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Postby swimjul » Mon Oct 04, 2010 9:24 pm

well i'm still keeping my fingers crossed for ya! But let me know what your temp was tomorrow morning!

And ya you're right i'm going to do an O test tomorrow just to see?! Imagine I O'd that early and that was problem... god would I be mad. Happy but mad,,, you know what I mean?!

Ya I just had an overal bad weekend... emotionally I'm all over the place so I dont even know when I'm going to be in a good mood or bad mood so I feel bad for dh but at the same time, i'm the one going through all of this, right?? He fully isn't thre for me like he should be and he doesn't understand what its like to miscarry 3 times and wonder what I wrong???? Today i'm stronger with knowing it wasn't my fault, but soemtimes I feel that way... and it hurts, its hard.

I did put my temps in fertility friend... thank you for recommending it!! I just have to remember each morning to do that! lol

3 days eh?!!! Are you going to test anymore?? Or just wait it out???? We should start the 3 day wait website... oh man that would be the worst! lol the hardest part... when you keep testing! We all promise ourselves we won't but then we all do... its funny... no control!!! Man ttc is the most difficult I think alot of women have had to go through... and i'm just learning about how many ppl miscarry and don't talk about it... So many ppl do its crazy...
anyway... i'm just going on and on right now... sorry!!
can't sleep... but i'm gonna try to go lay down its 1:24am!!!

sleep well!!!
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Tue Oct 05, 2010 6:33 am

Goodmorning.

Ya, that would suck. But then at least you would know what the problem was !!! Did you use the OPK today ? Was it Positive or Neg ? :jump:

I know what its like to be all over the place. I kinda feel like im not myself . ya know ? And my DH doesnt understand either.I understand how you feel hun, Although, ive never even been pregnant. So, I dont quite understand the pain of miscarrying..but i can only imagine the pain. You can talk to me about if you need to though. im a listening ear . :hugs: I def understand what its like to feel like its all your fault. I feel that now, ever since DH got a sperm analysis and he was 'good' . I feel like its my fault we donbt have a kid. I think we are gonna take a mini vacation just to get away for a few days .I think it will do me good.

ANYWAYS, Nah, im not going to test anymore. My temps keep dropping so im sure im out.Just waiting for :af: to show up. Got to just look forward to next month i guess. UGH. Im soooooo disappointed. So So SO So disappointed. Thats 7 cycles ttc. Moving on to number 8. Maybe thats a lucky number.

Talk to you soon girly
DX unexplained infertility
IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
IUI #2=3 follies,DH count over 30million= 10dpiui BFP!! beta417
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Postby swimjul » Tue Oct 05, 2010 9:40 am

hey!!

Ya that would suck but man i'd be upset about waiting this long... plus i've had 3 mc's so there has to be a problem... when I do get pregnant (notice the positive!!) I won't want to get that excited until at least 13 or even 14 weeks with what i've gone through already.

You're definately right about the opk's i'm going to use one this afternoon forsure, I forgot yesterday! Oh and I am charting with fertility friend now!!

Why in a month are you getting insurance??? Why not now? I'm not sure the way that works obviously cuz we're in different countries! lol
Any symptoms or feeling anything???

Your dh sounds like a really good man. This is weird saying this to you as I actually don't know you!! but sometimes I think that maybe im not supposed to be having a baby with my dh... I mean we've gone through so much together, heart break and everything you can possibly think of we've been through, so sometimes I think maybe we're just comfortable with eachother now... ya know?! ahh i'm porbably sounding crazy, sorry! Stupid emotions taking over again!! lol Sorry for being negative! i'm tryin to stay positive but its so hard. Did you start taking those pills you bought for depression????
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Tue Oct 05, 2010 12:27 pm

Good girl, im proud of you for focusing on the positive! You are able to get pregnant (which is awesome) now you just gotta figure whats going wrong. Thats what your specialist will help you with . You go tomorrow right??????

Oh! I meant to tell you that some people say you should test twice a day with OPks bc it is possible to miss your surge.... i dunno. I only ever tested once a day :) your charting now ? Awesome! Youll have to give me your link later on so i can look at your chart !

ya i start a new job next month and i will get insurance thru them :) Just waiting it out . lol.

No, no symptoms . My temp is the exact same today as it was yesterday. BUT, my cervix was really really high this morning when i checked. Thats a good sign. Its the last sign that i can really hold onto. Im praying that my temps skyrocket tomorrow and that im just a late implanter. That would be amazing. But im kinda grasping at straws now.

Well, there is something great to be said for having that sort of comfortability with someone. You are lucky to have that with your DH. I think that maybe you are just depressed bc of this whole TTC thing. I mean, i dont know you and your DH but im sure this TTC is getting to you. Why dont you two take a mini vacation together and try to forget about TTC for thoise few days? just have fun and remember why you two love each other. You know?

