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45 and naturally pregnant

Hi all, I wanted to share my story to give hope to other ladies in similar situations. I am 45 years old with history of hypothyroidism. My first child was conceived after 6 years of trying; I needed ovulation drugs and had a miscarriage (and D&C) before she was conceived via IUI. Since then, we left it at the hand of "higher powers" (I was sick of the whole rigmarole of taking drugs, dozens of visits to doctors and having to put my life on hold) but nothing happened for 6 years, although I would have dearly loved a sibling for my girl. I was aware of the "only 1% of ladies in mid-40s" get pregnant stats.; so was actually expecting perimenopause to set in any time now...... but.... Here I am now 5.5 weeks pregnant naturally with own egg! I am shocked! I have an ObGyn visit next week and will discuss Progesterone shots. So ladies, it is possible!
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45 BFP naturally!

I know the odds. I have seen the raised eyebrows. I've heard every negative that a woman my age can hear and yet just a week ago I was 7 weeks pregnant naturally. Unfortunately I lost my baby to miscarriage but my husband and I are trying again! I did want to give you symptoms and tips though... If nothing else to provide hope and baby dust. I know when I ovulate. I mean I literally know the minute I ovulate. TMI *reader beware* but you know the CM that makes it feel like if you move ever so slightly you're going to have an orgasm all on your own? That's my fertile CM. I text my husband and said "I'm ovulating and I want to test a theory" ... The theory was literally if a woman my age could still get pregnant and 2 weeks later the answer was a big fat YES! Exactly 12 days from my own prediction of ovulating I had light brown discharge that lasted for two days. Immediately following my boobs became unbearably sore two days after that I had a dream of a positive pregnancy test. I was skeptical so I continued to believe that I was maybe menopausal. The symptoms kept stacking up on me. I started craving maruchen ramen with sciracha hot coconut oil on it and peanut butter toast... Both things I've never eaten in my life and both tasted so wonderful I had to have them. About 5 weeks pregnant my hair stopped falling out. Every time I'm pregnant a very sure sign is that I have no hair in my brush. Weird symptom but because of the increase in blood supply your hair is less likely to fall out. I was more sleepy than usual but I have to say the reason I tested was because my boobs were so tender my husband could not fully hug me. I tested and it was instantly bright blue positive sign. My husband made a good point that maybe the test was wrong. I was uncertain so I tested again ... This time with a clear blue easy test "pregnant" ... We tested again a week after that "pregnant" ... We were both so excited. What an amazing feeling. We just got married in July 2016. He doesn't have any biological children and we became hopeful. Knowing my thyroid would be an issue I contacted the obgyn immediately. They seemed unconcerned since I was already pregnant and wanted to wait two weeks. I insisted that I was high risk because I have hypothyroidism. They insisted that I was already pregnant and didn't need to see me for two weeks. They called me back and meet me in the middle for 5 days later. I knew when my boobs stopped hurting that I was out. I knew I was out when I went for my ultra sound. They could only see a gestational sac measuring 5 weeks 3 days. I was devastated but everyone else was hopeful and told me I must have my ovulation date mixed up. No one would listen to me. They blood tested me and I was told my HCG looked good for how far along they thought I was and the sac was attached, no bleeding and in perfect shape. The nurse told me my thyroid was elevated and upped my dose of thyroid medication. Now I was hopeful. Two days later I had what felt like labor pains at work. I ended up in the ER that day and was notified after a blood test that I was having a miscarriage.. :( at the time I miscarried my thyroid was 7.3 when in the first trimester they like it to stay around 2.5 ... I'm convinced my thyroid put an end to my pregnancy progression. The good news is we are trying again and seeking the advice of a fertility specialist.. the good news is I got pregnant naturally twice in my 40's. One at 43 (miscarriage :( ) and again at 45. So it's possible. I also exercise (walk) and take prenatal vitamins and quit caffeine to make sure my next baby has the very best chance of survival. I read this in my quest to find answers: "50% of miscarriages are chromosomal and 50% are an imbalance in the mother" Ladies, your thyroid or a hormonal imbalance may be impairing your ability to maintain a pregnancy to term... Get checked often. Also... This next time we are trying preseed :) Baby dust and sticky beans to all!!!
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First attempt at IVF/ICSI - BFP

