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43 and Pregnant Again Naturally

I've just turned 43 and am 12 weeks pregnant with my 4th child. I have 2 grown up girls (21 and 18) from a previous marriage. My OH has no children (he's the same age as me). We decided to try for our own baby when we were 41 and I fell pregnant first cycle using OPKs. I had a MMC at 8 weeks but fell pregnant literally 2 weeks after passing the sac. Our perfect son is 12 months old. We didn't want to risk another but after a while we totally changed our minds and prayed if it's meant to be then let it be. I've just had my 12 week NT scan and all looks good so far. The nuchal measurement is normal so just awaiting the blood results for an overall risk. However, we have complete faith that everything is going to be fine. I don't believe age alone is a general factor when it comes to your chances of conceiving.... I have fallen pregnant three times since the age of 41. I hope my story gives hope to older ladies.... and the power of prayer is an amazing thing :)

At 43 years old , against all odds I GOT MY BFP PREGNANT !!

Hello ladies , I , just like you was trying to read as much as I could about how to get pregnant over 40 . I'm 43 , I was ready for a 4th baby and I was told by 3 Obgyn and 2 fertility doctors that I was too old , eggs too old , 1 to 3% chance of getting pregnant at my age , risks too high etc etc etc .. I heard or read Nothing positive I must say ! I'm stubborn by nature and I'm a believer that if they did it on their own in the old ages that I could do it too !! I took matters in my own hands and I started changing a few things about my eating habits and exercise !!!
1) I don't smoke or drink and I was a vegetarian for about 8 months prior to start thinking of another baby and so , I decided to change my diet and start eating meat again ( chicken mostly , more cheese and whole wheat bread )
2) started exercising : I ran 4 times a week for 2 miles every time and I started walking for 30 min after ovulation a few days a week !
3) made a list of all the foods that promote blood flow and helps pregnancy and so I made a smoothie every morning combining all these ingredients !! My smoothie didn't look pretty but it sure tasted great
4)went to see my acupuncture a few times but didn't like it .
5) I tried to enjoy baby dancing and relaxed , I laid in bed for 30 min after BD and lifted my pelvis with a pillow . I never got up right after .i used the soft cup twice ( during 2-days ovulation and kept it in for 4-5 hrs each time . ) we were active everyday for 7 days during O .
6) hubby eats healthy and exercises everyday running mostly . We got him tested and his sperm count was high which was encouraging !
7 ) I took my prenatal vitamins every day
8) I took PRIMEROSE OIL . I drank a lot of water and pomegranate juice and i had the actual grapefruit fruit every night .so yummy !
9) took some supplements that helps improve egg quality

And got my BFP 14 DPO !!!

I'm sure for ladies out there that feel that there is no hope .. Believe me , if I can do it , so can you . Just take control of your life for the next few months , make the necessary changes , maybe it's exercising more or maybe it's to eat better or not drink or not smoke and I promise it will pay off .

I'm sending baby dust to everyone ,hope this will inspire one person and make a change in their lives !

Hope After 40

I write this story to give others hope. If I can get pregnant, naturally, then anyone can:)
I'm 40 (and a half) and my bf is 45. We both have kids from previous marriages, but, after carefully weighing the risks & fully understanding the odds, we decided to try for a baby. After all, the worst thing that might happen is nothing! Even so, my doc said my chances were slim without meds, due to my age. But I am an eternal optimist! So, in January, 12 years after the initial vasectomy, my wonderful bf had a vasectomy reversal. The doc told us it would be 3 months before viable sperm were present. I tried not to obsess, but I was hopeful each month....Sure enough, on the third month after the procedure, I got a positive!
I know it's early days yet, I'm only 5wks 3 days, but I remain hopeful. I try to temper my worry over MC w the joy & promise of our baby:)
Ladies, I offer this story to give hope to those of us a bit older, a bit sad, a bit weary of this process. There are sometimes not enough joyous stories out there for older women TTC. I submit my story to encourage hope and inspire us to have faith in our bodies and celebrate the love we all have to offer our babies!
The only symptoms I can share are, unfortunately, *exactly* the same as PMS: sore boobs, irritability & fatigue. Mommies-To-Be, have heart! If it's possibLe for a aging, older gal like me, it's possible for you!

