Late 20s and TTC #1!

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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby Cherms » Fri Jan 09, 2015 7:19 am

Hey Hockey!

I'm now offically 15 dpo. I've been getting BFN on every test I take but I still haven't seen AF (who should've been here yesterday). CM is creamy, boobs are throbbing and I'm slightly queasy but the tests all say no. I'm not sure what to think anymore. If I start I'll be going in to get the testing process started as well and DH will be going for a SA. Hope your TWW goes by quickly! FX and babydust!
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby ADV2014 » Fri Jan 09, 2015 8:34 am

Hi Cherms and other ladies, Cherms and I know each other from some other threads but I googled “TTC in 20’s” and found this. I know they say age does play a factor in this and DH and I are both 27 but having very bad luck. A lot of other threads are more mixed in age but I figure I would like to kind of do my own research on those in their late 20’s and kind of see how long everyone has been trying.

I did some stalking and see that we are close in age and that we all have been trying around the same time. My DH and I went and saw the fertility specialist before we even started because I was paranoid and DH was making me wait for a year so we could try after our wedding, I wanted to make sure everything was okay so off to the FS we went. She sent us home and told us to come back in June (6 months) if it hadn’t happened. Well, we are on cycle #8 and nothing. We did all the tests (bloodwork for each, SA for DH, 2 sono HSG’s and doing a 3D one now) and everything has come back good. We did the 6th cycle on Clomid which I had about 3 follies with timed BD, BFN. We tried Clomid again + IUI on cycle 7 and BFN again. This cycle we are doing injectables (Gonal F) with IUI. I will probably ovulate around the 19th of January and find out Feb. 1 or so if the second IUI worked.

I have had regular periods my entire life and been off BC for the last 5 years. Now I am questioning if I should ever have gone off it because everyone I know that stopped BC, got pregnant that month. My AF is always 26-29 days which is normal as I have read in the FF tidbits that it’s normal to fluctuate 3-4 days between cycles. I have charted since October and I always seem to ovulate around CD 15 on my own and with Clomid. I also have taken OPK’s since before we started to TTC to get used to them and they also show a + on CD 13 so in line with my O day of CD 15. My DH’s SA is amazing, and the FS says one of the highest she has seen.

Looking at us you would think we should have had 8 BFP’s by now but absolutely nothing. The Dr. says it will just take time but I am losing my mind as everyone around me is pregnant and got pregnant as a surprise or within 1-2 months, and they are all in their 30’s!! Our FS mentioned something someone else mentioned here as well that it can take 1 year but for some it can also take 2. I am not even willing to wait 12 months, let alone 24!!

Being told we are “unexplained” even though we are on cycle #8 is so discouraging and I feel like the issue we have is something crazy that only IVF will uncover. We are told it’s just bad luck and that is really hard to swallow. I want to hopefully feel normal in this thread being with others that are also in their 20’s and not getting their BFP’s within a month or two.
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby hockey_gal » Fri Jan 09, 2015 3:26 pm

Hi Ladies and Welcome ADV!

Cherms- that sounds so promising!!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!! Keep us posted!

As for me- I think I'm out, I'm still spotting!! Argh! What the heck!

ADV- thanks for sharing your story and sorry that things aren't working out the way you hoped they would- you are definitely in the right place! I think it's awesome that you were able to get testing done so quickly and already able to start with assisted cycles! I'm jealous! I'm finishing up cycle # 11 (24 day cycle) and if it actually takes the 3-4 months to get in to the specialist like the Dr said, I'll probably lose my mind over here. :( Hoping that the next week goes quickly and that this is your month!

If it's any comfort, I also have not been on birth control for about 4 years. I personally think it's a good thing as the hormones don't have to work their way out of out systems and our cycles don't have to adjust. Just my thoughts on it though!

Hope you all have a good weekend!!
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby ADV2014 » Sun Jan 11, 2015 8:24 am

Hi hockey

We basically just lied to our FS. I figured they would really have no way of knowing how long we has been TTC and I hoped getting good results was going to make it less stressful for us. It really didn't because we are still not getting a BFP after the IUI. I know that IUI doesn't increase chances by too much but when I think of it failing it still hurts since we had amazing results going in and it looked promising.

It's funny about the Birth control because years ago with my ex I stopped the pill and got pregnant within a week of stopping it after 6 years on it. It wasn't the right time so I terminated it for all the right reasons but I thought I would get pregnant so easily when I met the right person and had everything to offer. It's so discouraging to have gotten it so unexpectedly off the pill and here I am on cycle 8 still dying for a BFP.

