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How long did you wait after d&c to ttc?

Postby LadycatZ » Fri Jan 17, 2014 10:58 am

There are so many mixed answers to how long to wait to ttc. I've read no need to wait, I've read wait 1-6 cycles, I've read the lining of uterus needs to rebuild, I've read if you're ovulating the uterus is ready...what the heck!?

We m/c at 13 weeks last July, had d&c and fell pg 4 months/3 cycles later. Pathology comfirmed trisomy 13 due to old eggs.

I'm currently m/c at 12 weeks, d&c scheduled for Monday. Will know why when we get results of pathology report.

My mom and bf (who has 5 kids) have not been shy to tell me that they think I got pg too soon. This is the worst comment ever to someone who is experiencing loss. I thought 3 cycles would be ok. We don't know why yet but in the back of my mind I can't help to wonder if I m/c bc we tried too soon.

Please share your story of pregnancy after d&c. How long did you wait? How far along were you when you had d&c? What did your dr tell you? Did you carry to term? Etc
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Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: How long did you wait after d&c to ttc?

Postby B Michaelson » Sat Jan 18, 2014 9:02 am

One thing I read after my loss was that not only does the body need to heal (I had a lap) but also our minds need to heal. We have to be ready to accept another loss if it should happen again soon.

I don't know how long you should wait but just make sure you take the time you need to heal your mind as well as your body.

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Re: How long did you wait after d&c to ttc?

Postby EBgb1985 » Sat Jan 18, 2014 1:49 pm

Sorry for your loss. The hospital told me we could try again whenever I felt ready. Most only advise you to wait for a period so future pregnancies can be dated easily. I do think you need a month to get over it. I'm TTC again after losing my first pregnancy in Nov. I didn't wait at all but think its lucky I haven't fallen yet as I'm only just getting through it emotionally.
Hope your ok and fall pregnant when your ready with no future problems x
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Re: How long did you wait after d&c to ttc?

Postby LadycatZ » Mon Jan 20, 2014 12:25 pm

Thank you ladies. I miscarried naturally this weekend and didn't have to go through with d&c. Very grateful to be on the other side and to not have had to go through surgery. I saw dr this AM. My uterus is clear and dr said unlike with d&c, I have no restrictions. With that being said, I will probably wait one full cycle to ttc but will monitor in meantime to see how long it takes my body to get back on track. Emotionally I feel fine, I think going through the mc on my own was a very grounding healing experience.
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DH - 43
DD - 3
TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: How long did you wait after d&c to ttc?

Postby LadycatZ » Mon Jan 20, 2014 12:29 pm

Also, I asked my dr about if this pregnancy was too close to the last which may have led to mc. She said unlikely bc if my lining wasn't ready, the egg wouldn't have emplaned and definitely wouldn't have stayed attached 12 weeks and developed to 10. it'll be interesting to get pathology results back
Ana (me) - 37
DH - 43
DD - 3
TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: How long did you wait after d&c to ttc?

Postby B Michaelson » Mon Jan 20, 2014 12:41 pm

Ladycatz, I am glad to hear you are doing ok. It is amazing how medical intervention can disrupt the process of closure that we all need. I think the was the hardest part about my surgery. One minute I was pg and the next it was all just gone. There was no transition or miscarriage process. It was very strange.

I am really glad to hear that yr body did such a great job too. It's always better than the risk of a D&C.

I hope you continue to heal well. Keep us posted!
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DS - Born Jan 2015
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