donor sperm face resemblence problem

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donor sperm face resemblence problem

Postby dan.areez » Thu Jul 05, 2018 10:51 am

hi all,
my dh is azoospermic, so after 13 years of fertility treatments, failed ivfs, failed micro teses.
we used dh's friend's sperm to concieve, now my son is 11 months,
but one very depressing thought always crops our mind, what if any one discovers our way of parenthood, my childs face has a remarkable resemblence to the donor, and the donor just lives couple of blocks from us,he is a regular visitor to our house. we live in a joint family with my inlaws, please suggest me how should we deal with this, husband is very upset, we live in a conservative family, no one is going to take this news easy,if we disclose it, so we have no option of telling any one. please give suggestions how should i deal, i am thakful for advices, can also mail me on dan.iran8543@gmail.com
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Re: donor sperm face resemblence problem

Postby Danaa » Thu Jul 05, 2018 11:02 am

No one will ever know if you don’t say anything or the donor.
There is no reason for people to think that your son might be someone else’s, also the boy is so young and kids do change.
My advice to you is to don’t even think about it .
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Re: donor sperm face resemblence problem

Postby dan.areez » Fri Jul 06, 2018 3:38 am

thanx for the support
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Re: donor sperm face resemblence problem

Postby GKR_1985 » Fri Jul 06, 2018 6:48 am

I would agree. There is no reason to disclose it if you don't want to. If someone ever does find out and confronts you, I would just tell them "Do you love this baby any less because of how they were made?" They are still the same little baby boy! The same grandchild they have always known and loved. Would they rather not have this wonderful baby in their lives? Sadly the realty is this is how he had to be born and I would ask that they accept that and still love him as much as they ever did. Hopefully that helps. Your situation is hard!
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