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8dp5dt - BFP??

8dp5dt of two blasts. One was said to be highest quality and other was right below it. I started getting faint faint positives 4dp and they’ve definitely gradually gotten darker but shouldn’t it be darker by now? My beta isn’t for 4 more days. Do you think this is BFP or a chemical?

BFP & Unsolicited Rant

Hi Ladies

If you’ve read my blog on this site then you already know I miscarried 3 cycles ago at 7 weeks and was then diagnosed in short order with mild PCOS, ureaplasma and male factor issues of 78% “irregular” sperm by World Health Organization’s standards. Throw into the mix that my father was battling late stage pancreatic cancer since last year and you’ll understand how (un)well I was faring.

My dad passed away earlier this week before I got to tell him that I’m pregnant again, but I’d like to tell you all, because I know how much reading these stories has meant to me over the last year, in times of both hope and despair.

The number one thing I want to put out there is that I was extremely stressed out and unhappy this month, had given up on this cycle and even had a perscription filled for Femara to start the cycle after I’d take antibiotics for the ureaplasma.

I was still devastated following my blighted ovum miscarriage in early March. In fact, I was experiencing a new degree of emotional rock bottom during the days that sperm likely met egg. All this to say: when people chide women for being stressed during TTC and order them to relax in that weirdly condescending tone I know you’ve all heard, tell them, silently or otherwise, to go fuck themselves.

Empirical experience has shown me that conception is the product of timing, hormonal balance, whatever fertility assists you’re using (be they Western medicine, TCM, Santeria or whatever you ascribe to) and sheer dumb luck.

Don’t let the that patriarchal line of thinking about stress being a “conception hinderance” guilt you or convince you that you’re sabotaging your own BFP. I don’t buy that nonsense anymore. Women get pregnant during wartime and in captivity and under unthinkable conditions. So as if the factor being a woman doesn’t offer enough challenges to begin with, we are then scolded for not somehow being serene enough while we toil towards our fertility goals. It’s normal feel frustrated and scared and isolated in this process. It *is* depressing. We’re gonna feel what we’re gonna feel. Time to shift our notion of psychological accountability while TTC, methinks.

Onto the dirty details. The what-when-how-where of products and practices.

Without further ado:

Stuff That Probably Helped This Time

All month:

•Bayer prenatal supplements
•folic acid (in addition to the prenatals’ folic content)
•4 capsules of fish oil
•C0Q10 supplement
•selenium supplement
•saint John’s wort supplements
•2 drops daily of Woodstock brand “Women’s Repro Formula” (contains vitex, maca and all the usual suspects, $21)
•probiotics twice daily with meals

CD1 through ovulation:

• red clover supplement
• evening primrose oil supplement
• expensive-ass deer antler tea 2-3 times daily (basically you soak it in a clay pot, strain that water and drink it and then add new water, simmer it for an hour, drink THAT and then if you’re feeling like a champ add more water for a final hour long simmer and drink that, too) actually I stuck to this regimen from CD1 til about 5DPO when I ran out and was too broke to buy more... but we’ll never know if it was this potion that tipped the scale

“Mechanical” aid:

• Wandflo OPK’s ordered online from Amazon
• a small amount of preseed injected as close as possible to cervix right before intercourse followed by
• softcup smeared with preseed directly after sex, that be left in for 12 hours
• sorry for TMI but I tried to give myself an orgasm right after inserting the softcup each time (no, my partner didn’t do it lol) because they claim that the contractions cause “upsuck” (ew this word)
• weekly acupuncture
• not in the shower = wearing socks no matter what

Stuff I avoided:

• caffeine (so coffee, tea and chocolate)
• alcohol
• hot baths

Other things I think helped:

• I had an HSG test late autumn 2017 and I had never been pregnant. In the days following it some “debris” and mucus unlike anything I’d seen in that, uh, zone, seemed to be dislodged. I think the HSG might’ve cleared the pipes to an extent that they weren’t before. I’ve conceived for the first time in my whole life since then, which may tell us something about that procedure

• my partner and I timed intercourse every other day from the first day my bleeding stopped until a few days after the OPK’s started to darken. By the way, he was also under instruction from the doctor not to masturbate because it’s thought to compromise sperm count

• my partner started consistently taking a men’s multivitamin, selenium, folic acid, C0Q10, fish oil, selenium and fenugreek supplements every day starting about 3 months ago (they say it takes about 3 months to “build” fresh sperm that reach maturity and are ready to do their job