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BFP at 40 yo 4th cycle TTC post IUD removal!! To God be the Glory!

I'm so happy to post here and I hope my experience helps others. It's still REALLY, really early (11DPO is my guess), but I've gotten positives on two different brands of tests (discussed below) testing yesterday twice and today once. I hope this is a sticky little guy! I've been reading these stories for a few months, each month hoping it was my month. Sorry this is so long, but I hope this helps someone who is going through the same thing as me. I hope it isn't TMI, but I wanted to be as specific as possible for anyone that is going through this too!

My husband had a vasectomy reversal Jan 2010. We conceived May 2010 with our first. She is now 4+ years old. I was 37 when she was born. We decided in Dec 2014 to try for #2...thought we weren't going to have a second one at all, so God completely changed our minds. I am 40 (and a half) and I was so worried that this would take a long time. DO NOT LET WHAT SOCIETY TELLS YOU ABOUT YOUR AGE ENTER YOUR MIND! IF IT'S GOD'S WILL, IT WILL BE! Luke 1:37 says "God can do anything!"

- I had my IUD removed Dec 18 and first period about 10 days later. I immediately started temping and enjoyed it at first...I had no idea that our bodies were so amazing! I also started taking Vitex, Maca, prenatal, folic acid. The first cycle post-IUD removal showed an ovulation on CD 17 and an 11 day luteal phase. I was grateful to know I was ovulating regularly! We flooded that egg, but we didn't catch it. I went to acupuncture weekly.

- Cycle #2 (February 2015) I added B6 and Vitamin E because I felt my lp was short. I O'd on CD17 again but had a 12 day luteal phase. Vitamins were helping!? Temps were very consistent pre-O, and rose after O, had some EWCM, but we still didn't catch the egg. I continued acupuncture. We used Pre-seed on occasion just to help me since we were BD so much.

- Cycle #3 (March 2015) I stopped going to acupuncture, but kept temping. I O'd again on CD17 and had a 13 day luteal phase. YAY! I added a natural progesterone cream application after O was confirmed because during my luteal phase I would always get a massive temp dip around 6dpo, and I was worried my progesterone was low. This month I used pre-seed with the inserts 3 times around O. We didn't catch the egg again, and this month i was SO disappointed. I thought we did everything right, and I thought to myself that I couldn't possibly keep this kind of sex life going for much longer. I was beginning to get frustrated with temping because I read every little bit into the slightest temperature shift, and I decided that next month, after O, I would stop temping until AF came to save my sanity.

- Cycle #4 (CD1 was March 26) I stopped the Maca. I felt that it was making me gain weight and pissing me off. I added Fertile CM because my EWCM used to be plentiful but ever since my IUD was removed I only had it for about 2-3 days with not as much as I used to. This month I added OPK's, per the OBGYN's suggestion. I bought internet cheapies and digitals. My plan was to use the IC's leading up to my LH surge, and once I thought it might be positive to also test using the digital. Well, I got a slightly positive OPK on an IC on April 7 (CD14) but neg on digital, so we BD that morning. I thought "great! I will O on my usual CD17, get a positive OPK on April 8 or 9, and we'll BD until we can't anymore and for sure we'll catch the egg!" Then on April 8, the OPK was not as dark as the day before. WTH!? And the next day, again not as dark. Basically, I missed my surge somehow. We BD on Wed April 8 at night, and that was it. I was so frustrated because I thought I was out this month. I also had majorly wonky temperatures because the day of the slightly positive OPK, I got sick and was put on antibiotics. I temped loosely to confirm that O occurred, and then I stopped. Because of being sick, I cannot pinpoint O day, but I know it was anywhere from CD14 to CD17.

