the day of ovulation and the 2 following days to give me the best chance of conceiving. Apart from achy breasts and tender nipples I didn't really have any symptoms. I waited til 16 DPO to do the test (Clearblue digital) and got positive, 2-3 weeks. I stopped taking agnus castus and royal jelly, switched to Pregnacare Original, started taking Omega-3 fish oil and continued acupuncture weekly to 16 weeks to help prevent miscarriage. My combined nuchal screening at 12 weeks was 1/5700, from starting at 1/40 due to my age. Against most of the odds, my son was born on 28 January 2014. I wanted to wait until a healthy baby was safely born before posting. Like previous posters, among other things, reading positive stories here gave me hope while trying to conceive. I hope now that this story will encourage others to persevere if their instincts tell them everything is still possible.

Natural Conception at 43

5 week, 4 days pregnant, hope it sticks as I had a CP in December. I also had a baby at 42 (conceived at 41) and it was a totally problem-free, really wonderful pregnancy. I can tell my fertility took a dip though as I got pregnant just 1-2 cycles after getting off birth control when I was 41 and it's taken 8 months to get to this BFP at 43. I was shocked when I tested and got a positive this month since I had tested at 9 DPO and 10 DPO and was really disappointed to see a BFN. I really didn't believe that I could test negative at 10 DPO and still get pregnant that cycle. I've been taking Ubiquinol (Now Foods brand from Amazon) and Evening Primrose Oil until ovulation to help with cervical mucous. Symptoms: 9 DPO: slight dizziness at dinner 10 DPO: slight dizziness at dinner I will update with comments to confirm the viability of this pregnancy as we have a higher rate of MC in our 40s. Good luck everyone!

Almost 45 years old and natural BFP

I will be 45 in April. DH is 29. We had been trying for 11 months when we got our first BFP in August. Unfortunately, it ended in miscarriage at 6 weeks. We were blessed with another in January and I am now 12 weeks 2 days. All tests so far have been great and I've had no problems! I had stark white tests both times until 11 dpo where I received faint positives. Both BFP's were cycles where we just decided to take it easy and stop obsessing. You hear about that all the time and now it's hard for me NOT to believe it. In fact, we've had two consults for donor eggs and, at both of them, I was pregnant and didn't know it....crazy! Early symptoms (5 dpo and on) were night sweats, sore breasts and a skin breakout. From 9 dpo until my BFP - some fatigue and dizziness. Now it's full on morning sickness, constipation, heartburn and fatigue like I've never known. What I was taking for months preceding...nothing too fancy: prenatal w/dha, ubiquinol (for egg quality), one baby aspirin, extra vitamin d, vitamin b complex and calcium. In the interest of "not trying so hard" this time, I stopped doing OPK's and started checking my CM. What I realized was that I had it in abundance, but it wasn't necessarily visible unless I did some "investigating". Highly recommended. I continued temping for several days pre- and post-o until I confirmed ovulation. I loved reading about the over 40 BFP's and remember how much hope it gave to me each time. I hope this story can be that kind of inspiration to you.
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Over 40 BFP Au naturelle & NO SYMPTOMS!

