Early 20s, do you find people are judgmental?

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Postby sparkely » Fri Jan 28, 2011 7:28 am

oh my goodness. yes!!!!!!!!! its ridiculous. im 22 had my first at 18 finished high school i think im a great mom. my sister is one of those people and it reallly sucks becuase shes my sister. i thought i was pregnant about 6 weeks ago maybe 8 weeks ago. anyways when she heard i thought i was pregnant boy did i ever here it. my sister is 26 no kids. she calls me flippin out saying what the hell are you doing. you so poofr you cant have a baby you will have nothing if you have 2 kids, you need to have a carrer not another kid. she kept saying i will have nothing in life i will be no one. well everyone as far as im concernd..kids do not strain your life they make your like. i am not poor hahaha wihc is funny anyone would say that i live very well. and blessed for that also. its all about society i swear. 40 years ago if you didnt have a kid that was strange back then society welcomed new babies and mothers. now a days society make us or whom ever to think that its bad to have kids ever you must get a good paying job and blah blha before you have kids. nahh. jobs are a dime a dozen i can get one anytime i want. anyways ya sorry im going off lol. dont let anyone judge you... society ugh!!!! :)
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Postby BrtnyMiller » Fri Jan 28, 2011 8:07 am

People are INSANELY judgemental but FAMILY is the worst. Family thinks it's acceptable for them to stick their noses in our business and make harsh judgements.

My DF is almost 22 and has 4 sisters all over the age of 30, 3 of them have children. We haven't told anyone we're TTC because of how they reacted when we got engaged. But I know exactly what will be said once we do get pregnant...

"You're ruining your life!"
"Please tell me this was an accident!"
"This is a nightmare!"
"Are you keeping it!?"
Etc, etc.

They're going to make our pregnancy out to be horrible and try to talk us into getting an abortion (wtf?). But we do fine on our own. We have our own townhouse, DF is almost done with school and is definitely joining the navy as an officer, which is great pay and benefits, and we love each other - very much.

I wish people would let us live our lives how WE see fit. If I want your opinion on my life and the choices I'm making, I'LL ASK!!!

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Postby danaalex503 » Fri Feb 04, 2011 3:57 pm

my mother in law likes to tell us that we're too young. i know for a fact that she's gone to my husband to tell him that she disagrees with our decision to start a family.

it's awful, especially since she really has no reason to feel that way. i'm 25, he's 26 AND we're a military family, so time is precious to us. blargh.

from the general public, i don't get much of that reaction once they hear my age. BEFORE they hear my age, i get the looks...since i look like i'm eighteen :oops:
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Postby CypKitty » Fri Mar 18, 2011 2:22 pm

I'm so sick of the comments that I am young, it will happen when the time is right, enjoy life before kids as it will never be the same again - WTF?!?
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Postby Jennywen81 » Sat Mar 19, 2011 5:52 pm

I think it is funny peoples views these days, when i look at my parents who were married at 19 and had baby number 2 on the way by 22. Back in the day everyone got married and started families young!!!
I had my daughter when i just turned 19, everyone kept asking if i was going to get married some even suggested i get abortion when i replied no to marriage!!
Now im with my current partner who is younger than me and I am 25, we get weird looks when we tell people we are trying ttc, but does not bother me anymore, way i see it is you can enjoy your 'freedom' more when you are older there is a lot more opportunities. Everybody lives life differently!
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Postby xkalibaby » Sun Mar 20, 2011 6:04 pm

Definitely. My fiance and I are due to marry in a couple months, I'm 19 and he's 21 and we haven't even told anyone about us TTC and we're already getting told by everyone (siblings, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins) that we can't have children or suffer the consequences. Consequences? At 19 and 21, practically married, together since 2007, both have decent steady income, what consequences? Good luck to everyone TTC!!
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Postby CypKitty » Wed Mar 23, 2011 3:15 am

Consenquences? Some people just know nothing. I hate getting told tht I have time. Well if only they knew half the story, ey?
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Postby Corvina » Fri Mar 25, 2011 4:16 am

to add to something i said earlier.

I had checked out a bunch of books on babies etc from the library..not able to take them back as we dont have a car, we asked hubbsy grandpa to do it and he gladly did. Little did I know he looked through the books.

And boy did he comment on it when he called me about loosing my job. He made me feel like complete crap. Saying I was to young to be thinking about children and that I should focus on getting a job since otherwise my DH has no reason to stay with me. Needless to say me being the overly poliet person i am, lied. I said the books were cause I have TWO baby siblings and a deep intrest in childhood develpoment. Which both are true buts thats not why i got the books haha.

Needless to say I have not spoken to him since. and everytime he's called hubby and offered to take us out to eat nad whatnot I made hubby tell him I was sick, or not feeling up to. He'd go with him, but I'd stay home. Frankly I see not point in being around that kind of person.

Not even my family knows we are TTC though..they all think we've quit. and I prefer to keep it that way. I got tired of everytime i saw my mother or sister hearing the same crap, and though my dad was supportive his newest wife does not need to know..since i well dont know her.
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Postby CypKitty » Tue Mar 29, 2011 4:00 am

Damn - I try not to tell my family anything about TTC because the last thing I need is judgement from them
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Postby aries85 » Tue Apr 12, 2011 5:37 am

people r so insensitive..my sister in law herself conceived in after six month et she keeeeeps asking me if im pregnant or when i will be..
i mean its not in my hands it just depresses me so much i have stopped goin gout too much .. :( i hope this month i concieve please please pray for me
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