Yup! i started taking the supplements for depression a few days ago. I kinda can tell a difference which is awesome. Have you started yours????
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IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
IUI #2=3 follies,DH count over 30million= 10dpiui BFP!! beta417
HB 6w/6d 129 !

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hi

Postby swimjul » Wed Oct 06, 2010 5:18 pm

hey!!!

So I went to my appt today and really nothing special... dh has to do a SA which we are doing on tuesday morning, cuz its Thanksgiving here on monday so it's a holiday! And then they are doing something that I don't even know how to pronounce... its a dye test. They put dye in your uterus and it comes out your fallopian tubes and then they take xrays to see if there is anything there that shouldn't be there or any scar tissue cuz i've had so many mc's. So thats really it for now... oh and she gave me a prescription for Clomid for if both dh and I come back normal. And I asked if i should be doing anything else and obvisouly told her everything i'm doing and she said that I was doing everything right so far... so I guess its the waiting game from here.

That's so good that you're feeeling the pills already!! Had your mood lifted and you feel like you have energy back?? Not that you told me you didn't have that but thats the way i've been feeling so I just assumed it would be the same!! I started taking mine sept 7th and I actually kind of feel worse so i'm seeing my gp tomorrow and will probably have to switch to a different kind.

You're right about dh and I getting away... such a good idea. Thank you!! He is on vacation as of today to next wednesday so maybe even going on a "date" or something should be nice!

I've never been able to check my cervix... I guess I just don't know my body aswell as I have always thought that I did... but my temps are all about the same. and no + opk yet... I tried it twice today and got the same result so i'lll probably just stick to once a day. Are you not using them anymore??

|What kind of job are you getting??? Thats exciting!!


I just gotta say that if I don't get prego and you do I will sincerely be happy for you and not jealous at all... there is this other girl that I talked to like 3 weeks ago and she was nice n all and then she got prego and was like rubbing it in my face... I just didn't get it... I even said to her, aren't we all on here dealing with the same issue?!! Anyway, she just sent me a pm and was still telling me all these things that you shoudln't say to someone ttc and having difficulty!! She's crazy. I seriously wish I could block her, she shouldn't be on this webiste. So my point is... lol I think you're a great website friend that I can trust and lean on if I have to!!! So I appreciate it!! I'd throw you a baby shower if I could!!
Me: Julie 27 DH: Jared 32 1 mc at 8 weeks 2008 1 mc at 7 weeks 2009 1 missed mc at 11 weeks w/ D &amp; C 2009 TTC since last mc for 15 months 1 furbaby: black lab: Rufus... My big 100lb baby!!! http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1c4ff1 <br /><br />
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Thu Oct 07, 2010 6:10 am

hey girly,

ohhhh, my DH had the SA done ! And i think you are talking about the HSG test....they wanted me to get that too! But then i didnt have insurance so we decided to wait on that. I think thats the normal place for all fertility doctors to start. Im scared about the HSg test though! Ive heard its painful.

Really? You feel worse? Hmmmm. definitely go back to that doc! Is it something that takes alittle while to 'get into your system'? Maybe thats why it isnt working yet? My mood is a little better but its difficult bc the whole TTC thing is so difficult. :roll:

Yes you should def go on a 'date' !!!! That would be so much fun . You guys need to enjoy each others company :)

Just keep testing. You will get a positive one eventually ! Im excited for you . I dont think im gonna use OPks this month. I already know pretty much when i 'o', so, i dont want to waste money :) Dh would kill me. lol.

im sorry that girl was so mean! Oh my gosh. I cant believe that. Thats such a shame. i mean, like you said, we are all here for the same reason! Thanks for being so nice to me , saying you would throw a baby shower! Thats so sweet. Thanks for always listening too. Its great having a support system :)

As for me, the :af: came today.

Pretty bummed. and DH and i got in a fight bc i was upset about AF showing and he wasnt supportive like i needed him to be. He just doesnt understand.
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IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
IUI #2=3 follies,DH count over 30million= 10dpiui BFP!! beta417
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Thu Oct 07, 2010 6:37 am

Oh , meant to ask you, have you tried Pre Seed ??
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IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Mon Oct 11, 2010 12:18 pm

forgot to tell you canadian folks .... HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
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IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
IUI #2=3 follies,DH count over 30million= 10dpiui BFP!! beta417
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hi

Postby swimjul » Mon Oct 11, 2010 4:31 pm

hey!

lol canadian folks... you're funny!! Sorry to take SOO long to write back.. had another rough weekend!! But atleast it was a 3 day weekend!

Sorry for af showing up... urgh I don't know even know what to say... blah... its so weird how sometimes guys are so supportive then not at all when you REALLY REALLY need them to be especially at an emotional time like that let alone it be an emotional time of month! I don't get it!

