Menu Search Account

BFP Stories

Early Pregnancy Symptoms and Big Fat Positives

BFP over 40

Got your BFP at age 40 or older? We definitely want to hear your story! Send us your symptoms through this contact form.

Almost 45 years old and natural BFP

I will be 45 in April. DH is 29. We had been trying for 11 months when we got our first BFP in August. Unfortunately, it ended in miscarriage at 6 weeks. We were blessed with another in January and I am now 12 weeks 2 days. All tests so far have been great and I've had no problems! I had stark white tests both times until 11 dpo where I received faint positives.

Both BFP's were cycles where we just decided to take it easy and stop obsessing. You hear about that all the time and now it's hard for me NOT to believe it. In fact, we've had two consults for donor eggs and, at both of them, I was pregnant and didn't know it....crazy!

Early symptoms (5 dpo and on) were night sweats, sore breasts and a skin breakout.
From 9 dpo until my BFP - some fatigue and dizziness.
Now it's full on morning sickness, constipation, heartburn and fatigue like I've never known.

What I was taking for months preceding...nothing too fancy: prenatal w/dha, ubiquinol (for egg quality), one baby aspirin, extra vitamin d, vitamin b complex and calcium. In the interest of "not trying so hard" this time, I stopped doing OPK's and started checking my CM. What I realized was that I had it in abundance, but it wasn't necessarily visible unless I did some "investigating". Highly recommended. I continued temping for several days pre- and post-o until I confirmed ovulation.

I loved reading about the over 40 BFP's and remember how much hope it gave to me each time. I hope this story can be that kind of inspiration to you.

Products used: 

Over 40 BFP Au naturelle & NO SYMPTOMS!

So where to start. My BF and I decided to start trying last year but at that point I wasn't using OPK's etc. After a few months I came across this site and started to look more into vitamins/supplements etc. Nothing happened and then in May I had what I think was a chemical. We were quite ok with this as at least it proved I was ovulating. I decided I wanted to wait a few months after that to get a family wedding and holiday out of the way. And so we resumed in August time. And nothing happened. So I began with the OPKS and before I knew it I was spending a fortune on acupuncture, Chinese medicines etc and still nothing. We let Christmas pass with out trying and then resumed again this year.
By this time I was getting concerned that at my age 39 ( I turned 40 at end Feb) it may not happen. My BF is only 33 ( go me!) so I was sure it wasn't him. So for Feb cycle I ordered the clear blue monitor and waited for my Af to arrive so I could begin using it. I also put my BF on maca smoothies (which he hated). I tested at 8dpo and was negative and as I had zero symptoms I was convinced I was out. So I drank wine ( not loads but a glass or to) and waited to be able to use the monitor. My cycle is usually 28/29 days. The due date came and went and still no AF. I thought this is a new kind of torture! I tested the day I was due on and still BFN. Four days late I had to get up 4 times in the night to pee. That morning I had a wee before I left the house and by the time I had got into town ( about a 5 mins walk) I needed to wee again. So on a whim I bought a test.
And so I found out I'm preggers in my local shopping centre toilets! Not at all glamourous! I of course had to go and buy a digital and do another test and yep 2 to 3 weeks pregnant.
I went into work and had to wait the whole day until I got home to tell my BF. It was his birthday the next day so I told him I had an early birthday message for him and lifted up my t shirt to show I had written 'Hello daddy' on my tummy!

The only symptoms I can say I had where as follows: More numbers 2's (TMI) I had sore BB's but I get that anyway from Ov to AF and I had a few hot nights but again I get that in the run up to AF.

I am now nearly 6wks and I have sore BB's but not overly so. My tummy is very bloated and hard and I have back pain and insomnia :-)

I had NO extra CM, no food aversions/increased smell/Metallic taste/ no implantation cramps/no spotting nothing.
The only advice I can give is I did a juice cleanse in Jan and Ive taken Coq10 for months to. They say it takes 3 months for any changes to affect the eggs so that may have helped. I don't smoke, im a fairly healthy weight and my diet is very good. As I said last year I tried everything and nothing was working including pre seed etc. I also had two sessions of counselling with cranial sacral massage and this may have helped. Also do it doggy style ladies :-)

I wish you all the most love and luck in the world. Im very cautious as we have a long road to go but I feel very very lucky.

