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Many Months of Trying... Surprise BFP!!

I am happy to be sharing my story after so many months of reading other happy stories looking for some hope!

I have to first say that we were not trying at all, in fact we had stopped several months ago due to lack of success for 2 years. I had figured since I am 40 that I was done. My mother went in to early menopause and I hear the daughters usually follow. I have 3 boys now and each of those pregnancies happened on the 1st or 2nd try so after years of trying and reading what to do with no success we stopped.

I had been temping to make sure I knew when I ovulated so we would be safe just in case, although mistakes never turned into anything. Last month I must have ovulated early because when I took my temp on CD 12 and it was already over 98. I didn't think anything of it. I kept temping and noting a few symptoms like a sore throat out of nowhere and being crampy a day or 2. I continued to temp and after 22 days of temps over 98 I felt something had to be going on. I did notice also that my boobs got a bit heavier so I said hmm could I be pregnant? I bought a test after being 2 days late and took it at 130pm and it was positive instantly. I was very surprised, yet very excited. I have been very nervous and emotional these last days.

I am hoping for a girl, but just want it be healthy. Since I stopped trying several months ago we didn't anything different at all. In looking back at the days we had sex, it was once in the am and once in the pm. In each instance, I got up right away. Nothing special at all. I do recall in the months that I did try I had almost every symptom imaginable, and now I have very few. Each person is different in how they conceive and how it affects their body. Each pregnancy is different within the same person, I know mine were. I guess sometimes it just happens when it is meant to be. I have been out of work for almost a year and started a wonderful new job a few weeks ago, my older son is going to college next week and now I am blessed to be adding to my family. I am so thrilled and wish all of you much love and success.

Here is to a happy and healthy 9 months!

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46.5 Years Old and Just Discovered I am Pregnant

Hi ladies!

I just found out two days ago that I am pregnant with my third child. This is the biggest surprise ever for me in that it occurred naturally. My daughters are 23 and 16, plus I have twin grandchildren who will be seven in September. I am so shocked and scared to death. My boyfriend is 50 and has two daughters, 26 and 16. He is not too happy in that we were looking at traveling and spending time together as almost empty nesters.

I am also concerned about my age and having a healthy baby.

However, I just want you ladies to know it can happen at any time, especially if you think you are too old.

God Bless you all, and I wish you all success at conceiving and happy, healthy babies.

BFP at 40 After Removal of Left Ovary and Tube

It's just over 3 and a half years ago that I discovered that I had fallen pregnant (not planned). DH and I were numb for several weeks but grew to like the idea of having a third. Visited OB/GYN at 8 weeks and had a scan. No heartbeat detected - we were devastated. Another scan at 9 weeks confirmed no heartbeat so booked into day surgery for D&C.

I woke up in a private room in a ward all confused and in pain, OB/GYN had ruptured my uterus during the procedure and had to repair with a LAP so D&C was not carried out. Sent home to MC naturally and after another 2 weeks MC'd and ended up being admitted to hospital again (trip in an ambulance).

Follow up with OB/GYN a couple of weeks later revealed a large ovarian cyst (size of an orange) had grown on my left ovary.

To top it all off, due to all of the exams and internal scans over those weeks I developed an intolerance/allergy to latex. Took months to figure this out as I was on antibiotics after the rupture and then had a nasty chest infection followed by ear infections that wouldn't go away so I kept on thinking that it was thrush due to the antibiotics!

I was put on BC to try and reduce the size of the cyst over 6 months but it didn't work so back to hospital to have the cyst removed.

After everything that happened I wasn't keen to have a third!

9 months ago, 2 days before I turned 40 and a day before I flew out of the country for my planned 40 bday celebration in Thailand, DH asked for another! Totally unexpected! I always wanted 3 but was very happy with the two beautiful boys that we have and had thought we were past it as boys are 10 & 9 (15 months apart).

Told DH I wanted a check up with GP before committing to trying. Blood work revealed all ok with me and the GP gave us the thumbs up to start trying immediately and he tried to tell me when to start TTC (like I didn't already know)!

After 5 months TTC, due to our age and my cycle going haywire since we started trying we booked into see a fertility specialist in late Feb as I knew it would take a bit of time to investigate everything and we weren't spring chickens!

The day before our appointment I had the most horrific nausea and pain. Standing seemed to make it worse and somehow I knew something wasn't right and after hours of vomitting drove to my dr. She was at a loss but suspected divaticulitis (family history) and since I was seeing GYN the next day she suggested I talk to him and start on antibiotics just in case.

