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Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby AndiA108 » Mon Nov 02, 2015 11:22 am

So I was doing ok, got upset when I got my period that marked the ttc for a full year. But then I was like, ok I'm good, it WILL happen. Now my period is over and back to OPKs and waiting for that big O day. BUT... I AM BREAKING DOWN. Help me! I can't stop crying. I just have so much anxiety. I feel like it will be another month of let down and we will just never get our little one. :(

I'm trying to figure out what's causing me so much fear and anxiety. I think I have my hopes set so high for this month because we are traveling to see our families for xmas. If I were to get pregnant this cycle we could announce to family on xmas. I know everyone will be expecting something and asking me all these personal questions. I just feel so much pressure. I want to explain to them our struggle, but we are also private people and my husband does not want his family knowing we a trying. Which is understandable and I respect that. I wish people would stop asking questions and mind their own business.

Anyways, some good support would be nice right now. Someone to just talk to. :cry:
ME: 29, DH: 31
TTC #1 since November 2014

01/2014 - MC 6wks
12/2015 - MC 5wks
2 Rounds Clomid 50mg - BFN
(NTNP Feb 2016 - April 2016)
09/2016 - Round 3 Clomid 50mg + 200mg CoQ10 3xs Day
10/2016 - Clomid Challenge Test 100mg - Responded well
11/2016 - Clomid 100mg - BFP 12/03/2016 -- Ended in a miscarriage: 12/22/2016

3 months after our miscarriage... 03/22/2017 - Unexpected BFP. Praying this is our rainbow baby.
04/11/2017 - 6w5d saw the heartbeat!
04/19/2017 - 8w5d heartbeat still strong @ 178 :D
06/28/2017 - It's a boy! <3

11/18/2017 - Our hearts will forever be changed. Our baby boy was born in to the hands of God at 39 weeks and 1 day due to a true knot in his cord. Truly heart broken.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby Danaa » Mon Nov 02, 2015 4:27 pm

I'm so sorry,you seem to have a really rough time!!I can't tell you when it will happen but I'm sure it will!!!I can understand ur anxiety,I have been ttc for years but I was lucky enough to have my family and friends to support me.I didn't hide anything,I explained them my problem,they were more then understanding and supportive,of course I didn't shared charts,opk,etc.I think having someone to help you through this it will help,I'm not saying to share ur problems with ur family but maybe a good friend,i wish I could make it all better for you!!This site is wonderful full of supportive women,are u in any group?That could help.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby Danaa » Mon Nov 02, 2015 4:30 pm

Regarding the questions you might get.....How about you tell them when the time is right things will happen and I will let everyone know.I really don't know I have zero experience with these stuff.
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DH 31
After 3 years in which we tried everything we are doing IVF in Greece with Iakentro Athens.
Short Protocol with Bemfola and Cetrotide
19mature eggs and we have 9 day5 blasto.
FET#1 ended in a loss around 5 weeks
FET#2 ended in a loss at 22w due to IC,my boys will be forever in my heart .
FET#3 ?
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby blooop » Wed Nov 04, 2015 9:20 am

I'm so sorry you are feeling upset Andi :( *hugs*
It would be cute to tell family around christmas time, but it really doesn't matter. They will be just as happy if you tell them in January or March or whenever, I promise. You don't need to put that pressure on yourself!

People ask me if I'm pregnant yet all the time even people who don't know we are trying. I know it can hurt, but just remember they mean well and they're only asking because they want it for you too. I usually just laugh and say, not yet! Most people won't pry beyond that. Maybe it's time to talk to hubby and explain to him how hard it is for you to not tell people about it, because they are unknowingly hurting your feelings as they don't realise you have been trying already.

Please don't beat yourself up and try to enjoy the holidays if you can.

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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby Kandr2012 » Wed Nov 04, 2015 4:03 pm

I am also wishing for a Christmas pregnancy announcement :( I am sorry you have to go threw this. I wish we didn't. I had a family event this weekend and so many of DHs family asked when we are having a baby. Some family even brought up our miscarriage saying "better luck next time." It's so frustrating. Hang in there, I pray you get your BFP soon.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby AndiA108 » Wed Nov 04, 2015 4:18 pm

Thanks for the support girls! Bloop, I like your idea of saying "not yet". Yes we also had a miscarriage in January. I didn't tell anyone about. I just don't want opinions I've told my sister and a few friends but even the few people I've told I can't stand the "just relax" advice! So that's another reason I'm staying quiet. Unsolicited advice... Ugh.

