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40 Years Old and BFP After More Than 2 Years of Trying

I am so grateful I’ve fallen pregnant again, I hope this is a sticky bean, so far it looks like it’s here to stay. This will be my first. I started TTC when I was 38 years old with a private donor (friend) but after 6 months of home insemination nothing had happened other than a chemical pregnancy. I was freaking out about my age and having read so much horror stories online, I was sure my age and old eggs was the issue. We went to a fertility clinic for IUI treatment and blood work and examinations and it turned out I was fine but my donor had rather bad sperm count and low motility, but not so low that we had to go directly to IVF/ICSI. The doctor was convinced that my age was not a problem as my numbers were all great. Yet in the next many months I had two more chemicals and nothing else happened. Finally after 10 months of trying with Chlomid, Puregon, trigger shot and IUI I finally got that BFP!! Unfortunately I miscarried at 5 weeks pregnant just few days before my 40th birthday. I was devastated. Again I was sure advanced maternal age had something to do with it, women over 40 miscarrying more often than younger women and so scared it was now too late and I would never fall pregnant again. Again the doctor was sure it had more to do with the quality of the sperm rather than my age and kept telling my numbers were perfect. For the next four months we tried again but nothing happened. Having had three chemicals and a miscarriage I was send to an expert in recurrent miscarriage. Before our appointment was due my friend backed out and decided not to be a part of it anymore. It was another blow. We had been in this together and now I was all alone. The new doctor too thought my numbers were too good to be the issue and with no blocked tubes and a very high AMH and low FSH he told me my age was not likely to be the cause of recurrent miscarriage but probably had to do with the quality of the sperm as bad sperm quality is more likely to result in miscarriage than healthy sperm. He suggested trying IUI with a donor a few more times and then go on to IVF Having read even more bad stories of older women trying to conceive for the first time I was not convinced. I was freaking myself out with stories of old eggs and problems conceiving. Then I started loosely dating a guy for a short while and used the break from the treatment to think about my situation, if I should continue with IUI with a donor or if I should go directly to IVF. The date and I found out about a month into it that it just wasn’t the of us and I was ready to move on to donor Ivf. While waiting to begin treatment again I bumped into the ex-date and after a night with drinks (too many) we ended up in bed. Well AF never arrived and there was no need to start donor ivf – I was pregnant! Completely unexpected, although I had this gut feeling from the start that I might be pregnant. The guy even ended up being quite thrilled about it, even though we are both sure we are not going to date again. Miracles do happen – and I guess the doctors were right, I do not have bad quality eggs. I think I ovulated 4 days after having sex because I felt ovulation pain that day but looking at my dpo timeline, it looks like I O’ed a few days earlier. 1 dpo – absolutely nothing 2 dpo – sudden strange sensation in both ovaries 3 dpo – AF-like pain and more ovary sensation?? 4 dpo – vivid dreams, woke up from a nightmare. 5 dpo – again woke from a nightmare in the middle of the night. 6 dpo – suddenly nothing at all. 7 dpo – woke up in the middle of the night crying, overly emotional all day, strangely heavy breasts, sore nipples, feels like the beginning of a cold, sore throat, sneezing. 8 dpo – suddently nothing, soreness gone, throat fine - what??? 9 dpo – constipation, hot and cold, stabbing pain below, not sure if it’s my intestines, my lower back or my uterus, it just feels all sore down there. 10 dpo – vivid happy dreams, more pain in pelvic area, suddenly ewcm like around ovulation?? 11 dpo - had a vivid dream about hanging out with a group of soldiers who all appeared to be very fertile (somehow I knew they were in my dream) – what a weird dream!! Woke up from that weird dream in the middle of the night, fell asleep again and dreamed the exact same dream again. Woke up with AF pain and thought it would arrive three days early, it freaked me out because shortened periods is a sign of declining ovarian reserve. Everything is so weird I decide to poas and do a leftover ovulation test – it’s positive!!! I’m quite sure I’m pregnant but unsure a pregnancy test will show two lines as clearly as the ovulation test this early. Decide to wait a few more days. 12 dpo – brown spotting, sure it’s all over. Period is too early. No need to take a pregnancy test.

Glory Be to God!

I want to start off giving thanks to God. We have been trying to conceive for 14 months, with male (36) and female (40) fertility concerns, and I have stocked this site from the start. Although my doctor thought I should use donor eggs because of my age, we were looking into IVF with my own as our next step. This was our second month with timed intercourse and fertility drugs. My RE felt like this was a waste of time because of my age and lack of success on my own, but it is what my insurance covered, so we prayed and tried it. The first month we used Menopur, Braville and triggered with Lupron. This month we used Repronex and triggered with Lupron. Both times I began to ovulate on my own and had to trigger early. This month my follicles were so small (three 13+ and one 14+) that I felt like it was a hopeless cycle. This brought more heartache for us, because my husband was scheduled to deploy the week after ovulation and not return for about 7 months. The progesterone and estrogen supplements mimic pregnancy/PMS so there are really no real indicators. I took a test because this month’s symptoms were not as bad as last months, and I was still hopeful. Glory be to God! I got a BFP 12 DPO/trigger. I have an appointment with my RE to confirm tomorrow. Pray with me that this is a viable pregnancy and my husband will return to the delivery of a healthy baby. Do not let doctors or anyone else discourage you ladies. The final say is not up to them.

