Whats so wrong with wanting a baby?

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Whats so wrong with wanting a baby?

Postby hannah435 » Mon Oct 26, 2015 3:20 pm

Hello Everyone! Just a quick easy about me. I am almost 26 years old and I have just recently got married almost a month ago now. My husband and I have been together for almost 2 years, lived with each other almost a year and a half now. We both have always wanted kids and know we want multiple! I have been getting so much heck for wanting a baby and for my husband and I to already be trying. I literally cry everyday because I really don't have much support wanting a baby. I get the "you just got married, wait some time" everyday! But whats so wrong with my husband I am together deciding we are ready to try? I feel like I am the worst person ever for having such a great desire to kids. I mean everyone who tells me this already has kids, and at one point was in my same position. I feel I have gotten really more depressed because of this issue. I need some help and motivation to get past this feeling and how to handle it before I literally go off the deep end on someone (mostly my mom and best friends)
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Re: Whats so wrong with wanting a baby?

Postby Wishfull » Mon Oct 26, 2015 6:07 pm

Hannah, when someone looks at you and tells you to relax and wait, just look at them and say "why would I do that". There is nothing wrong with trying early. My family started asking us when we were going to start at our wedding. We already suspected problems, so it was just as uncomfortable. Do what you feel is right. No one knows your ready but you and your husband.
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Re: Whats so wrong with wanting a baby?

Postby scarletWillow3086 » Tue Oct 27, 2015 7:24 am

Hey Hannah! I felt that way too when I got married. I wanted to have a child right away because it happened to my mother, and her mother, etc. After my wedding, I was on a high and wanted more exciting things to happen right away. Getting pregnant sounded very romantic in theory, but I am glad we waited a year to start trying. We needed to save money, buy a house, get ourselves established, fight all the fights, and now we haven't been more rock-solid on getting pregnant. I think every couple is different and it depends on the circumstances. If you are in a good place as a couple, then go for it.
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Re: Whats so wrong with wanting a baby?

Postby B Michaelson » Wed Oct 28, 2015 10:22 pm

I remember telling my sister in law I wanted a baby and her response was, "Don't worry that feeling will go away soon enough!" I was so frustrated and hurt. I didn't want it to go away, I wanted to ttc.

I was ready but my husband wasn't and it took many years (including 2 of ttc and some losses) for us to finally have our family. It was hard and I wished someone understood me at the time.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a family and it's really no one else's business anyways.

We did a lot of growing in the time that we waited and were able to stabilize our life more (paid off debt, bought a house, got better jobs, etc...) so I just put a lot of focus on that until we were both ready.

If you both feel it's the right time for you, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
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