Oh and if anyone wants a brand new, un used Clear blue fertility monitor plus 20 tests let me know!

40 years old bfp naturally 9 months after pargarrd removal at 10 dpo

I really didn't think it could happen, I am extremely happy but still shocked! I have symptom spotted like a crazy person EVERY MONTH for the last month each month thinking I was pg every month and swore I would stop this nonsense but this month I KNEW from day one, kept telling myself to stop it your nuts but I knew the only thing I did different was because I was trying to lose weight I was drinking LOTS of water and taking multivitamins, vitamin d, fish oil and b complex vitamins, oh I should also mention I have hypothyroidism and made sure to take my meds consistently.so here are my symptoms best I can remember because I lost my list
1dpo-7 dpo nausea and lower back ache kind of a cross between kidney pain and feeling like I'd been carrying a heavy backpack not severe just noticeable breasts swelled and sore with stabby shooting pains much like af but early also bilateral ovary pain and lower abdominal twinges and occasional lower abdominal pain also at 5dpo VERY weepy I am normally am NOT a crier during pms I get mean and also 5 dpo is early even for that but I got on the bus after work and cried my eyes out all the way home and 6dpo I cried watching maury
7dpo (this was a BIG clue) had a disgusting dream that I was hungry and with a friend and they had a fast food bag, I asked "hey I'm hungry what do you have to eat, they opened the bag and had fried WHOLE baby alligators, waffles and sausage patties!! woke up nauseated and was sick all day! lower back pain intensified and tailbone pain begins breast pain continue, had a HORRIBLE hemorrhoid flare up and just general crappy feeling this day noticed extra cm BFN tiny speck of blood twice when I wiped (sorry tmi)
8dpo HUNGRY all day, I work in a jail and one of the officers walked by eating a bratwurst and I could have beaten him and taken in lower back ache beginning to feel a "tightness" across my lower belly almost like wearing a tight belt down low wondered if its because I wore jeans to work tonight but there not tight, SO TIRED I COULD CRY
9dpo back ache slight nausea lower belly tight slight cramps not like af sneezing drippy nose hungry craving bratwurst and blueberry pancakes really bad BFN extremely tired horrible gas oh yeah and hot all evening at work sweating like crazy (its winter in Wisconsin its NOT hot here) hot all night at home even though I had showered after work I sweated so much in bed over night I could smell myself the next morning (or is it my nose?)
10dpo another disgusting dream slight nausea all day moody hot cranky had a random nose bleed, I NEVER get nosebleeds, beginning to wonder late this night took a test faint but very clear BFP but still not 100% convinced tired BAD GAS
11dpo STRONG craving for bratwurst hpt very very faint bfp with fmu panicked took one with smu and faint but VERY CLEAR BFP!! not a squinter! Hungry all day AF type cramps begin getting strong off and on, at night, feeling very wet "down there" SOOOOO TIRED stronger bfp than yesterday can smell EVERYTHING 12dpo hungry as hell! food taste different overall felt pretty great
12DPO tired hungry strange dreams have continued each night gas continues, I have got to get a grip on this appetite I'm not just "hungry" every 2 hours I am gut rumbling STARVING every 2 hours I also have noticed the last 3 mornings a very strange dry/sore throat towards the back of my mouth its very weird almost feeling as if I was mouth breathing all night but not quite that either only had this during pregnancy
I know its long winded but I hope it helps and I pray this little bean sticks around

BFP ttc #2

After getting my period back since my first baby...we tried a couple times. First time w/o the CBovulation monitor. Next time w/it I felt pregnant but had a very short cycle. Cut back on BF for the next cycle. Used preseed and CB ovulation monitor.
BD a couple days before, day of, and day after the big O.
DPO 1-6: I felt symptoms like hungry, increased CM, etc...didnt think much of it because I had gotten my hopes up last time (I was all cocky because the first baby happened quite fast)
DPO 7: Back felt as if it was going to spasm, hungry etc...
DPO 8: Ive been googling at night and reading about temping. So I dont know much except I think my luteal phase was too short last cycle and I dont know what my baseline temp is. My temp today read 99! I plugged it in to my baby making app and it said "pregnant!"
DPO 9: feeling good (this was the day my AF came last time so i was feeling scared) Next thing I know my temperature drops. I feel all my symptoms lessen and go away. Im so sad
Trying to think positive I take my temp 97.1. Google it and I see the temp drop usually means AF is coming unless theres a rise in temp shortly after. I plug the temp in my baby making app it reads "pregnancy terminated" ugh kick me while im down
DPO 10: really bummed still feel no symptoms temp is still low 97.7 oh well I can go play sports then. I figure my luteal phase is short or that im going to need help this time around
DPO 11: Tried playing soccer but felt sickish couldnt really move.
DPO 12: I woke up to the slight queasiness coming back! I took a test and BFP!!!!!!!!
NOOOO WAAAAY!!!!!! So that temp drop was my implantation! no spotting and no noticeable symptoms for 2 days. I bet if i temped i wouldve seen a slow increase but nothing drastic like 99 degrees like before. My moral is: stay positive never give up and dont believe everything you read :-) listen to your body. Im 40yo and this is baby #2 wish me luck...same to u all.

