Friend stopped abortion!!!sad update

This is the place to visit if you need the strength of prayers from your community of friends. Visit often, and receive encouragement to support you in your time of special need.

Moderators: JessM, southernbelle, maddy, unaffected

Friend stopped abortion!!!sad update

Postby theories » Thu Dec 15, 2005 8:47 pm

My friend went in for an abortion today and had some bloodwork and an U/S done to see how far along she was. She went in for the U/S, came back out and we started walking to the other area. She asked me to look at her sheet.........I did! It said 146 beats per minute and that she was 13 weeks!

I said to her "no way." That cant be possible. Well she had drank to bottles of water to fill her blatter and she was not suppose to drink anything. When you get anestetics you are not suppose to eat or drink. That was the first miracle! Drinking water= no abortion that day!!!

Next was that she was 13 weeks pregnant! You can have an abortion up to 19wks 6dys. She started to cry, but before she found this out I said to her, "god does what he does, what ever will be will be."

Guess what???!!?! She is keeping the baby! :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump: :jump:


We saved a life people!! GOD IS GRRRRRRRREAT!!!!


AMEN!

swizzlesticks
Last edited by theories on Sun Jan 15, 2006 6:46 pm, edited 1 time in total.
theories
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 11
Joined: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:00 am

Postby sominspecial231 » Sun Dec 18, 2005 7:48 am

that is great!!!!!!...she made a good choice!..it is great that you were there to support her and help her. :jump:
<a href="http://daisypath.com"><img src="http://dn.daisypath.com/Ljodm5.png" alt="Daisypath Anniversary Years Ticker" border="0" /></a>



<a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://by.lilypie.com/UxFhm5.png" alt="Lilypie Baby Ticker" border="0" width="400" height="80" /></a>

<a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b5.lilypie.com/PcFam5.png" alt="Lilypie 5th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a>


<a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b2.lilypie.com/o1fKm5.png" alt="Lilypie 2nd Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a>






http://www.myspace.com/sominspecial231
User avatar
sominspecial231
 
Posts: 2
Joined: Sun Nov 20, 2005 1:00 am
Location: Texas

Postby BabyLove » Mon Dec 19, 2005 10:43 am

AWESOME and THANK GOD!!! :D :D
User avatar
BabyLove
 
Posts: 2
Joined: Mon Oct 24, 2005 12:00 am
Location: Virginia

Postby ellegirl » Wed Dec 21, 2005 9:24 am

Praise God! Is she going to consider adoption?<br />
Image
Image
ImageImage
<a target="_blank" href="http://prayingfortwins.blogspot.com/">My blog</a>
Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. - Romans 12:12
Image
Image
User avatar
ellegirl
BabyDuster
BabyDuster
 
Posts: 133
Joined: Sun Jul 10, 2005 12:00 am
Location: TWW Land

Postby theories » Wed Dec 21, 2005 9:25 am

No I dont think adoption is an option for her. I personally think she should give the baby up for adoption, but I doubt it!


swizzlesticks
theories
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 11
Joined: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:00 am

Postby mely » Thu Dec 22, 2005 1:11 pm

Go with your friend to a pro-life crisis pregnancy clinic. They will be very gentle with her and very nice. They can counsel her so that she understands her feelings and all her options. Open adoption can be the bigggest gift you give someone and she could pick the parents and keep up with the child too. Or, she could keep the baby and the clinic would help her get the medical care and assistance she needs to start her new life as a mommy.
User avatar
mely
 
Posts: 3
Joined: Wed Nov 23, 2005 1:00 am

Postby theories » Fri Dec 23, 2005 9:12 am

Hi ladies,

This is the story. She has 2 children from her first boyfriend, they broke up, she got pregnant on a one night stand and gave the baby up for adoption. Then she meets some other guy and has 2 children with him right after the adopted son. Then she gets pregnant with this baby and wants to get an abortion.

Her first 2 children arent living with her, they now live with thier dad. I dont think she knows exactly what she is doing with her life, But it is extremely hard for me to judge. I dont know what it is like to be in her shoes, on the other hand I think that her having another baby when she gave her 2 children to their father and the 3rd up for adoption is not a healthy thing.