BFP with IVF at 38

Hi ladies! I've read so many of these stories over the years so wanted to drop in and give hope to those who may be feeling hopeless. I had my first round of IVF when I was 36 - after trying everything else for years. I was a poor responder and ended up with just one blastocyst... and she stuck! My only symptoms with her were sharp cramps and light spotting 3 days after a 5 day transfer. And she is my now one year old daughter! I've just undergone my second round of IVF (age 38), transferred one blastocyst and got my BFP! It feels like a miracle because I didn't have the same symptoms as my first round. In fact I had no real symptoms other than a low level 'period type' feeling 3-4 days after my 5-day transfer. I had a stuffy nose and really bad diarrhoea on days 3,4,5,6 after transfer and just felt incredibly sad. My beta is on Friday and I'm hoping for great results! We prayed very hard all through our journey and feel extremely blessed that God has answered our prayers in this way. For info, we had severe male factor infertility and high FSH, lowish AMH for me.

BFP at 10dpo! - 10yrs infertility, Menopur +Trigger + IUI

I am your typical stalker and have miraculously gotten my FIRST ever true BFP. My journey has been epic and I want to open up about it because this site was where I spent so many years of TWW's.

Background: I am 31, my infertility journey started when I was 19 (2005) and trying to conceive with my then fiancee. I knew something wasn't right then and all the doctors I went to wouldn't listen to me. In 2010 I finally got a DR who would do what I wanted and had a laprascopy, hysteroscopy and chromatubation done. Found grade II endometriosis, my uterus was completely filled with polyps, and my right tube was blocked. He didn't try to open my right tube because I was "so young and would be fine," but he did remove all the polyps. Fast forward to 2016, I am still not getting pregnant. Tried some clomid and AI (using known donors) a few times with no luck. So in 2016 I have a HSG and both of my tubes are blocked and there is a large filling defect. Saline sonogram shows nothing that would cause a filling defect, so weird! guessing it was a cyst that burst? A few months later I have a fallopian tube recanalization done, which was successful, doctor got both tubes open! That was December 2016. Tried all of 2017, had another HSG that showed both tubes still open. Finally got referred to an RE in late 2017 (I am a veteran and working with the VA so it takes forever!). RE said that my left tube actually looks terrible and while technically patent, it doesn't look good. So we try one cycle of clomid and timed intercourse because my follicle was on the left side. She wanted to move to injectables, so while waiting for them to be ordered we did one natural + IUI cycle and no luck. Partner is 39 has 4% morphology, everything else good. Beginning of March I started Menopur injectables (2 bottles) for 9 days (CD 2-10) Triggered with Ovidrel 250mcg on CD 11 with three good looking follicles, two on left and one on right. Did IUI on CD 13 and lots of BD'ing around then so we don't know what worked ;)

1-6dpo nothing unusual - Refilled Menopur RX, just in case (so now I have a ton I don't know what to do with!)
7dpo- tested with FRER, very faint positive (then I remembered the trigger shot, so disappointing!!)
8dpo- tested with FRER very very faint positive, ok trigger is pretty much gone, but now I am out of tests! Order more on internet!!
9dpo- brief wave of nausea while cooking
10dpo- preggo tests arrive in am so I can use FMU - faint, but definite, positive on Wondfo. Now I don't know if it's trigger or real, but thinking real!
11dpo- test with FMU - faint positive - wave of mild nausea again in the evening.
12dpo- test with FMU- positive getting darker!
13dpo- test with FMU still positive! Beta test done = 98!
14dpo- test much darker now
I had big temp jumps at 8 and 9dpo, and it has stayed really high. I use the ava bracelet, which I don't actually recommend if you are doing medicated cycles, it really throws things off! It was totally off for when I ovulated this cycle and when I did my clomid cycle. Was great for the one natural cycle though! I typically have 10-11 day LP, I am taking progesterone suppositories (started 2 days after IUI) even though I didn't have low levels, don't know if it helped considering I must implanted around 6 or 7 dpo.

Because of my tube issues, I have an increased risk of ectopic, so all fingers and toes crossed that everything is where it should be and it sticks! I have been doing acupuncture almost every week for 11months, taking prenatals for years. I think a lack of symptoms and the few waves of nausea had me suspicious, I never get nauseous unless I have a migraine. No AF-like cramps at all, more like constant activity and sensations in my uterus/ovaries and I was really happy, not at all like when AF is due. Boobs are tender now but didn't start until after the BFP, that comes and goes with my typical cycles though. Also extreme tiredness, like taking naps tired, started after the first bfp. I am so thrilled, this has been such a long, emotional journey and just knowing my body can actually get pregnant, it's just the most wonderful feeling.