Age 45 BFP Naturally

I hope my story brings hope to everyone. I'm 45 and DH is 40. We've been ttc for almost 3 years. All the fertility tests for both of us were completely normal so the only factor was my age (old eggs). In the last year we did 8 IUI's with Femara or Clomid and trigger shot at the Kaiser REI clinic. It didn't work for us. Finally, my doctor tried to convince me to do IVF with donor eggs. The estimated cost was $30,000-$40,000. So, I looked into doing IVF with my own eggs in Mexico. We went to visit a clinic in Nuevo Vallarta called Liv Fertility Center. It was brand new, spectacular and at the beach, across from the Hard Rock Hotel! The total quote for IVF everything included was $7,000. So our plan was to go in June and stay for 21 days. But, BIG CHANGE OF PLAN. I kept hoping this cycle would be successful so I used the Clearable digital ovulation sticks. I kept getting the flashing happy face and it never turned solid. So we just BD every other day, while it was flashing. I wasn't very hopeful due to it never turning solid. However I did notice that I had much more CM since not taking the Clomid. I started doing the HPT on CD11 with the Dollar Tree test and there was a faint BFP. The next day my husband came home from work with the First Response 6 days earlier tests and they were positive too. Finally, I got a positive blood pregnancy test at Kaiser. We are so excited and still can't believe it!

After Two Miscarriages, My BFP This Morning

Dear Ladies,

First, I want to thank you. Your stories have all been an unwavering source of strength for me as we were TTC after two miscarriages last year.

I hope this long post does not dissuade you from reading this, as I believe it will give many of you hope.

I am 39. My husband is 43. We have no children. I have high FSH and low AMH (the double nail in the coffin, according to most fertility specialists).

Last year, I was pregnant for 6 months of the year, but one 10 week miscarriage and another miscarriage just shy of 16 weeks (due to a genetic abnormality) dashed our dreams of a family. The RE we saw said our best chance was conceiving naturally. My body did not respond to the drugs meant to trigger egg production (Gonal F).

This morning, 10 DPO, I could not bear the TWW any longer and tested. And there it was, clear as day, my double line. I am of course elated but (honestly) full of fear and trepidation at the same time. I am praying this will be lucky #3.

Here's what I think made the biggest difference:
I started paying attention to cervical mucous as the #1 indicator of my fertile window. It took me a while to get this, as I think I was overly reliant on tests to indicate fertility. I watched for egg white cervical mucous like a hawk, knowing this was my body's way of telling me: GREEN LIGHT.

I religiously took:
-A prenatal vitamin everyday
-CO-Q10 (UBIQUINOL- this is critical) - 600 mg/day (it's expensive but worth it)
-Vitex (800 mg)
-Royal Jelly (2000 mg/day)
-Maca (750 mg)
-Wheat grass in a shake every morning

I also resigned from my (high-powered, stressful) job to alleviate stress. I came to the (difficult) conclusion that the money wasn't worth the downside of being in a toxic work environment when my first priority was to have a baby. Toxic environments don't help create the harmony to conceive.

I took a step back from the fertility clinics, the meds (which made it impossible to stay in touch with the regular rhythm of my body, and left me tired and depressed) and tried to put faith back into MY own biological, innate power to conceive.

As for cycle tracking, I used Fertility Friend on my desktop, Ovia (on my iPhone) and an ovulation predicator kit to time sex. (The OPK, interestingly, said I ovulated on day 9 and again, 5 days later.) Ladies again, I watched for EWCM to refine the timing.

I tried to do at least 10,000 steps everyday, and get as much fresh air as possible.

And for the spiritual among you: family and friends prayed for me.

A couple of days ago, I had very minor spotting: a faint pink mixed with the finest darker (brownish) spots. This morning, again, the faintest, faintest pink, almost indiscernible.

At 6:30 am, despite my friends saying I should wait to avoid disappointment from early testing, I got my BFP. I cried, alone in the bathroom. It was a faint line at 10 DPO but there it was without a doubt, staring back at me.

I will say prayers for all of you, and hope this one sticks.

Pregnant naturally at 43 with very low AMH and failed fertility treatments

I wasn't sure I would get to post here given my situation, but I am absolutely grateful I can. I had my first daughter at 40 naturally with an AMH of 0.15 (FSH was also elevated, but I don't know the value). I found out right before talking to the RE about the treatment options after all the tests. My daughter is terrific, and my husband and I very much wanted another child. I stopped breastfeeding after a year so my cycle would return, since I knew that time was not on my side. After three months, and a few anovatory cycles, I started ovulating again (by OPK and temps). So we started trying again for five months with no success. I contacted the RE and went in for all the blood tests, and found that my AMH 2.5 years later was 0.03 - essentially unmeasurable. The doctor recommended clomid, but after one cycle it thinned my uterine lining too much, so I switched to femera (7.5 mg). Two follicles and a trigger shot, but no luck. Then we went to femera + IUI and then an unmediated IUI, and finally, femera + injectables. My luteal phase got shorter and shorter with successive treatments (to 7 days), and the last treatment with injectables produced no follicles at all. My RE said I was not a candidate for IVF with such a low AMH, so there was nothing else he could do. We chose donor embryos from the clinic, and decided to give it three more cycles before going that route.

