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41 Ready to Give UP! Miracles do Happen!

After TTC for close to 3 years, meeting with the fertility Dr. at 1.5 years- having 2 failed IUI's, multiple rounds of Femera, Clomid and Maca. We felt like every door was slamming on us and where it appeared that only IVF could be our chance, but with no more savings (IVF costs approx $15K in Canada) this dream of having a child of our own was slowly fading and we decided to stop all fertility treatments in Sept of 2015. To be honest I was just done, and wanted to get off the emotional roller-coaster ride called infertility. .

All that said, I hadn't given up hope (its hard to when your period still comes every month)- but I knew my only chance of success meant I needed to focus on my physical, mental and spiritual health and wellness in order to go through every months let down. I am extremely overweight, but in good fertile health where apparently I didn't have any recognizable reason for my infertility and my husband is in extremely good health and shape as are his sperm. We are both lead by a higher power and our Heavenly Father has been our constant strength and guide through this process even when I was mad, hurt and confused by His will not to give us this opportunity to be parents. I have come to the conclusion through this process that, timing and God's will is a very important piece in the infertility puzzle, even though we think we can control the outcomes- we truly need to be willing to be patient. Additionally, it is so important for us as women to get to know our bodies, recognizing ovulation signs and what our body needs to build healthy eggs and for men healthy sperm.

So here is what happened....finally....

I received a call from a friend who had also been struggling to conceive her second child on December 13th, 2015. She had visited a natropath who told her that in order to build healthy eggs both the mother and father must ensure that they are not experiencing sugar highs and lows, they refrain from dairy products, because they interfere with their hormones, moderate their gluten/wheat intake, start taking digestive enzymes and eat lots of raspberries! So December 14th both my husband and I went off all processed sugar, we still had fruit and didn't worry to much about a little sugar in cooking when we ate out, but we refrained from desserts and anything that would spike our sugar. I eliminated dairy from my diet- and I love cheese so this was almost harder than the sugar, for 10 days went off all wheat and then started taking digestive enzymes and enjoying fresh Costco raspberries. If you are interested in a book that helped me with this process it is Dr. Mark Hyman's book The Blood Sugar Solution 10- day Detox Diet.

The results: Besides feeling so much better and having the weight falling off, literally my next period was Jan 2, 2016 and I conceived January 21-23, we found out Feb 14th (Best Valentine's day ever) and we are now 16 weeks pregnant with our little miracle baby growing within me.

What made me finally test....Note I have long period cycles generally 41 days. You'll see aside from very sore breasts- every thing made me think I was getting my period, the symptoms as very similar.

CD40- Major Diarrhea- had to leave the restaurant early- I thought I was getting my period.
CD 41- Sharp pains in my right breast more than left. Still had unhappy bowels- must be getting my period.
CD-42- Now I am constipated- what is going on I should have got my period.
CD-43- Breasts hurt after they are touched like a residual hurt. Still no period- how could these symptoms be the same.
CD-43- I finally tested and after testing so many times and never seeing a positive, I told my husband I was going to test the next morning and he begged me not too, he just didn't want to see me cry again. I tested at 5 am with my FMU and it was POSITIVE++++ in fact the pregnancy line was darker than the test line. I sat in the bathroom starring at the stick and seriously couldn't hold back the tears. So of course when I went in to the bedroom to share the news with my sleeping husband and I was crying his first response was to give me a hug and tell me everything was going to be OK, and I was trying to get out "No- I am- no I am....pregnant". He was over the moon, we both were. Because I was still on the blood registrar for being able to order HCG tests, I went in the next day for my HCG blood work and sure enough it came back at 5111! That's when we got really excited! I tested again 2 days later and it was 12,798- then 19,879- so we were advancing normally. We visited our fertility Dr. the following week and he gave me an internal ultrasound and were able to see a little seed- with a heart beating.

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First ever BFP at 41 years old after 12 months TTC, all natural!

Hi there, I've been a long time lurker of this board since we started ttc over 12 months ago. Only just married the love of my life coming up 2 years.

Last month we decided to go in for some basic tests. I spent almost $300 on an internal ultrasound which lasted for an hour and was very thorough. In the end they couldn't see anything abnormal and both technicians remarked separately about my beautiful ovaries lol! (No sign of PCOS which I was diagnosed with 7 years ago). Hubby was due to go in for a sperm test and I'm awaiting results of hormone blood test :)

This month as well was very stressful - I worked late till 10pm 2-3 nights a week plus Sundays, we really thought we had no chance!

I haven't had any symptoms at all except slight fatigue which I thought was from working too hard :)

Right after ovulation I get very sore breasts until menstruation. I got them this month and was waiting for my period to start. The only thing different was last week I found myself getting really really hot in bed where as hubby was freezing. Anyway this morning my period was 4 days late and just for fun and boredom I thought I'd use the last pregnancy test. Was holding off as it was an expensive (not internet cheapie) one and highly sensitive 10iU, but then thought I might as well get rid of it and get a fresh batch of tests! Lol

We went out straight away to get a digital test and confirmed positive but I was pretty confident from the first test since I have never ever got even a squinter of a second line before. This one came back with two strong dark lines within minutes!