TTC 18 MONTHS, BFP, PCOS, POOR SPERM MORPHOLOGY & MOTILITY, IUI, Clomid vs. Femara

Writing this post to give hope to those that have both female and male infertility factors. :) This is a long story, so here is a a quick summary if you don't have time to read then entire post:

1. Do not wait a year to go to the doctor if you are having trouble TTC. I have always had irregular cycles, so I knew something was wrong. It was more stressful to not know if there was an issue than it was to know and start down the path to fix it.
2. Do not wait to get a semen analysis done for the same reason as I mentioned above. It's cheap, it's noninvasive, and for most guys, healthy habits can naturally solve this.
3. For better sperm quality, here is the list of vitamins that my doctor prescribed:
Vitamin C: 1000 mg/day
Vitamin D: 2000 IU/day
Vitamin E: 1000 IU/day
Omega 3 Fatty Acids (Fish Oil)- 1000 mg/day
Coenzyme Q10- 400 mg/day
4. I was only on Femara for one month and got pregnant. I was on Clomid for 7 months and had no luck.
5. Do your own research and do not be afraid to switch doctors! I honestly do not think we would have gotten pregnant if we had not switched.

Here is the full story:

We began TTC June 2016.

March 2017- After 9 months of BBT charting, ovulation strips, timed intercourse, I couldn't wait any longer to see a doctor, and it was time for my yearly PAP smear, anyways. After some tests, I was diagnosed with PCOS. I am 5'5 and 117 lbs, so weight was not a symptom for me. I have always had irregular cycles (35 days or more- I skip a cycle at least once a year). I do have mild acne (mostly on my back), some hair loss around my hairline, and I do feel that my legs/bikini area have more hair than normal. The OBGYN ordered an ultrasound, which did not show cysts, and blood work, which was normal, however my progesterone was on the low side. So the OBGYN diagnosed me with PCOS and started me on Metformin (500 mg starting 1 X day, build up tolerance to take 2 x day), and Clomid (50 mg). Metformin did give me headaches/nausea the first couple of months, but that did finally go away and I started taking it 2 x day without symptoms. My acne has gotten better, but that's the only difference I've noticed.

June 2017- After TTC on Metformin/Clomid for 3 months, DH had a semen analysis (SA). It showed that he had abnormal morphology- 0% of his sperm were normal shaped, and the motility was also low. He started taking FertilAid and did a repeat SA in a month, the morphology had improved to 1%, and his motility was in the normal range, but on the low end. There is no varicocele. It was very shocking because my husband is also slim, works out, has never has done a drug in his life, rarely drinks- just overall healthy. He is an autobody painter, so it is possible that a toxin is causing this issue- but he does take safety precautions (wearing masks, gloves, working in a well ventilated area), so not sure- it could be genetic? But after some research, we found out there is not much you can do to improve morphology, so at this point we were feeling very hopeless. It was our low point in this process.

August 2017- Our next step was an HSG to see if my tubes were open, and they were. This gave us hope that we could go the IUI route. (Side note: the HSG was painful for me, but the painful part only lasted like 30 seconds, so it is very manageable!) Also- I skipped my period this month, while taking Metformin/Clomid (this tells me that I may have been resistant to Clomid).

September 2017- After skipping a period, once I did start, I was bumped up to 100 mg Clomid. We had IUI #1, which did not work. The doctor told us that we should try the IUI 3 times, and if it didn't work, then we should move on to IVF.

October 2017- We had IUI #2, which also did not work, but this is when things start to get good!

My coworker had been TTC for 1 year and also was diagnosed with PCOS. She had been to another fertility specialist that had prescribed her with Femara instead of Clomid (previously she had taken Clomid & miscarried). She had just found out that she was pregnant after one month of being on the Femara! The fertility specialist that I was seeing would not prescribe Femara (since it is not FDA approved for use in treating infertility and because there was a study that showed an increase in birth defects- do you own research on this/ask your doctor). I decided to switch to the fertility specialist that my coworker was going to.

Also, I stopped taking Clomid at this point, so I was on it for a total of 7 months (April- October). My husband was also discouraged and stopped taking the FertilAid supplements (the doctor actually told him that the vitamins weren't helping in a very rude manner but that's another story!)

IUI to AF to BFP

I cannot believe I finally get to submit my BFP story!! EEEK

History on DH and I: I am 26 and he is 27. I have minor history of PCOS (one cyst once and told PCOS) and elevated Prolactin (highest recorded: 61). DH has low numbers (<10 million pre wash) and low motility (<20% pre wash). We have been trying to conceive for 3 years. We were put on 3 rounds of clomid (May, June, and August 2017) with no pregnancy success but had positive ovulation tests every time. OBGYN sent us to South Florida IVFMD for further help.

