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Age 39 BFP after giving up

Hi ladies! I've lurked here for months and promised myself I'd post if I ever had a bfp. I want to encourage the over 35 chicks who are ttc.
I'm 39, hubby is 34. I have 4 from previous marriage current ages are 20,18,14, and 12.
Hubs and I wanted a baby, I removed Mirena in Jan 2016. I temped, charted, peed on ovulation sticks, took vitamins and BD'd whether we felt like it or not.
Month after month I got my hopes up, then nothing. One evap line gave us 24 hours of false hope. I had smoked for years, had ovarian cysts, and my mother was menopausal early. I accepted that this meant that I'm probably not fertile and I gave up on ttc when my periods became irregular. Every time my period was late, I was elated, only to be crushed with a neg test.
My employer has great infertility benefits, but I decided that approaching age 40, that the chances weren't great and i couldn't go through the emotional turmoil of infertility treatments. Every month really made me feel like a failure.
We stopped all the temp taking, charting, opk, and timing BD. We bought a house and broke it in ONCE during my cycle. It was CD 14, for those of you that track that. My cycle was between 22 and 40 days long.

5 days dpo: acne flare up, not unusual for me, but worse than normal.

12-14 days dpo: I was emotional and weepy during a particularly difficult week at work, chalked it up to pms and anxiety. I had a sore throat and thought it was a summer virus.
15 dpo: missed period, didn't care, work is too rough this week to think about anything else.
16 dpo: breasts not fitting in bra, no tenderness
17&18 dpo: fall asleep at 8 pm, grateful for the sleep.
19 20 21 dpo: pants tough to button, breats are quite full. I suspect another ovarian cyst is messing with me, or that the dreaded perimenopause is in full swing.
21 dpo: stop home beiefly and take a quick pg test before making ob appt for the ovarian cyst, because i know they will ask about pg possibility.
I've taken so many negative ones that I barely even glanced at it.
It was positive. Bright bold blue unmistakably positive.
Hang in there, girls.

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Ok, that brought a tear to my eye. Hanging in there. Congrats!!

I am still only just turning 26 in 2 weeks. We have been trying for a little over two years and already feel defeated. Seeing the negatives month after month seems to be killing me. But then theres you...a success story. Maybe it really does take "not worrying about it" and just saying whatever...I am SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!

Thank you both so much for the kind words! I'm hoping to read your story soon!
*update: early ultrasound showed one baby with heartbeat . It also revealed that I do indeed have a heterogeneous ovarian cyst on one side, and the corpus luteum cyst on the other side, as well. The abdominal pain and bloating masked the early pg symptoms, just in case anyone has a history of cysts.
I know the tww is really difficult, and gets worse with each month. I wish I had some advice besides "try not to think about it." But seriously, I was really obsessive for over a year of two week waiting, and it wasn't helpful. It didn't get me pg, and it just made me feel rotten.
Good luck!

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