BACKGROUND: I froze 21 oocytes at the age of 35/36 and had them fertilised almost 4 years later at age 39.5 with a guy who had low motility/low morphology/low count and therefore required ICSI. The thaw rate of unfertilised eggs is pretty terrible so it was an extremely stressful few weeks. We decided to use half for the first IVF to see how things went. So out of 10, only 5 thawed and fertilised properly, by the next morning, we only had 3 embryos left, by day 3, two of those embryos weren't looking good but 1 looked really good. I went and sat in church a few times to pray for a good outcome and try to destress in there. By day 5, I had one A grade embryo! It was incredibly depressing and stressful and I was so worried that this one shot would not take. SYMPTOMS: Embryo transfer day, Acupuncture at 8:15am and transfer at 10:00am - the Dr told me the embryo was an A grade embryo and would implant within the next 24 hours. Acupuncture again at 11:00am. I felt so happy that I had at least one good one and one good shot. I had cramps during the day likely from the prodding of the procedure itself. At 3:00am that night, I felt a fast sharp pin prick stab on my left side. I thought to myself, "Surely it's too early for implantation signs?!" But he did say it would start to happen within 24 hours! I assumed this is when the embryo first latched onto the uterus lining. DPT and DPO 1dp5dt - 7dpo - morning cramps from procedure or embryo action? Stressed out and depressed as I was taking antibiotics for Ureaplasma at the same time. Slight pressure on the left side ovary area where I felt that sharp stab. Mild cramps after shower - progesterone or embryo related? Bloated. A little itchy around the left ovary area. 2dp5dt - 8dpo - lots of symptoms today. Felt pressure on left ovary or lower left side somewhere towards the surface. Slight sting in left side /ovary area after lunch. No ovary pressure in the evening but it did look more swollen and felt slightly tender in the left lower side. Pressure returned briefly after a shower. Feeling pressure and not at all comfortable when trying to sleep. I had to lie on the right side to try and get some sleep. Slight uterine cramps at 2:20am, uterus feels bloated and full when lying down. Slight lower back ache, pressure, feels uncomfortable all night. Shooting pain in left ovary at 3:40am. 3dp5dt - 9dpo- I read that implantation into the uterine lining wall usually complete by day 9dpo which is today. Brief bloating feeling after progesterone pessary. Otherwise absolutely no symptoms all day, feeling depressed. 4dp5dt - 10dpo - No symptoms except for a short light twinge on left ovary area and slight itch briefly on left ovary area. Went to church to pray. Acupuncture at 5:45pm (it is recommended this done 5 days post transfer). Bloated - So bloated that my leggings are way too tight and unbearable to wear. Breasts have been tender all week, however I think it's due to the progesterone pessary. 5dp5dt - 11dpo - FAINT POSITIVE!!!!!!!!! NO SYMPTOMS. By this point, I really haven't felt anything significant since the 2nd day after transfer. 6dp5dt - 12dpo - No symptoms. HPT is darker. 7dp5dt - 12dpo - afternoon, brief and slight pressure/throbbing sensation in the left ovary area again. HPT is darker. 8dp5dt - 13dpo - super slight pressure, throbbing sensation on and off all day, mild sting left side. I read that the placenta is now also producing HCG so maybe this is what I am feeling. HPT is darker. Praying that this sticks. Beta testing is 2 days away - fingers crossed all goes well :)

BFP at 11dpo--Symptoms by dpo (and some other details)

