Anyone else still TTC #1?

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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby TTCfortoolong2016 » Sat Aug 20, 2016 1:54 pm

Today I'm on cd12, should be right around ov time, definitely ewcm the last couple days and that familiar pressure yesterday and today (nowhere near as bad as when I was on letrazole though), so far bd on cd 5,6,8,9,11,12. Hoping and praying this month works so I don't actually have to go back to the specialist!
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby orangecat » Sat Aug 20, 2016 4:44 pm

Hey TTC
It sounds like you have had the majority of the same testing as us. What is the egg and sperm test you speak of?
I have asked for additional tests but was basically told regardless of the outcome the treatment remains the same...being ovulation induction with IUI or IVF.

It was a really easy decision for us how to proceed based on a cost point along....IUIs are costing us $90/try and can be done in our home town. IVF starts at the $10,000 mark and involves travel and a lot of time without pay away from work. IUI at best is giving us a 6-10% chance a cycle of success and they claim IVF will give us a 30% chance. We were never given the option of only fertility drugs as we've been trying for too long to warrant any real chance of success. But we were told less than 1% chance it would happen naturally and we got pregnant with our ectopic that same cycle. Stats are just stats and miracles can still happen. I try and tell myself that everyday:)

I think regardless that we O on our doctors want to give that extra push with the fertility drugs. Success of IUI without any drugs is a lot lower.

I hate taking prescription drugs of any kind and try to avoid them at all costs. I am also the queen of symptoms...if there is less than a 1% chance of a symptom I'm the 1%! I'm only on day 2 of femara and I forgot how much I hate it! Crazy nightmares last night in between my night sweats and insomnia and the headaches are killer!!

Going through the ectopic and subsequent surgery and tubal removal was the worst thing I've endured up until this point in our TTC journey. The heartache is indescribable. Our RE was thrilled knowing that I can get pregnant and wants to concentrate on that. We were forced into a 3 month break from TTC because of the methotrexate drug that gave me to stop the pregnancy. But we were strongly advised to get right to IUIs right away because of my diminished egg supply...so here we are CD 3.

Have you had your AMH and FSH levels tested? Where do you live?

I live in Saskatchewan, Canada and very fortunate to have a socialist health care system where I don't have to pay for any blood work, testing, ultrasounds, SA or doctors appointments. However no fertility drugs or treatments are covered only diagnostic testing.

Infertility is something I never anticipated would happen to me. And once it happened I never thought I would experience miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy. At some point if things don't work out I need to figure out how to walk away and if there is life after infertility.....

But for now we have to look to hope and believe it can happen!!

Hurray for EWCM!! GL the next couple days catching that egg. I'll be close by waiting for your updates! Xx
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"Unexplained Infertility" diagnosis Feb 2014
IUI- planned for May 2014
Surprise BFP April 18/2014 while waiting for IUI!
Natural miscarriage April 29/2014 - 6 weeks
IUI #1 50mg Clomid and 24 mil sperm July 4/2014= BFN
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Aug= CANCELLED due to cyst and midcycle bleed
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Oct 7/2014= BFN
2015 NOTHING
2016 New RE gives us hope
April 19/16 Ectopic Pregnancy while waiting to begin IUI again
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby TTCfortoolong2016 » Sat Aug 20, 2016 10:33 pm

Hey Orange! Last time I was at the specialist he mentioned the retrieving of eggs and they check quality as well as success of fertilization of the egg by combining with DH's sperm... Essentially what Ivf is as that's basically the next step he discussed. Have you done the swimmers test to see if they swim in the right direction? We didn't get that done as DH had good analysis but apparently that's a separate test that costs $300. I'm definitely going to be asked to be checked for endo before anything else though as Ivf will not be successful if that's a problem.
I have had Amh and fsh levels tested but am doing it again currently to have up to date results for our appt as the last ones were 1.5 yrs ago. Everything was still good back then and my cycle seems pretty much the same other than this last one. I'm in Winnipeg so we likely have all the same benefits when it comes to healthcare. I didn't know iui was so much cheaper than Ivf, I will definitely have to ask about that at my appt. Fingers still crossed that miraculously I'll get to cancel my appt.
So sad to hear what a horror you've been through with the mc and ectopic... That is essentially my worst nightmare now that I'm so much more aware of fertility issues. It's taking long enough to conceive, starting over again after seeing that positive and not getting the end result you are expecting is very tough.
I'll definitely keep you posted. GL to you too, i hope we both get to share great news very soon, sending you tons of baby dust and hopefully more pleasant dreams!
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby orangecat » Sun Aug 21, 2016 11:42 am

