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Take it as a sign.

Postby Susy07 » Wed Aug 03, 2011 7:20 am

Grr, it really rubs me the wrong way when people say that inferility should be taken as a sign that you're not ready for kids! What about all the people that get pregnant by accident and end up aborting, were THEY ready?! I don't think it's fair to judge a person's ability to handle something based on their hormone levels!! UGHHH
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Re: Take it as a sign.

Postby unaffected » Wed Aug 03, 2011 7:38 am

Susy07 wrote:Grr, it really rubs me the wrong way when people say that inferility should be taken as a sign that you're not ready for kids! What about all the people that get pregnant by accident and end up aborting, were THEY ready?! I don't think it's fair to judge a person's ability to handle something based on their hormone levels!! UGHHH


Ugh. I would NOT be able to hold my tongue if I heard someone say such a thing. People are idiots sometimes!
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Postby Susy07 » Wed Aug 03, 2011 7:40 am

Ugggh. And this lady isn't ignorant. She's quite educated. But fertile, I guess. I think it's funny that all the fertiles think infertiles should do this or that. I have a friend who says she wouldn't do clomid or anything, just adopt. Right, so you'd jump to the 30 000 dollar option and skip the 30 dollar option, and a shot at having biological children?
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Postby unaffected » Wed Aug 03, 2011 7:45 am

It's so easy to say what you'd do when you aren't in the situation, I suppose. She should be very thankful she has never had to deal with infertility, instead of running her mouth about things she knows nothing about, imo! :)
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Postby Susy07 » Wed Aug 03, 2011 7:50 am

amen.
It just makes me so mad knowing she's sitting there thinking I must not have been ready til now. Oh really? Last cycle, not ready. This cycle, suddenly ready? Does she think I can handle less than she can?!

GRRR I want to shake people.
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Postby michelelm » Wed Aug 03, 2011 9:32 am

Maybe I'm just extra moody today, but I'd like her name and address please, so I can ring her doorbell and punch her in the nose :wiggle:

More seriously speaking though, I wish people could have some empathy and actually feel what their words do to other people. Even if you really believed such a crazy thought, why would you say it to someone who is or has struggled with infertility and cause such pain. That thought process is completely illogical and completely cold hearted.
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Postby BandLady » Wed Aug 03, 2011 11:30 am

You have so much self-control - I would have punched this woman in the face. I had a friend make a rude comment to me *one time* about my early morning doc appointments and how much time I had to spend being monitored... well, after I got through with her, that was the LAST time she ever made a comment like that. To her credit, she took that as an opportunity to read up on all things infertility and even researched how to support a friend who was going through it. I wish all people were that kind.

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Postby Tanise77 » Thu Aug 04, 2011 2:19 am

OMG! You're right BandLady! I wish they were that nice! My grandmother and even sometimes my DH say I should just give up and get my stuff taken out because it's broken! Even in our marriage counseling before marriage, the minister went over the fact that babies were a gift from God and fertility only happens for God-fearing men and women! Real hit to the stomach to think I'm not a "good enough" person to enjoy what I see crack heads ignoring all the time!! ARGH!!
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Postby meggola » Fri Aug 05, 2011 6:33 am

:mad: That kind of stuff really ticks me off! Like all the crackheads getting pregnant are free of sin and/or ready to have kids? Sure. It seriously makes me want to hit people over the head and tell them to shut the h up!
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Postby BlackAngelPlayah » Sat Aug 13, 2011 5:23 pm

People have a problem of thinking they know everything and usually don't know SQUAT. I hate people who have kids- or who never wanted any kids, or who gave up on kids, who can just bluntly say. "Well, everybody's not meant to have kids." Or... Just plain stupidity.. People need to just.. THINK before they speak. I don't know if they think they're making you feel better.. Or what? But... People have no idea what it's like to see addicts and 13 year olds just gettting pregnant all willy-nilly... But here you are, an adult making a conscious decision to have a child.. I mean.. You're READY! Married.. And you don't... How the heck is that right? Kinda blows their theory out of the water doesn't it...

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Postby LaraE » Sun Aug 14, 2011 12:05 pm

who the hell would say something like that/??
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Postby Alyce » Sun Aug 28, 2011 8:47 pm

michelelm wrote:Maybe I'm just extra moody today, but I'd like her name and address please, so I can ring her doorbell and punch her in the nose :wiggle:

More seriously speaking though, I wish people could have some empathy and actually feel what their words do to other people. Even if you really believed such a crazy thought, why would you say it to someone who is or has struggled with infertility and cause such pain. That thought process is completely illogical and completely cold hearted.


LMAO! just like in the movie "what happens in vegas"-
"whyy???" "YOU KNOW WHY!!"

i wonder if anyone gets what im talking about.. hmm

but seriously.. i have a friend who reckons she used to be addicted to drugs (she makes things up all the time so i doubt its true) and she said that she would never go on clomid because she would get addicted. (i can just picture her on the street "shooting up" ground up clomid up her arm!!)
i was like, how could you get addicted to clomid? it doesnt make you high or anything, i dont know how you could enjoy the feeling of being moody, bloated and discusting so much to be addicted to it!! so i suppose you can't take vitamins either?
why are people SO stupid?!?!
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