Hi Ladies! I am 26 and went off the pill in August 2011 with the intention not to try but not to prevent right away while I figured out my cycle. With the busy schedule my DH and I have, we usually only BD’ed once a week in that time, so I was not surprised that I never got a BFP. My cycles regulated fairly quickly and ranged between 33 and 35 days. In November, I received an abnormal pap smear which required a follow-up procedure, so that eliminated our chances in December. Once I received the “all clear” from my doctor in January, we decided to go ahead and fully try. I did not chart my temps or use OPK’s, but I decided I was just going to try to use to the calendar method. To make sure I was hitting all of the “right” days (so I thought), we BD’ed about every other day from day 11 to 23 which became a bit of a chore when we both have opposite schedules throughout the week. Right on schedule, AF arrived on Day 35.
In my Feb/Mar cycle, I decided I would use OPK’s so I wouldn’t stress as much if we missed a couple of days as long as I did not receive a positive OPK yet. This relieved a lot of pressure, so we still ended up BDing for fun almost every other day from around Day 11 to Day 25. It turns out, I did not receive a positive OPK until day 23 which led me to believe I have a shorter luteal phase than I thought of 11-12 days. We BD’ed that night (raised legs for 20-30 min after) and sure enough the next morning (Day 24) I felt cramping in my lower left abdomen, so I assumed that was O time. I took another OPK that evening just to be sure and it was back to negative telling me my O had come and gone as I suspected. We BD’ed again on day 25 just to be sure. I was definitely obsessed with fertility calculators, TTC forums, etc the whole time and had myself convinced I was going to get a BFP every month!
Now for my symptoms,
DPO 1-5: Nothing really. Maybe a random twinge here or there in my lower abdomen but that is nothing that I haven’t felt in previous months.
DPO 6: Random sharp pain in my right breast lasting 10 seconds or so. It was not an ache like my BB’s usually get before AF. It wasn’t terribly painful, but enough for me to notice and make a note of it.
DPO 7: Nothing really out of the ordinary.
DPO 8: My BB’s started feeling slightly tender. They always are before AF though. I did remember thinking that they didn’t feel as bad as usual, but thought that since I O’ed later than I thought, maybe my cycle was going to be a bit long this month so they just weren’t fully hurting yet.
DPO 9-10: Slightly sore BB’s and other normal PMS symptoms I get: feeling tired in the afternoon, minor headache off and on, a very minor dizziness spell, etc (all have occurred in the past with no BFP).
DPO 11 (Cycle Day 35): This is usually when I expect AF. I was cramping in the morning (felt exactly like AF), so I thought for sure here she comes! Nothing had occurred by the end of the day.
DPO 12: Still thinking that with the later O than I thought, maybe AF was just going to be later this month. Had cramps again in the morning with a “wet” feeling. Thought for sure AF was here again and checked all day and nothing. I also felt very sluggish and slightly nauseous/dizzy with an off and on headache. I also felt my nipples tingle and get hard a couple of times. This is when I started getting suspicious because I normally don’t cramp until right after AF starts.
DPO 13: Decided to suck it up and test. Used a Dollar Tree test and did not see anything within the first minute or so, so I jumped in the shower. When I got out of the shower (about 8 minutes later), I saw the tiniest hint of a line. Since I was approaching the 10 minute evap line time-frame, I still didn’t get too excited.
DPO 14: Bought a 3 pack of FRER and tested with FMU. Very dark BFP right away!
You can be obsessed and still get a BFP relatively quickly!