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Frustrated

Postby Missy0727 » Thu Aug 24, 2017 8:22 pm

Hi guys .. this is more of a vent than anything ... I'm 35 yrs old and still with no child .. I have been through fertility Dr's , had many test ran on me even had a procedure and still nothing ... my fertility dr told me that I'm perfectly fine.. and basically sent me on my way ... I couldn't finish my treatment because my job partnered with another company that took over our insurance and now it doesn't cover fertility .. I just want 1 child ... I was pregnant when I was 15 and had an abortion and haven't been pregnant since ...maybe it's GOD punishing me ... but I'm over it .. the treatments are so expensive and I'm just frustrated and becoming angry ... I getting of age or may have reached age to give up on having a child ... this sucks
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Re: Frustrated

Postby BeeCee33 » Thu Aug 24, 2017 8:29 pm

Sending virtual hugs your way, my dear. I don't have answers you, but I believe 100% that God does not punish us for our choices. We do enough of that to ourselves! He is there to wrap His arms around you and comfort you through all of your struggles. I'm so sorry your fertility coverage was cut. That must have been a huge blow. But 35 is still plenty young and I hope one day you are blessed with a baby. :hb:
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Re: Frustrated

Postby mimimama » Fri Aug 25, 2017 8:25 am

Hi, I am really sorry you are going through this. I agree with a previous poster, that the age of 35 isn't the issue to worry. I am sure you will meet your second half really soon. If you cannot afford fertility treatments in your country, have you considered undergoing it in Europe? In Poland, Czech Rep, Spain, Cyprus and Greece IVF clinics are very experienced, and offer pocket-friendly prices. I have been really happy with mine.
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Re: Frustrated

Postby leila123 » Mon Oct 16, 2017 11:53 pm

i am 42 and i was more frustrated than but i went for ivf in cyprus to kyrenia ivf clinic and now i have a beautiful one year old and planning to go back for a sibling for my daughter. wish you the best dear but dont give up please
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Re: Frustrated

Postby phoebe » Thu Oct 26, 2017 3:52 am

Hi, Missy. Your words seem so familiar. I just wish you could be blessed with a baby asap. You know, I also thought that I would never become a mom. My husband broke up with me when I was 34. The reason was my infertility. We spent 5 years ttc and our doctor said that we have no chances. I was ready to adopt but my DH said that he wants his own baby to be born. So, I was alone but I kept dreaming of a baby. I didn't want to date anyone again. Adoption wasn't an option as I was single. They just didn't want to give me a baby. This is what my life was like 3 years ago. I was ready to kill myself.
Once I was reading some forums and found the girl, which got her baby with the help of gestational surrogacy and donor sperm. I didn't know what it means that's why I added her to my friend list. She explained that her son was born by the surrogate. As she was single she needed a donor sperm. She told me all the details. As I still had a lot of questions, I visited several reproduction centers to find out if it would work for me.
Now I have a daughter. She is 2 years old and she is amazing. She doesn'r have a genetic father but I have a boyfriend. We live together and he says that she is his daughter. I feel like my life has changed completely. All my dreams came true and I wish you the same. Every woman should have kids, now I'm sure about it. Kids change our lives. They make us more powerful. That's why, don't give up. You are still young and healthy and you will have kids soon.
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Re: Frustrated

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Thu Mar 29, 2018 3:13 am

Missy0727 wrote:Hi guys .. this is more of a vent than anything ... I'm 35 yrs old and still with no child .. I have been through fertility Dr's , had many test ran on me even had a procedure and still nothing ... my fertility dr told me that I'm perfectly fine.. and basically sent me on my way ... I couldn't finish my treatment because my job partnered with another company that took over our insurance and now it doesn't cover fertility .. I just want 1 child ... I was pregnant when I was 15 and had an abortion and haven't been pregnant since ...maybe it's GOD punishing me ... but I'm over it .. the treatments are so expensive and I'm just frustrated and becoming angry ... I getting of age or may have reached age to give up on having a child ... this sucks

Hi, love! When you’re feeling your worst, that’s when you get to know yourself the best. God doesn't punish you. You have to be strong to overcome this all. Me - ripe age, 2 failed ivf, waiting for the next using donor egg. Time never plays on our side. But promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you know.
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Re: Frustrated

Postby beeny9890 » Fri Mar 30, 2018 10:03 am

Greetings, I am extremely sad you are experiencing this. I concur with a past publication, that the age of 35 isn't the issue to stress. I am certain you will meet your significant other truly soon. On the off chance that you can't bear the cost of richness medicines in your nation, have you thought about experiencing it in Europe. IVF centers are exceptionally experienced and offer pocket-accommodating costs. I have been extremely content with mine.
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Re: Frustrated

Postby Emilykingston » Fri Mar 30, 2018 10:57 am

Life couldn't have been tougher. I mean you were having a fertility treatment and the insurance was gone suddenly. You are right in your place to be frustrated. I would ask you to calm yourself down. I know it is difficult but it is very important for you. Only after clearing your mind you will be able to concentrate on other things. Sit down with your husband and talk about your options. There are clinics that offer treatments and do not cost you an arm and a leg. Decide which treatment is best for you. Which treatment has the most success stories? Honey, there are also clinics that offer more than one attempts of IVF and surrogacy in the same budget. Mine clinic did. I was unable to have a successful IVF in the first attempt. Today I am expecting my first child with the second IVF treatment. Hope this was helpful and you will think calmly about all this.
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Re: Frustrated

Postby Alana90 » Fri Mar 30, 2018 11:11 am

Hey!
Virtual Hugs dear!
I know how much frustrating it is.
And don’t think that God is punishing you. There might be something beautiful waiting in your way,
You never know.
The thing you are worried about is quite fair because infertility treatments are actually costly.
Be strong enough and eight your circumstances.
Have you consider traveling to other countries.
There are a number of countries that offer fertility treatments at reasonable prices.
If this is possible I would suggest you travel to another place.
Make a way for yourself.
You would be blessed with a baby soon.
Good luck.XX
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Re: Frustrated

Postby Amy4678 » Wed Apr 04, 2018 10:27 am

Hi. No, God isn't punishing you. You were only 15 back then. You had to make that choice for obvious reasons. Why don't you try assisted pregnancy methods now? If nature isn't working your way, then work with nature. Search about IVF and surrogacy. These methods are helping a lot of women now, including me.
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