3 years today and still no BFP:(

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3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby kimk0621 » Mon Aug 26, 2013 7:03 am

Well here we are 3 years ago we started this journey I knew it wasn't gonna be easy but not once did I ever imagine it was gonna be this hard and we would still be childless :cry: After Iui's, IVF's and all sorts of tests I don't feel we are any closer to our dream. And of course the witch arrived today and I'm home sick any way with allergies. I just feel that it's never going to go right for me. I know ladies go through way more than we have gone through but somedays I don't know how to keep moving down this road. I feel like just saying hell with it all and we aren't going to be parents but that thought breaks my heart more so than this road. I wonder will it ever go right and we will finally get pg.

Part of me wants to move on to the road of adoption and just walk away from our last frozen embie but I know there's no way I can do that. I think looking down the adoption road will make it less of heartbreak if the embie doesn't work in a few months when we do our FET. I just want for one month to work and we could just get pg without heartaches, scheduled sex or any pain.

Sorry to vent just having a bad day today. Think it's time to take some more meds and go back to bed. Maybe sleeping the day away will make the pain less.
Me 36 DH 32 TCC Aug 2010-Oct 2011 4 IUI's all BFN. Ivf Journey Sept 21 cx due to very high e2 levels 10/27:( IVF #2 ER1/28/12 antagonist protocol transfer 2/3 9 eggs retrived and 4 fertilized! BFN 2/14--devasted IVF #3 April 20th 7 eggs retrive 6 fertilized Transfer April 25th 2 Grade 4aa embies 1 frozen
Beta #1 May 7 BFN, met with dr and have been told unexplained fertility, PCOS and endo. Not having much hope:(

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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby frankme1 » Mon Aug 26, 2013 10:51 am

So sorry to hear this kimk. I can't imagine. DH and I are on 11 months of TTC and every BFN is so heartbreaking. I can't imagine having that disappointment for 3 years and even after IUI, IVF, etc. I have always kept the idea of adoption in my mind, even before TTC. And you know I have heard so many stories about people going through the adoption process and getting their baby and then finding out they are pregnant! I really think there is something to be said about "not trying" and getting pregnant. Of course, it is nearly impossible to "not try" and not constantly think about it. Maybe the whole adoption process will keep your mind off of it all. All of the good luck in the world to you!
TTC for 17 months
8 rounds of 50mg Clomid = BFNs
2/14 - started first round of Follistim, trigger, and IUI.
Me=28, DH=41
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby Tagra » Mon Dec 23, 2013 2:40 am

My heart goes out for u....I'm also in the same boat - trying since 4 yrs without any luck :( Yet to go with IUi / IVF and have been diagonised with unexplained. And yes some days it is just so hard to find that one thing that will keep us moving on this road. Still I would like to pray and wish u good luck!
Cheers to life!

Me, DH - 35
TTC 7 yrs with Unexplained IF
2013 - lap & dye: all ok, DH low acrosome
2014 - First ever Feb BFP, gone @5 weeks, May-Aug IUI 1,2,3 - BFNs
2016 - IVF#1, Transferred 2 perfect 5day blasts, on hcg boosters shots (3, 5000IU) BFP!!!!

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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby harry56 » Tue May 23, 2017 3:15 am

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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby mimimama » Tue May 30, 2017 12:52 am

Hi, I am sorry to know your story. Do you know the reasons why yr ivf-s have failed? depending on the reasons, have you considered undergoing ivf with de or combining your ivf with PGS NGS 360?
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
July 2017 - our daughter M arrived, we are so happy
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby EstrellaS » Tue Jan 01, 2019 11:07 am

I'm sorry that you've had it so hard! Look, things will get better. You should stay in contact with your doctor. Three years is quite a bit of time. My prayers are with you. Good luck to you! You can do this, okay?
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby hannahdavid » Wed Jan 02, 2019 3:18 pm

I can very much relate to you. I am in the same boat as yours. Life can be actually so hard. However, don't lose hope. Give this one more try. I hope it works for you. Also look into surrogacy if you want to have kids that are genetically linked to you. For the process just make sure to visit the right doctor.
-Low AMH and High FSH
-Poor Ovarian Reserve
-5 IUIs (failed)
-1 IVF (failed)
Life is a total mess
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby Xenia » Sun Jan 27, 2019 11:51 am

3 years is a long time. I'm really sorry to hear about your experience. It must have been tough to take. It can be a little unfair, at times. You see women getting pregnant without even trying. I guess that's how life works! Good luck to you! Hopefully, there's a change in fortune.
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