I had been taking ubiquinol (400 mg) for six months, and after this news, I thought I didn't have anything else to lose, so I added DHEA (75 mg/day for 6 weeks) and vitex. The very next cycle, I ovulated on time (day 15) and had a luteal phase of 12 days. The cycle after that was similar (I stopped taking the DHEA right before ovulation). The third cycle, I ovulated late (day 19) and BDed on +3 and +1 days before ovulation. I didn't test until 13 DPO, and got a strong positive then. I wanted to post this (long) story to give other 40+ women hope.

Now for the details:
3 DPO, started using progesterone cream (20 mg/day) a figured it might not help, but it couldn't hurt - it was my last cycle before FET anyway.
5-6 DPO cramping like AF for several hours on and off, but a week early; also a 0.5 degree temperature dip on 5 DPO and a hot flash on 6 DPO. Odd, but I didn't have much hope.
9 DPO temp up 0.4 degrees in a triphasic pattern (this was not uncommon for me during regular cycles, too, but it typically happened at 6-7 DPO, not 9 DPO). Pressure in uterus.
10-11 DPO sore breasts and still uterine pressure; I had had so many different symptoms on the medicated cycles, i wasn't sure what was normal anymore. Sore breasts were common, though. Tiny bit of blood when checking my cervix at 11 DPO (but I wasn't sure if this were my short luteal phase retuning or anything more promising).
12 DPO temp down 0.2 degrees, same symptoms. I thought AF was just around the corner.
13 DPO temp still up, so I tested with first morning urine in case. I couldn't believe it when the strong second line appeared within a few seconds. Called the RE and went in for a blood test that morning. HSG was 150 (wow!), but progesterone was a bit low (13), so I got prescribed progesterone suppositories (200 mg twice a day) right away. Not many other symptoms besides the slightly sore breasts and uterus (and constipation from the progesterone) for another 10 days or so - then the nausea and tiredness started.

All the early ultrasounds were great, the cell free DNA test came back normal (it's a girl), and I am now just about at the 20 week scan and having no problems. We're thrilled to be expecting our second daughter in September!

I was a nervous wreck before all of the early tests - there isn't much positive to read about being 43 and pregnant. But, I wanted to let all the women over 40 know that it can happen, even when the REs say it won't. I am definitely enjoying this pregnancy as much as I can, and it looks like another lucky couple will be able to have the embyos we chose. Either way, we would have been blessed.

My Miracle at 42!

I have stalked this page for nearly two years, trying to match my TWW symptoms with BFP stories, hoping that mine would be the next. I was convinced that I would never get (and stay) pregnant, having had a miscarriage at 21 (7 weeks) and a chemical pregnancy at 41. My son (adopted) has been asking for a sibling, and my new husband has no children - we were ready to add to our family.
I had been diagnosed (and possibly misdiagnosed - no 2 docs ever agreed!) with endometriosis, HPV, cervical and uterine polyps, menorrhagea, bicornuate uterus, and cervical cancer. I pretty much had no faith in the medical field, so I decided to research & take things into my own hands. I started drinking raspberry leaf tea (1-2 cups/day), Vitex (800mg/day), royal jelly, prenatal vitamins, and eventually added on ubiquinol. I stopped taking the Vitex after one year (6 weeks ago), as it seemed to be suppressing my ovulation. Of course, I used PreSeed. I also started temping & paying close attention to my body. My husband is home only 3 nights/week, so we BD like crazy when he's here!
Which brings me to this week. My chart wasn't looking much different from most of the previous ones, so I wasn't getting my hopes up. I noticed that I O'd 4 days late, so when AF didn't make her regularly scheduled appearance, I thought nothing of it. Then 4 days later (17d LP), no AF, and still had high temps. So I pulled a Dollar Store cheapie out, since it wouldn't break the bank and 30 seconds later...BFP!!!
After thanking God, I told my husband - I think he's still in shock!
I was still in total disbelief, so today I tested on a Target stick with SMU that was diluted with a cup of coffee, a cup of tea & 2 glasses of juice - another BFP!!!
So - here are my symptoms...
1-13 dpo - nothing.
14 dpo - stabbing pains on the sides of my bbs, then super-tender bbs (I wouldn't even take my bra off at night!)
15-16 dpo - bbs slightly tender; I usually crave cheese before AF arrives, and I noticed that I had a slight aversion to it.
17 dpo - very mild sporadic cramping - I figured that AF would probably show, but decided to test anyway...BFP!
18 dpo - continued mild cramping & a tiny little bit of spotting when I wipe - still couldn't believe it, so I tested again - another BFP!
19 dpo - cramping & spotting are both gone, so I'm thinking it was just a little hormone shift & I'm going to be making an appointment with a doc!