I spoke to my FS and she will be adding progesterone this cycle too even though my levels are normal I figured no harm in adding more if it can help or do nothing maybe the help may be what we need. Running out of options and DH keeps insisting if we give it a year we will just get our BFP but I feel the opposite because if we were to have gotten it, it would have happened to us with 2 follies and 90 mil post wash sperm :(

Where do you live ? I'm sorry you have to wait. I'm in Canada so I know it's a bit different here. I think if you do have to wait maybe see if your doctor can run some tests ? And if you do have to wait just hope that maybe within your wait time you will hopefully be closer to or get pregnant.

It's hard because at our age everyone says you are young but we are only getting older and it's hard to imagine this is normal when I are so many people my age and even 10 years older get pregnant in less than 6 months.

I hope you are doing things to keep busy during this time.
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby jeepgirl88 » Sun Jan 11, 2015 12:35 pm

Hi ladies!

I have also been a lurker of this thread, as I am 26 and DH is 29 (he will be 30 next month). I am part of another buddy group as well where we are a mix of ages, and I think the other ladies in their 20's have all gotten BFP's already. So I agree with ADV that sometimes it is just nice to relate to others your age. A little while ago I was reading through some of this thread to try to get to know everyone so I could post, and it seemed like almost everyone had gotten their BFP already, so I felt left out. Now that there is a few of you posting that are still TTC, I thought I'd join in as well :)

I am currently 1 day late for AF on our 6th cycle. I decided to have a relaxed cycle over Christmas and never temped or used OPK's so I don't even know when I O'ed, but by this time last cycle AF had come and gone already. I have tested the last 3 days and all BFN, so getting pretty frustrated at this point and actually hoping for AF if I'm not pregnant so I can move on.

ADV, I also live in Canada, and have been wondering how things work here for seeking fertility treatments. Unfortunately I can't really lie to the doctor about how long we have been trying as DH and I saw him before I stopped BC as I was on antidepressants as well (as there is a slight risk of heart defects in babies my Dr. told me to see him before we were thinking of TTC and he had me wean myself off the meds). Also, my DH is very laid back and anytime I'm down about getting AF he just says that it hasn't been a year yet so I shouldn't worry. But then I have heard things like that it can take a whole year to even get into see a specialist, and that freaks me out! So I've been very patient so far, but if no BFP in the next couple of months I am going to book a Dr. appt as I will be due for my annual pap anyways, and see if my Dr. will help us get the ball rolling. My DH is military so is under their healthcare so I don't know if that makes a difference for us as well. We also live in a small rural area 1.5 hours from the city, so I imagine we would have to go there to see a specialist, so I am hoping that my regular Dr. could do some of the initial testing, like an SA for example but I have no idea :?

I'm looking forward to getting to know you ladies more and hoping this happens for all of us SOON! As someone who suffers from depression/anxiety I have found this a very difficult journey so far, while I have never been formally diagnosed I have a lot of symptoms of Generalized Anxiety Disorder, which means I am always worrying about something, even silly little things. I don't know what I would do if it wasn't for the support of the other ladies here!!
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby ADV2014 » Mon Jan 12, 2015 7:40 am

Hi jeepgirl,

Where in Canada do you live?

I feel relieved we are so close in age and that I am not the only one being 27 years old and feeling completely left out. I feel like people 10 years older than me are getting pregnant sooner and it’s just so discouraging at times and I find it hard to believe that everything is normal with us.

We started to TTC in July so I see you guys started one month behind us but the way my cycles played out, some 26 days etc, we are actually on cycle 8 even though it has been 7 months. I never thought we would get here and I feel like we are over the hill after cycle 6 but DH says the same thing as yours. He thinks that if we just give it 12 months it will happen. He also thinks our IUI failed because the chances aren’t that high to begin with and those statics are assuming we have tried for 12 months, so he’s throwing the IUI in as another wasted cycle as we are under 12 months. I feel differently. I felt that from our tests results, if everything came back good, we should have sped things up with the IUI and the Clomid so I have become more concerned that something is seriously the issue.

I’m torn between temping and not temping at times but found temping to be calming when I approach AF because I know when my temp drops it’s coming so I kind of prepare myself mentally. Before I was temping I had no idea when AF was coming and I would get super anxious.

Just like you, I also have bad anxiety and have been seeing a therapist with DH so he can understand how to help me feel better while I understand new ways to cope with my anxiety and depression. I get upset when people that haven’t TTC tell me to relax or who have gotten pregnant quickly tell me to also relax but I feel that before we TTC and before it took so long, I too was relaxed and if they were in my shoes, I’m sure they would understand. I know exactly what your anxiety feels like and my therapist said when people tell you to relax they are doing a few bad things. 1 – blaming the victim and saying that because you aren’t capable of relaxing you are responsible for getting pregnant, 2 – they are stressing you out more because then you sit there being anxious thinking “Omg I need to relax, omg I’m stressing out, stop stop” and that adds to MORE stress and 3 – it’s impossible to go through this experience and not stress out, it’s perfectly natural and that stress does not affect your fertility. I even saw another article published on my Fertility Friend that says stress is correlated from TTC but is not the issue.