I have read so many of these “BFP symptoms by DPO” stories that I promised myself if I got pregnant one day, I would post mine for others to read. Well, I got a BFP three times, but two resulted in miscarriages and the last one was a rainbow baby but I was a nervous wreck about it, so never got around to write my story. Furthermore, I believe that any symptoms that show up before a missed period/BFP are totally coincidental. I had symptomless TWWs where I ended up getting a BFP and I had everything under the sun, including nausea, that ended up being a BFN. Anyways, I just got my BFP half an hour ago. I am still in total shock! Here’s my journey this past month: I have been ovulating around CD 17 and having short luteal phases. Also I don’t always get a positive OPK, although I seem to ovulate based on BBTs. Last month I didn’t have a very short luteal phase and seeing AF on 14dpo made me happy, even though I hate to see her at all. I went ahead and ordered over the counter progesterone cream so as to extend my luteal phase and not have a period before a potentially fertilized egg has a chance to implant. I also started using Vitamin B6 in addition to my regular prenatal vitamin, Omega 3, and Vitamin D. I also bought vitex/chasteberry but couldn't use it and I occasionally drink raspberry leaf tea. CD13: Strong pain in left ovary. I am certain I ovulated. I worry because we did not BD for a couple of days. (Because honestly, it gets too much to try to do it every day until that OPK smiles, so we were going to start around CD 14 or 15). Did not get to BD until the evening. CD 15: Felt something on left ovary. CD 16: BBT spike (I have not been able to sleep and wake at regular times, so my BBTs are a little unreliable, but this is an obvious spike). Even though, I have been getting negative OPKs. I go the bathroom, and get a positive OPK. I thought this is supposed to be a heads up--you ovulate within the next 24 hrs after the positive OPK. In fact, 24 hrs after the peak OPK, not after first positive, but this was so dark that I didn’t test in the following days, this must have been my peak. So, I don’t know if I ovulated on CD 16 or CD 17. (didn’t get to BD on CD 16 or 17, so I hoped that I ovulated on 16 already). But my temps stated high after this. CD 17: Feeling cold all day, but didn’t actually catch a cold. 1-4dpo: nothing 5dpo: Started using progesterone cream (supposed to use after ovulation, but my order only arrived today). The pump took out too much and I used most of it, but didn’t really want to use so much since it’s not monitored by my doctor. And I didn’t want to have any of the adverse effects like increasing estrogen. 6dpo: Temp spike 0.3 degrees (probably due to progesterone cream. I used much less in the coming days, but used it regularly every evening). 7dpo: Increased cervical fluid 8dpo: Increased cervical fluid 10dpo: Temp spike (even though I have been using progesterone consistently and the same small amount, and even though I woke up earlier than normal). I take that as a good sign. Stabbing pain in breasts (I take that as a bad sign because this to me before AF; with pregnancy it's soreness in the breasts). 11dpo: Morning: BBT stayed higher (but I slept in, so no surprise). Light AF type of cramps, especially around left ovary. Afternoon/evening: Craving for sweet, nothing but sweet (bad sign, for me it’s always signaling AF). Increased cervical fluid. Midnight: Clear BFP with FRER!!! In the hindsight, I must have ovulated on CD16, and this must be 12dpo (because we would have had a higher chance of conceiving if ovulation was sooner and because my BFP was pretty clear for 11dpo). CTP app would not agree with setting it to CD 16, so I left it at CD 17 on my chart. With my age and thyroid problems, a BFP is only quarter of the battle. But I am still excited. If you believe, pray for me. If you want, send positive thoughts my way. I will be doing the same for all of you who are waiting for that BFP. Good night!

BFP at 40!

I'm so excited to be a mom again after 21 years. Been trying for 1.5 years and figured it wasn't possible. I used the apps that track your cycle and predict ovulation. I do think that helped. The one thing I did different this last month was instead of getting up to empty my bladder right after sex, I waited 30 minutes before standing up. In the past I've had trouble with UTIs so I would immediately get up, forcefully empty my bladder and wash. My symptoms with my first were extreme nausea and breast pain. With this one, I am gassy, sore breasts but nothing else and I don't "feel" pregnant. Praying for a healthy pregnancy. Good luck ladies :)

Pregnant at 41 after 11 months TTC

I am so excited to say I just got my BFP yesterday and I wanted to share incase I can help anyone else. I gave birth to my first baby in September last year at 40. When my period returned in January the following year, we started trying due to my age. MY cycles were fairly irregular, they're usually 28 days but were around 40 days so after 7 months I went to see my OBGYN who prescribed me Clomid to trigger an early ovulation. She said because my cycles were so irregular, my chances of conceiving were disadvantaged. The first cycle I took the Clomid on days 3-7 and my cycle was super short - like 24 days, so the next cycle i tried 5-9. I should add, I have moved overseas so my old OBGYN was not monitoring me, just prescribed the medication, so I based this decision on my research. I was beginning to get disheartened after trying for 10 months and so I researched what i could take. My concerns were around egg quality for my age so for this I started taking Maca powder and Royal Jelly. I also took Vitamin E as I read this helps fertility in general. I had been taking these for one month and just got my BFP!!! Dont know if it was a coincidence or perhaps taking the Clomid later helped. I read if you do this, it doesnt release the egg quickly but releases a better quality egg. When I got pregnant with my first I was also taking Vitamin E so I can really recommend that. Another thing to share is for the first time ever, I did not have EWCM, I think the Clomid dries this up, so I used pre-seed. I actually never got a positive OPK either, I was using the Clear Blue digital and was only getting flashing smileys for 8 days so I stopped testing but we DTD a few times when i first got flashy smiley. Oh, and i had ZERO symptoms. Not one. Baby dust to all xxx

