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Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2017 2:08 pm
by GenieInABottle15
Am I considered infertile if I'm able to conceive just fine but am having difficulty carrying to term? I have yet to get passed 6 weeks 5 days, with my 4 miscarriages. Been through genetic testing with my fiance and we are fine. Perhaps it's my uterus or tubes, not sure but needing to get more testing done soon.
Just wanted to know if I am cause for some reason I feel like I'm the minority and all the articles I've come across are women who are unable to conceive. Most forums I've seen are the same too. I just want some hope. I'm freaking out cause I tend to symptom spot every month and along with a BFP comes fear not excitement...It sucks....
It may be weird that I am looking to be considered infertile, but I'm just confused. To me it means that one is unable to have children. Period. Not just not being able to conceive.
Ugh I don't even know why this is such a big deal for me....I hope I'm not alone :(

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2017 2:58 pm
by Danaa
Im sorry to hear about ur losses,I had one myself and it was horrible.Have you been tested for blood clotting disorder?How about natural killer cells,also you should ask for histeroscopy in case something in ur uterus prevents a pregnancy.
As for the answer to ur question I have no idea what to answer.....

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Mon Feb 20, 2017 1:43 pm
by B Michaelson
Drs can treat recurrent loss like they do inability to get pregnant but it isn't exactly the same thing. It's mostly just semantics though.

For example when my sister did IVF they considered a BFP as a success whether or not it stuck. Sadly none of them stuck but they count it towards their statistics of success.

If you have had more than 3 losses most Drs will start testing with blood work, hormone levels, physical exams etc... to see if they can pinpoint the cause and treat it. It doesn't mean it has a genetic cause. It could be low progesterone, incompetent cervix, endometriosis, chromosome abnormalities, or a ton of other things.

The fact you have had genetic testing with no findings is good. If you haven't had other tests you should ask for them. They may also ask if you want to try fertility treatment, but I think it depends on the dr.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Tue Oct 10, 2017 4:00 am
by LindaJons
This is a big deal because you want to be a mother. It is obvious. Don't be so nervous. There are a lot of women, which are unable to give birth. I had 2 miscarriages and one stillbirth, when my doctor said that I should stop trying. It is just dangerous for my health. Despite all the difficulties such as infertility and divorce I am a happy mother now. I wouldn't explain what is the surrogacy. You might know it. The guys from BioTexCom helped me to get my twin boys. They were born 6 months ago. This all happened thanks to my second husband. He found the reproduction center and brought me there. This is how much he wanted to be a father.
You know, it is very important to believe in positive result. Even if you are infertile, you still can become a parent. If you are reading this forum, you had to see a lot of stories of success. It is very important to keep trying. Modern medicine is developing rapidly. Doctors are doing everything possible to make women give birth. So, why not to ask for help?
By the way, my sister has one own baby born and one adopted boy. I'm so proud of her. She saved this baby, which was left by his parents. Don't you want to do the same? I know that it's a great pleasure to feel a baby in your womb. But, sometimes we have no choice.
Anyway, dear, I wish you all the best. Go take your tests and find out the reason of your problems. It will help you to find the solution. Let us know how are you doing.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Sun Oct 15, 2017 1:58 pm
by Kelly99
I’m sorry you can’t carry a baby. I know how hard it is because I was in the same situation. I had one miscarriage when I was young. At that time I just met my husband and we were dating for a couple of months. Anyway, we were happy to become parents because we were in love. Unfortunately, it didn’t happen. After the wedding we started ttc immediately. We were ready to become parents, that’s why we were trying really hard. After two years ttc we started visiting reproduction clinics and medical centers. We wanted to find out what was the reason of our infertility. Doctors kept saying that we were fine and we just had to keep trying. We tried a lot of treatments and even IVF. Nothing helped but we kept trying every single day.
I have no words to explain how frustrated I was. I was so tired and disappointed. I didn’t want to make tests because I knew the result. They all were negative. That’s how we spent 10 years of our marriage. We were even ready to adopt. But my mother recommended me to read about surrogacy. I really appreciate her for such a great help. We found the reproduction center, which offered this service. It was located abroad and the price was pretty low. I couldn’t believe my happiness when our surrogate got pregnant. You know, it was like a miracle. Now I know that even infertile couples can have babies. And what is the most important, our son is genetically related to my husband and me. He even looks like my husband. Now I have two amazing men in my family. I still don’t believe it happened. That’s why I wish you the same. Be strong, dear. You have enough powers to get your lovely baby.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Thu Oct 26, 2017 3:59 am
by phoebe
It often happens that a woman can't carry the baby. As for me it is something unexplained. Our body can just reject the baby. Sounds horrible to me but it's true. My doctor explained me that some women are not strong enough to give birth. For example, I've never been pregnant. I'm just unable to conceive. We were ttc for a long time but nothing happened. It was the main reason for our divorce. Now I am a mom and I have a boyfriend. My daughter was born by the surrogate. Just like girls above said, it really works. You just have to believe that you can change your life. Don't follow my example and don't give up. I remember those times. It was awful.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Thu Mar 29, 2018 2:34 am
by @whenmytruerainbow
GenieInABottle15 wrote:Am I considered infertile if I'm able to conceive just fine but am having difficulty carrying to term? I have yet to get passed 6 weeks 5 days, with my 4 miscarriages. Been through genetic testing with my fiance and we are fine. Perhaps it's my uterus or tubes, not sure but needing to get more testing done soon.
Just wanted to know if I am cause for some reason I feel like I'm the minority and all the articles I've come across are women who are unable to conceive. Most forums I've seen are the same too. I just want some hope. I'm freaking out cause I tend to symptom spot every month and along with a BFP comes fear not excitement...It sucks....
It may be weird that I am looking to be considered infertile, but I'm just confused. To me it means that one is unable to have children. Period. Not just not being able to conceive.
Ugh I don't even know why this is such a big deal for me....I hope I'm not alone :(

