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Almost 40, BFP following miscarriage 7 months ago.

I am going to be 40 years old in June; I have 2 children from a previous marriage, age 10 and 11. Hubs is 39 as well, with no children, no previous marriages. We became pregnant unexpectedly last June. I had been using birth control at that time, but we went away just overnight to celebrate our first year together and, of course, I forgot to pack it...we took a risk and in July, I found out I was pregnant from that one time! I had a lot of mixed feelings initially, but then just as I was getting excited, I lost it. I was only about 7 weeks along at the time of the miscarriage. I knew that we were getting older, and if we were going to have a baby, we needed to do it soon. Hubs has always wanted a child of his own. I have 2 great kids, a boy and girl, and I didn't want to be selfish with trying to have another. However, I was open to the idea. We decided just to stop using birth control and see what happened. I tried to be casual about it, and let it play out, but try as I might, every single month since that miscarriage, I obsessed with symptoms and was convinced each month that I was pregnant. I would read these BFP stories obsessively and look at symptoms listed, and I swear, I had symptoms that seemed to be so specific to pregnancy. However, every month, despite being "casual" I would pee on stick after stick to be disappointed time and time again. I would get my AF, then I would be sad, but make peace with it, try to enjoy my kids and husband and I would move on...until ovulation time and the TWW. I would turn into a crazy lady...I think I have read every story, every site, every folk tale about how to tell if you are prego in the TWW...month after month...Fast forward 7 months. I got my BFP yesterday at 12DPO, using CVS brand early PT. If I compare this time to when I miscarried, I have symptoms that I did not have, and my BFP then was actually very faint at a week past my period. My BFP yesterday, 2 days before my period was faint, but darker than the one I got in the summer. In fact, in the summer, I didn't have any symptoms beyond missing a period. I am hopeful that this time will stick since I have some actual symptoms. (And, I think it may have been a CP, not necessarily a miscarriage in July.) On the night of ovulation, I had a dream, a very weird dream!!! It was so clear, seemed like I was watching a PBS special of a sperm meeting the egg. I woke up thinking that I had conceived that night, but like so many other months...I did not want to get my hopes up. Plus, I was scared that my crazy was reaching a whole new level requiring intervention!!! My BBs are always sore (sometimes very sore and swollen) from ovulation to period, and this time was no different. The only difference was that they sometimes become less sore as AF approaches, and this time, it stayed consistent. No blue veins to note, but that's because I already have them anyway. One other thing, that may help others, were that my nipples felt slightly tingly, like when you get cold and they get hard, but they weren't necessarily hard, they just felt that way. 5DPO woke feeling hot and sweaty (this sometimes happens before AF, but not this soon) 6DPO nipples felt tingly like when you get cold, BBs sore like before AF. Headache. 7DPO BBs more sore. 8DPO BBs sore, slightly more than previous day, and low back ache. 9DPO Low back ache again, BBs sore, indigestion!!! Indigestion, this was new for me and made me wonder...I just felt yucky after eating, overly full, and almost sick. 10DPO nothing other than sore BBs and tired. Fell asleep before DH, very rare for this to happen. 11DPO headache in the evening, woke up hot in the night, hot in the morning, and BBs still pretty sore still. Fell asleep before DH, never happens, especially twice. 12DPO BBs sore, Hot in the morning when waking, so tired despite being able to sleep in, tingly sensation is back in BBs. Took test in afternoon...BFP!!!! 13DPO tired, tired, tired! BBs feel enormous, heavy, sore to touch. So, the dream tipped me off, but you start to think you are crazy after all these months and I didn't really know if that was intuition or my insanity. The slight difference in tingly nipples, backache, and indigestion were the symptoms that gave me a reason to make the trip to CVS in the middle of the afternoon. I hope this helps someone. I want to thank everyone who posted things these past 7 months. It helped to read the stories of all of you who have struggled to conceive and then to see the BFP, it gave me some hope. Goodluck to all of you still trying!
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BFP At 40 After Multiple Miscarriages And A Son Born Sleeping - Please Let This One Be A Sticky Bean!