I am doing better today. Went out with friends last night. Helped me get my mind off things.
ME: 29, DH: 31
TTC #1 since November 2014

01/2014 - MC 6wks
12/2015 - MC 5wks
2 Rounds Clomid 50mg - BFN
(NTNP Feb 2016 - April 2016)
09/2016 - Round 3 Clomid 50mg + 200mg CoQ10 3xs Day
10/2016 - Clomid Challenge Test 100mg - Responded well
11/2016 - Clomid 100mg - BFP 12/03/2016 -- Ended in a miscarriage: 12/22/2016

3 months after our miscarriage... 03/22/2017 - Unexpected BFP. Praying this is our rainbow baby.
04/11/2017 - 6w5d saw the heartbeat!
04/19/2017 - 8w5d heartbeat still strong @ 178 :D
06/28/2017 - It's a boy! <3

11/18/2017 - Our hearts will forever be changed. Our baby boy was born in to the hands of God at 39 weeks and 1 day due to a true knot in his cord. Truly heart broken.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby scarletWillow3086 » Fri Nov 06, 2015 8:34 pm

Hey Andi, I wanted a baby by Xmas too...good chance that wont happen and Im really bummed. People who say "just relax"? I give them my b*tch face and they back off...sooo incredibly rude, they deserve my wrath lol. Im trying to accept that it wont happen by Xmas but this will be hard...
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby AndiA108 » Mon Nov 09, 2015 10:58 am

Hahaha thanks scarlet!
ME: 29, DH: 31
TTC #1 since November 2014

01/2014 - MC 6wks
12/2015 - MC 5wks
2 Rounds Clomid 50mg - BFN
(NTNP Feb 2016 - April 2016)
09/2016 - Round 3 Clomid 50mg + 200mg CoQ10 3xs Day
10/2016 - Clomid Challenge Test 100mg - Responded well
11/2016 - Clomid 100mg - BFP 12/03/2016 -- Ended in a miscarriage: 12/22/2016

3 months after our miscarriage... 03/22/2017 - Unexpected BFP. Praying this is our rainbow baby.
04/11/2017 - 6w5d saw the heartbeat!
04/19/2017 - 8w5d heartbeat still strong @ 178 :D
06/28/2017 - It's a boy! <3

11/18/2017 - Our hearts will forever be changed. Our baby boy was born in to the hands of God at 39 weeks and 1 day due to a true knot in his cord. Truly heart broken.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby IndigoBirds » Tue Nov 10, 2015 8:08 am

It sounds like all of us need a big group to get together and just start hugging. I'm so sorry you're not where you want to be yet. Truly I am. But we're here with you, all in our different boats, but all of us together.

Just keep swimming.
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2nd IUI: 27th non-medicated/not monitored, bfn
3rd IUI: 27th Nov/monitored ovulation, prescribed 100mg Clomid, cd3 for 5 days
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby AndiA108 » Thu Nov 12, 2015 11:15 am

Thanks for the support ladies! So I was having severe pain on my left side. Went to doctors and they found a dermoid? She said it won't go away with out having it surgically removed but we will watch it for now. I accepted that yesterday but today I'm starting to freak out about it. I feel like I would rather have it removed now, what if it grows when I actually do conceive??

She said she wanted to see me back in december for my annual and she would check on it then but when I scheduled they only had January available. I'm getting nervous I'm waiting too long. Going to try and call the office back today and explain that to them. I feel like a crazy person though.

