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TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Jun 01, 2017 11:26 pm
by hopeful1984
Hi, I have been trying to conceive my first since turning 32 last May. I knew that it would take a while for us (just had a feeling) and gave myself a year. Fast forward 14 months later, I find myself at the same spot I was at a year ago with no positive pregnancy tests and feeling very disheartened. All this while, I have seen a few colleagues and close friends get pregnant and give birth. I am happy for them but devastated for myself. Last month, I visited a fertility specialist and did a fertility test which came back all clear. My husband is still awaiting his sperm test results.

Today, AF visited when I woke up. And this feeling that I had I can only describe as acceptance and resignation. No tears or anger like the last few times. I am going to press on but really feeling disheartened. Now, I'm exploring the possibility of TCM, IUI in July and finally IVF if the options fail to work. Any recommendations on how I can get through this will be appreciated.

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Mon Jun 05, 2017 7:12 pm
by Nickysy
Hi Hopeful.I am sorry, you are going through all of these emotions. Believe me, a lot of us here have. Glad your test results are all clear. Did they do HSG for you? If not, I would recommend you get that done. Hopefully if its only a minor issue with numbers in SA, then IUI can give you a good chance. I am 33, have tried so far for 16 cycles for baby no. 1. 3 cycles have been IUIs. And I am planning to go for IVF soon. I have been diagnosed with a combo of mild endo and PCOD. Good luck on your journey. Keep talking. Its the best way to deal with all of this. You will find very supporting group of ladies here.

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Tue Jun 06, 2017 2:57 am
by hopeful1984
Dear Nickysy,

Thank you so much for your reply. For some reason it brightened my day. I have not been able to speak to many people about TTC matters, especially with 3 out of 6 of my close friends pregnant. To have someone reply my post and addressing my concerns, that really means something to me. I will be making an appointment to check my tubes soon. And am hoping to start IUI in July. My plan is to proceed with up to 2 IUIs and then IVF eventually if that doesn't work.

I am hopeful for you Nicksy. July is near and I can only imagine how you must be feeling now. I wish with all my heart that you will be successful to give the rest of us hear some hope.

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Tue Jun 06, 2017 7:12 am
by Nickysy
Hi Hopeful...

I am happy to hear you felt better after a reply. Before joining on this forum, I felt pretty alone in talking about my fears and apprehensions as well. But the fact is, this has really helped me. A lot of very supporting ladies here have helped me. We literally share the nitty gritties.

I am very glad you have a clear plan ahead​ of you. Tubes check, IUIs. Hopefully thats all you will need. I still have a few more tests to take before they decide the course of action for IVF, but I am remaining afloat. Hoping you are getting your BFP soon too. Don't get disheartened. I know its easier said than done. But acknowledge the emotions, and move on. You just need a few good days more than the bad ones. Cheers! Have a good day..or night( I don't know which part of world you are writing from).

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Wed Jun 07, 2017 7:32 am
by hopeful1984
Hi Nickysy,
Just received bad news today. My husband's sperm analysis was not great. High counts but morphology at 3%. The report puts his normal motile sperms at 2.5 million. We read the report without the doctor as she is on leave at the moment. To be honest, I was devastated. Can't stop crying the whole day. I guess the only good thing is that we have a diagnosis and can attempt to work on it the next few cycles. I have a feeling the best course of action is IVF for us :( My husband is taking it well and is already looking for ways to improve on his sperm quality. Me on the other hand is a weeping mess.

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2017 2:31 am
by Amouna87
Sorry to jump on ladies, but hopeful I just wanted to say that I remember being in your shoes, DH's results came back at 2% morphology which was like a kick in the gut, in a way I would rather it have been me with the issue firstly so I could be in control of it and secondly for morphology is just one of those things that's hit and miss when it comes to improving it. Also the normal motile sperm is 2.5million which is good!! So everytime you guys bd there are all these motile sperm and you only need the one! We did end up going down the IVF route but the ball was already rolling for that anyways when we found out about the SA, as it was one of the standard tests they do. It wasn't what I would have chosen regarding getting pregnant obviously, but it's amazing how the body kind of goes into autopilot and now I look back on it it's kind of a haze lol. I didn't find it as taxing as maybe I was told or other people had said, I mean the overall process isn't great but mainly for me was the emotional side, the what if's etc. Hopefully it won't get to that point with you, and you have a natural bfp but if you do look to go down there just know it may feel like the world's closing in on you, but the fear of actual ivf vs the process are two very different things xx

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2017 2:33 am
by Amouna87
Oh and sorry just to add I was trying for 3.5 years, hence our decision to go down IVF

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2017 8:36 am
by hopeful1984
Dear Amouna,