Hi everyone, so here I am again posting my second BFP story, I can’t believe it! I posted my first one in June 2013, but sadly it wasn’t to be as my son Frankie was born sleeping on 29th November 2013 when I was 33 weeks pregnant with him (I’ve tried to find my BFP story in the archive on this site, but I can’t locate it). I knew he was going to have a severe cleft lip and palate as that was picked up at my 5 month scan, but after he was born tests revealed that he had an extremely rare duplication on chromosome 15, which meant he would have been very severely mentally and physically disabled on top of the cleft lip and palate. I’d had six previous miscarriages at 6-8 weeks prior to my BFP in June 2013, but these were deemed to be as a result of a problem that my ex-husband had with a very high percentage of abnormal sperm. My son who was born sleeping was my first pregnancy with my second husband as I remarried. We had the year from hell last year as on top of losing our much loved and much wanted son we lost several close family members including my father in law, endured redundancies, bullying and betrayal by so-called friends so the whole year seemed nothing else other than death, loss, death, loss, death, loss – it was relentless. Thankfully things settled down a bit towards new year and lo and behold, now that all of that seems to be behind us, I get a BFP! I’m scared to death to be honest, I am happy and elated to see the word “pregnant” on the digital test but I’m petrified that the same thing is going to happen again. But I’m trying to be positive and change my mind set to truly believe that I will take this baby home and it will be my long awaited miracle as I’ve been trying for a baby since I was 28, and I’m now 41. So, here are my symptoms, which I hope will help any of you reading this hoping for your BFP: 1-5 DPO – nothing worth noting apart from sore BB’s, but I get that anyway before AF. 6 DPO – went a little dizzy/lightheaded when I bent down to pick up a book I had dropped. 7 DPO – exhausted, and I mean exhausted! I found an internet cheapie test in my bathroom cupboard and stupidly did it, BFN – obvious really as it was WAY too early! 8-9 DPO – thought I was getting a cold as I had a bit of a sore/dry/tickly throat, still really tired every evening. 10 DPO – still very tired. 11 DPO – thought I was out as when I wiped I had a bit of pink which usually signifies AF is on the way. Got disappointed and while out doing the weekly shopping stocked up on towels and tampons ready for the witch to arrive. 12 DPO – normally when I get a bit of spotting before AF my BB’s start hurting less. This time they didn’t, they hurt more. In fact they felt like they were on fire! 13 DPO - AF due to start, and nothing. BB’s still hurt like mad, still tired and I went light headed again while making a sandwich for lunch. Popped to the supermarket for a couple of bits I needed and bought a check and date clearblue pack. Promised myself I wouldn’t test until at least 15-16 DPO if AF hadn’t showed. 14 DPO – woke up feeling quite icky and sick. Had a carpet fitted in one of my rooms upstairs at lunchtime by one of my Dad’s mates, my Dad went out and bought fish and chips for lunch for him. The smell of it made me gag and normally I love fish and chips and the smell of them, so I decided to test. I used the ordinary clearblue test first – a line came up instantly – BFP!!! I couldn’t believe it! Decided to do the digital test that was also in the pack later to confirm – BFP 1-2 weeks! I didn’t really do anything different this month – last year I was a bit obsessed with getting pregnant again, trying to time BD’ing with my husband at the “right” times, using OPK’s, ate healthily, didn’t drink at all, did gentle exercise, I took pre-natal vitamins/folic acid, using pre-seed, leaving my legs the air afterwards, doing everything “right” – but nothing. I honestly believe that it didn’t happen last year because of all the stress and death and loss we went through. This cycle I didn’t use OPK’s and relaxed a lot more – lo and behold – BFP! I told my husband by going out to get a Valentine’s card, putting the two tests in and writing in it “Happy early Valentines Day....let’s stay positive, like these tests xxx” and I included the rhyme “Roses are red, violets are blue, if all goes well, October is when it’s due”. He opened it when he got home from work and he was speechless! I have a LONG road to go down with lots of milestones. I’m booking in at the doctors next week as I am going away for Valentines Weekend and a few days isn’t going to make much difference in the grand scheme of things. There isn’t really anything the doctor can do other than book me in for an early scan and even if I were to go now they probably wouldn’t see very much if anything.