Sorry for such a lengthy and detailed post, but I know that I've read every single one, hoping for some reassurance & if my story can offer anyone any peace of mind and hope, I'm happy to share!
God is great - He allowed me to grow one Miracle in my heart, and now He's giving me a chance to grow another below it! I thought I'd never have a chance at pregnancy, but He gave me the leads to try a different path and to remind me of the power of prayer!
Baby dust to all - I truly hope that everyone here gets their chance at Motherhood!

My 46 year old friend is pregnant - 20+ weeks and her own egg!

Hello ladies, esp those over 40! I have a son of 6 from a previous relationship. My partner of 20 months has a daughter of 5, so we're blessed and appreciative ... But can't help but want one of our own. I'm 43 and he's 45 and we've been ttc a bit casually since Jan, more seriously since last month and the realisation that we want this much more than "well it would be nice if it happened". I'm currently 4dpo and managing to keep cool, calm and occupied but just wanted to tell you about my pal who had a few miscarriages before her daughter, who is now 4 and a half. She was 41 when she had her first daughter and had sadly several more miscarriages after that, one at a quite late stage. She was v depressed and eventually gave up on baby number 2: she was 46 now after all. But after selling her daughter's buggy and getting on with her life she found out she was 6 weeks pregnant... And kept it quiet til she was past the scary first trimester and when all the tests were giving her the ok! She is due in June a few weeks after her 47th birthday...with a baby sister for her daughter! And this with her own egg and her husband's sperm and just by having sex, no IVF, no fertility treatment, just luck and love. We're all different and however we get our babies is ok if it's ok for you but just wanted to tell you guys as I am so happy for her and it also gave me at 43 so much hope! I hope it does you all too.
Keep on keeping on and never say never and never give up!!!

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4 wks BFP then BFN & Poss MC???

I first want to thank you all for your supportive stories and postings because it has helped me out a lot during this process. I am 39 and I have had one failed IVF cycle (5dt of 2 grade A embies), I felt absolutely nothing after that cycle. Took a 6 mo break and had another cycle just this March, same process with 2 left over to freeze :) . Got a BFP on 12dpo with a First Response & Digital. I was over the moon, it was the day before my Beta that I did the test (FYI Trigger shot was already out of my system), so next morning I started to spot (very faint scant pink), went to my appt to find out my Beta was 9! Totally devastated. That afternoon, I noticed a more maroon, brownish discharge only when I wiped, not a flow at all, no cramps either. So I thought implantation bleeding maybe? I went to the ER, they told me by Beta was 9- so im still pregnant, however did not see anything in the ultrasound because its too early (Im about 4wks), however has to treat it like a miscarriage, put me on bedrest for 3 days and to repeat my beta with in 48 hrs, at that time it should double. I called my RE to confirm & have an appt tomorrow for the repeat lab. I took a HPT this morning and got a BFN. Of course I cried! I noticed that the time I started with the light spotting till today is when I would originally had my period? So, now I am wondering is this my period? I am having an early miscarriage now that my HPT is BFN? Has this happened to anyone? The only hope I have right now is one my Beta does at lease double & may be a slow riser and two I might be one of those woman who do have their periods while pregnant? Any thoughts, suggestions or personal experience would really help me sleep tonight. Thank you all!

PS: Dont have any other medical issues besides Fertility,

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