BFP over 40 after 2nd IUI!

Attempted medicated IUI in December but didn't work. Waited a month and tried again in February. Medicated with flash protocol to stimulate ovulation. Used frozen donor sperm.

Feb 12 (early AM) Trigger Shot
Feb 12 (afternoon) IUI
I really had no symptoms other than some light cramping and slight nausea which I assumed was caused by the progesterone. In fact, I had way more pregnancy symptoms with the first IUI and that ended up not working. The only other strange symptom was about 12-13 DPO I had incredibly horrible sinus issues. I've never had those before. I was getting terrible sinus headaches and my nose was so stuffy I couldn't breathe. In fact, I had made an appointment with the doctor to find out what the heck was going on!

Started using the Wondfos about 1 week after IUI. Every AM I used and got a HUGE negative. Not even the faintest hint of a line. Not even an evaporation line! I just knew that this IUI didn't work and was already preparing myself for IUI #3, adoption or simply moving on because of my age (I recently turned 43). I felt no real symptoms other than slight cramping during almost the entire 2ww.

Feb 25 (13 DPO) I started feeling horrible cramping. Like pre-period cramping but even stronger. And I knew then, based on the Wondfos and my cramping that I was going to get my period any day. I was scheduled to get a beta-HCG test at my ER's office the next AM but honestly thought there was no reason to go - that's how absolutely certain that I was that I was not pregnant. But something in the back of my head told me to go...so I did the next AM.

Feb 26 (14DPO). Went to get beta HCG test. Didn't think much of it. By mid afternoon my nurse left 2 messages for me to call her back and I just didn't want to. Didn't want to hear the no. I actually called the office back and told them to leave a message for her to just leave the results on my voicemail - I just seriously didn't want to hear "no". But at 4:30pm, the nurse called from her personal mobile to have me call her back on her personal mobile - no matter what. So then I got nervous/worried. Not only is there a "no", but what else awful did they find?

Imagine my surprise when she said "I have great news!" Even at this point, I couldn't possibly imagine how she could spin a negative pregnancy test into "Great news". She continued: "You are pregnant! Your HGC is 144!". The rest of the next couple of minutes was a blur. I remember sputtering out something like "that can't be possible. I'm cramping. I'm going to get my period any day now!" And she said - "No you are pregnant. We want you to come in for another beta and a preliminary scan next week!"

Needless to say the first thing I did was run out and get a First Response test. Even though it was nearly 5pm and it wasn't the first morning urine I had to pee on that stick! And I did. And almost immediately those two lines popped up. The first line was slightly a little lighter than the 2nd, but by the next day they were strong and equal!

Being 43, I know that there is a long road ahead before I consider the pregnancy viable, so I'm taking it day by day. I have a child (naturally conceived) and also have experienced a chemical pregnancy, so I'm taking it milestone to milestone. First I wanted to see the sac, then the yolk, then the heartbeat, then getting the CVS testing done to make sure everything is ok. Only then will I actually be able to breathe a sigh of relief and believe that I'm actually pregnant with a viable pregnancy.

For those who love stats, here's what's been happening since then:

14 DPO POSITIVE beta HCG test. HCG 144
19 DPO HCG 2137 (very high for only 5 days after 1st draw!)
Had first scan. Saw Gestational Sac and yolk sac- only one.
20 DPO HCG 4390 (doubled in only 1 day!)
30 DPO HCG 30,699
Had second scan. Gestational sac/yolk sac is larger. Saw the very beginnings of fetal pole.

