40 and still hoping

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40 and still hoping

Postby WannaPeanut » Mon Jan 05, 2015 12:21 pm

My ovaries are SCREAMING AT ME TODAY. I'm sitting here at work...my 40 yr old body reminding me that I still ovulate, but I can't fall PG. We have a miracle 6yr old son and we lost a baby at 9wks in May 2012. We really want another child, but the last tests from my fertility doc indicated my ovarian reserve was crap and my FSH was horrid too. The missed miscarriage indicated an abnormal pregnancy where the baby stopped forming after 5wks, so I just had tissue mass. Still it was a baby in our hearts that was just not going to make it to birth and we miss that angel every.single.day.

I am SCARED of falling PG again. Of another pregnancy loss, but I am still yearning for another child. How many women here have gotten PG 40+? I need hope!
Me-40 ; DH -41
TTC #1 for 4 yrs 8 months - infertility sucks!
Stage 1 endo; lap in 05; all clear
MFI - 42mil total sperm (normal sperm only 20% -below 30% avg)
IUI +50mg clomid March '06- failed
surprise natural BFP 3.26.08 !!!
Miracle son born 11/18/2008 - our Thanksgiving Miracle

Angel baby: 05/21/2013 - Missed MC at 9wks4d- D&C :(
08/2013 - green light to TTC #2 again and been trying ever since.
Diagnosed with low AMH - basically I have low ovarian reserve so we need another miracle!
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby KTBrown » Sat Jan 17, 2015 9:43 am

I believe in our God and his desire to bless us to carry children, he isn't bound by numbers or restrictions and therefore your age means nothing to him. Your fertility difficulties can be combated by natural methods and I highly recommend seeing a homeopathic doctor for ways to enhance your chances.

Yes you lost a child and that baby is forever yours just happens to be that his/her home wasn't where you wanted it to be. Waiting in heaven and one day you"ll see him.

This song "praise is what I do" really helped shape my attitude toward pain and Hannah knew pain like this too. Don't lose confidence in God and speak over your life blessings rather then curses. Claim health and believe in fertility; do everything you naturally can and then watch God work another miracle!!!!
KTBrown/ Carrying a miracle to term: EDD 09/07/2015
Andrew 10/10/2013
Joshua 06/14/2011
Elijah 10/05/09
Isaac 08/08/08
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby stefknow » Mon Sep 21, 2015 8:51 am

You are definitely not alone. As I know there are still a lot of women who are over 35 and want to have a child. The thing is that you have to know how to increase the chance of getting pregnant. I share some links below about how to boost fertility, hope this help! And Good luck!

4 Must-Dos When You Are Trying to Conceive- http://www.knowhen.com/index.php/2015-0 ... o-conceive
8 Ways to Boost Your Fertility- http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/8-ways- ... -fertility
10+ Ways to Boost Your Fertility- http://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant ... fertility/
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby heyD_jamie » Fri Nov 13, 2015 7:43 am

Hello there. You truly are not alone. I have turned 40 last month. My husband and i have been married for 6 years and it was on our 4th year when we took this seriously--to get pregnant. Everytime i got that negative test result, frustration just swallows me whole. But we never stopped praying for a baby. My ob gyne told me that my ovaries are just fine except for the subserous mayoma which was not really that significant on our TTC. I am due to have my period in 3-5 days from now. Symptoms like fatigue, mild abdominal cramping, tolerable lower back pains, joint pains on fingers, lesser appetite, bloating and gas then today sore throat. Now my CM is milky watery. Just this early i had a ver ahort but vivid dream that i was carrying on one arm our neighbour's baby. I've been reading alot of articles regarding these symptoms. Its getting me so confused. Again still praying, hoping this time that i got this feeling right that it's a BFP! Showering babydusts to all!
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby mamabear1 » Fri Nov 13, 2015 2:17 pm

Yes i do believe in miracles.
Yes i do believe natural therapies can boost fertility.
But i also do believe that you need to think about how long you are willing to wait, what steps you'd be prepared to take to have another, and if you would be okay if you weren't blessed with another miracle. You may very well have thought of all this.

I "wasted" 2yrs and more than $7000 on natural therapies and potions that i truly believed would work for us. My AMH was actually pretty good for my age but there are dealing with mfi. After all that hope, effort and cost = Nothing. Husbands SA actually went down, not up. I have prayed and prayed and have lost more than my faith. It's very easy to have faith and see miracles when your prayers have been answered. I am now 41.