Turned forty, first baby took over a year - pregnant first try, no symptoms

I'm posting this story in the hope that it will give other ladies out there the hope that I didn't have going into this. Me and my partner tried for a baby for three years and I was told that although they couldn't find a reason, I'd need IVF. My partner refused. I was devastated. The next month I fell pregnant. Sadly I lost it a few weeks later and my partner a few months later. This left me at 35 and single and really worried I'd never have children. I met my now husband at 36. We started trying for a baby quickly as I'd been having night sweats and my (useless) GP panicked me by saying I was perimenopausal (I'm not). We went private and had a load of tests to see if we could still conceive. Tests basically came back ok but there was some endometriosis and one of my tubes was partially blocked. Month after month I got negatives and was really losing heart. To stop me going bananas I tried a new 'wacky' therapy each month and after the month of acupuncture and two months of Chinese herbs (oh my god, they're disgusting) I finally fell pregnant after 13 months. I had an implantation bleed at 14dpo, we'd had sex more than every other day for over a year and I tested at 18dpo as my boobs were so sore I couldn't shower and I was horribly constipated. I had a horrendous pregnancy and got cholestasis on top of being practically crippled by seven months. My wonderful baby was born by csection at 37 weeks to prevent still birth. I didn't get my period back until 16 months post birth as I breastfed. We decided to start trying again shortly afterwards but I didn't want to stop BFing as I thought it would be my last chance and I didn't want to stop that on the off chance we might have another. So, with pessimism in my heart we started trying. I'd had an ultrasound a few months previously which revealed my ovaries were 'stuck' to my bowels (thanks to scarring from the section) which was causing me some pain, I was told this may mean I would need IVF to conceive again. Immediately I contacted my consultant to ask for help, contacted the Chinese herbalist and acupuncturist for appointments and braced myself for a long journey that may well end in heartbreak. And now, miraculously, I have my bfp. After one month of completely unassisted trying. I NEVER thought I'd be so fortunate and I'm praying with every fibre that I keep this little baby. So I'm over 40, I did absolutely nothing special. I did use ov tests but im still breastfeeding a toddler and my sore nipples told me the same as the ov tests did. We did the deed three days before ovulation and I assumed that I had no chance at all. At 14dpo I had a brown mucusy 'bleed' in the morning which I assumed was the start of my period. I put in my menstrual cup and was surprised that it was empty that evening. I don't get any premenstrual symptoms ever so I wasn't surprised to feel nothing was on its way. Days passed and still no more bleeding. I had absolutely NO symptoms at all. My boobs weren't sore (still breastfeeding and I would have thought that would have hurt). I was getting worried I was going through the menopause or nature was being really cruel and taunting me. 18dpo and I had been so obsessed and worried I was out of bed at 5am. Still no symptoms. Maybe boobs a bit weird feeling, maybe a bit lightheaded but by this time that was probably worry rather than anything else. So I bought a test and as soon as I dipped it, the two lines appeared. I know it's early days. But this baby is so so so loved and if love can help, I think we will be ok. Good luck ladies x

43 bfp & you can too!

