Well I really tried to make this post not so long but I think its impossible lol...
I am tracking with Ovia app, and so far this cycle we have BD'd on the following days:
CD 5,6,8,10,12,13, 14 (2x), 16 & 17(today)!!
We agreed that we were going to BD at least every other day so we don't miss my window (I guess we did even a bit more than that). Then last night DH confessed that he has still been masturbating, even with this insane amount of sex we've been having!
He has confessed to me in the past that he does masturbate A LOT, and while it bothered me at first he does enjoy sex too so I've just accepted its just something he does on his own time when he is horny and I'm not around. But since we started TTC and have stepped up our game to BD almost everyday, I never really thought he would still have needs beyond that!! When I told him that he just said 'Well, I'm like the Energizer Bunny!' I know this is true because he is usually still hard after sex and can just go again (which can be a good thing
) But in the case of TTC, I am worried this is going to be an issue. From what I have read it seems most sources say that daily ejaculation is actually healthy, so I wasn't even really worried about if he did it on days we don't BD. But what if its 2 or 3 or more times a day!!!???
I am just glad that DH was honest and brought this to my attention early on. He said that he CAN control it but made it seem like he wanted a set calendar of when we are going to have sex so then he knows if he should refrain...but I told him I've been trying to at least keep a little spontaneity! But part of the problem is he goes to work at 7:30 am, so he gets up around 6. He wakes up with his morning wood and so he often can't help it but to take care of that. I am NEVER up that early...like not even half awake. So I suppose if he really finds it difficult to refrain in the morning I can try to wake up with him even a couple of days a week, I mean we could BD and then I could just go back to sleep lol. Today he left for his physical training (which is 3x a week), and he comes home around 8:30 to shower which is when I usually get up. We often have a 'quickie' during that time before we both go to work. So he asked me this morn if there was time and I said 'Oh, did you not already have sex this morning?' (I said it jokingly, not like I was angry or something) and he said that he almost did but that he did refrain. So at least I know he can!
Anyways...before I type a whole novel, I guess I am just wondering what to do next. I think we could compromise and say maybe a couple days he refrains in the morn and then we BD later, and a couple other days I can try to wake up early to BD with him then. But doing that seems like we really will have a BD schedule. Also, I haven't done OPK's or anything yet as he wasn't into doing any of that, but now I want to try to get him on board. That way we don't have to worry about him refraining so much all the time, and just when I'm actually fertile. But then again I was advised not to tell him when I'm fertile, to avoid putting pressure on him
Anyone else dealt with this? Anyone still get a BFP even though DH masturbates? Any thoughts/suggestions/advice are appreciated