BD during AF?

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Do you ever BD during AF?

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BD during AF?

Postby twilightt » Tue Oct 07, 2008 1:33 pm

I feel like being nosey!
me and dh sometimes BD during :af: but not as often when AF isn't here.
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Postby Crunchy » Wed Oct 08, 2008 6:53 am

Alright, I'll be the brave one here. We rarely BD during :af: and its by my choice not his. I honestly cannot stand the mess. Even if I'm on the lightest of days, all of a sudden out of no where theres a gush of blood afterwards and we both end up looking like we're in a slasher flick - Sorry for the TMI. And yes I know there are "other ways" but thats actually really painful for me at that time of the month. >sigh<
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Postby twilightt » Wed Oct 08, 2008 12:03 pm

yeah it's my choice as well! it doesn't bug me all that much...but i know what you mean about the mess :roll:
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Postby MegsRemainsHopeful » Fri Oct 10, 2008 4:32 am

:lol: If I'm even thinking af will arrive dh won't touch me with a 10 foot pole!!!! haha! It SO grosses him out and to be honest, me too when it's full blown AF. Now, if I'm barely spotting I wouldn't mind... Oh, the joys of my husband. :-)
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Postby Wishing4BabyG » Fri Oct 10, 2008 8:07 am

LOL. Its RARE. Usually with AF I have bad cramps and heavy bleeding. It would be soooooooo messy. Now, if I'm spotting, then Yeah! Bring it on!!
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Postby mommaspeck » Wed Oct 15, 2008 12:48 pm

towards the end, sure why not! LOL
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Postby kez71 » Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:26 pm

LOL..not day one or day 2..but its not so messy after that..even so..its still rare


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Postby sapphiresmagik » Fri Oct 17, 2008 3:47 am

Crunchy LOL...I am the same way, DH is not phased by much but it does feel like there should be some cheesy slasher film music playing in the background, but I must admit it is great for easing cramps, and the times when :af: is just hanging out with spots, it knocks her out of the park!
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Postby wombwarrior » Sun Oct 19, 2008 10:45 pm

If I'm even thinking af will arrive dh won't touch me with a 10 foot pole!!!! haha! It SO grosses him out and to be honest, me too when it's full blown AF

Same here!!

I can't stand the smell of it let alone the look of it so thats enough to turn me off. I could imagine his face seeing my legs, bed, sheets and worse still his man parts covered in blood, oh yuck. Now if he was Hanibal Lectur I am sure he would love it and not see a thing wrong with it lol. I love my sex but not enough I can't hold out a couple of days an wait till the slate is clean!!!

Different strokes for different fokes I guess
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Postby jeniferslp » Wed Oct 29, 2008 7:30 pm

I used to toward the end but I have such a terrible history of UTI's that I won't chance it anymore :shock: Nothing (well, almost nothing) is worth that pain arghhhh
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Postby Meemer » Thu Oct 30, 2008 5:07 am

This is so funny cuz last night my dh wanted to bd, and I started af Sunday (I think) and had it off and on until Tues morning, but have still been spotting off and on and still feel like there's stuff going on up in there and just not coming out, but anyway, when I'm on af I will not let dh touch me. I feel so disgusting and not in the mood at all!
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Postby peachy_sweet » Thu Dec 18, 2008 10:37 pm

I know this is sort of a old post, but I had to put my two cents I don't know if its just me, but I'm extremely horny during af the fiance use to have a preoblem woht it, but now he's all for it. He knows it helps relieves my cramps and makes me less irritable. Did you know if you take a bath or shower you have like a 30min window b4 af start flowing again. And sometimes I tell the fiance to use a condom. It won't get on him if she starts up and less of a mess. How about this, and I think its so dangerous, I haave a friend that uses the lil o.b. tampons when have sex on her cycle. Who told her that was safe. That has got to be the most uncomfortable thing in the world.
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Postby Lisa79 » Fri Dec 19, 2008 7:10 pm

We have once and neither of us enjoyed it very much. I know the thought of all that blood everywhere kinda grosses us both out, and not to get too gross, but it would be super BLEH if he had uh... "chunks" left on his willy.. rofl.
I get super horny most of the time during AF as well and so does he for that matter, but... we can wait lol.
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Postby ghostlykisses » Mon Nov 23, 2009 12:57 pm

I am another one who avoids it because of the mess. I just don't want to have to clean up a crime scene when we are done LOL My DH really does not care but I do. Sometimes near the end or at the start when things are light we BD. Usually at the end I am really in the mood for some reason.
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Postby PleaseBPreggersPatty » Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:43 pm

We BD during AF. Just not day 2. Its pretty light except for that day. I'm also very much in the mood during AF LOL! He used to think it was gross but doesnt care anymore. We just put a towel down b/c i am not willing to stain our sheets! :D
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