This post is dedicated to all of us who have wanted to punch someone in the face when they told us to "just relax" and we would get pregnant.
I literally had everything go wrong, had a super stressful month, and got my BFP.
My hubby and I have been trying since 2011. That's five long years if you are counting at home. Two years of trying (my hubby travels a lot for work, we gave it extra time), an unexplained infertility diagnosis, two more years of "not trying" and "just relaxing" and three medicated IUI's. Our first IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy. I was so traumatized that I waited a year before trying one again. Our second IUI I got massages, took things easy, went to see a Chiropractor, and did yoga daily. BFN.
This last month on the day I was supposed to go into my RE's for my day three ultrasound I felt like I had been runover by a truck. Was this allergies or a cold? MY RE told me to come in anyway. I live in Central Texas and have been braving a bout of Cedar Fever (think a Cold that lasts for several weeks until Cedar Pollen levels go down). I lost my voice, had fatigue, coughing, phlegm, you name it. To make things better, in 11 years of being a real estate agent, I had my busiest January EVER. I was working 7 days a week, handling lots of clients, and FLIPPING STRESSED. Between the work, fertility drugs, and cedar fever alone I became very unpleasant for my hubby to be around.
THEN, my husband gets a call about an entire work project being shutdown. This results in him leaving his job and starting a new business just about a year ahead of schedule and one week before our IUI. I'm covering as much as I can with my job, I feel like crap, and now the breadwinner of our family has just started a brand new business. Awesome. We were so busy and I was just trying to SURVIVE. I didn't even have much time to worry about our fertility treatment this month. I was the girl in her RE's office working on my laptop before my appointment. After our IUI, I ate lunch and was back to work with meeting clients immediately. I didn't really have a choice.
I was on Clomid, Gonal-F, and had a trigger shot. This was the first time we used a fresh sample for hubby and his counts were lower than they had been in the past. I don't remember motility, but his counts were about 13 million. I had two follicles mature and a small one that was a maybe.
I had no symptoms that were different from my normal cycle until last week. With our chemical pregnancy I noticed a few days before our BFP, I would wake up every night between 1-3 AM. I started doing this again. However, when I get stressed and busy with my job I tend not to sleep very well. I wasn't sure if I wasn't sleeping due to stress or hormones. I also noticed no spotting. I typically can spot anywhere from 3-7 days before my period starts. Even when I had my chemical. To this day (15DPIUI) I have had no spotting whatsoever, except for right after our IUI. I did have some cramping on and off during the 2WW which isn't abnormal for me. Part of the problem with being on fertility drugs is that you don't know what is the drugs and what are early pregnancy symptoms. I finally broke down and tested 12DPIUI because my boobs were hurting more than normal (but they normally are full and achy at this point in my cycle). To my surprise, it was a BFP. I had my betas today and it came back at 156. We go back for more blood tests on Wednesday to see if numbers are rising. I'm cautiously optimistic. We've never gotten this far before!!
So yeah, you can be stressed as hell and still get a BFP.