I'm posting this story in the hope that it will give other ladies out there the hope that I didn't have going into this.
Me and my partner tried for a baby for three years and I was told that although they couldn't find a reason, I'd need IVF. My partner refused. I was devastated. The next month I fell pregnant. Sadly I lost it a few weeks later and my partner a few months later. This left me at 35 and single and really worried I'd never have children.
I met my now husband at 36. We started trying for a baby quickly as I'd been having night sweats and my (useless) GP panicked me by saying I was perimenopausal (I'm not). We went private and had a load of tests to see if we could still conceive. Tests basically came back ok but there was some endometriosis and one of my tubes was partially blocked. Month after month I got negatives and was really losing heart.
To stop me going bananas I tried a new 'wacky' therapy each month and after the month of acupuncture and two months of Chinese herbs (oh my god, they're disgusting) I finally fell pregnant after 13 months. I had an implantation bleed at 14dpo, we'd had sex more than every other day for over a year and I tested at 18dpo as my boobs were so sore I couldn't shower and I was horribly constipated. I had a horrendous pregnancy and got cholestasis on top of being practically crippled by seven months. My wonderful baby was born by csection at 37 weeks to prevent still birth.
I didn't get my period back until 16 months post birth as I breastfed. We decided to start trying again shortly afterwards but I didn't want to stop BFing as I thought it would be my last chance and I didn't want to stop that on the off chance we might have another. So, with pessimism in my heart we started trying. I'd had an ultrasound a few months previously which revealed my ovaries were 'stuck' to my bowels (thanks to scarring from the section) which was causing me some pain, I was told this may mean I would need IVF to conceive again.
Immediately I contacted my consultant to ask for help, contacted the Chinese herbalist and acupuncturist for appointments and braced myself for a long journey that may well end in heartbreak.
And now, miraculously, I have my bfp. After one month of completely unassisted trying. I NEVER thought I'd be so fortunate and I'm praying with every fibre that I keep this little baby.
So I'm over 40, I did absolutely nothing special. I did use ov tests but im still breastfeeding a toddler and my sore nipples told me the same as the ov tests did. We did the deed three days before ovulation and I assumed that I had no chance at all.
At 14dpo I had a brown mucusy 'bleed' in the morning which I assumed was the start of my period. I put in my menstrual cup and was surprised that it was empty that evening. I don't get any premenstrual symptoms ever so I wasn't surprised to feel nothing was on its way. Days passed and still no more bleeding. I had absolutely NO symptoms at all. My boobs weren't sore (still breastfeeding and I would have thought that would have hurt). I was getting worried I was going through the menopause or nature was being really cruel and taunting me.
18dpo and I had been so obsessed and worried I was out of bed at 5am. Still no symptoms. Maybe boobs a bit weird feeling, maybe a bit lightheaded but by this time that was probably worry rather than anything else. So I bought a test and as soon as I dipped it, the two lines appeared.
I know it's early days. But this baby is so so so loved and if love can help, I think we will be ok.
Good luck ladies x