After TTC for close to 3 years, meeting with the fertility Dr. at 1.5 years- having 2 failed IUI's, multiple rounds of Femera, Clomid and Maca. We felt like every door was slamming on us and where it appeared that only IVF could be our chance, but with no more savings (IVF costs approx $15K in Canada) this dream of having a child of our own was slowly fading and we decided to stop all fertility treatments in Sept of 2015. To be honest I was just done, and wanted to get off the emotional roller-coaster ride called infertility. .
All that said, I hadn't given up hope (its hard to when your period still comes every month)- but I knew my only chance of success meant I needed to focus on my physical, mental and spiritual health and wellness in order to go through every months let down. I am extremely overweight, but in good fertile health where apparently I didn't have any recognizable reason for my infertility and my husband is in extremely good health and shape as are his sperm. We are both lead by a higher power and our Heavenly Father has been our constant strength and guide through this process even when I was mad, hurt and confused by His will not to give us this opportunity to be parents. I have come to the conclusion through this process that, timing and God's will is a very important piece in the infertility puzzle, even though we think we can control the outcomes- we truly need to be willing to be patient. Additionally, it is so important for us as women to get to know our bodies, recognizing ovulation signs and what our body needs to build healthy eggs and for men healthy sperm.
So here is what happened....finally....
I received a call from a friend who had also been struggling to conceive her second child on December 13th, 2015. She had visited a natropath who told her that in order to build healthy eggs both the mother and father must ensure that they are not experiencing sugar highs and lows, they refrain from dairy products, because they interfere with their hormones, moderate their gluten/wheat intake, start taking digestive enzymes and eat lots of raspberries! So December 14th both my husband and I went off all processed sugar, we still had fruit and didn't worry to much about a little sugar in cooking when we ate out, but we refrained from desserts and anything that would spike our sugar. I eliminated dairy from my diet- and I love cheese so this was almost harder than the sugar, for 10 days went off all wheat and then started taking digestive enzymes and enjoying fresh Costco raspberries. If you are interested in a book that helped me with this process it is Dr. Mark Hyman's book The Blood Sugar Solution 10- day Detox Diet.
The results: Besides feeling so much better and having the weight falling off, literally my next period was Jan 2, 2016 and I conceived January 21-23, we found out Feb 14th (Best Valentine's day ever) and we are now 16 weeks pregnant with our little miracle baby growing within me.
What made me finally test....Note I have long period cycles generally 41 days. You'll see aside from very sore breasts- every thing made me think I was getting my period, the symptoms as very similar.
CD40- Major Diarrhea- had to leave the restaurant early- I thought I was getting my period.
CD 41- Sharp pains in my right breast more than left. Still had unhappy bowels- must be getting my period.
CD-42- Now I am constipated- what is going on I should have got my period.
CD-43- Breasts hurt after they are touched like a residual hurt. Still no period- how could these symptoms be the same.
CD-43- I finally tested and after testing so many times and never seeing a positive, I told my husband I was going to test the next morning and he begged me not too, he just didn't want to see me cry again. I tested at 5 am with my FMU and it was POSITIVE++++ in fact the pregnancy line was darker than the test line. I sat in the bathroom starring at the stick and seriously couldn't hold back the tears. So of course when I went in to the bedroom to share the news with my sleeping husband and I was crying his first response was to give me a hug and tell me everything was going to be OK, and I was trying to get out "No- I am- no I am....pregnant". He was over the moon, we both were. Because I was still on the blood registrar for being able to order HCG tests, I went in the next day for my HCG blood work and sure enough it came back at 5111! That's when we got really excited! I tested again 2 days later and it was 12,798- then 19,879- so we were advancing normally. We visited our fertility Dr. the following week and he gave me an internal ultrasound and were able to see a little seed- with a heart beating.