Is 2.5 million normal motile sperms considered good? I have been reading the IUI boards and got the impression that it is on the low side and hence the decision to skip IUI and go straight to IVF. To be honest, at this point, I have kind of given up hope on natural BFP and am focusing on IVF instead. I am definitely nervous about it as I am not the strongest person (mentally and physically) in the world. But I do know that it has to be done.
I have no doubt that you will get your BFP eventually. You are still very young. Hopefully, 2017 will be a good year for you, Nickysy and myself and that we get to celebrate Christmas with a child in us. :)

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2017 9:35 am
by Amouna87
Hi hopeful IVF worked for us first time thank God :) 2.5million isn't amaazing but it's more than enough to do the job! Did youe dr mention anything about IUI? To be honest we went straight to IVF because our fertility consultant reccomended going straight there. I'm the same, not very strong mentally or physically lol but you will surprise yourself! but it might and hopefully won't even come to that with you guys, you can still have a natural bfp even with that SA, just might take slightly longer xxx

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2017 11:58 pm
by Nickysy
Hopeful: I am sure it must have been upsetting about the SA. But i still think 2.5 million motile sperm is good enough to give you a great chance with IVF. Some doctors will even prefer concentating the semen sample for 2-3 times, to work on an IUI. I wasn't initially sure about going the IVF route myself. Like you mentioned, didn't think I was strong enough to handle it. But now, I know if science can help me, then I am not giving up without trying. My DHs last SA also mentioned morphology at 3%. But his total no was still high. So doctor was ok with the idea. But depending​ upon the sample at the time of IVF, they might consider ICSI, if they think that will be a better choice at that time. I know at times you won't feel strong, thats when you need to find the best support you can. Relax mama, I am sure we will be carrying our babies with us at Christmas!

Amouna: Thanks for sharing your thoughts. And congratulations on your pregnancy! How far along are you?

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Fri Jun 23, 2017 1:56 am
by hopeful1984
Hi, Hope everyone is doing well. Wanted to update. I saw my fertility doctor regarding the SA and could not believe that she said that the report was all right and that we have put ourselves through unnecessary worry by trying to interpret it without the doctor. Her reasoning was that concentration was high, so morphology does not matter too much.

Can't really decide how I feel about this. At the beginning, was so sure that morphology was our problem and we had a reason for the BFNs. Now, it seems like we are back to the beginning. The good thing that came out of this is that my husband is now more conscious about his health and diet. :) The doctor also seemed confused by why we are still not getting pregnant. Her advice is to try a few more months and get the HSG done. On my part, if I get AF this cycle, i am pretty sure I will be opting for medicated IUI next.

On another note, this month, I tried acupuncture and herbal medicine which was really yucky. People said that acupuncture didn't hurt but it kinda did for me. It was the sort with a low electric current attached to the needles. Also found out with OPK that I actually ovulate on CD 17/18 as compared to the date on period tracker which states CD15. I am hoping this is the main reason why we can't conceive as we stopped BDing completely on CD 14/ 15 completely. :doh:

I am on potentially 5dpo today and having pretty bad stomach burn. FX that this is the month. Nickysy, hope all is well. Amouna, hope that your pregnancy has been smooth :D

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Fri Jun 23, 2017 7:04 am
by Nickysy
Hopeful: Good to hear from you. Seems like the same issue with my DH. Low morphology, but high number. Like i said doc was ok with it. I am glad you are considering other options. All the best. Hopefully you won't need any. AFM, we have started with IVF stims. Lets see where it takes us.

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:39 am
by hopeful1984
hi all, I'm back here to update. since posting this, I have undergone 1 clomid cycle (cancelled iui), 1 iui with leteozole and 1 with injections, which did not work for me. I then did a short protocol ivf in end oct, with an fet on 28/11.
it was successful and I am currently approx 5 weeks pregnant. I had a slight bleed (red) jus two days ago for half a day with cramps and that scared the hell out of me. it has since stopped but I'm going to try to remain positive till my first scan on 28 dec. hope you ladies are doing well.

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Dec 14, 2017 2:34 am
by Amouna87
I wasn't part of this group but wanted to say congratulations! The spotting could be leftover implantation blood or just cervix irritation, I had brown slotting at 9weeks after my FET last December,scared the hell out of me too lol. You can book a private scan to put your mind at rest from 6weeks onwards if 28th is too long to wait hehe. Good luck and keep us updated xx

Re: TTC #1 for 14 months at 33

PostPosted: Thu Dec 14, 2017 1:43 pm
by Nickysy
Hopeful: That is awesome news! Congratulations... Thanks for coming back and posting. Have a happy and healthy pregnancy ahead.