I wasn't able to stand for more than 5 min the next morning and cancelled GYN appt as I was too ill. The next day I couldn't stand the pain any more so went to the hospital where they scanned me and found an ovarian torsion on my left ovary.

Rushed appt with GYN had me booked in for surgery a couple of days later. Left ovary, cyst and tube had to be removed due to lack of blood supply from torsion.

GYN thought that torsion probably occurred in Sept/Oct last year when we first started TTC as that is when my cycle became irregular. I had more bloodwork done and had to book DH in for tests but things got busy and we didn't get around to getting my results or booking him in for tests before we headed off on a family holiday overseas at the beginning of July. Periods were due while we were away. BBS had been killing me for over a week but didn't think too much of it. Period didn't arrive on day 28 so told DH 50/50 chance in the morning and 60/40 that night. Next day still hadn't arrived, BBS were really painful and heavy. Told DH the % was now 70/30! After an exhausting day at Universal Studios riding roller coasters I decided to do a HPT back at the hotel - BFP!!!

Came out from the bathroom and whispered to DH that % was now 99/1!

DH will be 40 when due and I will be 41! Dr has now confirmed pregnancy at booked into OB/GYN in Aug.

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Finally BFP

Hello everyone, here's my story;
Me: 40 perfect with No problems, fsh: 7
DH: 49 MFI, severe morphology problems, count not that bad.
Ivf#1 14 follies, 14 eggs, 12 fetilized, 2 embies 3dt BFN, No frosties
Ivf#2 14 follies, 16 eggs, 14 fertilized, 2 of 5 day blasts transferred. BFP! BHCG 267. Termination at 20 weeks due to chromosomal abnormality which happens 1/50000 ! Devastated.
Ivf#3 11 follies, 6 mature :( 5 fertilized. 2 embies transferred at day 4. BFN :( No frosties.
Ivf#4 11 follies, 11 mature, 11 fertilized ( excellent quality eggs with dhea, coq10, vitD) 2 blasts transferred at day 5 . BFN . 4 blasts frozen :)
HSG No problems.
FET #1 all embies survived thaw, 2 blasts transferred. BFP with FMU at 6dp5dt, bHCG number at 9dp5dt is 323 yayyy. Next beta is in 2 days.
Symptoms: I am an experienced ivf er here, so I know most of the symptoms are because of ER, stimulation and progesterone. I had far more symptoms in my BFN cycles. Only difference were; severe headache, burning sensation at inguinal area, cold symptoms. I had occasional cramps.
Good luck to everyone out there, you're in my prayers and never loose hope...

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My BFP Story @ 40

Hi, I have beden married late in life and started ttc at 39.
Me 40 years no problems but age. Fsh 7.2
DH 49 low morphology, excellent health, has a son from previous marriage with IUI (10 years ago)
Ivf #1 14 eggs 13 fertilized, 3dt of 2 embrios, bfn no frozen
Ivf #2. 16 eggs 14 fertilized , 5dt of 2 embrios , BFP ! Termination at 20 weeks due to chromosomal anormality. Happens 1 in 50 000! Devastated :(
Ivf #3 6 eggs ( wwhattt????) 4dt of 2 embrios BFN :(
Ivf #4 11 eggs, 11 fertilized ( 3 months of 75mg dhea, coq10, vitD) 5dt 2 embrios, BFN :( 4 blasts frozen :)
HSG everything normal
FET #1 all blasts survived, 5dt of 2 blasts. BFP at Hpt fmu at 6dp5dt. 9dp5dt bHCG 323!! We are so happy !
Symptoms; experienced IVF'er here. I know now most of the symptoms are from ER, stimulation and progesterone as I had far less symptoms at FET cycle.
Some of my symptoms were: severe headache, warm feeling, eye twitching (strange) and AF cramping that comes and goes. Oh and most important I had a burning sensation at inguinal area firts few days post transfer. I hope this one (or two !) is a healty baby/ are healthy babies :)
Good luck everybody please do not loose hope :)

BFP 20 DPO - Unusual "Symptoms" Didn't Think I Was!!