I believe all life is divinely given and every pregnancy and birth is a special miracle, so in terms of advice I don't really have much to say other than to eat healthy, mild excercise, sleep and sunshine, all common sense really.

Hubby and I have been having green breakfast smoothies every day for a year now. We include greens and some fruit like bananas and also zinc and milk thistle tablets. I highly recommend eating lots of fresh greens as it it so good for you and the body absorbs it better than tablets.

Anyway I know it's early days and it might not stick for long but nevertheless we are really excited and happy to see our first bfp after so long!

BFP at 41!

DH and I have been trying to conceive for 8mths-just see what happens BBD without fertility monitoring-but we finally decided to get serious and BBD every other day starting 4 days before (and 2 after) expected ovulation. We have a 2 yr old (after 6 months TTC) but I started to worry things would be really tough due to my age. Anyway, last week I woke in the middle of the night -7days after I'm sure I ovulated-with a churning hot stomach, cramps, and felt nauseous. Suspected implantation because it was so random - but then though it was just too much spicy food for dinner or probably a period symptom. Had terrible diarrhea next morning (tmi sorry), felt fine for next day. 3rd day drinking water made me want to vomit, everything smelled horrible, I was hungry but the thought of eating made me feel sick. Hmm. Period due in a few days, so didn't want to get ahead of things. Felt crampy, crazy vivid dreams, tired, dizzy but similar symptoms to my period (which is so nerve wracking). Gave up and expecting Flo but the day came and went-I'd been 2 days late the month before so still didn't get hopes up too much. No more nausea, eating fine, just tired, cm present but nothing weird. But, I woke up to comfort my son one night and felt really nauseous again and I knew for sure right then! Took pregnancy test two days later and second BFP line was almost immediate! Never any fertility issues or lost pregnancies (that I know of) but I am worried this time around due to my age. It's only 14 days now but I pray my bean sticks!! Used pre-seed/Pregnitude for first, nothing this time around.

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41 years old and bfp!!

I've loved this website! Over the last 6 months I have spent the second half of my cycle symptom checking and comparing. About me...I'm a married and mother of 5 already... Was hoping for one last baby but knowing my age 41 and high bmi were working against me. I began 6 months ago tracking cm. Here's my symptoms..
1-6 dpo normal... Felt like I was symptomless
7dpo lower back ache/cramping...it was annoying and way too early for period cramps..took ibuprofen, increased creamy cvm
8dpo morning back ache/cramping took ibuprofen, sore boobs, ewcm....this was very weird and hasn't happened outside of ovulation
9dpo VERY sore boobs, stomach feeling off, emotional, tired all day
10dpo VERY sore boobs, no appetite and feeling full quickly after I do eat, just feeling blah, very tired...couldn't resist took equate 5 day early blue dye test very very faint blue line bfp
11dpo sore boobs, tired, full feeling in lower pelvic area, took another equate test with fmu..another faint blue line bfp, went to the store and bought frer 6 day early test....took it about 7 hours after the fmu test...a faint but clear pink line!!!! I'm thinking it's early still and that's why the results are faint...but 2 different brands, 3 tests taken so far and all with faint lines I'm embracing the bfps! I'll continue to test again in a couple days.

Natural Conception at 40 and again at 42 after years of fertility issues

Hi ladies, this page has given me so much hope and helped keep me sane over the last 5 years. Over a period of 4 years I had various fertility treatments, including 2 IVF. Nothing worked. While we were busy planning our third and last IVF I found out I was pregnant, NATURALLY. I thought the universe was taking the piss out of me, I was actually quite shocked and even a bit upset. I didn’t believe it would stick and I’d only be losing precious time. I was 40 then. Well, I sailed through the easiest, happiest pregnancy and had a magical birthing experience. My miracle boy is now 16 months old. I was always listening, even begging for symptoms. I had none whatsoever. I’d say a bit of morning sickness and sore nipples kicked in around 8 weeks but before that, nada. I found the waiting game very difficult indeed.

What did I do different? Really not much. About 3 months earlier I started taking Omega 3/6 every morning and I also reduced my sugar intake, nothing drastic, just less chocolate, cakes, etc.

I breastfed my son until he was one year old. I got AF back in January this year and we started trying immediately for number 2. I will be 43 in June. I still can’t believe that on my 4 forth cycle, I’m pregnant again (just 5 weeks). After years of treatments, disappointment, heart ache and never giving up hope, we conceived naturally, TWICE. I have learnt that there are things in life that we simply cannot control. Never give up hope, never ever give up trying.

I pray with my heart and soul that this little bean sticks. My best wishes, baby dust and good luck to all you ladies.

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pregnant at 40 1/2!!