BFP and 40 years old!

I am so incredibly grateful. We have a 12 year old and a 14 year old and haven't used any protection for the past 13 years. I had about given up on my chances but still held out a glimmer of hope. My dr. diagnosed me with insulin resistance and put me on metformin a year and a half ago. Finally found some exercise that worked for me and the pounds began to come off. I'm down about 20 pounds from our beginning. This month, dh was mentally prepared to try (he said he's always had mental blocks in the past around conception) and we BD's on O day and the day after and used Pre-Seed. 2 dpo: The symptoms began. I immediately had sore nipples which made me think of what it felt like when I had been breastfeeding years ago. I also had a couple of dizzy spells and felt some pulling in my lower abdomen. 3 dpo: Slightly nauseous. Really sore nipples. Some pulling in lower abdomen. 4 dpo: Still really painful nipples; tired but really busy too; light cramps; light nausea and some dizziness. 5 dpo: Still those crazy painful nipples! Moods are pretty stable. Hot flashes are becoming my "norm." 6 dpo: Nipples feel like they have daggers in them; flushing hot a lot; nausea in the AM 7 dpo: Still hot but not as hot; nipples still have a pinch-like pain; some cramps and light waves of nausea 8 dpo: Nipple pain continues but now full breast soreness; the hot flashes are back; troublesome sleep; stomach cramps (from the metformin?) 9 dpo: Nipples still sore but maybe a little less? Nausea waves when hungry. Pulling in lower abdomen; I can smell water and it smells awful! Almost a metallic smell? 10 dpo: Breasts are definitely bigger. Nipple pain continues. Stretching in lower abdomen. Tired. DH says areolas are bigger, but I don't see it. But perhaps the biggest thing for me was a premonition. All of the sudden I just knew that not only was I pg, I was going to have a musician. Can't really explain that one! 11 dpo: Upper Respiratory tickle and cough; very sore breasts and nipples; Tired by 4 PM. Nausea this morning but not terrible. Abdominal stretching feeling. 12 dpo: BFP! Faint line on a generic POAS with FMU. I am so incredibly grateful!!! Breasts are huge. Still have this cold. Smells are really starting to bother me! Of course, I'm also starting to question it because I went back to the stick an hour later and the line had diminished to so faint I had to squint to see it. Will test again tomorrow.

BFP at 41 - 2nd Month Trying!

Can't really believe it! This site has been a savior for the past two weeks. I really enjoyed reading everyone's stories and being able to compare symptoms. I consider myself incredibly lucky - my first pregnancy at 39 was also conceived after only two months!! My cycle is usually 28 or 29, pretty standard. I used ovulation tests and was charting BBT. CD14 was O day according to my readings. We BD the day I had my surge (day before O) and 2 days before that. 9dpo I had a drop in temp (implantation?) but I had this the previous month as well? I was also experiencing dizzy spells around this point which I don't ever have. Other symptoms during the TWW that told me this month was different: Waking up in the night and not being able to fall back to sleep. This was usually around 3:30-4am. I was sleeping solid through the night last month. Vivid dreams. I don't usually dream or don't remember them well. I have been having some crazy a** dreams! I have been extremely thirsty upon waking - can't even think about coffe or tea before I slam a glass of water. Also increased appetite - been eating more than normal. And sense of smell sharpened. Peeing a lot and in the middle of the night. Fog brain :) and general tiredness but this is probably due to night waking. If you want to know days these symptoms showed up just ask me. I think 9dpo and on is when they really were noticeable. I had no sore bbs, no nausea - I think those came later in my last pregnancy too. I knew AF wasn't showing up because I typically get a backache the day of and didn't have that. Lots of funny twinges and slight cramping along the way as well. Good luck and lots of baby dust to all!!!
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41yrs Old BFP IVF

Just got our BFP today and I don't think it's sunk in yet. Soooo happy. We'd been trying to conceive naturally for 18 months but I have diminished ovarian reserve and scar tissure from a previous LLEDTZ procedure. Also DPs swimmers were sluggish. We used IVF/ISCI with donor egg and it was our first attempt. We had two 3day embryos transferred. They were a 7 cell and and 8 cell of average grade. The only symptoms were some AF type pain 5-6 days after transfer and some very mild nausea. No increased CM or anything. Hope this gives hope to all those in the awful two-week wait that no symptoms doesnt mean you're not pregnant. Baby dust to everyone !!!!!