So where to start. My BF and I decided to start trying last year but at that point I wasn't using OPK's etc. After a few months I came across this site and started to look more into vitamins/supplements etc. Nothing happened and then in May I had what I think was a chemical. We were quite ok with this as at least it proved I was ovulating. I decided I wanted to wait a few months after that to get a family wedding and holiday out of the way. And so we resumed in August time. And nothing happened. So I began with the OPKS and before I knew it I was spending a fortune on acupuncture, Chinese medicines etc and still nothing. We let Christmas pass with out trying and then resumed again this year. By this time I was getting concerned that at my age 39 ( I turned 40 at end Feb) it may not happen. My BF is only 33 ( go me!) so I was sure it wasn't him. So for Feb cycle I ordered the clear blue monitor and waited for my Af to arrive so I could begin using it. I also put my BF on maca smoothies (which he hated). I tested at 8dpo and was negative and as I had zero symptoms I was convinced I was out. So I drank wine ( not loads but a glass or to) and waited to be able to use the monitor. My cycle is usually 28/29 days. The due date came and went and still no AF. I thought this is a new kind of torture! I tested the day I was due on and still BFN. Four days late I had to get up 4 times in the night to pee. That morning I had a wee before I left the house and by the time I had got into town ( about a 5 mins walk) I needed to wee again. So on a whim I bought a test. And so I found out I'm preggers in my local shopping centre toilets! Not at all glamourous! I of course had to go and buy a digital and do another test and yep 2 to 3 weeks pregnant. I went into work and had to wait the whole day until I got home to tell my BF. It was his birthday the next day so I told him I had an early birthday message for him and lifted up my t shirt to show I had written 'Hello daddy' on my tummy! The only symptoms I can say I had where as follows: More numbers 2's (TMI) I had sore BB's but I get that anyway from Ov to AF and I had a few hot nights but again I get that in the run up to AF. I am now nearly 6wks and I have sore BB's but not overly so. My tummy is very bloated and hard and I have back pain and insomnia :-) I had NO extra CM, no food aversions/increased smell/Metallic taste/ no implantation cramps/no spotting nothing. The only advice I can give is I did a juice cleanse in Jan and Ive taken Coq10 for months to. They say it takes 3 months for any changes to affect the eggs so that may have helped. I don't smoke, im a fairly healthy weight and my diet is very good. As I said last year I tried everything and nothing was working including pre seed etc. I also had two sessions of counselling with cranial sacral massage and this may have helped. Also do it doggy style ladies :-) I wish you all the most love and luck in the world. Im very cautious as we have a long road to go but I feel very very lucky. Oh and if anyone wants a brand new, un used Clear blue fertility monitor plus 20 tests let me know!

40 years old bfp naturally 9 months after pargarrd removal at 10 dpo

I really didn't think it could happen, I am extremely happy but still shocked! I have symptom spotted like a crazy person EVERY MONTH for the last month each month thinking I was pg every month and swore I would stop this nonsense but this month I KNEW from day one, kept telling myself to stop it your nuts but I knew the only thing I did different was because I was trying to lose weight I was drinking LOTS of water and taking multivitamins, vitamin d, fish oil and b complex vitamins, oh I should also mention I have hypothyroidism and made sure to take my meds here are my symptoms best I can remember because I lost my list 1dpo-7 dpo nausea and lower back ache kind of a cross between kidney pain and feeling like I'd been carrying a heavy backpack not severe just noticeable breasts swelled and sore with stabby shooting pains much like af but early also bilateral ovary pain and lower abdominal twinges and occasional lower abdominal pain also at 5dpo VERY weepy I am normally am NOT a crier during pms I get mean and also 5 dpo is early even for that but I got on the bus after work and cried my eyes out all the way home and 6dpo I cried watching maury 7dpo (this was a BIG clue) had a disgusting dream that I was hungry and with a friend and they had a fast food bag, I asked "hey I'm hungry what do you have to eat, they opened the bag and had fried WHOLE baby alligators, waffles and sausage patties!! woke up nauseated and was sick all day! lower back pain intensified and tailbone pain begins breast pain continue, had a HORRIBLE hemorrhoid flare up and just general crappy feeling this day noticed extra cm BFN tiny speck of blood twice when I wiped (sorry tmi) 8dpo HUNGRY all day, I work in a jail and one of the officers walked by eating a bratwurst and I could have beaten him and taken in lower back ache beginning to feel a "tightness" across my lower belly almost like wearing a tight belt down low wondered if its because I wore jeans to work tonight but there not tight, SO TIRED I COULD CRY 9dpo back ache slight nausea lower belly tight slight cramps not like af sneezing drippy nose hungry craving bratwurst and blueberry pancakes really bad BFN extremely tired horrible gas oh yeah and hot all evening at work sweating like crazy (its winter in Wisconsin its NOT hot here) hot all night at home even though I had showered after work I sweated so much in bed over night I could smell myself the next morning (or is it my nose?) 10dpo another disgusting dream slight nausea all day moody hot cranky had a random nose bleed, I NEVER get nosebleeds, beginning to wonder late this night took a test faint but very clear BFP but still not 100% convinced tired BAD GAS 11dpo STRONG craving for bratwurst hpt very very faint bfp with fmu panicked took one with smu and faint but VERY CLEAR BFP!! not a squinter! Hungry all day AF type cramps begin getting strong off and on, at night, feeling very wet "down there" SOOOOO TIRED stronger bfp than yesterday can smell EVERYTHING 12dpo hungry as hell! food taste different overall felt pretty great 12DPO tired hungry strange dreams have continued each night gas continues, I have got to get a grip on this appetite I'm not just "hungry" every 2 hours I am gut rumbling STARVING every 2 hours I also have noticed the last 3 mornings a very strange dry/sore throat towards the back of my mouth its very weird almost feeling as if I was mouth breathing all night but not quite that either only had this during pregnancy I know its long winded but I hope it helps and I pray this little bean sticks around