Hi ladies - I wanted to post because I didn't seem to fall into any of the categories of normal symptoms and I KNOW alot of us lose faith so here's my story:
The first week and a half after ovulation I felt NOTHING - no cramps or boob pain or anything. I thought this was a bit odd but I was trying not to symptom spot lol.
Then around 11-12dpo started getting mild cramps which felt exactly like AF. I thought I was out for sure. Only thing off was lower back pain which I don't usually get with my period. I also felt nausea after eating in the morning on days 11 12 and 13dpo but I get this with AF. Tested negative on Sunday and wasn't surprised. Period was due Wednesday and by Sunday I was DRY below and cervix low and hard so I was super sure I was out. But I tested again on Tuesday and again a negative. I then just decided to wait for AF but by Friday morning still nothing? Now two days late, no CM no sore boobs no nausea only slight cramps and again the back pain. So I tested and there it was - my VERY faint line!!!! I had this happen with my last pg - took a bit for a strong pg test but usually by the day AF is due I get one so this was strange for me :)
I'm still not 100% sold until I get a digital test that says you're pregnant lol. I still have a hard cervix and it goes up and down in a day - but does feel pretty closed. And still not much CM almost dry like before AF. No sore boobs, and I don't temp so can't answer that.
I use an ovu kit and took evening primrose and robitussin which has worked for me in the past too :)
I'm still having light mild cramping which is very normal - some
More specific sharper pains on left side around that ovary so baby may be burrowing in there :)
Anyways keep the faith because I didn't fit any categories at all and in my opinion you are never EVER out until AF shows!!
Good luck everyone!!!

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BFP After 6 IUIs, at 40!

I love this site and was always checking it out for inspiration. Hopefully, you see something in my story to help you with your journey.

I have no fertility issues, except I married a woman and our sperm needs to be purchased :) And I started this process at 39, now 40. My first 4 cycles were with Clomid days 3-7 and an Ovidrel trigger shot prior to the IUI. I usually had one, maybe two mature follicles anywhere from 16-26mm each cycle. The second cycle resulted in a chemical pregnancy and a cyst that required us sitting out until it resolved on its own. So, after 4 iui cycles and a discussion with our Dr, we decided to get more aggressive and move to injectibles and back-to-back iuis. The Clomid was giving me some nasty headaches and I don't think it was helping my lining either (always around 5-6mm). Cycle 5, I started Bravelle injections (75 units, which is one dose) days 3-8, then Ovidrel trigger, then back-to-back IUIs (24, 36 hrs after trigger). One follice at 22mm, lining around 8! But, no dice.

Went right into the next month with the same plan, but upped the Bravelle to 150. This was going to be #6, our last shot! Bravelle 150 injections days 3-8, Ovidrel trigger day 9, back-to-back IUIs (16 hrs and 40 hrs after trigger). One lonely follicle measuring 18 at two days before the IUI, and my lining was over 9. It only takes one, right?

I was trying to chill out this cycle and relax. I was preoccupied most of the time and I rather casually decided to poas the evening of the 9th DPO. It was a light positive. It really threw us for a loop, but we stayed pretty calm about a light positive. It was early. Of course, I didn't test the trigger out this time, but it's usually gone by dpo6. We also had that chemical pregnancy and knew if the line doesn't get darker, it might be an uphill battle. So I kept poas every day :) The line got darker around 12dpo, so then, on 13dpo, we got the digital positive! My beta number at 17dpiui was 500. This was it. At 6 weeks, we saw the heartbeat:)

No symptoms during the two week wait with one exception. My boobs were SORE and swollen at the end of the first week. Never had that before. The only thing I did differently was to relax. I know, everyone says this, and it sucks because when you tell someone to relax, it is akin to saying "don't remember the number 116." The only thing you can think about now is '116.' But, I just lived my life during the 2ww. I had a couple glasses of wine (not all at once, I wasn't crazy:) and after the positive at 9dpo, NO booze), I stayed up late, and I didn't read the internet about the 2ww:) Honestly, there was nothing left for me to read. After 6 iuis and almost a year of trying, I found the end of the internet.

Live your life through this process to the best of your abilities and have a plan if things don't work out. Having that conversation with your spouse early and in-depth was the best advice I was given. It helped me to really chill out the last two cycles because my wife and I sat down and discussed our course of action for our entire family plan, to include how many IUIs I would do, if IVF was a consideration for me, when she would try (the benefit of having another uterus in the family), etc. Having that in-depth conversation put my mind at ease for the rest of the process because I knew if this stage didn't work out, we were already in agreement with what was next.
Good luck everyone!

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Tubal Reversal BFP!!!!!

By the Grace of God!!!

