We have been TTC our second for about 2 years (give or take). This was our second month of IUIs (with Clomid). All my parts seemed to be functioning per the testing we did, but my husband’s SA had low-average sperm quality and swimmability, hence the IUIs. This was going to be our last month doing Clomid and perhaps even doing IUIs. The Clomid made me feel so insane that it just wasn’t worth it to me to up our odds in exchange for my sanity. If I hadn’t been able to ovulate at all without it, maybe I would’ve been able to handle it longer, but since it was just to up our odds, I was done. But, it didn’t matter because we got our BFP!
O – (day one) IUI #1
O - (day two) IUI #2 – I had two eggs this cycle and one popped on one day and the other on the next day.
1-10 DPO – Nothing at all. This was probably the most stressful time of my entire year (especially around IUI time, for other reasons), so I was distracted by life and the holidays (which was great so that the TWW wasn’t intolerable).
11 DPO – Super irritable, no patience and at lunch took a few bites of my meal and had to excuse myself because I thought I was going to throw up.
14 DPO – My period was supposed to come this day, but last cycle, the Clomid made my luteal phase about 16-17 days, so I didn’t think anything of it. I was really protecting myself this month and didn’t let myself get excited or read into anything because I know this crazy Clomid can mess things ups. I actually felt defeated and like this wasn't going to happen. My fertility clinic told me to test if my period didn’t arrive by this day, but I couldn’t. I HATE looking at negative pregnancy tests – especially when my period hasn’t come yet (so confusing!), so I was not about to test until I could be 99% sure it would be positive. I would rather start bleeding and know that way then look at a blank pregnancy test.
15 DPO-18 DPO – Period still not here, but not any real symptoms going on. Nipples are a tiny bit sensitive, but it’s so fleeting (and it could’ve been the Clomid or impending period). I was starting to think that maybe this was it, but I was so scared to test – what if my cycle was just messing with me? Kept telling myself that this could all go away and to not get too attached, but smiling every morning when there was no blood. Not sleeping very well at night - tossing and turning for the past week or so.
19 DPO – Finally got the courage and tested around noon and got a fast BFP!! I was so nervous to test and to have all of this hope vanish. I thought it was going to be positive, but how many times had I felt that same way and it been negative? I knew there would be tears either way and there were. I was sobbing with gratefulness.
A few things to note: We will never know what did it for us. We had sex right before ovulation (with Pre-Seed) and then two IUIs and we’ll never know which one was the charm. Maybe this was just our time and would’ve happened regardless of the fertility help? I have no idea. But a few things we were doing…
- I had been going to acupuncture twice a week since the summer to get my luteal phase longer and improve my blood quality and it worked amazingly well. Even a month or so in, my cycle totally changed for the better and my luteal phase was now at 14 days (with no spotting before).
- My husband had been taking vitamins (Zinc, L Carnatine, Vitamin D3) since the summer to improve his sperm quality and it worked. He went from below average to right at average numbers. But listen to this – I urged him to go to acupuncture and he did and he’s a vegetarian. Our acupuncturist told him that in Chinese medicine, red meat (quality red meat) plays a huge role in virility and sperm quality and that he needed to be eating red meat 4 times per week if he wanted to see things really improve. I thought there was no way he was going to do this, but he did! And we saw a huge jump in his sperm quality with the IUIs – it went from 50% of his sperm being motile to 80%! So, if any of you have vegetarian husbands out there with sub-par sperm, this may help (if they can stomach it).
Good luck to you all!