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Why am I feeling selfish!

Postby Amy233 » Wed Jun 14, 2017 11:28 am

Feeling guilty about writing this post. I've got a beautiful two year old and I'm struggling to conceive. First time around wasn't fun to be honest, took a long long time with m/c along the way. Been trying for 7 months now for a second and it's just not happening. All those feelings I had before of monthly disappointment, bitterness and jealousy have come creeping back. I keep telling myself I should be grateful for my darling daughter (which of course I am!) but I really want her to have a sibling. I feel so selfish like firstly I'm betraying her and secondly because I'm blessed to even have one child! I had terrible anxiety my first pregnancy because I just couldn't believe it was true and I'm desperate to feel pregnant again. Friends have kind of given up asking me about it as it's become a sensitive issue and my husband keeps positive and says maybe next month. Grateful for any words of wisdom! ☺️
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Re: Why am I feeling selfish!

Postby Momma-of4 » Wed Jun 14, 2017 1:28 pm

Hang in there and don't feel selfish at all. It's completely normal to have those feelings but you aren't selfish. I had 4 kids and wanted a fifth and final it took me 18 months to conceive my 5 and I had similar feelings as well bc I already had 4 kids but I really really wanted one more. It was a struggle but I finally got pregnant. There's nothing wrong with wanting more kids! Hang in there hun and I hope it happens soon for you.
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Re: Why am I feeling selfish!

Postby SEL » Thu Jun 15, 2017 10:55 am

Nah, you're not being selfish. You mirrored my feelings exactly.
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Re: Why am I feeling selfish!

Postby jessietardiff » Thu Jun 22, 2017 12:12 am

I think its normal to feel this way. Just hang in there.

I'm with you. trying to conceive for 16 months now. have 1/2 & 2 year old, never expected it to be so emotionally draining or difficult.

I just don't understand why can't i do this!! three of my friend are currently pregnant and trust me i am trying so hard to be happy for them but i don't know why i feel very excluded and totally gutted.

Its nice to write it down to others who are going through the same as difficult for family or friends to just understand.
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