Infertility and Divorce..

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Postby saaapabon » Fri Nov 18, 2011 11:18 pm

wow, i couldnt read and run either... I wanted to say that TTC killed my first marriage, however it wasn't just TCC, it was the lack of support and overall compassion. I picked up the pieces and i moved on and I am so proud to be the wife of the worlds best husband. He is loving caring and compassionate, and we stand fighting infertility holding eachother, there are many wonderful men out there. As far as your eggs, I was part of a research study testing follistim for boosting egg quality, and our trial was successful the very first round. it will be follistim from here on out for us. i wish you all the luck and blessings in the world :: hugs ::
I have a long history of ttc & miscarriage. many tears have been shed, however today, I'm celebrating new life and only thinking about today as we welcome baby #4

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Postby Ravyndancer » Thu Dec 29, 2011 4:43 pm

Sending the OP happy vibes! I hope it all works out for the best!

I just wanted to say something about that 'fat' comment.... I'm wondering if maybe that poster was from a different culture? English as a second language? Just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. I don't believe she meant to offend you. x

Hope you're all right!
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby daisy177 » Fri Jul 21, 2017 2:57 am

Am_ma wrote:so my dh is ready to throw in the towel... not just ttc but all together. He said he is too old to keep dealing with "my issues" and he doesnt want to waste the rest of his life going to doctors. he comes from a very large family (8 siblings) and he always wanted a house full of kids.... he sees me as sub-human I guess cause I cant give him what he wants, and even though I think that is a bit selfish on his part, I cant really blame him. it hurts really bad but its true, I think its for the best. We tried so many years for our ds and I've tried everything they've given me and then some. I dont understand how I can have bad eggs and they not detect it.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Hope you doing fine now. Can you give us any update on what happened after that? and any suggestions or advice you think you should give to other based on your experience? That will be a great help to others.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby Trina09 » Tue Oct 10, 2017 2:38 am

I'm so sorry. Unfortunately, men can be so selfish. I know a lot of couples, which divorced because of infertility. But, as for me, it is not a reason to break up at all. Infertile couples have such options as adoption, IVF, surrogacy. If people really love each other and want to have a baby, they find an option. Did you try to discuss this with your DH? What is his opinion about surrogacy? This is a great chance to get your biological baby. If he doesn't want to find the solution, may be it is really time to break up. I'm sure you will find someone special. You just need a little bit support and love to succeed. Women are so sensitive. We are unable to get pregnant if we live in a negative atmosphere. Stay positive and you will get what you deserve.
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Re: Infertility and Divorce..

Postby LindaJons » Tue Oct 10, 2017 3:09 am

My first husband was 10 years older than me. We got married when I was 25. I can't say that I wanted to have kids at that time, but we were TTC. My husband was always saying that he is getting older and he wants to have a son. We divorced when I was 31. He just packed his clothes and left. We had no kids. It happened 10 years ago and I know that he is still single and has no kids. I got married one more time. My second husband is 5 years younger than me. And we have two amazing kids. When we were getting married he wasn't afraid that I wouldn't get pregnant. He was always supporting me and he promised to find the solution. And he did it. After the honeymoon he started his research. He found the best reproduction center and we have gone through different tests. You know, I wasn't depressed any more. I knew that this man is my soulmate and he cares of our family. As a result, we have our amazing twin boys, which look like my husband. They were born 6 months ago. My husband found the surrogate mother to help us with the delivery. But the kids are genetically related to both of us. This service is getting more and more popular nowadays. I'm very glad that my husband found it. The only thing I regret is that I didn't meet this man when I was 25. But we have so much time ahead. I'm sure it's time to be happy.
I told you my story to explain that you still can change your life. You don't have to live with someone who doesn't love you. You have to be happy. I wish you all the best, dear. Kisses!!!
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