I really can't believe it happened so quickly. We've been TTC for 3 months. Things I did this month:
-charted my basal body temperatures
-drank ridiculously healthy green smoothies regularly (banana, carrot, spinach/kale, protein powder (hemp, so lots of fiber + protein), greens powder, acai powder, chia seeds, spirulina, water)
-tried to eat better, feed the good gut bacteria healthy food, see above
-specifically, cut down on chocolate bars my husband pressures me into at night (ha)
-I didn't cut down on caffeine because I'm powerless against the almighty bean

Charting my temps again was key (I have two other kids, 3 and 11mo, and charted for both of them). Showed me that I was ovulating, and when. I knew from before that I'm a late O'er (usually CD17-19). We BD'd on CD16. Then a couple days later in the evening I felt an O pain/ache in my right side. The next morning my temp jumped 0.3C (0.5F). That was confirmation that I'd O'd. So I ordered my husband to bed me and used him mercilessly and then told him to go make me a sandwich (kidding, it was 6am, I demanded coffee).

Then, the dreaded TWW. But actually, these past few months during the second half of my cycle, I wait, in fear, of my pms mood swings. It's been absolutely terrible these past few months, so bad that I knew I had to act. So the healthy eating part was a first attempt at that. Did you know that in imbalance of gut bacteria species (the unbalance brought on by bad eating) can cause anxiety and depression? Truth. So that motivated me. There's never any disadvantage to eating healthier!

And what do you know, each day I waited for the rage to build inside me and instead my insides were bursting with joyous fairies and songbirds! Maybe an exaggeration... I was in a great mood almost the whole TWW. THere were a couple of low days, but a ridiculously huge improvement over last month. High energy, etc.

Barely any pregnancy symptoms! Except if you count 'good mood, high energy'. Good appetite, but a few days I went most of the day without eating (life of a busy mother) so it's not like I was feeling especially hungry. No boob soreness whatsoever. Near the end of the TWW I could tell I was a bit more hot than usual, and when I bent over my head would hurt (like there was extra blood pressure). I had a vague, steady minor ache in the uterus area (like where your jeans zipper is) the last few days. My temps stayed high, which I was really happy about regardless.

My temp was still high at CD31 (day of or day before period was due). This, wouldn't you know it, was the day of my husband's 40th birthday party. It was the first day in 6 months we had planned to get a babysitter and get a break from our delightful high-maintenance kids. We were living for this day. Sit at a pub, drink, friends, ahhh......
So I take the test, it's negative. Oh well, okay, woohoo! Let's go drinking like the old days!!! Hubby asked if I was pregnant, I told him no, he was fine and happy I could party with him!

Then a few hours later I couldn't help myself, and I fished the test out of the trash. I couldn't believe my eyes... there was a second line.

But could it be the dreaded evap line of lore? So I took another test and waited a little longer this time... yep, there's the faint line again. Wow. By this time the babysitter's here, the kids are wild... We finally escape, we're driving to the train station, he's talking about how he's almost glad I'm not pregnant and so excited to have fun together, because remember, readers, we literally NEVER get kid-free leisure time like EVER ... this is kid-in-Disneyland level excitement for us, sad as it is. I decide I have to bring it up. "So I have something to tell you..." "WHAT??! Why did you lie to me earlier???! No no no!!!" So then I had to explain the whole test-out-of-the-trash timeline, we both yell bad words in surprise of the news and bad timing, and he still didn't believe me so he insisted we stop at a chemist and buy another test, this time one of those digital ones that actually say "pregnant" so there was no mistaking it. I have to slip into a pub bathroom (classy!) and pee on the stick. Pregnant, 1-2 weeks. I show him: "Do you believe me now??" And we sit on the train in half a daze, processing that we're actually crazy enough to have a 3rd kid, feeling sorry for myself that I now have to stay sober on my ONE day out, we have to buy a bigger car, we need a bigger house, do we tell people?

I had to tell a lot of people why I wasn't drinking that afternoon, so here's hoping this is a sticky bean!!

Baby dust to all of you, and remember, take control of what you can control. Chart your temps (take your bbt correctly! google that shit) and feed your body real food. Good luck!!!

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Is this a positive?

Top is a very positive opk test.
Bottom is a faint hpt test.
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I had wicked cramping for 2 days and knew something was different.
I am only 7 dpo, but that cramping was so different.
Not going to get my hopes up, but would love your input.

44 And Pregnant!!!

I'm still in shock. Last week I got my BFP after ttc for 3 months. This will be my 3rd child. My other 2 sons are 26 and 22. I will be 45 in July and baby is due on 12th October.

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44 and pregnant

Found out a couple of days ago that I'm pregnant. Couldn't believe since I'm 44 and will be 45 when the baby is due. I was in such disbelief I took 3 pregnancy tests this week. Reading anything on the Internet is frightening regarding pregnancy over 40. Anybody else out there in 40s expecting this year?

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God is AWESOME

I'm 39 years old my 40th birthday is coming this summer. My 16th wedding anniversary is coming this spring. After numerous doctors visits and money spent asking what's wrong with me why haven't I gotten pregnant and boom!!!! January 25th I take a test and its positive. I'm in shock and awe!!! God is great I'm tickled and can't stop laughing. Praying for a healthy pregnancy and baby.

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