Ok so Im probably going to make two posts, bc those of you who know my entire situation with DH, I could sure use some advice on how to tell him and what to say! I'm SO NERVOUS but of course I want to tell him NOW! im so confused, lol I want to tell him now, but I also want to wait just in case. I want him to be as ecstatic and happy as I am, but I know he won't be. Not at first. Maybe not until this baby gets here.. He is already very stressed in our current situation and I SOSOSO wanted to get everything atleast lined up before this happened. Oi vei!
maybe I won't write another post, I can barely get my words together LOL! But yea, open to any and all suggestions , please!!
things I did different this cycle: diet. I'm not overweight, but I'm not particularly healthy when it comes to food. My favorites foods are processed, fatty, greasy heart attacks on a platter type of foods lol so this cycle in hopes of swaying boy, I switched to a 80/20 alkalizing/acidic diet . Tried to keep it closer to 90/10, but wasn't too successful. A lot of bolthouse farms juice (Green goodness & daily greens!) I noticed an overall better energy about myself about a week after changing my diet, so if you feel sluggy you should def try to be more alkalizing! (And I was by no means on a "PerfeCt" alkaline diet!) I had started drinking fertilitea a week before af last cycle, if you're thinking about trying it and have long cycles, DO IT! I officially swear by it. dh has been less than careful the night before o atleast twice, and less than careful is simply not pulling out fast enough. I do believe the better quality cm I had (inside only, it's never been leaking out of me or anything) helped things along. But that's IT! not much difference from any other cycle, besides these 2 factors.
Now, first let me tell you, I had a good feeling I could be pregnant, but as I'm usually the type who has a very strong "intuition" when that bean is first conceived, it wasn't there this time! That threw me off most, it just wasn't there and I fully expected to JUST KNOW when this happened.. when I took that hpt I was telling myself, there goes the dye and here comes the stark white bfn! I pretty much had no idea.. I expected that bfn. Also, when I took the walmart cheapie hpt, there was no hold. Maybe an hour, max. Didn't have much to drink that day, but I def wasn't trying to hold to test or anything. As a matter of fact I told myself I would wait til I actually needed to pee so I could have a good hold, but like I've said, no self control lol
My very FIRST clue that made me start wondering about my current symptoms was when I took my afternoon temp around 8 or 9dpo (whenever I had the sore throat).. It was 99.5, which is wayyy above my post o afternoon norm (about 98.4-98.9). I kept temping for a few days multiple times a day (as temp can rise during certain times simply bc of natural circadian rhythym!) and my temp stayed between 99.1-99.5 from morning until about 9pm, even after that sore throat disappeared! My second pregnancy, when I had *just* starting learning all this ttc stuff, I was 2 days late for af and read about low grade fevers in early pregnancy, took my temp and it was around 99.6 or something like that, so the high afternoon temp this time had me very very curious, couldn't stop googling about it trying to find something that was a YES you're pregnant! Of course, I didn't know if those kind of high temps happen every cycle post o and are only accurate after af is missing, or if my body now just typically runs higher post o than it did a year ago, so I really was trying to hold off with my crazyness over it (Googling got me nowhere, just a bunch of grouchy women telling other women afternoon temps mean nothing!) I decided to test 12dpo, after I had literally JUST decided to wait until 14dpo, bc all my af symptoms had been nonexistent the entire day. No gurgles in my tummy that are usually so consistent, no big bad endo cramps making me wish I could rip my uterus out.. total shocker Bc by 12dpo I'm usually pretty miserable and begging for af!
And now, for the dpo countdown (:
1-6dpo - a LOT of chunky,white, & wet cm, but only when checking for cm.
6dpo - backache, af type cramps (EARLY in cycle compared to "normal"), gas!
7dpo - .7 spike in bbt. Af cramps, Backache, irritable, tender bbs, watery cm (this time it is slightly leaking onto panties, this is the ONLY time in tww I had more cm than normal!) gas!! Very irritating sore throat
8dpo - bloated. Horrible headache in pm (not an af sign for me, I rarely get them) Irritable!, af cramps, still sore throat
9dpo - backache, heartburn (later in tww than "normal"), watery cm(only when checking), napped (never happens), throat no longer sore even though no meds not even cough drops taken..odd. Also, no more bloating. Usually when af bloating starts, it stays until af.
6-9dpo - woke each morning feeling like my tummy turned into a bottomless pit, sooo hungry. Constant painful stretching stitches from ribcage down to lower abdomen. light af gurgles. alternating sharp cramps in lower left and right abdomen. Quick burning waves over lower left abdomen. Wave of nausea in evening. Constant Backache and af cramps afternoon temps 99.1-99.5
10dpo - sporadic shooting sensations through right bb. Bbs less sore but still a tad. Feels like pressure on rectum, feels like I need to have a bm but there's nothing in there(sry lol). Temp 99.3 by 9am. While laying down, suddenly entire body had a warm buzzing feeling, like a ghost was pulling a really cozy blanket over my whole body lol, weird. SLEEP! DH off work today, napped during the day from 2-6pm, then in bed by 11pmand slept til 7am(waking once at 3am of course!)! I NEVER do this anymore! Not since I was pregnant with dd!
11dpo - still af cramps but wayyy less intense than previous days. Bbs don't seem sore at all. Flatline temps. Temp 99.5 at 11am. Nauseas, hot flashes. Bloated but in a weird way, not uncomfortably but very tight/round feeling? Bbs ACHE horribly at night. Not really tender, but my Whole chest, soo achey! & Never thought frequent pee breaks was a real tww symptom until today!
12dpo - 5th flatline temp. Bbs not tender but random aches. Feeling good this am surprisingly, normally by now af cramps would be getting intense! Pit in stomach, cramps, like muscles won't stop stretching. Nausea. Backache. No af gurgles (usually am gurgling almost constantly by now). Random stabs in nips. Also note, no increased cm from 9-12dpo. It is exactly like af cm! No ib either, which I DID have my last pregnancy. Very quick sharp pains, very annoying dull af cramps. Abdomen is taught & tight. Headache. BFP NO HOLD!! WHAT?!
13dpo - so far this morning, nothing. Aside from again waking at 3am, then 7am(I have woken up at these two times consecutively since about 8dpo) and being up for the morning.. I feel nothing. Bbs don't hurt this morning, no nausea. I feel great!
And one last "symptom".. This entire tww my hair has been SO DAMN GREASY! This does NOT happen to me, my hair is beautiful and healthy and thick and NOT GREASY like, ever. It's also never been a pregnancy thing for me..Well currently, I can't find a way to control this crap, i look like I don't take care of my head :(
and one last thing, I kept 2 different chart scenarios this cycle, as my temping times have been a tiny bit off (normal temping time started at 6am post o, then ended up being more like 7-8am post o bc of new waking times after 6dpo!). I don't usually adjust my temps, but due to the later temping time I did keep a chart with adjusted times, one chart is triphasic, one is not. The link is to the triphasic chart, the pic is off the adjusted chart (last open circle is just bc I didn't change time when I entered data). I'm posting both of them to show that 1)not being triphasic doesn't mean you aren't pregnant! And 2) adjusting your temps is not really necessary unless theres a couple hours difference between temping times. Generally, you will still see the same pattern if you temp in the same fashion (first waking after deepest sleep!), regardless of a 1-2 hr time different in temping!
& im not going anywhere, this pregnancy isn't promised yet and even if it is I've got 6months to try and figure out the gender before the gender scan (nub theory, ramzi theory anyone?!) so there is still plenty of obsessing left to do!(;