Trying to Conceive Forum

by **Momma-of4** » Sun Apr 30, 2017 6:55 pm

Yes Danaa there is no set timeline as to "when you can start to feel better" everyone is different and it's ok to feel better. Don't feel guilty for being happy or having good moments this soon. I know we keep saying you are strong, but you are. You are one of the most corageous woman that know. You are a very good encourager as well. Someday I'm sure you will be using this experience to help someone else along in a similar situation. If you can afford it I think counseling would be a huge help for you and dh both if he'd be willing. A lot of times through churches they might offer counseling that doesn't cost so much. That really sucks it's so expensive. Over here I go for 35$ a session. Just remember for awhile it is going to be one day at a time getting through this. You will have good day and bad days.

by **babydust530** » Mon May 01, 2017 4:29 am

Good morning ladies, I'm feeling a little worried. Has anyone heard of pregnancy tests getting lighter and it not ending in a miscarriage?
I feel like my nausea has gotten a little better, and decided to take a cheapie mid day yesterday. It was dark but not as dark as control. So I took one today with FMU and it was even more faint. I've decided I won't test anymore until my u/s on Saturday but I'm feeling a bit nervous.

by **Momma-of4** » Mon May 01, 2017 6:48 am

How many weeks are you? My sets started gettin lighter at a certain point as well. I probably would try not to worry. Cheapies the dye really varies or it could be the hook effect. Try diluting your pee with water a bit and dip one.

by **babydust530** » Mon May 01, 2017 6:53 am

I just started week 7. I'm hoping its the hook effect. My doctor only took one HCG blood test when I was 18dpo and the number was 4267, which seems really high to me. I'm hoping that since it was that high, at that point hopefully its reached the threshold for the hook effect by now. :/

by **AndiA108** » Mon May 01, 2017 7:41 am

dana - my heart breaks for you and your husband. I'm so saddened by this news. I don't know why these terrible things happen. It makes no sense to me. I am glad you are starting to heal and you do not need to feel guilty about it! Prayers for your family <3 <3

Baby - I would call your doctor and tell them. They could check your hcg again for piece of mind!

by **babydust530** » Mon May 01, 2017 8:11 am

Andi, I thought about that but I figured I have an u/s on Saturday so I'm going to try to distract myself as much as possible until then.

by **whoz** » Mon May 01, 2017 9:33 am

Dana, we all love you. I am so sorry. This is unreal.

Baby, that is scary. It probably is okay, but we'll have to wait to relax on Saturday!

Andi, so good to hear from you. Everything is okay?

How are you Momma, Faith, Star? Nicky and Lolz, are you relaxing in anticipation?

I will test on Friday and when I get a bfn I will stop my progesterone and start my period. I meet with the doctor in a week and a half about clomid.

by **Loz28** » Mon May 01, 2017 2:39 pm

I'm ok Whoz, thank you. I'm just waiting for my next blood test tomorrow morning. I had one on fri and was nowhere near ovulating. Trying to just trust that my clinic knows best and leave everything in their hands - I was going to temp this cycle for the added peace of mind that I've definitely ovulated after the transfer is done, but then I'll just obsess over my temps for the 2ww. So tomorrow I go back for another blood test and hopefully that will be an indication that I'm about to ovulate.
I'm trying to relax and not to stress about it, but the reality of work interfering with everything has got me really worried ATM. If I don't ovulate this week, the transfer will be next week and I've got a massive presentation and won't be able to take a couple of days off, and I'll be stressed trying to get everything done for it (I hate presenting). On top of all that I'm still sick with a sinus infection and I know they won't do the transfer if I'm sick. I'm on my second course of antibiotics. Crossing everything that does the trick - I need pinpoint timing this month!
Are you sure you're out this month? Your chart is looking good.

by **starMint** » Mon May 01, 2017 2:52 pm

Danaa - thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like your doctors did everything they could. I am amazed at your strength and hope that you continue to feel our support and love.

by **faithrock** » Mon May 01, 2017 4:46 pm

Baby: I never tested that far in before. I do know at some point the tests do fade away. Please do whatever you feel is right. If you can stick it out til the weekend or need to be seen right away...just want you to feel at ease as possible. Are you in progesterone?

Loz: I hope you feel better soon. I know it's a crappy time to get sick. Hugs

Whoz: I am doing ok I guess. My cycles are still wonky. I see doc tomorrow for IUI consult for this week if I don't ovulate tonight. I only had one nearly positive opk and then vague tests. meh, poopy body.

What do are you?

by **SEL** » Tue May 02, 2017 4:34 am

I hope no one minds me popping in here, but I just wanted to reach out to Danaa and say gosh I'm so sorry girl. So so sorry.

There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better but I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your husband and your little sleeping boys. Keep being strong my lovey. xx :hugs:

by **Danaa** » Tue May 02, 2017 4:40 am

SEL wrote:I hope no one minds me popping in here, but I just wanted to reach out to Danaa and say gosh I'm so sorry girl. So so sorry. There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better but I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your husband and your little sleeping boys. Keep being strong my lovey. xx

Thank You for your kind words.

by **Danaa** » Tue May 02, 2017 4:44 am

Thanks to all of you who have shown love and support,Im feeling much better and I started thinking about trying again,im going to try my best and lose the baby weight,is not a lot around 12-15lbs and get my body ready for another transfer as best as I can,Im dreading the fact that it might not work or making a choice between transferring one or two or that my uterus will have scars and I will need surgery....but I have to try at least.
Baby stop testing,after ur levels reach a certain point the hook effect comes in.
Eoe hello:)

by **Momma-of4** » Tue May 02, 2017 5:46 am

Danaa I'm so glad to hear you say that. Your dr will help you decide what's best and will hopefully help you make the best decision for you.

by **babydust530** » Tue May 02, 2017 6:19 am

Danaa, I agree with Momma- your doctor will help you weigh the pros and cons of one or two transfers. I'm so glad to hear you are doing a little better, and I hope every day brings you more healing. And yes, you are def right I need to put down the pee sticks! lol

Faith, I'm not on progesterone but my doctor has been testing my progesterone on a weekly basis. I don't know the exact numbers, but he hasn't been concerned with those levels. I do also want to let you know that the cycle I conceived my daughter I never got a true positive OPK (and I was testing like a mad woman).

Loz, I'm sorry work in stressing you out. I hope you ovulate this week. If you don't is there any way that maybe you can leave work after your presentation? So that way you aren't taking a full day off, but you aren't working a full day either. Good luck!

Whoz, why are you so certain you are getting a BFN this cycle? Your chart does look good!

I'm feeling better after my moment of panic yesterday. I decided to not call my doctor and wait until Saturday. I'm trying to remind myself that if baby stopped growing there isn't anything I can do at this point. So, I'm trying to relax and think positive. I'm really anticipating Saturday though. I just want to see a heartbeat and get a confirmation; and considering how high my hcg was I also want to make sure there is only 1 baby in there. Why does Saturday feel sooooo far away?!