Infertility and Divorce..

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Postby saaapabon » Fri Nov 18, 2011 11:18 pm

wow, i couldnt read and run either... I wanted to say that TTC killed my first marriage, however it wasn't just TCC, it was the lack of support and overall compassion. I picked up the pieces and i moved on and I am so proud to be the wife of the worlds best husband. He is loving caring and compassionate, and we stand fighting infertility holding eachother, there are many wonderful men out there. As far as your eggs, I was part of a research study testing follistim for boosting egg quality, and our trial was successful the very first round. it will be follistim from here on out for us. i wish you all the luck and blessings in the world :: hugs ::
I have a long history of ttc & miscarriage. many tears have been shed, however today, I'm celebrating new life and only thinking about today as we welcome baby #4


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Postby Ravyndancer » Thu Dec 29, 2011 4:43 pm

Sending the OP happy vibes! I hope it all works out for the best!

I just wanted to say something about that 'fat' comment.... I'm wondering if maybe that poster was from a different culture? English as a second language? Just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. I don't believe she meant to offend you. x

Hope you're all right!
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Postby daisy177 » Fri Jul 21, 2017 2:57 am

Am_ma wrote:so my dh is ready to throw in the towel... not just ttc but all together. He said he is too old to keep dealing with "my issues" and he doesnt want to waste the rest of his life going to doctors. he comes from a very large family (8 siblings) and he always wanted a house full of kids.... he sees me as sub-human I guess cause I cant give him what he wants, and even though I think that is a bit selfish on his part, I cant really blame him. it hurts really bad but its true, I think its for the best. We tried so many years for our ds and I've tried everything they've given me and then some. I dont understand how I can have bad eggs and they not detect it.


I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Hope you doing fine now. Can you give us any update on what happened after that? and any suggestions or advice you think you should give to other based on your experience? That will be a great help to others.
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Postby LindaJons » Tue Oct 10, 2017 3:09 am

My first husband was 10 years older than me. We got married when I was 25. I can't say that I wanted to have kids at that time, but we were TTC. My husband was always saying that he is getting older and he wants to have a son. We divorced when I was 31. He just packed his clothes and left. We had no kids. It happened 10 years ago and I know that he is still single and has no kids. I got married one more time. My second husband is 5 years younger than me. And we have two amazing kids. When we were getting married he wasn't afraid that I wouldn't get pregnant. He was always supporting me and he promised to find the solution. And he did it. After the honeymoon he started his research. He found the best reproduction center and we have gone through different tests. You know, I wasn't depressed any more. I knew that this man is my soulmate and he cares of our family. As a result, we have our amazing twin boys, which look like my husband. They were born 6 months ago. My husband found the surrogate mother to help us with the delivery. But the kids are genetically related to both of us. This service is getting more and more popular nowadays. I'm very glad that my husband found it. The only thing I regret is that I didn't meet this man when I was 25. But we have so much time ahead. I'm sure it's time to be happy.
I told you my story to explain that you still can change your life. You don't have to live with someone who doesn't love you. You have to be happy. I wish you all the best, dear. Kisses!!!
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Postby Amouna87 » Fri Dec 15, 2017 1:19 am

The post above us SPAM and has been reported
When the world says "give up", hope whispers "try it one more time"
2 years TTC #1
Me (28) DH (28)
Me: So far so good thank God
DH- Low morphology (2%) & slightly below average count (18mill/ml) everything else okay

HSG Feb 15: All good


Always praying so hard for our BFP!



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Postby NewlyWed_Z » Fri Dec 15, 2017 5:15 am

You're a spam detective! Love it :D
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Postby Amouna87 » Fri Dec 15, 2017 7:53 am

Hahaha it makes me so angry!! i swear there has been more since I started reporting them lol!xx
When the world says "give up", hope whispers "try it one more time"
2 years TTC #1
Me (28) DH (28)
Me: So far so good thank God
DH- Low morphology (2%) & slightly below average count (18mill/ml) everything else okay

HSG Feb 15: All good


Always praying so hard for our BFP!