Anyone else have these and can offer some advice? I also think it has effected my cycle as it looks like I haven't ovulated this month and I got my positive OPK on Sunday... :cry: :cry:
ME: 29, DH: 31
TTC #1 since November 2014

01/2014 - MC 6wks
12/2015 - MC 5wks
2 Rounds Clomid 50mg - BFN
(NTNP Feb 2016 - April 2016)
09/2016 - Round 3 Clomid 50mg + 200mg CoQ10 3xs Day
10/2016 - Clomid Challenge Test 100mg - Responded well
11/2016 - Clomid 100mg - BFP 12/03/2016 -- Ended in a miscarriage: 12/22/2016

3 months after our miscarriage... 03/22/2017 - Unexpected BFP. Praying this is our rainbow baby.
04/11/2017 - 6w5d saw the heartbeat!
04/19/2017 - 8w5d heartbeat still strong @ 178 :D
06/28/2017 - It's a boy! <3

11/18/2017 - Our hearts will forever be changed. Our baby boy was born in to the hands of God at 39 weeks and 1 day due to a true knot in his cord. Truly heart broken.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby blooop » Thu Nov 12, 2015 12:38 pm

If the doctors aren't worried about it I wouldn't worry. They usually don't remove things like that unless they are growing, so get them to examine it again in a few months and see if it is or not.

I have a cyst behind my ear. It started hurting when I was a teenager for a week and then it stopped and never bothered me again, and hasn't grown since. The doctor only wanted to remove it if it kept causing pain or was growing, otherwise she wasn't worried about it at all.. and that's like, pretty close to my brain, which would probably make doctors more nervous than near the reproductive system. So I wouldn't worry about it. Just make sure you keep note of if it keeps hurting.

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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby AndiA108 » Thu Nov 12, 2015 12:55 pm

Thanks bloop! Very true. She did say it would only have to be removed if it grew or caused me pain. I guess I'm still in pain so that's why I'm worrying. But if you said yours suddenly stopped that makes me feel better!
ME: 29, DH: 31
TTC #1 since November 2014

01/2014 - MC 6wks
12/2015 - MC 5wks
2 Rounds Clomid 50mg - BFN
(NTNP Feb 2016 - April 2016)
09/2016 - Round 3 Clomid 50mg + 200mg CoQ10 3xs Day
10/2016 - Clomid Challenge Test 100mg - Responded well
11/2016 - Clomid 100mg - BFP 12/03/2016 -- Ended in a miscarriage: 12/22/2016

3 months after our miscarriage... 03/22/2017 - Unexpected BFP. Praying this is our rainbow baby.
04/11/2017 - 6w5d saw the heartbeat!
04/19/2017 - 8w5d heartbeat still strong @ 178 :D
06/28/2017 - It's a boy! <3

11/18/2017 - Our hearts will forever be changed. Our baby boy was born in to the hands of God at 39 weeks and 1 day due to a true knot in his cord. Truly heart broken.
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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby blooop » Thu Nov 12, 2015 1:16 pm

Yeah, I'd give it a bit of time but if it keeps up definitely tell the doctor! I hope everything will be fine

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Re: Need support. TTC a year, starting to break.

Postby AndiA108 » Wed Nov 18, 2015 11:35 am

Ladies,I have a question. So I had the urge to test yesterday, not expecting much just wanted to get the urge out. It looked negative to me. Threw it away. Then today I was getting the urge to test again, and for some reason I pulled the test from yesterday out of the trash – and there is a faint line!? Is this a positive or an evap line? What do you think? I just took another test but can't really see anything, I think I see something but not enough to capture. It wasn't much of a hold because I wasn't expecting to test again. I guess I'll try and do a hold and test later? I have a small bladder do you think 3 hours is a good enough hold?

Here's a picture of my test from yesterday? What do you think just an evap. line? Not going to lie I got reallly excited, but trying to stay level headed and not get excited until I get another positive in the right time frame?
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ME: 29, DH: 31
TTC #1 since November 2014

01/2014 - MC 6wks
12/2015 - MC 5wks
2 Rounds Clomid 50mg - BFN
(NTNP Feb 2016 - April 2016)
09/2016 - Round 3 Clomid 50mg + 200mg CoQ10 3xs Day
10/2016 - Clomid Challenge Test 100mg - Responded well
11/2016 - Clomid 100mg - BFP 12/03/2016 -- Ended in a miscarriage: 12/22/2016

3 months after our miscarriage... 03/22/2017 - Unexpected BFP. Praying this is our rainbow baby.
04/11/2017 - 6w5d saw the heartbeat!
04/19/2017 - 8w5d heartbeat still strong @ 178 :D
06/28/2017 - It's a boy! <3

11/18/2017 - Our hearts will forever be changed. Our baby boy was born in to the hands of God at 39 weeks and 1 day due to a true knot in his cord. Truly heart broken.
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