The only question/concern is why the beta is so high. At first I feared molar pregnancy, but after two scans, the gestational sac looks normal and is growing normally. There is also no indication that there is a second pregnancy in there. So I guess my HGC is just really super high. At least the numbers are going up!

I will have another scan on Friday (37 DPO) to check for a heartbeat. Thinking good thoughts!!!!

Good luck to those out there who are over 40 and trying to conceive. Honestly, if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone!

45 years young, breastfeeding and pregnant naturally!

OMG...I am still in shock, have been trying for a second for awhile. Been having acupuncture and chinese herbs for 3.5 mths to regulate my cycle, has been all over the place from 19 days to 32 days long. Wouldn't have thought I was pregnant this month though, a pitiful effort on our behalf really! I stalk this forum regularly. Didn't have my first until I was 42. Don't give up hope, it does happen and it happens to a lot more over 40 year olds than you think! and don't read too much on google, its depressing! here's my symptoms:

CD12 positive OPK - dtd am
CD13 positive OPK - dtd pm
CD14 dtd pm
CD23 lots of snot like yellow cm, lasted for a couple of days, mild back ache
CD30 very tired today, had to lie down for a couple of hrs, that night blocked nose alternating with runny nose.
CD31 nose clear, slightly sore back
CD32 strong AF type cramps, thought I was out for sure!
CD33 positive HTP immediately!

really, nothing out of the ordinary at all, had many more 'symptoms' other months. The yellow cm was a first for me, that made me suspicious.

fingers crossed all goes well! good luck to everyone trying, sticky baby dust to you all xx

40, Breastfeeding, Pregnant!

We are so excited and so grateful for this gift! We have been actively trying for five months. Though I firmly believe in God's perfect timing, I know it helps to read about what others do/take that may have helped. This month, I drank Green Tea and Red Raspberry Leaf Tea everyday. I also took a baby aspirin from ovulation day on. I've read conflicting information about that, so please read about the benefits and risks thoroughly before taking it. (Additional note: I read often that many women have increasing creamy CM, but mine has stayed sticky since ovulation, with a day or two of increased watery fluid.)

I've had very little symptoms so far, and some most likely weren't pregnancy related, but I'll include them.

1-3 DPO: Irritable
4 DPO: Nothing
5 DPO: Irritable, Bloated, Backache
6 DPO: Constipation, Bloated, Nausea
7 DPO: Nothing
8 DPO: Cramps, Gassy
9 DPO: Gassy, Frequent Urination, Increased Cervical Fluid
10 DPO: Huge implantation dip, Fatigue, Tender breasts, Negative HPT
11 DPO: Fatigue, Nausea, Heightened sense of smell, Increased Appetite, Negative HPT
12 DPO: Fatigue, Heightened sense of smell, BFP!!!!!

I wish the best to you all! Blessings!

Can't believe it!

I have been stalking this site for a while... I just found out I am pregnant with my 4th at 40 years old. We had been trying and then I just gave up. But the last couple days I just felt weird. My boobs hurt today and for some reason I went to Craigslist and started looking at baby things. I decided to go buy one of the Wal-Mart cheapies pregnancy tests on a whim and it came back positive in seconds. I have no idea how far along I am because I quit keeping track of my period. Maybe 5-6 weeks? Also a surprise because I have used Clomid to get pregnant with my other 3! Hope it sticks! Still in shock!

BFP at 44

Oh, how to abbreviate my journey...

Starting ttc at 40.5. After 45 BFN's, had first BFP at 44 resulting in daughter.

1st Conventional IVF Clinic
7 IUI's
2 IVF's
Unexplained infertility.
Diminished ovarian reserve, low antral follicle count, hormones at normal levels, did not respond well to stimulation meds.
Given 1% chance of conceiving speech - Dr. told me I must have bad eggs because of DOR and age, so I should go straight to egg donor - even picked one out for me before ever having the DE discussion.

2nd Conventional IVF Clinic
Additional tests. Poor AMH levels. Only 2 antral follicles on U/S that month (lowest count ever).
Given 5% chance of conceiving speech.
Didn't feel this clinic would do anything different from 1st clinic so didn't cycle here.

