Most annoying infertility comments

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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby I Dream » Sun Nov 24, 2013 11:55 pm

The relax, it will happen when you stop trying is one I get the most.

The one that has bothered me most since I started seriously considering trying though is actually from other TTC women who get so bitter about learning someone else is pregnant. I am TTC my first at 30, so I fully expect it to take a bit longer than someone in their 20s, and do sometimes mentally kick myself for not trying sooner, but it's no ones fault if I never have children and I refuse to let it control my life. I love babies and pregnancy news, whether they have been trying 1 month, 5 years or it was just a surprise, if the parent/s happy I think it's wonderful and am all too happy to share in their excitement...more babies for me to cuddle can only be a positive IMO :)
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby Newzealand » Mon Nov 25, 2013 9:43 pm

Your too skinny, if you put on some weight you'll get pregnant.
I'm just so fertile, i just have to look at a guy.. I just feel so bad that i get pregnant so easy when YOU cannot. i wish i could give you my fertility.
Get drunk and you'll get pregnant (my friends mum yelled at a party infront of everyone)
Go on holiday
Stop trying you just need to relax.. or you just need to forget about... (coz it's so easy just to forget about everything you think about every minute of everyday..especially when i work at a baby store!)
I will be a surrogate for you- been offered by two different friends
It's not meant to be, it will happen when the time is right blah blah
You need to: (insert advice here about sexual positions & stuff the people know nothing about.. don't you think i tried that all in the past 16 months!!!!)
You can do ivf.. (well do you want to pay for it and also do the injections for me coz ivf is so simple & easy)
You can always adopt
My friend had infertility blah blah...goes onto a story of a person, who knows a person who got pregnant when they were told they would never have kids
Your so young, you have heaps of time it will happen
You know you can have a miscarriage at anytime so don't get too happy when you get pregnant coz you could loose it
Maybe your not supposed to have kids
You can have my kids... (i don't want your brats i want my own lol)
My favourite of the week: i wrote on a friends baby photo cute i want one (i guess i was asking for it) she wrote: They're quite easy to mak

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It wasn't meant to be there was something wrong with the baby
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby Mdoe1977 » Mon Dec 30, 2013 2:44 pm

Had a bad one the other day- 'You are lucky you get to do IVF. You'll have a better shot at having twins'. Said to me by someone who has been TTC for two months and apparently wants twins.

I was speechless.
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby randapanda » Mon Dec 30, 2013 2:53 pm

Wow, that was a bit harsh.
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby kindergartenteacher » Mon Dec 30, 2013 8:39 pm

Over Christmas my Grandpa said in front of the whole family...thank God my DH wasn't there..."Have your hubby come talk to me...I teach him how to get things done"......Ummmm no thanks grandpa.
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby Riteous » Thu Jan 02, 2014 2:38 pm

Christmas Day - at a friends house who also has fertility issues and is currently fostering 2 kids... After spending time with these 2 are you sure you even want kids anymore...

I'm like really - this coming from a person who also struggles with infertility but just hasn't gone as far as I have with treatments...
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby randapanda » Thu Jan 02, 2014 7:44 pm

NYE my mil knows that I have been MUA on AF for 2 months and goes on to say this at McDonalds in front of the cashier........"you must be pregnant, after all you are starting to show and have a little bump".....uhhh no, as I have taken EPTs and its taken us almost a year to have our DS after a mc, no I am just fat and trying to lose weight yet found more with high BP.

My mil has had three kids and apparently got back into her shape until she got on her medication for whatever it is she needs it for.
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby mountainbaby » Fri Jan 03, 2014 3:53 am

kindergarten teacher - the grandad comment, unbelievable!!

Some advice from a nearly 60 year old who has two grown up boys and a baby granddaughter - 'Have sex every day for a month and then you will definately get pregnant.' If only it was that easy!!
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby scubaturtles » Mon Jan 06, 2014 2:26 pm

In my 20's when I wasn't wanting kids my mother at Easter time or whatever holiday would send me subtle hints with pregnancy tests. I eventually told her to stop, I was't ready yet.

Later, when I was ready, she tells me, "You're fat, maybe losing weight will help."

From various "helpful friends": "Stop trying. Stop thinking about it. It will happen." Ok, yeah, tried that and nothing happened, thanks for that advice! "Pray to God, he will deliver." Ok, this one really irks me. While I am not a particularly religious person, don't stand there and preach to me that I have to believe a little harder for my miracle.

Mother-in law: "How much longer are you going to make me wait for a grandbaby? I'm not getting any younger." No, really? As if I am at 36. I am injecting myself, eating pills, doing everything I can. Back off woman.

Lastly from a co-worker: "Maybe this is God's way of telling you that you don't need kids, especially after three failed IUIs." Wow...really? I have no words.

In conclusion, people not walking out walk have no flipping idea what we go through. It's hard to be positive all the time, and I am glad my DH understand that whereas my best friend does not. I am thankful for all of you who read my posts, and even more thankful for the ones who comment, and the one who is now a friend. Seriously, you girls make this a little easier and I thank you all.
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby Mdoe1977 » Fri Jan 10, 2014 6:47 am

Scubaturtles- dang! The coworker's comment- WTH??
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8/12/12 fibroid tumor, polyp removed
4/13/13 - 25mg clomid
5/12/13 - 50mg clomid
5/21/13- 1st IUI
7/17/13 - 2nd IUI 50 mg clomid
9/12/13 - 3rd IUI 50 mg clomid
10/14/13 - 4th IUI scheduled. 100 mg clomid
11/8/13 - surgery to have another dang polyp removed
11/12/13 - IVF consultation
2/7/14 - start stims!
2/17/14 - egg retrieval
2/22/14 - 2 perfect blastocyst, 5 day transfer
3/3/14 - I'm pregnant!!
3/12/14 - No longer pregnant :-(
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby Hopeful14 » Fri Jan 10, 2014 11:37 am

My 21 year old SIL, who got pregnant last year, said to me " it's so strange to me to think of 'trying' to have a baby...I got pregnant in the back seat of my car. It's not that hard!"
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby randapanda » Mon Jan 13, 2014 3:34 pm

Wow that is messed up
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby laomy » Thu Jan 23, 2014 9:11 am

a guy friend went on and on about how he would just have to look at his wife and they'd be pregnant again. And that I just have to relax. I can kind of forgive that because he's a guy and likely doesnt think before opening his big yapper. but still. WTF I hate that. I'm a pretty easy going chick!

luckily my mom and MIL and those close to me have been so supportive and encouraging and haven't given me those trite suggestions. my mom doesnt tell me "it'll happen when its right". instead she just says she prays for me and DH daily for a baby, which is a much nicer thing to say!!
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby TTsmommy » Thu Jan 23, 2014 12:54 pm

Ya I just got the relax it will happen. After I told her I was trying for year and half. I was like wtf. Just sounded so insensitive to me. See has 4 kids back to back.
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Re: Most annoying infertility comments

Postby ashcha » Mon Feb 10, 2014 5:03 pm

The most hurtful comment that has been repeatedly said to me by my DH's cousin who has dealt with infertility and finally had her 3rd last year after 4 years of TTC was, "You just don't want it enough yet". I just always smile and nod and "agree" with her but it just tears me apart inside. Sometimes I even begin to believe her... but how do you say that to someone?
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