Thanks for all the replies.

swizzlesticks
theories
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 11
Joined: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:00 am

Postby Nina3117 » Thu Dec 29, 2005 10:59 am

that is a difficult situation,
but :ptl: and you for saving a life.

in end, it will turn out the way it is meant to.
Nina ~ 25
DH ~ 29
TTC#1 since 8/05
MFI, Low Count, Motility, & Morphology
IVF #1 ~ BFN
FET#1 ~ :angel: 5 Weeks
:bfp: Naturally!! EDD March 5, 2008
:hb: 121 bpm 6W2D
:hb: 10W2D
:hb: 11W5D via home doppler!
:hb: 164 bpm 12W6D
:hb: 158 bpm 13W6D
:hb: 145 bpm 18W2D
<a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://lilypie.com/pic/071010/osI0.jpg" alt="Lilypie Expecting a baby Pic" width="100" height="80" border="0" /><img src="http://bd.lilypie.com/PzAym4.png" alt="LilypieExpecting a baby Ticker" border="0" width="400" height="80" /></a>
<a href="http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/"><img src="http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/p/dev064pb___.png" alt="pregnancy" border="0" /></a>
User avatar
Nina3117
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 8
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2005 12:00 am
Location: Massachusetts

Postby theories » Sun Jan 15, 2006 6:42 pm

I have the most horrible news to tell you ladies who have been following my story.

My friend decided having another baby after all would not be in her best interest. She decided to abort at 17 weeks. I have a lot of mixed emotions regarding this situation.

Thank you for the prayers ladies, but sometimes bad things have to happen :cry: :cry: :cry:


swizzlesticks
theories
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 11
Joined: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:00 am

Postby E » Tue Jan 31, 2006 10:43 am

I am in shock, and in deep sorrow over this. I know I shouldn't say this, but there are women everwhere who cannot have babies, or who like some of us, are able to get pg, but have either had m/c, or late term loss.
I personally do not agree with abortion, but she did what she thought she should..I think that the adoption would have been the better option, but again that is me.
You did a wonderful job as a friend, and did all you could do. :-)
Image
Me: 33 :hb: DH: 37

Angel baby m/c @ 9 wk 10/26/03
Zoe Mikayla 6/9/05-6/11/05 @ 34 wk(leukemia)
Image
Image

Image
User avatar
E
Friend
 
Posts: 4
Joined: Sat Aug 13, 2005 12:00 am
Location: Fort Worth, Texas!

Postby theories » Wed Feb 01, 2006 8:51 am

Thank you for the response. I am in shock as well. She has deep sorrow over her decision, but no regret. I hope this is a lesson for her that she needs to be more careful if she doesnt want to get pregnant instead of doing something like this.

We all have to make decisions that are right for us. Even if it has a bad outcome it is all a learning process. I pray that she gets her tubes tied instead of waiting for the man to do it. She is very fertile and will probably end up pregnant again....then what?!

Im really sorry that I announced this, but it unfortunately is a nasty reality check.

God Bless

swizzlesticks
theories
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 11
Joined: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:00 am

Postby E » Wed Feb 01, 2006 7:51 pm

Well, I am hasty in putting my 2 cents out there about things. I don't know what's right for everyone..I am sorry she had to make that decision..Thanks for sharing.
Image
Me: 33 :hb: DH: 37

Angel baby m/c @ 9 wk 10/26/03
Zoe Mikayla 6/9/05-6/11/05 @ 34 wk(leukemia)
Image
Image

Image
User avatar
E
Friend
 
Posts: 4
Joined: Sat Aug 13, 2005 12:00 am
Location: Fort Worth, Texas!

Postby Babe » Sat Feb 04, 2006 2:12 pm

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. :( Not only because a baby died, but becaues abortion doesn't end as soon as the procedure is over. So many women suffer for years, sometimes even their whole lives after the gravity of what has been done sinks in. I think she's going to need you as a friend more than ever and I pray that God will help you with the right way to comfort and help her to heal. :cry:
TTC #1
ImageImageImage
User avatar
Babe
 
Posts: 2
Joined: Sun Jan 08, 2006 1:00 am

Postby theories » Sat Feb 04, 2006 8:44 pm

Thanks kinbabe. I used to be so judgemental and I hated being that type of person. I know abortion is wrong regardless at how you look at it. I feel for anyone who has to even have that thought in their heads. Its so easy to sit back and judge someone, but we have never walked in their shoes before.

She is a mess over it, even though she wont admit it. She felt especially guilty over asking me to go with her the first time, because I had lost a baby I was really longing for. I dont feel that way at all. I am in charge of my own actions and if my friends decide what they want for themselves then I am there to support them with anything. I put my feelings aside on things like this, because it really isnt about me.

I have had time to think about this situation and it has been a bit hard for me, but I believe everything happens for a reason. She is going to have to live with any feeling she has regarding this abortion not me. So the least I can do is just support her. We all come from different walks of life and go through our own trials and tribulations.

I pray to god that he continues to keep me as judgemental free as possible and happy. So far he has answered all my prayers.

God Bless you all

swizzlesticks
theories
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
TwoWeekWAIT.com Addict
 
Posts: 11
Joined: Wed Nov 30, 2005 1:00 am


Return to Emotional Support & Prayer Requests

cron