Reproductive Endocrinologist suggested IUI since both hubby and I were below average but not so low to where she suggested IVF. She placed me on synthroid (hypothyroidism runs in my family and my numbers were a little too off for their liking) and I started Femera 12/26/2017. IUI was on 01/05/2018 and 01/06/2018 where DH had a 2.4 million/ 65% post wash sample and 600,000/95% post wash sample. I was instructed to either have a beta done or do a HPT 01/18/2018. However, I started spotting 01/16/2018 and thought for sure I was out. I took a FRER HPT 01/18/2018 and saw the faintest line but only if I held it up to the bathroom light. I thought I was making myself crazy and threw it out. 01/20/2018, I starting bleeding very heavily, bled a medium flow the next day, and had two spots of blood 01/22/2018. I went to the doctor to start our second round of IUI where she did a beta pregnancy test only as a formality. Shockingly, she said I was pregnant (Beta: 26) but was probably losing the baby to miscarriage with all the bleeding I experienced that weekend. She placed me on Progesterone suppositories to stop the bleeding and I took another Beta two days after (Beta: 44). Now that they confirmed that I was still pregnant, they were worried about ectopic pregnancy with the beta not doubling. They ordered another Beta Friday (Beta: 96). NUMBERS MORE THAN DOUBLED!! They are not so worried about ectopic now :) Hopefully our little Peanut will continue to grow happily and healthily. I wanted to share because I want all the women out there to know that weird things can happen and you can be pregnant with all of the situations above and more I'm sure.

What I did in the month of the IUI that may have helped me get pregnant:
Took Prenatal and Vitamin E everyday
The day of the IUIs, DH and I BD and I laid down for the rest of the day.
After the IUI, ate 1/5 pineapple with core for five days. Also, placed a heating pad either on my back or belly throughout the work day. Lastly, I followed chinese medicine and only drank warm fluids, drank lots of water and tea, and had full fat dairy. I also exercised with walking or jogging every day (not a common thing for me).
I also visualized the sperm joining with the egg. I know it sounds weird but some women swear by it and it worked for me :)

Other than normal period symptoms, I did not have any pregnancy symptoms the weeks after IUI.

Pregnant with DH hypospadias and low T

Hi guys,
I used to stalk this website daily so thought I would contribute my story. Background- I’m 27 and morbidly obese but otherwise healthy. My husband had been on exogenous testosterone for years before we decided to TTC. He also has mild hyposadias. Three months before we got our bfp, DH was told his sperm count was too low to produce a number on the lab result. The doc put him on three times a week HCG shots and stopped the testosterone. I was temping, tracking mucus, and doing OPTs. We had sex every other day and used instead cups/preseed like clockwork for 8 months to no avail. The month we were successful, I had a very strong OPT (it was the day of solar eclipse, some think it had to do with it) and instead of having him ejaculate inside me, I had him go in a cup then “injected” it with a clean syringe over my cervix. I skipped the Instead cups bc I had just happened to run out but I did stay laying for 15 min after. We couldn’t believe it when we got our very faint positive result only 8 days later! I thought surely it wouldn’t stick being that early of a positive but I’m currently 20 weeks with a healthy baby boy. Stay positive and good luck everyone! If you are dealing with hypospadias, I highly recommend squirting the semen inside you with a sterile syringe to simulate a normal penis.

BFP after 3 years of trying

After 3 years of ttc, including 3 IUIs, 3 IVF cycles, 1 miscarriage and 1 chemical pregnancy, I am in a place where I feel like my miracle is real. After transferring 1 5AA PGS normal embryo, I finally have a healthy pregnancy. There were definitely some things I did differently this cycle that I believe led me to success.

For 3 months before my stimulation I followed the CCRMs acai study - I took 2 NOW brand acai tablets 3 times daily (purchased from amazon), along with other vitamins recommended by my naturopath such as CoQ10, vitamins d and e, fish oil, and folic acid. I saw dramatic improvement in egg quality from the acai. My first ivf my spindle view (a marker of egg quality) was 67. For my second it was 75 (after starting my vitamin regimen). After adding the acai before my 3rd IVF cycle, it rose to 89, which absolutely shocked me.

My cycle with the acai was the only one in which we made a PGS normal embryo, and top grade at that.

After FET with this beautiful embryo, I felt absolutely nothing during 1-4dp5dt. No implantation bleeding, no cramping. My boobs were already sore and swollen from the progesterone, they stayed that way. Around 5-6dp5dt I had some AF like cramps, as well as a very sore lower and middle back, which I never get. Around 8dp5dt onward I had lot of very watery cm, and the sore back continued on and off.

I also had acupuncture done right before and right after the transfer.