Winnipeg hurray! I was there 2 weeks ago for The Hip concert. I love that city:) If we change our minds about IVF we will likely ask to be referred to The Peg as I prefer Manitoba over Alberta anyday. Haha.

Are there more than one optiona for fertility clinics? The only one we have in Saskatchewan is in Saskatoon. They did our first 2 IUIs and overall we weren't impressed with the level of care. The doctor's were not very understanding and I didn't feel we were being listened to. That city fills me with anxiety. We were super happy to discover a local doctor in Regina that does IUIs so that is where we currently are.

It is definitely good to have the AMH test repeated. Mine halved in just a year. And is quite low now for my age. I'm certain our problems stem from poor quality eggs and mediocre sperm.

Only CD 4 today. Feels like O is forever away!
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Me 37
DH 39
"Unexplained Infertility" diagnosis Feb 2014
IUI- planned for May 2014
Surprise BFP April 18/2014 while waiting for IUI!
Natural miscarriage April 29/2014 - 6 weeks
IUI #1 50mg Clomid and 24 mil sperm July 4/2014= BFN
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Aug= CANCELLED due to cyst and midcycle bleed
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Oct 7/2014= BFN
2015 NOTHING
2016 New RE gives us hope
April 19/16 Ectopic Pregnancy while waiting to begin IUI again
Right tube removed
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby TTCfortoolong2016 » Mon Aug 29, 2016 2:30 pm

Hey Orange, just thought I'd give you an update - made it past cd19 this time, yay! Going for my 21-24 bloods tomorrow. Hopefully everything comes back decent as far as my levels go.. How are you doing? Hanging in there? Has OV time come for you yet?
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby orangecat » Tue Aug 30, 2016 7:07 pm

I've been checking back here hoping you had replied:)
I have to go again tomorrow for another follicle check CD 14...they didn't give me an update on the phone so I have no clue what is going on!
I took an OPK this evening and it is close to positive and will likely be positive tomorrow. We BD tonight to cover our bases and in case I trigger tomorrow we get the 48 hours before IUI of sperm build up. Haha.
I'm hopeful that our IUI will be Thursday evening.
FX and all things crossed for both of us!
Did you track O this cycle? Hurray for a longer cycle and hoping getting back on track!
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Me 37
DH 39
"Unexplained Infertility" diagnosis Feb 2014
IUI- planned for May 2014
Surprise BFP April 18/2014 while waiting for IUI!
Natural miscarriage April 29/2014 - 6 weeks
IUI #1 50mg Clomid and 24 mil sperm July 4/2014= BFN
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Aug= CANCELLED due to cyst and midcycle bleed
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Oct 7/2014= BFN
2015 NOTHING
2016 New RE gives us hope
April 19/16 Ectopic Pregnancy while waiting to begin IUI again
Right tube removed
DH 3% Morphology
ME AMH 4.4PMOL (British scale)
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby orangecat » Wed Aug 31, 2016 11:52 am

And I'm out on CD 14:(
Only have follicles on the right side without a tube.
Crushed and devastated yet again.
Being strong is getting harder and harder....
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Me 37
DH 39
"Unexplained Infertility" diagnosis Feb 2014
IUI- planned for May 2014
Surprise BFP April 18/2014 while waiting for IUI!
Natural miscarriage April 29/2014 - 6 weeks
IUI #1 50mg Clomid and 24 mil sperm July 4/2014= BFN
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Aug= CANCELLED due to cyst and midcycle bleed
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Oct 7/2014= BFN
2015 NOTHING
2016 New RE gives us hope
April 19/16 Ectopic Pregnancy while waiting to begin IUI again
Right tube removed
DH 3% Morphology
ME AMH 4.4PMOL (British scale)
"I may not be there yet. But I am closer than I was yesterday."
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby TTCfortoolong2016 » Thu Sep 01, 2016 1:29 pm

