One year today... maybe adoption is next?

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One year today... maybe adoption is next?

Postby Godissogoodallthetime » Wed Feb 15, 2012 6:35 pm

Anyone think about Adopting? I am very sad about this but really want to start a family... I just wish I would have had a baby first and then adopted because what if my motherly instincts don't kick in? Or what if we adopt and then get pregnant right away, I wouldn't want our adoptive child to feel like different. Idk, all these thoughts :( Your prayers would be appreciated!
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Postby greytsharonly » Tue Feb 28, 2012 7:29 pm

I'm there. But I am thinking embryo adoption so I can experience pregnancy. It's cheaper than adoption too. I just haven't been able to get my DH to let go of a genetic connection.

And if my body can't support a pregnancy, then hell, Idk...
Me (sharon): 37 the worst- high FSH
DH (marc): 39 lots of sperm but low volume

TTC #1 for 21 cycles
FSH 19.9, everything else fine
-doing acupuncture weekly since July 2011
-Taking powdered wheatgrass, 50mg B-6, a mega multi-vitamin and fish oil (along with some TCM herbs).
-Also cut back on caffeine, sugar, alcohol, and white flour. Pretty much my entire diet before I started this.

7/2011 Clomid and lots of bding- BFN
11/11/11 IUI with Clomid #1- BFN super sad.
11/29/11 IUI with Clomid #2- BFN not fair!
12/2011- natural cycle- BFN very frustrated and angry.
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Postby saraek » Mon Mar 05, 2012 7:25 am

Adoption is a big, big decision. But I only really started giving it more thought as DH and I neared having to go the IVF route simply because we couldn't afford $14,000 on a 'chance'. I would have rather spent that money on adoption were I knew in the end, we'd be parents. But DH wasn't sure about adoption. He wanted a baby of 'his own' so I researched adoption on my own to present him with the choice... our last IUI/Injects cycle worked though. Don't give up hope :) Have you been to an RE yet? Had any tests done? Having a baby isn't out of your grasp just because you've been trying for a year.
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DH - 33
TTC since 2/2005
DD Gracie born 6/18/10
TTC #2 since 3/2011
4/2012 - Follistim/IUI #2
5/17 - BFP!
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Postby JamieRose » Tue Mar 13, 2012 4:11 pm

I've been trying over a year and am about to turn 36 so I've recently done extensive research on adoption, domestic and international. It is a very long, extensive, grueling process, and expensive. If you are seriously considering it, it doesn't hurt to educate yourself as much as possible so if you decide adoption is for you, you are ready to start the process. Another option that is much cheaper and may be "quicker" is foster a child to eventually adopt. That is what I'm looking into now. In the meantime, I will continue to try to get pregnant.
Me: 36, DH=38
TTC 1st since 12/2010 Unexplained Infertility
5 failed IUIs

IVF#1 july 2012 7 eggs retrieved, 4 fertilized ICSI
tx 2 4AA Blasts, none made it to freeze --BFN--

IVF #2 Sept 2012 -10 eggs, 7 fertilized ICSI
tx 2 blast (AB and BB)- 3 frozen (yay!)
Beta 9/19 =19, 9/21 15 ... chemical :(

FET#1 Feb 2013, tx 2 blasts ---BFP!
Beta 8dp5dt- 37 (oh no not again), 11dp 64 (hmm...) 13dp 153! cautiously optimistic
5w5d US- sac measuring 5w2d
7w US - measuring 6 weeks, but HR 123, please baby grow!
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