Bfp but no baby yet

I have a 20 years old son, had a few abortions in my 20ths, but as I got older wanted another child. Conceived at 41 but the pregnancy had to be terminated as the baby had trisomy. I conceived at 42 again but that one was a missed miscariage at 10 weeks, then again bfp but no heartbeat and miscariage at 7 weeks. Since then I had 3 chemical pregnancies, done all the checks with no obvious cause found apart from my age. My partner's Sperm test shows bad morghology of 2%, I don't know could this be a reason for my miscariages? I am 43 now and feel so sad and heartbroken, sometimes I feel like stop trying,but I want a child so much... If anyone can give me any advice on checks or anything that I could try?
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pregnant at 41

I was naturally pregnant when I was 40 but had missed miscarriage in 9 weeks.Started trying to get pregnant after 2 regular cycles in Feb 2011. Got pregnant in Nov.2011.I am a Happy Mom of 30 month Old toddler boy. My husband keeps travelling and I wanted to get pregnant asap before he goes away for months. This is what I tried- Wheat grass juice shots everyday 3.5 miles walk 5 times a week Bee pollen CoQ10 monitored cycles with ovulation kit Took help-Dr.Jerome Check practising at NJ/PA I have gone thru' the stress for 9 months of TTC and want to give my 2 cents to those who are trying to get pregnant. I would strongly recommend Dr.Check.His staff is not very friendly still the results are very amazing. He is not a statItistics minded doctor like most of those I met in NJ. If you are over 40 with FSH higher than 12 most of the MEAN STATISTIC minded Drs. like RMANJ and IVFNJ will sure discourage you and will keep pushing towards donor egg.In such negative surrounding Dr.Check is the only one who is ready to experiment ,tweek the treatment and give you realistic hope:) I hope my story helps, inspires many of you! WISH ALL THE READERS GOODLUCK!


I'm 43 years old and my husband and I have been married for almost 3 years. I have two kids from my previous marriage and my husband none kids. We have been TTC since we got married with no luck. Been on clomid 50mg days 5-9 5 cycles in a row, took a three month break then went back on it 3 cycles still no luck. I became so discouraged that I just basically gave up hope. After a long break from clomid we decided to do one last try clomid cycle but took the liberty to up it to 75mg dys 5-9. On CD16 I had a major ovulation so painful but still BD. BRIEF OUTLINE: CD:11,14 ,16 and 18-BD CD: 22- Stomach cramps and runny ( sorry tmi) CD:23- sore throat CD:24-brownish signs when wiping. (Sorry tmi) and bad sinus attack lasted a week All along had period pain like cramps on lower back and abdomen. Cravings took over, frequent urination and fatigue. I missed my period on 20th Dec 2014 to date. I decided to take a test at 1am this morning I couldnt believe my eyes it was an immediate and fat BFP. My husband just broke down with excitement and joy. If you are trying, dont lose heart it will happen. A miracle took place for both my husband and I and I am grateful to God. I wish all the ladies TTC God'grace. CD:

IVF DE BFP 1st try

5 years TTC DH - 31 excellent sperm! Me - 44 three past full term pregnancies, eggs to old now 2009-2014 Four attempts at stimulated cycles with natural BD, poor egg stimulation numbers. Only 2-3 at a time. BFN Moved on to DE 20 harvested, 18 fertilized, 8 keepers! Date of transfer 2 5d blastocysts, grade A and B. Stopped IM progesterone, moved on to suppositories Day 1 a little crampy, pressure in uterus, peeing tons, bloat Day 2 more cramping, got worse that evening, peeing a lot, bloated, POAS BFN Day 3 super bad cramps, like AF, no bleeding, tired now, sore boobs, more bloat Day 4 cramps tapered off, tired, slight nausea, bigger boobs, POAS BFN, last one till beta Day 5 feel great, tired, slight nausea, sore boobs, pee, pee, pee, lots of bloat Day 6-8 feel great, tired, slight nausea, peeing, sore boobs, bloat Day 9 Beta test 7 am, feeling the same. BFP!!!! Beta was 260, progesterone 70, possibly twins. Next beta in 1 week and ultrasound on January 12. Crossing fingers for sticky embies! Honestly I don't really feel pregnant other than some uterine pressure, slight nausea and bloating which I attributed to the progesterone I use 4xdaily. I hope this helps, don't give up and waiting for my beta was much better than the disappointment of POAS too early.

