So here’s my story. I hope it can give some ladies hope, hope that I needed many times over this trying to conceive journey!
I was pretty iffy about having children, but when I was getting close to 40, I thought “why not?” So we started trying (I wanted to wait to try until after my 40th *surprise* birthday party). I got pregnant the first month. I was really shocked that it happened so quickly because they say it can take up to a year for a couple to get pregnant, right? I guess the fact that I had never been on any sort of birth control probably helped.
Anyways, had my 6 week appt, saw and heard the heartbeat, everything was fine. However, my dr did say “I would still wait until first tri is over to spread the news”. Of course, I agreed, that is what my husband and I had decided.
Fast forward 3 ½ weeks and I had a missed miscarriage. Meaning, my angel’s heart had stopped growing at a certain point, probably at least a couple of weeks, before I started cramping and bleeding at 9 ½ weeks, which was my clue that something was wrong. To this day, I wonder if my dr saw something that she didn’t like at the first appt, or if the heart beat was low (I never asked her what the hb was) or if she was just being cautious because of my advanced maternal age.
I was devastated and thought it was such a cruel joke-to get pregnant so quickly, yet have it snatched out of my hands just as quickly. Why?? I asked God that many times…
I got my period 30 days after my miscarriage, and it got right back to normal, except that I had dark brown spotting during my luteal phase. I am positive I had NEVER experienced this before. After I did more research, I was convinced that I was low in progesterone. And it’s very difficult to get pregnant when you are low in progesterone. But my dr. didn’t think that I was low in progesterone.
To help my egg quality, in January I started taking the following supplements: COQ10, Vitamin D with fish oil, vitamin B6, royal jelly, wheatgrass, and spirulina. They say it takes 90 days for any vitamins to start working. Or is it that the egg/s you ovulate were produced 90 days prior? Anyways, I also started temping and using Fertility Friend to confirm and track my ovulation. In March I also bought raspberry tea leaves and dong quai from Chinatown and brewed and drank it for the first half of my cycle.
I also used ovulation predictor kits and bought a ferning microscope. We tried for 6 cycles, and nothing happened.
Finally, in April I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. My TSH was 2.4, and although it is considered “normal”, I had read that Fertility Specialists like to see your TSH below 2, before they will treat you. So, I asked my primary care if we could try out a thyroid rx and she agreed to put me on the lowest dosage.
I also took soy isoflavones (nature’s clomid) during my April cycle, but I didn’t get pregnant.
At the end of April, my ob gyn performed an endometrial biopsy (which came back normal). She said since I had just started my thyroid rx, to take a break from trying to conceive. Once my thyroid is normalized, usually within a couple of months, to come back to see her and if I am still not pregnant, she would do a Hysterosalpingogram.
Well, I knew that it would take at least 5-7 days to recover from the endometrial biopsy, and I knew my anticipated ovulation date would be right around that time and I may not even be able to try to conceive. For that reason, for May’s cycle, I decided not to take the soy isoflavones (I didn’t want to go through the side effects for no reason-why do that and then not even be physically able to try to conceive)? So I kind of looked at my May cycle as a “lost cause” and that I was taking a break.
Ultimately, we were able to have sex the day before I ovulated. However, my temps were really rocky, both before and after ovulation, out of character from my previous month’s charts. I only temped for 3 days after ovulation, just to confirm my ovulation, because I was taking a break, remember? Those 4 temps after my ovulation were so rocky that Fertility Friend said it suspected that perhaps I didn’t even ovulate in May!! I was so freaked out! I thought that the soy isoflavones I took in April messed up my May cycle.
I didn’t symptom spot during the two week wait, because I didn’t have any expectations AT ALL. On 12dpo, I tested using an internet cheapie, and it was negative.