BFP Over 40 After 2 Miscarriages With Bleeding and Not Many Symptons

I have been a regular reader of TWW and have enjoyed and been inspired by others stories so I thought I would share mine. I have two beautiful children DD 5 and DS 3 and my DH and I decided to try for a 3rd even though I am now 41. Both my previous pregnancies were textbook. First month trying I was 10dpo and I started spotting (I was hoping it was implantation bleeding as I never have an irregular cycle). I thought I was probably out that month but then my AF didnt start properly, just red spotting, more than implantation but not AF so I waited to the day my AF was due and did a pregnancy test - BFN. My husband asked me the next morning the result and as the test was sitting on top of my bathroom bin I pulled it out and said see negative, but it was now positive. I did another test straight away and it was two dark lines immediately - BFP. I was still bleeding though. Long story short it ended in miscarriage 5 days later. I had heard that you are more fertile right after a miscarriage so we decided we would try again immediately. I had an ultrasound to make sure all ok and we were clear to go ahead. I did a test 10dpo as I couldnt wait (I had had some really early symptoms so was hopeful). I got a very faint BFP. I didn't want to get my hopes up and then the very next day I started bleeding again. Same as the first month. I couldn't believe I had conceived again the very next month and that it was going the same way. Again a long story short I miscarried on New Year's Day. I ended up in the emergency room with excessive bleeding but I was fine, just one big rush and it was done. I was pretty miserable. I also had to have an Anti D injection as I am rhesus negative which I missed after the first miscarriage. Not likely in these early stages any blood would have mixed but very good to be safe. My DH and I decided we might wait a month or so before trying again. I saw my Obstetrician a week or so after and he gave me an ultrasound to check everything was clear and he told me that I was about to ovulate from my right side this month. Which was weird as I had ovulated the last two months on my left side (two in a row on one side is possible) I knew that both my DD and DS had come from my right ovary so I was disappointed we would miss this month "in case it was my good side". When I knew I was about to ovulate I spoke to DH and he said lets just keep trying so we did and again I conceived, third month in a row. I started brown spotting again 11dpo which turned to red spotting the next day with a BFP on my test. I was so angry this time and actually yelled at my body telling it that this was not acceptable and I was in control and I was just not having another miscarriage. I spotted for 2 days and then it started to stop. I went straight to the doctor and had my hcg level taken, 34 - BFP confirmed. The spotting stopped. 2 days later I had another bleed, quite a bit and red this time and I thought it was all over but again after spotting for another day after it stopped. I went to the doctor every 3 days to check my hcg and I watched it doubling or even tripling exactly as it should. A few days later I had one more day of spotting, just brown this time, and then no more. Heartbeat was found at 6wks via ultrasound and today I had my 12 week scan and the little one is just perfect! I did do a few things differently this month. I ate pineapple core for 5 days right after ovulation. I took vitamin B6, B12, Multi, CoQ10, Vit C, B Complex plus Blackmores Conception Vitamins daily leading up to ovulation then switched to Pregnancy and Breastfeeding after ovulation. One other interesting thing is I have had hardly any symptoms. Nothing like my first two healthy pregnancies. I had very slight sore BB's but not so I was sure it was a sympton and I felt tired for a few days in the afternoon a little more than normal at about 7 weeks. I really havent "felt" pregnant. But I definitely am as I saw with my own eyes today a little bundle happily kicking around and wiggling inside me. I guess every pregnancy really is different. Good luck to everyone out there trying. I hope you all get your BFP's soon.


I got two positive votes in do you think I'm pregnant bfp. Here's the breakdown: dh and I dtd in the heat of the moment three days before o tons of ewcm Day before o cramping (never get o cramps?) Next day barely any mucus so I ovulated next day 1dpo more cramps and a gelatinous glob of ewcm with pink tinge. (Google said this is ov bleeding) uh oh I think I've ov twice. Also this happened with my first miscarriage two years ago this starts me thinking I may get preggo here. 7dpo take a bath think I feel cramps (I only get cramps in pregnancy) after bath notice brown light spotting when I wipe (implantation) next day stronger cramps tiniest dot of pink when wipe. Also I think 5dpo sudden runny nose (no other symptoms, I never get sick) this last like 4 days. Also heightened sense of smell. 9dpo and 10, 11 sudden sweet cravings, hunger super knocked out tired each day from 1-3 in afternoon (I'm the energizer bunny don't get tired) 10dpo super faint $ store bfp (think I'm seeing things) 11 dpo little darker (and after it sits for like 20min dh sees it to. Today 12dpo after 3 min and then 4 min total definately see faint line. Will keep you posted if pregnancy continues, I'm scared so prayers appreciated.