Christmas Miracle

I wanted to share my story as I am hoping it can offer some hope. I really enjoy reading the BFP stories! I am 40 years old and have been trying to have a baby with my husband for 7 years. Last October, I finally bit the bullet and went to an RE. When I had my initial blood work-up, they called to tell me I was pregnant! I was having a lot of pain and spotting the whole time (I thought I had my period). Unfortunately that turned out to be a chemical pregnancy. I then went on to try IUI and IVF and I conceived a baby in July via IVF. All bloodwork and initial ultrasounds were good...saw my little bean and the heartbeat twice. Unfortunately when I went for my first regular pre-natal visit at 9 weeks, the baby had passed. I had to have a D&C and I was devastated. I never thought my heart would heal. Fast forward 2 1/2 months, my husband I decided to go to Barbados for Thanksgiving. We really needed a time of healing and restoration. We had a great trip and came home rejuvenated and feeling healthy for the first time in a long time. I began having some cramping and spotting on cycle day 25 and thought my period was coming early.....then nothing.... I started getting headaches that were a sign of pregnancy in the past and cervix was very high. I also had bad heartburn during the day a few days. I missed my period by two days and decided to test this morning. BFP!!! I felt like I couldn't breath! I am cautiously optimistic but just feel blessed in this moment and am making a conscious decision to soak it in. What I learned from my last pregnancy, however brief, is that it can be the most beautiful, happy time of your life if you let it. It was the hardest time of my life when it ended, but I don't regret letting myself feel the joy.....and that's what I'm going to do now....because worry is not going to change anything. I am going to get my levels checked in the morning than in 72 hours. Please pray for me and I will for you too!

Pregnant after a full health make-over

After having my son at 38 we waited a year and a half and then decided to try for our second. I became pregnant after about a year of trying (I was breastfeeding and nearly 40 so wasn’t surprised) but I had a very early miscarriage (blighted ovum). I thought it would be easy after that but month after month the tests were negative. We tried from Feb to December with no luck. The obsession grew quickly and I spent many many hours on Two Week Wait, Fertility Friend, temping, symptom spotting etc. The highs and lows of the two week wait were excruciating. We tried Femara and AI through my gynae twice with no results. I was still breastfeeding my two year old and was generally rundown and using a lot of sugary foods to pick me up. In January 2014 - after getting temporary ashma and feeling horrible over the Christmas break - I decided to kick my health into gear and did the following: • gave up breastfeeding (I am a big fan of extended breastfeeding and attachment parenting but it really does sap a woman’s energy and I felt almost instantly more energised after stopping – I don’t say it is necessary for everyone to stop and definitely don’t think it’s impossible to get pregnant while nursing. For me though, I think it had to happen.) • weekly acupuncture: expensive but felt wonderful and the therapist was a real support • yoga two or three times a week: I told the very experienced instructor why I was there and she gave me plenty of special exercises which I did at home too, mostly aimed at getting lots of blood flowing to uterus • changed my diet, initially to whole foods and fertility boosting superfoods and then – in the month I fell pregnant - I went totally gluten-free. I have had lots of stomach issues (which I read can inhibit fertility) and some low level depression – both disappeared instantly and I felt immediately better. I slept way better too. • Chinese herbs: given by acupuncturist to balance body’s chi as well as folic acid and pregnancy vitamins I began to feel wayyyy better physically and emotionally but still wasn’t pregnant. We went to a fertility doctor (tests all fine) and decided that if nothing had happened by late May we’d go for IVF. I so wanted to avoid IVF, the expense for one was so high and I also really wanted all my hard work to not be for nothing. So in April I launched an all-out assault to get pregnant. As well as sticking to my health routine I introduced: • using a hotwater bottle to warm my feet and uterus (the Chinese medicine belief is that a cold uterus is a cause of infertility and warming extremities and uterus sends lots of blood there, boosting fertility) • taking baby aspirin to thin the blood • taking Clomid for the very first time to boost the eggs • taking extra estrogen for a few days before ovulation to thicken uterine lining • taking progesterone suppositories as soon as ovulation confirmed • going gluten-free as previously mentioned We BD as much as possible once ovulation tests positive (once early in the week before test, then day of positive test and both days after). After many months convincing myself I was pregnant because of false symptions, this month all was very quiet so naturally thought I was out. Here are my ‘symptoms’: DPO 1 – 8: nothing whatsoever DPO – 8: pain on the outer sides of both breasts DPO – 12: still no symptoms except the breast pain, but tested just to know if could go off progesterone to ensure normal cycle would resume. Very faint BFP. Hubby and I both did not believe it for a minute after so many false alarms. But of course the hope was there. DPO – 14: managed to wait two days and then took another test. Still pretty faint but a line for sure. DPO – 15: another positive test, blood test confirms Symptoms kicked in about two weeks later. I’m now 34 weeks along with a girl and all going great. What I really learned through the process is that health and holistic physical and mental wellbeing is critical to fertility, especially for those past the height of their fertile years (I’m now 41). It was hard work and took tons of research but I really don’t believe I would be expecting right if I hadn’t attacked the issue of my fertility head-on. Sending lots of baby dust to everyone.