3rd Mini IVF Clinic
FSH levels had begun to rise.
Dr. told me if I could make blastocysts (5-day embryos) I would have approx. 20% chance of conceiving - same as naturally.
Did 9 natural IVF cycles and retrieved 7 blastocysts.
3 cycles - BFN.
Had full autoimmune/coagulation panel testing done. Tested positive for Antithrombin and heterozygous for MTHFR C677T. Dr. put me on Lovenox (blood thinners) for 4th cycle and finally had first BFP!
The successful egg was retrieved when I was 43.5 and my FSH that cycle was 56.
And we have two more blastocyst left.....

Trying Something Different

It's has been such a long and painful journey, physically but mostly emotionally. I am sure many of you can relate. For those of you in a boat like mine, I hope you find pregnancy or at least a little peace of mind.

I am 43, my partner 43. I was diagnosed with infertility at age 22. It was quite a blow even though at the time I wasn't at all ready to begin a family. After a laparoscopy exam to determin why my monthly cramps were so terrible at age 22, the doctor informed me that my Fallopian tubes were completely blocked. A dye test was used to make this diagnosis. The doctor believed that I must have had pelvic inflammatory disease and been unaware. The same doctor suggested a major abdominal surgery to attempt to remove the scarring on my tubes only to get a post operation incision infection that needed to be swabbed and packed daily. A year later after having a large ovarian cyst removed in emergency by a different doctor, through a laparoscopy, I was told that my body had healed too well from the first surgery, my tubes were blocked again. I was also diagnosed with thyroid disease and at age 19 had an appendectomy.

The doctor that removed the cyst offered to try the major surgery to remove the tubal scarring again because he thought he would have better luck. I agreed. A year later I was told the scarring had returned. I was told that IVF would be the only way I would get pregnant. By this time, I was married. My husband wanted nothing to do with interventions that would help me conceive if it wasn't going to happen naturally then he didn't believe it was meant to be. His feelings did not curb my maternal instinct. For ten years we remained married and for ten years, as a teacher, I loved caring for other people's children always going home and feeling empty. After many marital disappointments and much heartbreak, I left my husband. I stopped dreaming of ever becoming pregnant.

I remained single for 4 years with only pipe dreams of ever being a mom. I got a message on Facebook from a friend I went to elementary school and high school with who now lived in another county! We became friends and dated, fell in love and are now engaged. We realized early on that we both wanted to be parents together. We had concerns about our age and couldn't marry because of our citizenship statuses.

We began two years ago with our first fertiltiy appointments and a tubalectomy was recommended to help with our IVF success. Yet another surgery! I had major reservations about this surgery, even though it would be less major than other surgeries I had had. There was something about mutilating my body for a chance at pregnancy which was a new level of maternal desperation I hated to admit to. It wasn't like the other auguries. I felt like a pivotal part of what makes every woman a woman was to be torn from me. I tried to focus on the long term goal.

A year after our first fertiltiy appointment I was finally ready for my first cycle of IVF! After the first couple of weeks of monitoring my mother died from ALS. My body stopped responding to the drugs, I did not produce eggs and on the day of her funeral I was told to give up this cycle. Inexplicable loss.

Two months later we were trying again. Five eggs were retrieved and fertilized. After day two only two eggs remained and they were struggling. On day three they both died. These two cycles cost over $15,000 in medications and treatment expenses.

We were told that my eggs were of poor quality and that although there may be good eggs in my ovaries the chances of my releasing those ones were slim to none. The doctor recommended egg donation. More devastation and loss.

We decided on a clinic that guarenteed a baby for a hefty financial investment. We chose an egg donor. We waited for our cycles to be in sync. Our donor produced 11 healthy eggs, three of which were good for transfer and freezing, on day five. We decided on a two egg transfer and to freeze one egg.

Throughout the two week waiting period I had lots of cramping, blue discharge from Estrace, and some groin pain early on. During this whole procedure I changed my diet, had accupuncture, gave up all harsh chemicals in my house and cleaned with vinegar and water! I tried to take it easy and not be stressed. I was sure it was going to work! I was picking out maternity clothes and the list of names was growing and ever changing. We told our closest family and best friends. I took a pregnancy test and it was negative but I tried to remain positive. The pregnancy did not take. We were both upset. I took this news very badly. I cried pretty hysterically for two days. I didn't want to talk to friends or family. My fiancé and I could only be together on face time.

Products used: 

Pages