Pregnant Naturally at 42

I'm 42 years old and have 2 sons aged 15 and 8. Last July I came off the pill as I decided I wanted to try for another child. My bf decided he didn't want any children as he already has 2 from a previous partner but agreed for me to do IUI with donor sperm...this wasn't an easy decision but I really wanted a baby. I did 3 IUI's with NO medication or triggers or anything from September to December and each time they were negative! As you can imagine I was disappointed but it's so expensive so I knew that was the end of that road. My bf and I had a long talk and decided to try to have a baby together. We live apart so were not together when I O'd in December and in January but made a loving date for the 14th of Feb Valentine's Day!!!! That was my CD12 and I usually detect my surge on that day. We had a fantastic day and I used Pre-Seed which I might add I'd only ever used for the first time and it was very dramatic me trying to put it in before he got into the house so it wouldn't be so obvious needless to say it went everywhere except where it was supposed to go and I ended up giggling like a teenager in the bathroom lol. Anyway I finally got a little bit in and it was perfect. The next day bf went back home and I continued life as normal...2 days later I felt 'O' twinges and prayed that the sperm was still waiting!! On either 6dpo or 7dpo I felt definite cramps which I wrote down in my diary as I was monitoring everything! The day after which was either 7dpo or 8dpo I had been having a funny metallic taste in my mouth the whole day and I decided to do a HPT test with the internet cheapies that detect 10miu I left it for about 20 mins as I didn't think for the life of me that it would be positive but when I looked there were definitely 2 PINK lines and the test line was unmistakable! I was in shock. I thought it was an evap so I did another one with same tests and it was negative. Next morning same thing..negative so I went out and bought the FRER and the next morning with FMU I did the test and there was a very faint positive (9dpo)!!! I was still cautious and did another FRER on 11dpo and it was darker and more visible. Then I bought the Clearblue Digitals and took a test 12dpo when my af was due and it says PREGNANT 2-3!!!. I am over the moon as I've wanted this for ages and I can't believe that it's happened so quickly. I don't know what happened with the IUI's and donor sperm but I can see why the success rates with those are so low! I'm more proof that dreams can come true even for ladies in their 30's and 40's, and you don't need expensive methods to help conceive if there is nothing wrong with your fertility, just keep trying and being positive. I look on the site and lot's of the ladies are so young in their 20's and I used to keep my fingers crossed that one day that would be me and now it is. I am now 6 weeks and 3 days and have been to the doctor but waiting to hear from the hospital about far I still just have the metallic taste in my mouth and sore boobs (this comes and goes), other than that I'm fine and pray that all goes well. I will be 43 next month. Good luck to everyone and BABY DUST TO US ALL! X x x x x x x x X

BFP After 3 Years TTC with Clomid!

I am 40 years old (DH 49) and have been inspired daily by this site, I swore I will write my success story if I ever got one. So here it goes... My husband and I were diagonsed with unexplained infertilty, we've been married for 3 and a half years and tried everything! I had 2 IUI with negavive results and 3 IVF/ ICSI again with negative results - It has hard but I would try every month, when we could, because I knew there was supposedly nothing wrong with me or his sperm sample. And every month we tried, nothing! I recently saw a new doctor to do an HSG exma to make sure my tubes weren't blocked, it was the most agonizing thing I've ever done but luckily I had no blocked tubes! The doctor decided to put me on Clomid 50 mg BID (because I didn't want to pursue IVF now as we were not ready financially) from days 2-6 then trigger shot at CD 13. I went ahead and did that and BD CD days 13, 14 and 15 with Pre-Seed and Softcups and prayed and prayed and prayed.... Well at 13 DPO I took a FRER and got a very faint positive, I was worried because it was so faint I knew my HCG levels must be really low. I went to my doctor and did a Beta HCg level and it came up at 84!! WE are officially pregnant!!!! Symptoms: 3-4 DPO - Tired and sleepy (could be due to the trigger shot) 5-12 DPO - Nothing unusual except low back pain which I never get and waking up in the middle of the night to pee from 8DPO another unusual thing for me and sore nipples 13 DPO - Faint postivite with FRER sore nipples, backache continues... 14 DPO - Beta HCG 84!!!! We are in shock and over the moon!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For all the women out there who thought they are too old like I secretly did, please dont loose hope, God will give you your miracle in His time, He does listen and when he knows you are ready, your prayers will be granted. Keep praying and dont stop trying! God Bless all the women here and baby dust to you all!!!

BFP!!! After 16 Months!! Thanks be to God!! Prayers Answered

After 16 months and much prayer I can post here! This month I gave up alcohol, caffeine, started taking progesterone, aspirin, B6, B12, chasteberry & Pre-Seed and prayed so so much! Thank you ladies for all of your stories. Blessings to you all!