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TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby jessicat » Sun Aug 09, 2015 8:47 am

Hi. I wasn't sure which thread to join, so I hope it's ok to introduce myself here.

I'm a 29 year old mother of a boy (9) and girl (7). I split from their father 5.5 years ago and have remarried. My husband is 26, and has taken on my children like his own. For the first few years, we decided we didn't want another, but things change and last year we made the decision to start trying. Because I'm studying, we had something of a time-frame to work with, and it didn't work out for us. Then the month after we stopped trying, we got pregnant. Isn't it just the way. We were delighted to be expecting this past June.

5 days later I experienced a light bleed. Went to the local hospital who told me that it was common in early pregnancy and since it was a friday evening, I wasn't in pain and I was only 4w+6d, they wouldn't do anything. The same happened a few days later. On the third time, I went to a different hospital, who took me to EPAU and scanned me. They saw the sac but couldn't identify any issues aside from the fact that it was a little low in the uterus. They scanned me again two days later and suspected a cervical ectopic pregnancy. A third scan revealed that the sac was a little higher in the uterus, but it was retroverted and they had some difficulty seeing what was happening. I was referred to a specialist at Royal London.

Sadly, he confirmed that our little Bug was healthy, heart beating away, but had implanted at the site of my 8 year old c-section scar. It's a very rare occurrence, I hadn't heard of it, and I'd had my daughter when the scar was only 19 months old. They had to remove the baby at 8w. We were heartbroken, and I've been terrified of trying again. It's hard to believe them when they tell you the odds of it happening again are so slim, when the odds of it happening in the first place were slim too.

My husband and I went back and forth since then (Nov 14) and recently decided to try again. This is our first cycle, and I'm only on CD7. I'm still scared about having to go through it all again, of feeling like a failure, like I let down my husband and my healthy baby because my body failed to do what it was supposed to do. But we're going for it anyway. That's my story. I've been lurking for a while now, and would love to 'meet' some people here who are going through the same journey.

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Re: TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby justxher » Mon Aug 10, 2015 6:57 pm

Hi Jessicat, I am so sorry for your loss. I have never heard of this happening before but hopefully it was a single freak occurrence which won't happen again. I don't think this is the kind of thing you could have predicted or done anything to stop so you have no reason to feel like a failure! I am glad you are giving it another try and hope you get a bfp quickly.

I can relate to that feeling of your body failing you, I just lost my perfectly healthy boy at 18 weeks because of an infection I caught and passed on to him. Not only did my body infect him but it then proceeded to go into labour to essentially expel him because of it. I'm having a hard time not feeling guilty and responsible for what happened to him but at the same time I know it's not something I could have predicted or even known about given how rare my type of infection was.

All we can do is stay healthy and do our best to have a safe and healthy pregnancy the next time around!
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Re: TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby jessicat » Fri Aug 14, 2015 12:02 pm

Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, justxher, and understand how that illogical guilt can make a mother feel. I hope we both get our Spring rainbows and how nice it would be to chat with another lady on the journey. Have you been TTC #2 for long so far?
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Re: TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby justxher » Fri Aug 14, 2015 1:29 pm

This is our first cycle trying, the loss was actually only 7 weeks ago but we just really just want to be pregnant again. I feel like a new pregnancy will give us hope for the future and that that will help us heal. I'm so excited but also so nervous and worried about being pregnant again, it will certainly be very tough. Are you charting/using OPKs or will you be trying a relaxed approach first? I think a spring baby will be just fabulous for both of us! :)
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Re: TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby jessicat » Fri Aug 14, 2015 2:23 pm

I totally get that. My son's birth was quite traumatic, and I had that same feeling of letting him down. We started TTC when he was 6 months old and my daughter healed many of those wounds.

I'm using OPKs but not charting. I have a 32 day cycle so not sure when I ovulate, as this is our first round, this time! How about you?
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Re: TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby justxher » Mon Aug 17, 2015 4:32 pm

I am doing everything lol, charting, temping, OPK, Preseed. I'm very impatient and want this to happen as soon as possible, but time really moves so slowly when you are TTC. My cycle is a bit off as it's only my first since the loss, so I am not sure when I'll ovulate yet either. I'm sorry to hear your son's birth was so traumatic, do you mind if I ask what went wrong with the birth?
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Re: TTC after a c-section scar ectopic

Postby jessicat » Fri Aug 28, 2015 5:17 am

Sorry for the late response, we were involved in a crash last week and have been dealing with moderate (but not severe) injuries since.

I had HG with my son and lost 2 stone, so the pregnancy itself was tough. Then at the end they very suddenly realised I had pre-eclampsia, my bp was naturally low so the rise wasn't considered a sign, despite it being high for me. By the time they realised, it was a matter of getting him out asap. He was breech so I had a c-section, and didn't get to see him for 36 hours as he was in the NICU - his growth was stunted by the pre-eclampsia and at 36 weeks weighed less than 4lb. I didn't get to hold him for 2 more days. Then breastfeeding was a 10 week nightmare before I realised I couldn't keep up with his needs. It was a tough time, and I felt like my body failed him every step of the way. It took time, and the birth of my daughter healed a lot of the wounds. But I still have that trace of guilt, silly as it is, that I could have done better.
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