Yes! That's exactly the test i'm talking about! Apparently it hurts like hell!! Don't going to be fun but apparently it can get rid of scar tissue and stuff like that. I'm hoping that maybe that's my problem with not being able to get prego but still no reason for all the mc's... unfortunately.

Still no + opk... should be anytime now... but my temp dropped this morning... like DROPPED... is that normal??? It was a little higher yesterday then the past week then this morning dropped!
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hi

Postby swimjul » Mon Oct 11, 2010 4:32 pm

oh oops I forgot to answer nope never tried preseed... was thinking about getting it next month??? You??
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Tue Oct 12, 2010 4:31 am

hey girl!

Im sorry you had another rough weekend. :hugs: Just emotional again? When are you getting in to see the doc about your meds? But...
YAY for 3 day weekends !!! :jump:

I know. I just dont understand DH sometimes.UGH. Boys. I bet if your Dh and my Dh got together and talked about us they would complain about how emotional we are lol lol lol.

I knoooooooowwww. im not looking forward to that test AT ALL. Im actually kind of scared about it. But, i have heard other people say that you are really fertile for up to 3 months after the test done!! I told dh that it isnt fair that i have to go have a painful test done and he gets to "go have fun " into a cup for his test! :roll: Soooooo not right .lol

You'll probably get a positive OPK soon! Its okay if your temp dropped. I think its called a fallback temp. It should be back up to normal or HIGHER tomorrow. Maybe you will be ovulating in the next few days!:)

No, ive never tried PreSeed. But i think i may try it next month ...Alot of ladies get their BFP when they use it. But, my question is, should i use it even if i have plenty of CM already?

Have a good day Julie and hope you get that positive OPK sooN!!!!!!!!
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IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
IUI #2=3 follies,DH count over 30million= 10dpiui BFP!! beta417
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Postby swimjul » Wed Oct 13, 2010 7:58 am

Hey!

LOL Ya our dh's would have so much to say about us going on and on and on!! lol It would be funny though!!

I hear that preseed helps get rid of the cm that is not good for sperm. But ya thats what I thought too, because we've never used a lube before and why would be need to now right?! But ya apparently it gets rid of the acidity part of cm. I think!

And yes!! The hsg is gonna be awful!! But in the doc's words... its like a duct cleaning lol so she gave me a presciption for clomid but only to take 2 months after the hsg test to see if that will help first.

lol have fun in a cup... it was funny yesterday morning doing that with dh.. lol it was kinda weird... it was awkward kinda!! hilarious!! but its done now and I can call in 2 weeks so see how that went.

Today my temp did go back up a little bit, but how much is is supposed to go up with you O??? Or is it?! lol oh man I don't know anything about charting... I should put my link on here so you can see it... i'm gonna try to do today!!
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hi

Postby swimjul » Wed Oct 13, 2010 8:23 am

man i dont know how to be able to show you my chart!!!


http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/index.php

i don't think thats goign to work!! i'm going to try something else!

ok I think this is it... i'm not very good at this!! first month charting!!!
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Postby jesswantstobeamommy » Thu Oct 14, 2010 7:22 am

hey girl sorry its been a little while since i responded back! Just been busy .

How are you?

The link to your chart didnt work ...it took me to the main page. Hm...
Well, are your temps up still ? Did you 'o' yet? Are you still using the OPKs ?
I went and bought a 20 pack of the OPks. I havent 'o'd yet either :) Maybe we will 'o' around the same time and have the tww together!

I think we may use the Preseed this month if we can afford it. I dunno how much it is. Is it expensive if you dont buy it online? We dont really need the lube but maybe use it to help with hostile CM...

Hope you are having a great week. :jump:
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IUI #1 -3 follies; Dh count over 20million IUI #1= BFN
IUI #2= 4 follies; Dh count over 30 million IUI #2=faint + 9dpo...official 11 DPO BFP..Beta 366
Currently Trying for baby #2!
IUI #1= 2 follies,DH count over 60 million =BFN
IUI #2=3 follies,DH count over 30million= 10dpiui BFP!! beta417
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Postby swimjul » Thu Oct 14, 2010 9:52 am

I think the link is working now at the bottom of my signature thing! But my temps are crazy... I don't get it... I do'nt think i've o'd yet... everything else tells me I should o today or tomorrow... the opk I did yesterday was pretty dark but not darker then the test, so ill try again today, but dh has been really busy so we haven't bd'd in forever! It's actually crazy!! Hopewilly we will tonight! :) lol That would be good to have the tww together! It's nice to complain to someone how long the 2 weeks have been lol time always goes so slow when you want it to go fast! lol what cd are you on??? what did your opk say??? if this does happen we should chart together and see what is happening!!

PreSeed can't hurt!! I don't think i've ever seen it in stores, you have??? I think I may order it and use... might as well. i'm like you, don't really need the lube but anything that will help!!! Still taking aspirin and everything???

How's your dh doing?
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