I am 42 and have been trying to conceive #8 for 9 months. Last night I was brushing my teeth and my gums hurt. I thought "hmmm, this is new" so I tested this morning. I think I am about 10 dpo but not sure as we had actually quit trying. We only BD'd once this cycle so far (I have 7 children, homeschool, and have 4 playing baseball. My husband is coaching one of the teams. We're busy. And old. And tired.) With every pregnancy, I have had only one symptom that stands out and it has been different every time. My recipe: Get really mad about constant BFNs and throw away all the supplements, go online and buy hundreds of dollars worth of new clothes (not maternity!) and thank God for the many blessings He has given you. Truly Praising God for His grace and mercy.

40 Years Old and 2nd BFP in 9 Months...

So here’s my story. I hope it can give some ladies hope, hope that I needed many times over this trying to conceive journey!
I was pretty iffy about having children, but when I was getting close to 40, I thought “why not?” So we started trying (I wanted to wait to try until after my 40th *surprise* birthday party). I got pregnant the first month. I was really shocked that it happened so quickly because they say it can take up to a year for a couple to get pregnant, right? I guess the fact that I had never been on any sort of birth control probably helped.

Anyways, had my 6 week appt, saw and heard the heartbeat, everything was fine. However, my dr did say “I would still wait until first tri is over to spread the news”. Of course, I agreed, that is what my husband and I had decided.

Fast forward 3 ½ weeks and I had a missed miscarriage. Meaning, my angel’s heart had stopped growing at a certain point, probably at least a couple of weeks, before I started cramping and bleeding at 9 ½ weeks, which was my clue that something was wrong. To this day, I wonder if my dr saw something that she didn’t like at the first appt, or if the heart beat was low (I never asked her what the hb was) or if she was just being cautious because of my advanced maternal age.

I was devastated and thought it was such a cruel joke-to get pregnant so quickly, yet have it snatched out of my hands just as quickly. Why?? I asked God that many times…

I got my period 30 days after my miscarriage, and it got right back to normal, except that I had dark brown spotting during my luteal phase. I am positive I had NEVER experienced this before. After I did more research, I was convinced that I was low in progesterone. And it’s very difficult to get pregnant when you are low in progesterone. But my dr. didn’t think that I was low in progesterone.

To help my egg quality, in January I started taking the following supplements: COQ10, Vitamin D with fish oil, vitamin B6, royal jelly, wheatgrass, and spirulina. They say it takes 90 days for any vitamins to start working. Or is it that the egg/s you ovulate were produced 90 days prior? Anyways, I also started temping and using Fertility Friend to confirm and track my ovulation. In March I also bought raspberry tea leaves and dong quai from Chinatown and brewed and drank it for the first half of my cycle.
I also used ovulation predictor kits and bought a ferning microscope. We tried for 6 cycles, and nothing happened.

Finally, in April I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. My TSH was 2.4, and although it is considered “normal”, I had read that Fertility Specialists like to see your TSH below 2, before they will treat you. So, I asked my primary care if we could try out a thyroid rx and she agreed to put me on the lowest dosage.

I also took soy isoflavones (nature’s clomid) during my April cycle, but I didn’t get pregnant.

At the end of April, my ob gyn performed an endometrial biopsy (which came back normal). She said since I had just started my thyroid rx, to take a break from trying to conceive. Once my thyroid is normalized, usually within a couple of months, to come back to see her and if I am still not pregnant, she would do a Hysterosalpingogram.

Well, I knew that it would take at least 5-7 days to recover from the endometrial biopsy, and I knew my anticipated ovulation date would be right around that time and I may not even be able to try to conceive. For that reason, for May’s cycle, I decided not to take the soy isoflavones (I didn’t want to go through the side effects for no reason-why do that and then not even be physically able to try to conceive)? So I kind of looked at my May cycle as a “lost cause” and that I was taking a break.

Ultimately, we were able to have sex the day before I ovulated. However, my temps were really rocky, both before and after ovulation, out of character from my previous month’s charts. I only temped for 3 days after ovulation, just to confirm my ovulation, because I was taking a break, remember? Those 4 temps after my ovulation were so rocky that Fertility Friend said it suspected that perhaps I didn’t even ovulate in May!! I was so freaked out! I thought that the soy isoflavones I took in April messed up my May cycle.

I didn’t symptom spot during the two week wait, because I didn’t have any expectations AT ALL. On 12dpo, I tested using an internet cheapie, and it was negative.