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anyone with de ivf experience?

Postby LillianJ » Tue Dec 19, 2017 4:53 pm

Hello everyone! I had 6 IVFs with my own eggs. Unfortunately all of them were unsuccessful. All these IVFs we had at the same clinic. So now we are thinking to change it. Also we are going to use donor eggs this time. Unfortunately there is no chance left for me to conceive with my own eggs. They are no longer suitable for conception. I'm so nervous... What if this IVF also fails? I'm losing my mind when I think about this whole situation I'm in. Where to get more money for forthcoming tries? Also I'm worrying because my baby won't look like me. Yes he/she will have my husband’s features, but... This is really hard. I have so many crazy and scary thoughts in my mind. But of course the most important is my baby to be healthy. Is there anyone who underwent IVF with donor eggs? What are your thoughts?
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Re: anyone with de ivf experience?

Postby demmimommy » Sun Dec 24, 2017 4:59 pm

I'm sorry about your ivf failures. Forget about all those "what-ifs"! They are just making you nervous more and think about things which are not helpful at all! It's hard but try your best to think positively. We have 5 children. Two of them, twins, are from donor eggs. They don't look like us. Maybe just a little bit, some features... Though we chose donor who looked like me. But who cares? I don't, my husband either. They are mine. I love them as much as I love other 3 kids of mine. So stop depressing yourself with all those thoughts! The most important is you'll carry your baby, give birth and become a mother! It it's what you want, go for it!
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Re: anyone with de ivf experience?

Postby LillianJ » Sun Dec 24, 2017 5:12 pm

I hope this step will be the last one and we'll become parents. At the same time, when I think about 6 failed IVFs my mood changes completely... I'll try to follow your advice and think positively no matter what! Thank you for telling me about your experience. This is so amazing you have 5 kids! My congratulations with your successful ttc! You've calmed my nerves down. When I hear talks about babies and what they're look like, what they took after their moms and dads... I'm just like "What about my kid? Will people say that he or she took smth from me?" You're right. This is not the most important in our path. I want to have a healthy baby(or babies, who knows). This is the only thing I should care about. How many IVFs with de did you have before getting pregnant with your twins?
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Re: anyone with de ivf experience?

Postby demmimommy » Sun Dec 24, 2017 5:15 pm

I know honey. Our ttc wasn't easy as well. Our first try was a complete disaster. There were complications started from 9th week. On 11th week we had a scan which showed that the fetus faded on 7th week. That was a horrible time. I thought that was the end. But we still had 4 more tries. Second ivf cycle failed. And third one gave me my precious boys! So it wasn't simple thing to do. But all that was worth it.
Yes, health of your baby is the most important thing! Don't bury yourself in doubts and thoughts which make you sad. Concentrate on your journey and be positive about it!
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Re: anyone with de ivf experience?

Postby mimimama » Tue Jan 02, 2018 6:01 am

Hi, I am sorry yr IVF-s failed. Have you discussed the reasons with yr doc? I can't help much with personal experiences, but myself I know a lady who had a few IVF-s failed, and now is starting IVF DE. If you want to know more about prices and clinics, I might recommend visiting eggdonationfriends, they have lots of info. They also organize webinars, where you can discuss yr issues with docs from top IVF clinics. Hope this helps. Good luck
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
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