I'm so sorry, hun! :( I feel so disheartened to read lovely women face their losses - that's unfair..
Have you had any blood work done to check for clotting disorders? or progesterone levels? Have you seen a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE)? Have you had any testing done like a HSG to see your uterus and if it's shaped properly?
If not, the first thing I'd do is find out if you need a referal (both with insurance and with the dr) to see a RE. He/She would be able to test you for all kinds of things to see if any of those issues are your problem.
I hope there are things to be done to improve your position. Keep strong, hun, we're hear if you wanna let off steam :hugs:

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Mon Apr 16, 2018 9:14 am
by emma228
"Hello. I am so sad for you. Unnatural birth cycles once in a while cause infertility in a lady. I am so sad yet I think you are infertile. My sister faced 3 premature deliveries.lthough, She was so broken yet she didn't lose hope. Treatment didn't work for her. In this way, at last, She chose to go for surrogacy. She went to a suggested centre for it. They provided her a healthy surrogate. Today She is a cheerful mother. She is so blessed to have a baby.
"

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Tue Apr 24, 2018 10:00 am
by Alana90
So sorry to hear about loss.! Its just way too painful.
And it's fine to say that. no one would judge you here.
That's the charm of these forums. we are just here to help each other out.
Not to judge over how they feel.
I guess you must go for some more test procedures.
Till then It would be way too early to say something about your situation.
If there is certain abnormality regarding tubes or anything else.
Then that might be treated with surgeries or anything else.
You just got to find the reason behind. and everything would be fine soon,
I just hope it won't turn out to be unexplained infertility.
I just hope!
You just got to have trust and faith. everything would be fine soon.
And you would be able to have your baby
Fingers crossed.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Wed Jun 27, 2018 4:04 am
by rozianaa
hi, hope so you are doing great. Don't take the stress. Don't overthink. All will be fine. Stay positive and happy. I think you should go for a checkup. Think positive all will be fine sweetheart. My best wishes are with you. All the very best. Take a test it will tell you to result in a better way. My prayers are with you. Fingers crossed. Hoping you get a positive news. All the best.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Mon Jul 02, 2018 8:16 am
by Hania
Hi there, I just read your post yet. I want to say to you. That please never lose hope. You are not infertile. You just go to the best clinic. And discuss all the problems with the doctor. Stay happy and keep trying. You will be blessed soon. No need to take stress at all. Just follow the instructions of your doctor. Good luck.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Mon Jul 02, 2018 11:50 am
by Hania
Hey dear, Don't be worry about. All will be fine soon. I will advise you to just go for a complete checkup. So everything can clear out. You should not be upset. Just keep trying for your wish. And stay positive. It will be beneficial to you. I will pray for you. Good luck.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Fri Jul 06, 2018 6:28 am
by Hania
Please do not be worry about all it. I am not sure that you are infertile. Just think positive. Because negativity affects you badly. It will not only affect you internally but also externally. So you have to keep away your self from all these kind of thinking. You need to just comfortable. I know you will be blessed. here are, any solutions to infertility. IVF is the best option. You also can take that. But first of all, you have to take a complete health checkup. So the matter and issues will be clear out as well. So just stay strong and keep you self-stay away from all the evil thoughts. Hope all will be good for you soon. Wish you good luck. Stay blessed dear.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Fri Jul 06, 2018 8:11 am
by scarlett9999
hi hun. how are you? let me tell you are the strongest. please don't such things. do get yourself tested. there are many people having unexplained infertility. try for some time. if you don't find any good result. try going for alternative.s. they might work for you. lots of love. ill pray for you. sending you baby dust. keep I updated as to what you choose.

Re: Am I infertile?

PostPosted: Tue Jul 10, 2018 8:18 am
by rebecca11
Hey Genie, first of all, be strong. No matter it's exactly infertility or you are having difficulty carrying to term. You have to be strong in both ways to deal with it. Doctors can treat recurrent loss like they do inability to get pregnant but it isn't exactly the same thing. It's mostly just semantics though. You know, it is very important to believe in a positive result. Even if you are infertile, you still can become a parent. If you are reading this forum, you had to see a lot of stories of success. It is very important to keep trying. Modern medicine is developing rapidly. Doctors are doing everything possible to make women give birth. So, why not to ask for help? By the way, my sister has one own baby born and one surrogated boy. I'm so proud of her. Don't you want to do the same? I know that it's a great pleasure to feel a baby in your womb. But, sometimes we have no choice. Go take your tests and find out the reason for your problems. It will help you to find the solution.