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Struggling

Postby Andi0623 » Mon Aug 07, 2017 6:47 am

Hi all,

Today is a little hard for me. With this morning's negative pregnancy test, it makes a full year of unsuccessfully trying to conceive.

I'm perfectly healthy and have no known issues. I was on the pill for about 4.5 years before going off when we started TTC. I had a normal fertility blood test in December. I wanted my husband to get tested if this last cycle was unsuccessful, but as of yesterday he "feels like he's fine."

I just feel like I'm failing my husband today. He wants a child so badly, and I, for some reason, can't seem to provide. This month is also hard because, while I learned months ago that symptom spotting is no good, this month seemed different. I was constipated, had cramping and backaches around 10 dpo, and my husband pointed out that I seemed a little sick many mornings. I got my hopes up again.

Thanks for reading.
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Re: Struggling

Postby starzz121 » Mon Aug 07, 2017 7:27 am

Hi Andi

You are not alone i am well past the 12 month mark on TTC, but dont give up hope i know a few couples its taken around a year a conceive. xx
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Re: Struggling

Postby whoz » Mon Aug 07, 2017 5:48 pm

Hello Andi,

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Infertility is incredibly hardbreaking and a head-f*@k too. It's basically torture and with so many emotions whirring around all the time. They say that it's on par if not worse than having cancer, in terms of the emotional upheaval.

I am around 20 months ttc now with one loss. It's maddening, sad, depressing, confusing, hopeful only to be disappointed, etc. It's so hard.
Me: 31
DH: 29
DS born July 2015
TTC #2 since January 2016
BFP Sept 2016 after weaning DS
MMC at 12 weeks - Nov 2016 (baby passed away at 6 weeks)
Fertility testing March 2017. Unexplained secondary infertility.
Trying naturally (Preseed, SMEP, BBT, baby aspirin, progesterone, OPKs, Fertilaid, FertileCM and Ovaboost, etc) Dec 2016 - April 2017 - BFNs
#1 round of Clomid (50mg CD 5-9) along with soft cups and all our other ammunition (see above) May 2017 - BFN
#2 round of Clomid (100mg CD 3-7) along with other ammo (see above) June 2017
#3 round of Clomid (150mg CD 3-7) in July and August 2017. Annov with breakthrough bleeding. Losing hope...

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Re: Struggling

Postby Andi0623 » Wed Aug 09, 2017 5:59 am

Thank you for your responses. I was having a tough time and needed the support you provided.

Here's the question I have now - since we've officially passed the 12 month mark, should we now seek help? I know that's what is recommended. I just placed an order for FertilAid (men and women).
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Re: Struggling

Postby whoz » Wed Aug 09, 2017 8:33 am

Hi Andi,

Yes, you can get a referal to a fertility encronologist now that it's been past 12 months. Perhaps have your OB recommend one to you. Then you can undergo all of the general testing/screening for you and your DH. Hopefully they will find a small thing wrong with your hormones or tubes that they can easily fix!

I did fall pregnant with DS on Fertilaid, and FertileCM along with preseed, etc. So, maybe that will help!

What blood tests did you do in Deccember? Day 3 tests? I hope your DH will get tested. It's so quick and easy for him. Do you chart? Have a normal luteal phase? Regular periods? Do you know if you ovulate regularly?
Me: 31
DH: 29
DS born July 2015
TTC #2 since January 2016
BFP Sept 2016 after weaning DS
MMC at 12 weeks - Nov 2016 (baby passed away at 6 weeks)
Fertility testing March 2017. Unexplained secondary infertility.
Trying naturally (Preseed, SMEP, BBT, baby aspirin, progesterone, OPKs, Fertilaid, FertileCM and Ovaboost, etc) Dec 2016 - April 2017 - BFNs
#1 round of Clomid (50mg CD 5-9) along with soft cups and all our other ammunition (see above) May 2017 - BFN
#2 round of Clomid (100mg CD 3-7) along with other ammo (see above) June 2017
#3 round of Clomid (150mg CD 3-7) in July and August 2017. Annov with breakthrough bleeding. Losing hope...

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Re: Struggling

Postby Andi0623 » Wed Aug 09, 2017 9:11 am

I don't chart, so I'm unsure about the details of my cycle.
I looked into it, but felt overwhelmed and ended up not even trying. I've used ovulation kits and track my period. My period is irregular, between 35-43 days usually, but have had a 49. Yes, it was the day 3 testing that came back all normal.

I'm hopeful that the FertilAid will help before we go to a specialist.
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Re: Struggling

Postby whoz » Wed Aug 09, 2017 9:37 am

Yes, Fertilaid really does help to make periods more regular--it did for me! I hope it will bring you down to a more managable number. I am also glad you're wise enough to know that BBT charting would stress you out more than help you. Maybe do a sono hsg as well to check your tubes, when you decide to go to a specialist.
Me: 31
DH: 29
DS born July 2015
TTC #2 since January 2016
BFP Sept 2016 after weaning DS
MMC at 12 weeks - Nov 2016 (baby passed away at 6 weeks)
Fertility testing March 2017. Unexplained secondary infertility.
Trying naturally (Preseed, SMEP, BBT, baby aspirin, progesterone, OPKs, Fertilaid, FertileCM and Ovaboost, etc) Dec 2016 - April 2017 - BFNs
#1 round of Clomid (50mg CD 5-9) along with soft cups and all our other ammunition (see above) May 2017 - BFN
#2 round of Clomid (100mg CD 3-7) along with other ammo (see above) June 2017
#3 round of Clomid (150mg CD 3-7) in July and August 2017. Annov with breakthrough bleeding. Losing hope...

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Re: Struggling

Postby Andi0623 » Wed Aug 09, 2017 12:24 pm

That's great to hear! I think I'll try 1-2 months with FertilAid to see what happens before going to a specialist. I wish I'd found out about it sooner.

Any idea what the specialist may cost? Of course I know it'll depend on what we have done, but was hoping for a general estimate so that we know if we need to start setting money aside for it.
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Re: Struggling

Postby whoz » Wed Aug 09, 2017 5:08 pm

I think with everything included it was $1500, about. Insurance covered the blood work but not the semen analysis and HSG sono.
Me: 31
DH: 29
DS born July 2015
TTC #2 since January 2016
BFP Sept 2016 after weaning DS
MMC at 12 weeks - Nov 2016 (baby passed away at 6 weeks)
Fertility testing March 2017. Unexplained secondary infertility.
Trying naturally (Preseed, SMEP, BBT, baby aspirin, progesterone, OPKs, Fertilaid, FertileCM and Ovaboost, etc) Dec 2016 - April 2017 - BFNs
#1 round of Clomid (50mg CD 5-9) along with soft cups and all our other ammunition (see above) May 2017 - BFN
#2 round of Clomid (100mg CD 3-7) along with other ammo (see above) June 2017
#3 round of Clomid (150mg CD 3-7) in July and August 2017. Annov with breakthrough bleeding. Losing hope...

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My Ovulation Chart
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