Hey Orange, so sorry to hear that... That has to be so frustrating. I'm out too this cycle, period showed up today - makes 23 days this cycle which is still rather short for me. I didn't track O because I did get a lot of symptoms this month around days 10 & 11. I also have kinda given up on tracking as it just makes me so much more obsessive and feels like things are being forced. We just do it as much as possible during days 6 - 16 or 17 and then whenever we feel like it after that. I did at least make it to get my progesterone test done on day 22 so that's good although I'm guessing since I started my period only a day later that my results will be pretty low. I thought we had a good chance this month, bd'd on days 5, 6, 8, 9, 11, 12, 13, 15 & 16... still notta though... I don't get it. How can we bd that much and not end up with a positive. It makes me feel so inadequate since we just keep being told everything is good... there is no way that is possible since we've been ttcing for so long! I'm hoping the specialist appt will come up with something tangible this time that we can actually fix or work on. Guess we'll both have to hope for our next cycle, hopefully neither of us have to go through this much longer. Saw two babies last night from two friends that just had theirs recently... It is so hard. As much as I love my friends and I love seeing babies, it is just so hard. I know they say god only gives you what you can handle but how strong are we really expected to be? It seems so unfair sometimes. I hope your cycle goes quick so you can be on the next one soon. Waiting two weeks when you know you're already out has got to be tough. The only good thing I can say about my period showing up early is that I never get to the "should I test" stage and therefore curb at least some of that part of the disappointment (and not wasting money on tests).
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby orangecat » Wed Sep 07, 2016 8:09 pm

That super sucks about your short cycles! Are your periods really light?
When is your next appointment?
It does suck knowing that you're out before you're out but at least this 2WW seems to be flying. I have a shortish LP and it never goes past 12 dpo unless I'm pregnant. This time in a week I should be bleeding and starting letrozole again. I really wish we alternated our ovulation from each side...but everything I've read says it's random and we tend to have a dominant ovary. My luck it's the right one....with no tube. It's the side I always feel O pain from. You must be on CD 6 or 7 by now right?
Would you be interested in exchanging phone numbers via private message?..
I only log on here to check in with you:) We could what's app or text easier. Let me know!
A lot has changed on here in 3 years and it's not the vibrant, helpful community it once was....all the active members have moved on to be with their families. And any new posts seem to be from those just starting their TTC journey....
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Me 37
DH 39
"Unexplained Infertility" diagnosis Feb 2014
IUI- planned for May 2014
Surprise BFP April 18/2014 while waiting for IUI!
Natural miscarriage April 29/2014 - 6 weeks
IUI #1 50mg Clomid and 24 mil sperm July 4/2014= BFN
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Aug= CANCELLED due to cyst and midcycle bleed
IUI #2 letrazole 2.5mg Oct 7/2014= BFN
2015 NOTHING
2016 New RE gives us hope
April 19/16 Ectopic Pregnancy while waiting to begin IUI again
Right tube removed
DH 3% Morphology
ME AMH 4.4PMOL (British scale)
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Re: Anyone else still TTC #1?

Postby starzz121 » Wed Oct 26, 2016 1:00 pm

TTCfortoolong - i can relate to some of what your experiencing. (other than one other couple i know) My husband and i out of a very large group of friends are the only couple without children. Its becoming harder and harder to keep it cool and keep smiling when im sent videos and pictures on a daily basis from people, invited to birthdays and when i visit friends its the only they talk about. im not sue how others deal with this but do you get to a point where you start questioning your friendship circles?
Orange - im sorry to hear you had a bad experience on the boards i often come and go and now stick to mostly browsing.
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