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Postby littlebeastshaya » Thu May 24, 2018 3:05 pm

Hi there. hope you are in the best of your health. I am sorry that you have to go through such a time in your life. Life is hard. It is sad to see people going through such a thing. I think you should try to convince him. It is not about the struggles. It is what you can do in these struggles. I hope he comes around. I pray for you.
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Postby sidneywhite » Tue May 29, 2018 10:01 am

Am_ma wrote:so my dh is ready to throw in the towel... not just ttc but all together. He said he is too old to keep dealing with "my issues" and he doesnt want to waste the rest of his life going to doctors. he comes from a very large family (8 siblings) and he always wanted a house full of kids.... he sees me as sub-human I guess cause I cant give him what he wants, and even though I think that is a bit selfish on his part, I cant really blame him. it hurts really bad but its true, I think its for the best. We tried so many years for our ds and I've tried everything they've given me and then some. I dont understand how I can have bad eggs and they not detect it.

Sorry to hear about it dear. It seems your husband has no humanity. How can a person such a cruel. Being infertile is not a crime. There are other options to have a baby like surrogacy and IVF. I am also an infertile. My husband supports me. We have a surrogate child. I hope you will find the happiness soon.
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Postby BellaJones » Wed May 30, 2018 11:44 am

Hey there. I am really sorry to hear about it. I hope you are going well. I hope things get better for you. I know it must be hard. I had been through this. Support is very crucial. Please be strong and positive. Take care good luck.
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Postby hannahdavid » Wed May 30, 2018 12:09 pm

This makes me so emotional. I honestly think that infertility journey can get even worse when your own people are not there to support you. It is very sad that your husband makes you feel that way. I don't have words to express how sad I am. I think you should still not give up and keep trying. Look into assisted conceptions and see if they can help you. Also, the mental trauma that he is making you go through I would suggest that you visit a therapist. I am sure he/she will at least make you a much more stable person.
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Postby Penka » Wed May 30, 2018 9:04 pm

Sorry to hear about your such condition. I am also infertile but my husband supports me. Trying to conceive is such a difficult part of my married life.I am ttc from last 10 years.Still i don't have any luck with it.
There is no specfic cause of my infertility.I have gone through several medical tests regaring infertility but doctors can't decide the main cause for my infertility.So they have called me infertile for life.
I want a baby too badly as i have been trying to conceive from the last decade.I am looking for other alternatives to have a baby.I have looked into a numbe rof options like adoption,surrogacy.
I have came to know from many forums about surrogacy. i heard many infertile women going for surrogacy.People on forum are discussing mostly about surrogacy,People discuss about clinics mostly.
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Postby hellen03 » Thu May 31, 2018 5:57 am

I hope that you are enjoying your life. So sorry for your miscarriage and infertility. Life is hard for a lady and society makes it harder. You'd convince your DH if you really want to proceed. Try hard to overcome this issue. All you can do is to remain hopeful and keep on moving smoothly. I hope your wish will be fulfilled very soon!
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Postby Alana90 » Thu May 31, 2018 11:02 am

Just felt like someone made a picture of my life. I can feel you. The same thing happens with me. I just don't understand what our fault. This could have happened to anyone. Even the male could be at fault. And if that's would be the case what he would have done. Should we have rights to leave our DH as well? This is just so heartbreaking. Marriage is all about understanding and supporting. You must support each other in odds and evens. You must try to get over things. Or you should look for the alternatives where you could have your baby. Hoping for all good. I am suggesting this to you based on my personal experience.
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Postby annataylor1 » Thu May 31, 2018 1:02 pm

Hey. I am feeling sad and happy at the same time about you. My dear where there is will there is a way. I really want to appreciate your willpower. I will pray for the health of your family. May your family and you always be in peace.
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