BFP two days after turning 43

These boards have been such an inspiration to me in the past, I promised myself that I would post if I got a BFP. My husband and I have been married 22 years and have seven children, ages 17, 14, 12, 10, 7, 5, and 2.5. We wanted children right away after we got married, but had four years of unexplained fertility before getting pregnant with our first. We were already very open to a large family, but that experience (watching everyone else around us get pregnant and thinking it would never happen for us) made us truly appreciate how precious each child is. I have had high-risk pregnancies (a minor blood antigen incompatibility), four 36 weekers, three of whom had stays in the NICU, three early miscarriages spaced between babies, and ridden the usual roller coaster of parenthood. While I wanted another child, I had made peace with the fact that it was unlikely. We joked that my eggs were probably expired and my husband's sperm were just floating on their backs. Between my husband's travel for work and the kids' weekend activities (I swear that troop leader schedules campouts according to my ovulation charts), it was really hard to time things correctly. I had pretty much given up. I was turning 43 soon. I stopped taking my temperature, stopped looking for symptoms, and moved on. (Which is generally when I get pregnant.) One morning, about a week before my period was due, I took my usual thyroid medication and felt like I might throw up. I took an ept, and it was a BFN. Two days later I took another. BFN. I figured that pretty much settled it. Finally, the morning before my period was due, I realized that I had been really short-tempered and tired. (My first pregnancy symptom is usually when the fact that my husband breathes, talks, and walks annoys me to no end.) I had an extra ept, so I went ahead and took it, thinking since it wasn't FMU, it would be pointless anyway. It was a faint blue plus sign. You get so used to seeing negatives, that a positive takes a while to sink in and feel real. I called my GP the next morning, because I remembered reading that if you get pregnant while taking thyroid medication, you need to immediately up the dosage to maintain the pregnancy. A pregnancy test at the doctor's office showed positive right away, and the results of my blood work that came in two days later were consistent with being 4-5 weeks pregnant. (Remember, the count starts from your LMP.) All hormone levels were good. Pregnancy over 35 can seem daunting. (I had number seven at age 40.) Get used to hearing "advanced maternal age." Doctors tend to give you all these scary statistics, and it is hard to remain positive. All you can do is the same thing a pregnant 20 year old does. Eat the good, avoid the bad, and enjoy every minute of it. Take all the joy. Even if it ends sadly, you will still have had those days or weeks of joy. Blessings!
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Let's hope the second time's the charm.

I had another BFP back in January, but unfortunately it ended in a chem a week later. Today, after my first cycle with injectible meds, I got my second BFP. Okay, so: I took injectibles of Gonal-F on CD 3-10. On CD10, I went to my doctor's office for another ultrasound. It was not my usual doctor, but he was the guy on duty, so I went. Turned out he couldn't even find my follicles (this is not the first time this has happened with this guy), so he told me to make an appointment for the following day at the main office where there's a better ultrasound machine. I was annoyed. Later that afternoon, my nurse called me and told me that I should bring my partner with me to the ultrasound appointment. I was confused. Why would he need to come? But I brought him anyway, and my regular doc informed me that my bloodwork from the day before had told her that both of my follicles were due to ovulate literally any minute; we needed to do my IUI right then!! Okay, we got my partner's sample prepped and washed and did the IUI. Awesome. Pretty sure I oved in the time we were waiting for his sample to be done, 'cause I couldn't feel the follicle any more after that. Okay, then: 1-3 DPO-nothing, really. Relaxed and took things easy. 4 DPO Headache! The kind that feels like it's connected to the flu. Like someone hit me in the head with a 2x4. 5-6DPO nothing 7DPO-felt really sick and had constant pinching and twitching cramps. Headache is back in a big way. Felt nauseated and grouchy too, but it was better when I got out with my dogs and walked on the beach for a couple hours. 8DPO- Pinching and pulling cramps all day. Still feeling sick. 9-10DPO-AF-like cramps. Grouchy. 11DPO-Nauseated. Had this idea that my uterus felt "slippery" or "precarious" and if I moved too quickly it would slide around. Weird, yes. Later on in the day, it started to hurt to lean against the table. 12DPO TONS of creamy CM 13DPO could feel two weird "spots" in my uterus, one on either side. 14DPO BFP! Very faint. Betas tomorrow.
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