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Can't be optimistic

Postby scarletWillow3086 » Fri Nov 20, 2015 1:52 pm

I was feeling alright today. And then I went to the doctor and he said that DH's sperm is "borderline" for morphology, which basically means that we could have a problem and that IUI is the next logical step. So now I'm not optimistic about this cycle. I think I'm wasting my time, another 2 weeks of my life, and I won't get pregnant because of that. In that case, I won't have positive news by Thanksgiving, or Xmas, or New Years. I'll just be on eggshells, waiting. I am so frustrated and angry and I don't know what to do with myself. My prayers are not being answered. I'm just lost...
Unexplained IF, Femara with Trigger/IUI

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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby Josie88 » Fri Nov 20, 2015 5:34 pm

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I feel your pain I really do! It's so frustrating to pray your heart out month after month and wonder why God's choosing not to answer your prayer! This is the first time in my life I'm dreading the holidays. Last year I was so sure I'd have a baby or at least be pregnant by now. I'm praying you'll get your bfp soon!
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby MamaBird912 » Sat Nov 21, 2015 5:07 am

I'm really sorry you're going through this SW... IUI has been successful in helping others conceive hasnt it? Maybe you just could use a little help.. There's nothing wrong with help! Try not to be too sad... Try to enjoy all the beautiful things about the season to keep your mind off of it.. Like how pretty everything is when its lit up, and the sparkling snow, and being with your friends and family. Bake some cookies, make some diy gifts, go ice skating, do something special for yourself. I think ladies trying to conceive for long amounts of time may forget that they matter too! Be kind to yourself, be forgiving. I'm a firm believer in what's meant to be will be.

I'm sorry if that isn't helpful, but its the best advice I could give. Basically don't let precious moments go by because you're sad.. It'll happen someday! Hoping the best for you and DH.
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby scarletWillow3086 » Mon Nov 23, 2015 9:02 pm

Thanks ladies...I guess I am having an awfully sensitive and emotional cycle. I am so drained. I just want to be a mother. I just want a blend of DH and me into a perfect little person. Why is that so hard? Sigh...
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby MamaBird912 » Wed Nov 25, 2015 11:07 am

Aww... *hugs*
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby Wishfull » Sun Nov 29, 2015 4:26 am

Scarlet
Dh had borderline morphology. 6%
Put him on 2000mg vitamin c a day. I also have DH on L-caratine, pycnogenol, and selenium. I've included a link to an article that may help.

https://sites.google.com/site/miscarria ... -fertility
http://FertilityFriend.com/home/5eb089/]http://FertilityFriend.com/home/5eb089/[/url]
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby Mary748 » Thu Mar 29, 2018 11:39 am

Hey there. I am so sorry to hear that. Life can be pretty challenging sometimes. You don't always get what you wish for. But hey? It's okay. Alright? If not this Easter then maybe the next. But I am sure you'll conceive soon. You cannot ever get anything before or after. It will always come to you only when it's meant to be. So just have faith in yourself. You're a strong woman. I am sure everything will work out for you. Take care of yourself. Good luck. I have my fingers crossed for you, sweetheart. x
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby jolie888 » Sat May 19, 2018 9:31 am

Hi. I hope you do good. I am really sorry about the way you feel. You need to chin up. Life is just testing you. Pass this test patiently. I hope you get the reward of your test soon. Stay positive about it. Always remember, stars can't shine without darkness. Enjoy the time you have right now. Wait till the happiness arrives your door step. Take care.
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby Rebecca Jackson » Tue Aug 28, 2018 9:50 am

Hey honey, how are you? I know that this is very hard and excruciating for you. But just don't despair. Stay positive. Everything Will be alright. I promise you. Take care of yourself. And try better clinics next time for your treatment next time.
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby Eliza David » Tue Aug 28, 2018 1:54 pm

Hi, Scarlet you there? I hope you are doing fine. I am so sorry to hear your story. It happens dear sometimes when you feel like things are going so far away from us that we can't control them. You are brave enough to fight with all this. Don't worry if you can't conceive the baby naturally. If IUI or IVF are not even working in your case then there is another best option available and I think you should go for that. When my doctor declared me with infertility I was feeling the same as you. I preferred surrogacy on all other options. I and my husband are planning for surrogacy as soon as possible from a clinic. We need prayers. My good wishes are with u dear. Take care and have faith in God and go for it. Thanks!
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby rozianaa » Wed Aug 29, 2018 7:14 am

OH! This is really sad. I can understand you are going through a really tough situation right now. Infertility is a tough and cruel journey. People going through this have to face many things. But I believe ups and downs are part of life. Please don't lose faith. Things will get better for you. I'm sure of it. If IUI is not working for you I think surrogacy could also be a good option for you. Surrogacy is a wonderful and successful process. I pray that all goes well for you. Stay calm don't take the stress dear. STAY POSITIVE!
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby martha j » Wed Aug 29, 2018 11:15 am

Hey, I am so sorry to hear this. I know you are in pain. Well, I think you should visit an efficient doctor first. They will tell you the real matter. There are many great fertility clinics. Personally, I have been through fertility issues and was lucky to find a very good one for myself. I hope that you will find a right path. TTC is not easy for a woman. I hope the best for you! God bless you!
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby lillyP28 » Wed Aug 29, 2018 11:17 am

I am sorrowful for you. You should go for surrogacy. IUI is also a good method. But, it is mostly unsuccessful. Surrogacy is mostly successful. Surrogacy is a miracle. But, you should be an optimist. People get what they hope for. I have also a baby through surrogacy. I was infertile. I was suffering from fatigue injury. I lost all my hope. But, my husband supported me and encouraged me. Then I visited for Surrogacy. Now, I have a baby. Take care.
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby natallia » Wed Aug 29, 2018 11:40 am

Hello, sorry to hear about your condition. If you want my advice, you should opt for IVF instead of IUI. IVF has more chances of working for women with PCOS. Choose a clinic with a high success rate of IVF. A lot of people don't know this, but it really depends on the clinic too sometimes. So be careful while choosing. You could go to the one I went to. Check it out.
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Re: Can't be optimistic

Postby BettyJames » Wed Aug 29, 2018 11:47 am

Hey there Scarlett. I am really sorry to hear about your situation. I know it must be really bad. However please be strong. I believe in miracles so should you. I have heard a lot of stories where people don't lose hope and get successful. Good luck to you.
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