Hi All. Like everyone says, "I couldn't wait to share my bfp story here" I hope this gives logical hope and deep assurance to any woman in their 40's who thinks she doesn't have a chance! Im 43 and the mom of 7. I know i know. Its a little selfish to want another but I was put on the planet to be a mom. I love parenting. I adore my children's personalities and I learn so much about myself with each one of them. In many ways its me being parented. I love helping them achieve. With that, at 41 I decided after sneaking and smoking for 7 years that I wanted to stop and have another baby. I never smoked or drank with my other children. I tried after stopping for a month and my body gave me a resounding... HELL NO. I miscarried. I really do call for my children and I think this time that I had done so much damage to my body with smoking and not eating well that my baby was, from some ethereal state, outright refusing the call. I stopped calling. In December of 2015. I called again. I snuck and smoked in November, hadn't exercised a lick, wasn't taking vitamins regularly and my baby was like, "yeah, no thanks". So too in January, April & June. I read everything. I gathered everything. I did nothing. Yet I longed for my little one to accept my call. In September, I downloaded 2 african songs with heavy drumbeats. I downloaded a walking app on my phone and I put on my headphones and walked 2.5 miles in place. I last smoked in March. I started drinking 2 quarts of water a day. I started making smoothies every morning with maca, spinach, lucuma, banana, bee pollen, coconut oil, manukah, barley grass and 1/4 teaspoon of vitex along with the kitchen sink lol. I started going to sleep at night. In October my husband started walking me around the neighborhood in the mornings and evenings. I loved the time with him and hated the exercise. I hate exercise.. well maybe hate is a strong word. I deplore exercise. Yes thats it! :) All my bbt temps suggested I had thyroid problems. Maybe. I never get ewcm. I remember having it in my 20's and thinking "wtf???" Ah, i was so dumb. My right boob has a lump bigger than Texas in it. My doctors said its fine. My luteal phase bobbled from 9-11 days. My cycles 23-26 days. With my husband, I finished 2 bottles of Geritol during September & October. I took selenium and B6, zinc, magnesium, and real b12 (methylcobalamin) 5000mg sublingual. I took vit c and serrapeptase and milk thistle and real vit e. I drank bladderwrack tea for the iodine. I drank pregnancy tea and healthy cycle tea and green teas. I drank 3-4 cups of tea a day. I made dandelion and nettle infusions. I loved myself again. I thought myself important again. My husband and I are weird so we decided that we would get pregnant in November to try for a baby born on the day of the eclipse of 2017. Go big or stay at home my Grandma would say lol. My husband doesnt share his sperm unless we're trying to have a child and being convinced that it was a day after my ovulation and that I couldnt get pregnant, I concocted some story about my body fighting his sperm as a foreign invader and so he should internally reacquaint himself . We laughed about it but I kinda sort of thought that way. OK, I really thought that was true. 1-4dpo nothin 5dpo M I G R A I N E 6dpo headache all day. Painful sharp jabs in my stomach. 7dpo my butt hurts so bad and I dont mean my cheeks. I start googling rectal pressure and bfp. The pain reminded me of a time I pulled muscles tilling soil. Grabbed the progesterone cream everyday from this point. 8dpo 98.38 bbt more rectal pain. Help me any God.. ALL THE GODS! Stomach cramps left, then right, then center.. then center, left and right. 9dpo stomach cramps, gassy and my butt is still being.. a butthole 10dpo 97.90 bbt less gas, less butt pain and same crampy stomach. Took a cheap Walmart hpt-- negative. 11dpo BFN hpt. Crampy butt pain gone. U mean to tell me I had a week of a bad relationship with my lower half and Im not pregnant!! 12dpo 97.90 frer-- BFP faint but definite positive. Crampy. A lil stinging on the arm side of my right breast. I didnt think it would happen sometimes.. my husband never wavered and Im well pleased. Take care of yourselves. Take out the time to prepare your babys first nursery.. your womb. Believe everything and nothing. Listen to your body's needs. Call your baby. I truly will you the joy of being a mother as many times as you desire <3 Now to tell my son and his wife that their son is going to be a big nephew lol
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Donar FET @43 years old

Dear Friends, I just created my account today after reading all lovely posts by all of you. I am 43 years old, never pregnant before. Tried two IVFs with incomplete cycles in year 2007/08 due to poor quality of eggs, that's when I knew I have high FSH and was told to try donor egg IVF which we did in 2010 which ended up as failure also messed up my periods, upon which my doctor(in 2011) put me on vivele dot patch & progesterone to regulate my periods. It took us courage finally after 6 years to try another IVF with donor egg this year. I got 3 donor FET transferred on October 31st. My symptoms- not really much, just a bit sensitive boobs, a mild pain above pelvic area( I think this might be due to meds too). I feel very anxious and nervous to know results (its only 8th day today). My doctor advised me to blood test on 18th of November and irrespective of value of Beta to continue the meds and progesterone injections till 25th of November &have ultrasound done . As you know the progesterone injections are painful after administering it ( my husband is cute/funny makes jokes during administering the injection and I rub it a bit after so it does not swell). we also pray during the injection just to make it easy. As you all know the waiting time is very hard. Each day passing is hard and this wait makes me more worry or eager just to know. But I guess have to wait. Some women are so lucky who doesn't have to do anything and become pregnant so easily . I know I need to be positive and not to compare others as each of us are different beings. But sometimes some thoughts are beyond my control. Anyways I will share my results irrespective of what they are. Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and hope we all have healthy babies :) love you all :)

46 BFP Naturally

Hello Everyone, I am so glad that I found this blog. Now I don't feel all alone. I am 46 and currently 6wks 4 days pregnant, naturally. My fiance(53) and I had tried over a year ok, but gave up. I thought I was experiencing perimenopause as I had been have weird things going on with my cycle. I would get early cycles, back to back cycles (once I got it every other week for six weeks- I had three cycles in six weeks), and late cycles. Not to mention PMS symptoms that were like early pregnancy symptoms every month. The latest my cycle had been was 11 days. This time, it was 14 days late before I decided to test. Got a BFP!!! I was shocked, elated, and scared at the same time. My oldest son would have been 31 (he passed at 24yrs) and my youngest son is 29 years old. I don't have any children with my fiance and this pregnancy has brought us closer to each other and to God. I keep hearing all of the negativity about giving birth after 40. I believe that this MIRACLE BABY is God's will and is going to be just fine. I am glad to hear all of the success stories. I pray for those that are still trying. God Bless.
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