BFP ttc #2

After getting my period back since my first baby...we tried a couple times. First time w/o the CBovulation monitor. Next time w/it I felt pregnant but had a very short cycle. Cut back on BF for the next cycle. Used preseed and CB ovulation monitor. BD a couple days before, day of, and day after the big O. DPO 1-6: I felt symptoms like hungry, increased CM, etc...didnt think much of it because I had gotten my hopes up last time (I was all cocky because the first baby happened quite fast) DPO 7: Back felt as if it was going to spasm, hungry etc... DPO 8: Ive been googling at night and reading about temping. So I dont know much except I think my luteal phase was too short last cycle and I dont know what my baseline temp is. My temp today read 99! I plugged it in to my baby making app and it said "pregnant!" DPO 9: feeling good (this was the day my AF came last time so i was feeling scared) Next thing I know my temperature drops. I feel all my symptoms lessen and go away. Im so sad Trying to think positive I take my temp 97.1. Google it and I see the temp drop usually means AF is coming unless theres a rise in temp shortly after. I plug the temp in my baby making app it reads "pregnancy terminated" ugh kick me while im down DPO 10: really bummed still feel no symptoms temp is still low 97.7 oh well I can go play sports then. I figure my luteal phase is short or that im going to need help this time around DPO 11: Tried playing soccer but felt sickish couldnt really move. DPO 12: I woke up to the slight queasiness coming back! I took a test and BFP!!!!!!!! NOOOO WAAAAY!!!!!! So that temp drop was my implantation! no spotting and no noticeable symptoms for 2 days. I bet if i temped i wouldve seen a slow increase but nothing drastic like 99 degrees like before. My moral is: stay positive never give up and dont believe everything you read :-) listen to your body. Im 40yo and this is baby #2 wish me luck...same to u all.

BFP over 40 after 2nd IUI!