If my dh permitted it, i would've embarked on ivf ages ago but no such luck. If you are open to fertility treatment i would strongly urge you not to delay this. If you are opposed and would be happy to live with the one beautiful blessing you have, then there is no harm trying a natural approach. It just might work for you.
[i]TTC one more precious bundle since Oct 2013 with my now 41yr old eggs, and severe mfi :(

m/c Jan 2007 7w5d
DD Nov 2007
DS Feb 2010
m/c Aug 2014 10w5d

EPU 25/1/16 - 5 follicles, 5 eggs (all mature), 3 fertilised (ICSI).
CGH testing on 1 day 6 embryo = abnormal.
Time for a new FS and a kick a*s protocol.
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby Happy4k » Sun Jun 17, 2018 3:42 am

For 13 years I had no issue ,today I am pregnant after taking a Natural therapy ,I have a friend that is about 41 years ,she had her baby as well with Natural therapy ,there is Nothing Impossible ,Be hopeful.
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby cindywoolfe » Mon Jun 25, 2018 2:05 am

Hey! Please don't lose hope. I know it's a tough situation. But, please keep the faith! If it's meant to be, it will happen. So, keep trying, stay prepared for all scenarios. Good luck!
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby annataylor1 » Thu Jul 05, 2018 12:49 pm

Hey Dear, How are you? I am really feeling very sad for your loss. Indeed that was unfortunate and that should not be happened at all. but this is all natural my dear. I think you should keep trying. And be thankful that you have one baby. Some people don't have that one. Try to stay happy. Wish you the best of luck.
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby lindaswank » Thu Jul 05, 2018 3:43 pm

Hey Dear. Your story is really very heartbreaking. I am feeling really very sorry for your losses. My dear, I think you should keep trying. Things will definitely work for you. Just be patient and stay positive. Also, consult your doctor about your condition. This will really help you a lot. Wish you best of luck for surrogacy journey.
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby martha j » Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:50 am

I feel so sorry about your experience. It is indeed a really bad one. It must have caused a lot of agony to you. I thought maybe we are the victim of all this problem but I saw many here. I can understand the pain you have been through. But, dear don’t lose hope. Life has many hardships. We must face them with the bright smile. My friend had fertility issues. She couldn’t conceive due to Uterine polyps disease. The couple decided to visit this clinic Biotexcom. I must tell you, they received an overwhelming response. Today, she is a mother of a young baby boy. This clinic is arranging an event. They will announce the dates and the venue soon. The session will include guidelines about the clinic. The clinic people will also highlight the treatments they are offering. This will help them choose the right path for the best treatment. I would say that whoever can avail this chance. Don't miss it! good luck!
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby natallia » Fri Aug 10, 2018 8:17 am

Hey! there are a lot of women who face more serious problems. You learn a lot from them when you hear their stories. They are very inspiring and motivational sometimes. I am infertile. and I had to choose an alternative. there were a lot of confusions. I found a very good institute that helped me and consulted me. I can suggest you that you visit them. they would really guide you in every possible way. They are arranging an event but the dates and venue are not confirmed yet. You can avail this chance and can get their help. You would really love this experience.
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby hannahdavid » Mon Oct 01, 2018 9:15 am

I am extremely sorry to hear about your loss. This must have been a really difficult situation for you. I recently met a woman, in the clinic, I am visiting for my treatment, who told me that she is 35 plus and the doctors at the clinic are helping her out. She seemed very positive regarding her procedure. The thing is that about 75% of women above the age of 35 have a very hard time conceiving especially naturally. Therefore, it is really important that you consider assisted conceptions as an option. It is really essential to acquire all the necessary information before you opt for any treatment, it is due to this reason that I consulted the doctors at the clinic who were willing to help me out. Sending baby dust your way.
-Low AMH and High FSH
-Poor Ovarian Reserve
-5 IUIs (failed)
-1 IVF (failed)
Life is a total mess
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Re: 40 and still hoping

Postby mimimama » Wed Oct 17, 2018 7:57 am

agreed with hannahdavid. You might also consider doing karyotyping tests to be sure that genetics is not an issue. In case mc was caused by aneuplodies, then IVF PGS NGS might work out for you.
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
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