I managed to remain very positive throughout the 2ww - of course there were moments where I stressed and felt like it didn't work, but there were also times where I felt like I just knew I was pregnant.

I am so grateful to be where I am today, and wish the same for everyone who reads this. Don't give up!

BFP after two long years

I've never been pregnant, I'm 33 and we've been trying for two years and month. Six months ago DH had a varicocele surgery and it worked! In two more days it'll be our second anniversary so it couldn't have come at a more exciting time. We even tried four IUIs and they didn't work. This was natural. I had just about given up hope and these stories helped me through the two year rollercoaster of hope and despair. Please hang in there. If it can happen to me it can happen to you.

2dpo - Spotting. I often get spotting during O and read it was common for it to happen up to two days afterwards.

3dpo- Started cramping at night. Emotional. Slightly sore nipples, like deeper in the tissue. I've never had nipple tenderness before.

4dpo- Woke up and 3am and couldn't get back to sleep for an hour and a half. High sex drive (normal for luteal phase, especially as AF approaches).

5dpo- Period-like cramps in the morning. High sex drive. Feeling dazed. Feel like I'm getting a cold and VERY tired.

6dpo- Sore bbs.

7dpo- Sore bbs. Mild cramps for a few minutes. Very tired.

8dpo- Very tired. It feels like I've been hit by a truck and coffee does nothing. Tension or sinus-type headache. Wet feeling down there. Mildly sore bbs. Little bumps on bottom lip (they went away so maybe just a coincidence).

9dpo- Sore bbs. Slept 9.5 hours and still tired. Constantly cold. Bad sinus or tension type headache. Nose tickling like the beginning of a cold.

10dpo- LOTS OF ENERGY!!!

11dpo- All appetite gone. I'm ordinarily a really hungry person, especially this close to AF. Wet down there which is pretty normal around now. Spotting in the evening when I wiped. Probably AF coming since I usually spot beforehand. Made fish for dinner and was so grossed out I couldn't eat it. High sex drive.

12dpo- Blood-tinged CM when I wiped in the morning. AF due tomorrow and disappointed. Sex drive through the roof (normal). For whatever reason I'm like a walking vagina this close to AF and this was no different.

13dpo- AF due today or tomorrow. I think today but my app says tomorrow. One big glob of stretchy, tacky, brown-tinged CM in the evening. All other spotting gone. Smells! This one room I was in smelled like rotting salad. Nobody else thought so.

14dpo- I either missed my period or my app was right and I'm supposed to get it today. A little bit of YELLOW CM when I wiped (that was nothing I'd ever seen in all two years). Bbs a little sore but not much. I'm a social dancer. This one guy I was dancing with almost made me puke because he smelled like he just downed a huge glass of milk and it was exuding from his breath and pores. It was unbearable. The bathroom smelled like it was magnified by 20. I'm like clockwork and AF a no-show. I took a pregnancy test and I thought I saw a faint line. Just to make sure my eyes weren't playing tricks I ran out and got a digital. My husband and I hugged and cried when we saw the positive result.

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Bfp 0.5% Morphology & Cautiously Optimistic!

I've read these stories so many times over the last two years searching for people in the same boat as me. I really hope my story gives hope to someone who needs it. I'm still convinced something is going to go wrong. There's such a long way to go!

I'm 38 my husband is 31 & we've been trying for the last 2 years. We had one pregnancy after the first three months trying which ended in miscarriage just under 8 wks. Then nothing.

We recently started to under go tests. I had a laparoscopy 6 wks ago & had some endometriosis removed. We are due at the doctors next week for my husbands 2nd SA results. The first one showed 0.5 % morphology everything else fine. We were fully prepared in our minds that we'd end up going down the Ivf route.

We both started taking Proxeed around 4 weeks ago.

It was devastating but at least we knew.

We carried on trying & we conceived the first cycle after the laparoscopy. I got a faint positive 9dpo the. A much stronger one today at 13dpo.

Ive listed my symptoms or lack of below. Due the the cramping on 12dpo which was exactly the same as af I have been terrified that this will be a chemical pregnancy so so happy to see the darker line today!

1-3dpo twinges in left hand side, crazy but could be the egg moving?
3-8dpo stinging twinging feelings in uterus
9-11dpo faint bfps boobs feeling very tender
11-12dpo constant weeing! No other symptoms at all
12dpo period pains during the night convinced period is coming
13dpo af feeling in tummy. Boobs a. It tender that's it.

Nervous & such a long way to go but trying to remain positive.

Good luck to everyone trying. This is the hardest two years of my life but hopefully now is my time & in 9 months I'll meet the tiny thing all his has been for! Xx

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