Attempted medicated IUI in December but didn't work. Waited a month and tried again in February. Medicated with flash protocol to stimulate ovulation. Used frozen donor sperm. Feb 12 (early AM) Trigger Shot Feb 12 (afternoon) IUI I really had no symptoms other than some light cramping and slight nausea which I assumed was caused by the progesterone. In fact, I had way more pregnancy symptoms with the first IUI and that ended up not working. The only other strange symptom was about 12-13 DPO I had incredibly horrible sinus issues. I've never had those before. I was getting terrible sinus headaches and my nose was so stuffy I couldn't breathe. In fact, I had made an appointment with the doctor to find out what the heck was going on! Started using the Wondfos about 1 week after IUI. Every AM I used and got a HUGE negative. Not even the faintest hint of a line. Not even an evaporation line! I just knew that this IUI didn't work and was already preparing myself for IUI #3, adoption or simply moving on because of my age (I recently turned 43). I felt no real symptoms other than slight cramping during almost the entire 2ww. Feb 25 (13 DPO) I started feeling horrible cramping. Like pre-period cramping but even stronger. And I knew then, based on the Wondfos and my cramping that I was going to get my period any day. I was scheduled to get a beta-HCG test at my ER's office the next AM but honestly thought there was no reason to go - that's how absolutely certain that I was that I was not pregnant. But something in the back of my head told me to I did the next AM. Feb 26 (14DPO). Went to get beta HCG test. Didn't think much of it. By mid afternoon my nurse left 2 messages for me to call her back and I just didn't want to. Didn't want to hear the no. I actually called the office back and told them to leave a message for her to just leave the results on my voicemail - I just seriously didn't want to hear "no". But at 4:30pm, the nurse called from her personal mobile to have me call her back on her personal mobile - no matter what. So then I got nervous/worried. Not only is there a "no", but what else awful did they find? Imagine my surprise when she said "I have great news!" Even at this point, I couldn't possibly imagine how she could spin a negative pregnancy test into "Great news". She continued: "You are pregnant! Your HGC is 144!". The rest of the next couple of minutes was a blur. I remember sputtering out something like "that can't be possible. I'm cramping. I'm going to get my period any day now!" And she said - "No you are pregnant. We want you to come in for another beta and a preliminary scan next week!" Needless to say the first thing I did was run out and get a First Response test. Even though it was nearly 5pm and it wasn't the first morning urine I had to pee on that stick! And I did. And almost immediately those two lines popped up. The first line was slightly a little lighter than the 2nd, but by the next day they were strong and equal! Being 43, I know that there is a long road ahead before I consider the pregnancy viable, so I'm taking it day by day. I have a child (naturally conceived) and also have experienced a chemical pregnancy, so I'm taking it milestone to milestone. First I wanted to see the sac, then the yolk, then the heartbeat, then getting the CVS testing done to make sure everything is ok. Only then will I actually be able to breathe a sigh of relief and believe that I'm actually pregnant with a viable pregnancy. For those who love stats, here's what's been happening since then: 14 DPO POSITIVE beta HCG test. HCG 144 19 DPO HCG 2137 (very high for only 5 days after 1st draw!) Had first scan. Saw Gestational Sac and yolk sac- only one. 20 DPO HCG 4390 (doubled in only 1 day!) 30 DPO HCG 30,699 Had second scan. Gestational sac/yolk sac is larger. Saw the very beginnings of fetal pole. The only question/concern is why the beta is so high. At first I feared molar pregnancy, but after two scans, the gestational sac looks normal and is growing normally. There is also no indication that there is a second pregnancy in there. So I guess my HGC is just really super high. At least the numbers are going up! I will have another scan on Friday (37 DPO) to check for a heartbeat. Thinking good thoughts!!!! Good luck to those out there who are over 40 and trying to conceive. Honestly, if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone!

45 years young, breastfeeding and pregnant naturally!

OMG...I am still in shock, have been trying for a second for awhile. Been having acupuncture and chinese herbs for 3.5 mths to regulate my cycle, has been all over the place from 19 days to 32 days long. Wouldn't have thought I was pregnant this month though, a pitiful effort on our behalf really! I stalk this forum regularly. Didn't have my first until I was 42. Don't give up hope, it does happen and it happens to a lot more over 40 year olds than you think! and don't read too much on google, its depressing! here's my symptoms: CD12 positive OPK - dtd am CD13 positive OPK - dtd pm CD14 dtd pm CD23 lots of snot like yellow cm, lasted for a couple of days, mild back ache CD30 very tired today, had to lie down for a couple of hrs, that night blocked nose alternating with runny nose. CD31 nose clear, slightly sore back CD32 strong AF type cramps, thought I was out for sure! CD33 positive HTP immediately! really, nothing out of the ordinary at all, had many more 'symptoms' other months. The yellow cm was a first for me, that made me suspicious. fingers crossed all goes well! good luck to everyone trying, sticky baby dust to you all xx

40, Breastfeeding, Pregnant!

We are so excited and so grateful for this gift! We have been actively trying for five months. Though I firmly believe in God's perfect timing, I know it helps to read about what others do/take that may have helped. This month, I drank Green Tea and Red Raspberry Leaf Tea everyday. I also took a baby aspirin from ovulation day on. I've read conflicting information about that, so please read about the benefits and risks thoroughly before taking it. (Additional note: I read often that many women have increasing creamy CM, but mine has stayed sticky since ovulation, with a day or two of increased watery fluid.) I've had very little symptoms so far, and some most likely weren't pregnancy related, but I'll include them. 1-3 DPO: Irritable 4 DPO: Nothing 5 DPO: Irritable, Bloated, Backache 6 DPO: Constipation, Bloated, Nausea 7 DPO: Nothing 8 DPO: Cramps, Gassy 9 DPO: Gassy, Frequent Urination, Increased Cervical Fluid 10 DPO: Huge implantation dip, Fatigue, Tender breasts, Negative HPT 11 DPO: Fatigue, Nausea, Heightened sense of smell, Increased Appetite, Negative HPT 12 DPO: Fatigue, Heightened sense of smell, BFP!!!!! I wish the best to you all! Blessings!