I'm so glad I found this site - it's become my secret obsession, and I love reading all your posts. I wish you ladies had your own practice so I could be your patient! Anyway, I am 44 and DH and I are ttc for the first time. Yes, late bloomers here. I am in excellent health, got my bloodwork results the last week, and was thrilled to discover that the baby factory is still open. My gyno has a huge practice that has a specialty in ART. Here's where I am confused:
I first went for a consult with my gyno, and of course he gave me all the grim statistics for my age - difficulty conceiving, chance of m/c, complications, chromosomal abnormalities, etc. Most of all, he emphasized that at this point, we would have to be very aggressive in our approach. This was before my bloodwork was done.
Flash forward a few weeks, and I'm on the phone with the nurse. She reports that my hormone levels are "beautiful" and "excellent" - no reason not to just go for it. I ask her what's next, and she tells me to relax and buy some sexy lingerie. I want to know if the doc wants to see me, so that we can plan this "aggressive approach", but she says that there's nothing to do at this point except "let go and let God."
Now, maybe this is one of those times when one should simply take yes for an answer. It is true that DH and I have not exactly been ttc. I've been charting my cycle for the last two years, doing OPKs, so I know when I ovulate. It's clockwork. And when I look back on my Period Log, I see that we have really *not* been BDing during my fertile time. If anything, we've been avoiding that week. I think - I'm not sure - that the doctor knows this. The truth is, every time I go there, it's like the first time. I have no idea if he's reviewed my chart or even taken note of the fact that we haven't really tried yet. I know you're supposed to give it a certain amount of months before they pronounce you in need of help, and that the older you are, the shorter that time should be - ie, in your 20s, you try for a year, and if no result, time for technology. At my age, I understand the window is muuuuch shorter. 3 months, as my doc tells it.
But here's the thing: I'm a little concerned that he didn't even want to see me. I feel a little paranoid, like he's writing me off. Like, "if this old broad can conceive, fine, but I want no part of what rough beast might spring from her ancient womb..."
I guess I'm a little pensive, because AF is supposed to arrive on Sat/Sun. This is our second cycle of TTC. We DTD every other day the week of my O. I'm doing acupuncture, taking maca, green drink, Mucinex, Pre-Seed, lying still for 1 hour after sex...throwing everything at this, basically. Oh, and of course, wearing my sexy lingerie!
Desperately hoping for a miracle. Thanks for taking the time to read. Baby dust to all you wonderful women.