Do you have regular periods?

I honestly think it’s so unfortunate that we are ready mentally and emotionally but our desires and mother nature are just refusing to align. Just like the nurse told us last time when we failed the IUI, it’s just BAD luck. And that sucks because at our age we assumed it would happen for us.

It feels good to have some ladies close in age to relate to.
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby jeepgirl88 » Mon Jan 12, 2015 8:05 am

Hey ADV, I live in Nova Scotia. Born and raised in ON though, and met my DH there when he was on a military course, but we were then posted to NS which is where his family lives. You? How did you guys go about starting your testing, you just got a referral from your regular doc?

AF showed for me this morning :( My periods have ranged from 26-31 days, I guess that is still regular tho? So I'm now CD1 of Cycle 7. I am the same way where its only been technically 5 1/2 months but it is now 7 cycles. Also, DH and I actually agreed we wanted to start trying when he was away back in the Spring, and then he was home for just 2 weeks and gone for another 6 weeks. In that 2 weeks he was home was when we saw my doctor about stopping my BC and meds. Then whole time he was gone I spent googling pregnancy and ttc stuff and it was just all of this anticipation but we weren't actually able to try until he came home in August. So that extra time has made my wait feel even longer.

While I would be happy to get a BFP any cycle, this time I was really thinking how the timing would be perfect and I would be expecting a Fall baby which I would love and it's our favourite season and we are moving into a renovated home soon and it's a new year and it would have just been great news. DH turns 30 next month and when we met we both said we wanted kids before 30, I would love to be able to surprise him with that news for his birthday. But every time AF comes I just feel like its a slap in the face, and like I'm being punished for something.

Anyways, it's a new year and a new cycle and as much as this sucks I'm going to try to stay positive. I find when I'm depressed I'm not in the mood to even DTD and I know that I just need to pull through and keep at it. I will be back to temping and OPK's this cycle.

I'd love to keep this TTC in our 20's group going...did you Ladies want to start a new thread on the buddy groups? We can stay here too, but this thread is already at 22 pages so I was thinking maybe it's time for a new one. Cherms and Hockeygal, I'd love to have you ladies join us as well, and anyone else who may be lurking :wink:
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby ADV2014 » Mon Jan 12, 2015 8:43 am

Hey jeep,

It’s a great idea to create a buddy group and would love for some of the ladies to come over. I always check people’s ages because of all the statistics under the age of 35, we are under the age of even 30!

I really hate when doctors say “You have time.” I am trying to really understand how that can assure me. Time to get pregnant? I understand that I am not dying or turning 50 tomorrow but based on when I want to have kids I feel that I am running out of time. Clearly we have all set goals and not achieving those goals definitely makes us feel like we don’t have time and running out. It’s important to have goals and having a family is definitely a goal that requires planning not really a nonchalant attitude as it’s a big change in your life.

I grew up in Toronto, ON and DH grew up in Kingston, ON but we met in Toronto and have a condo there. We lived there for 2 years and now are renting it out and bought a house in Durham region out of the city as DH works that way and I just commute to work.

For the referral, my DH just went to his doctor and said that we were going to start TTC and we wanted to make sure his SA was good because I have anxiety of course and was worried and she wasn’t one to interpret or run those tests so she referred us to the clinic. We were in the clinic within a month. She told us to come back in 6 months as we hadn’t tried yet and progressed from there.

I wanted to have a family before last year but DH was insistent that we wait until after we are married. I remember last year I cried on mother’s day because my friend was pregnant and celebrating being a mother soon and it killed me inside that I didn’t know when I would be a mother. I remember crying and DH assured me by next May I would be but here we are and not even pregnant yet so it will be so hard to go through that again. I do fully understand how the wait is even longer because of when you were mentally ready vs when you actually started trying.

Your cycle is pretty regular, it’s normal to vary 4-5 days or so, I think if you vary over 7 days or more that’s maybe irregular. Mine is 26-29 so I think it’s pretty standard.

I like charting cause I can see how our BD timing is and I wish I could say it has been off but it’s always perfect 

I just read something that this woman wrote about her infertility struggle and she said she tried her best to focus on changing her attitude. Instead of thinking “why me?” every month, she tried to accept her journey by saying “This is me” and by accepting it she found better ways to cope.

Again, I think you can understand me best when it comes to anxiety as I would love to take something to help but can’t while TTC. I am going to try my best to think that way.

Also, I know about the house and DH’s birthday. We ran out and bought a house before the wedding cause I wanted to have the baby’s room good to go when we got pregnant. Well we moved into the house last May and TTC since July and the room is empty  and it hurts.

Have you told anyone you are TTC? We made the mistake of telling people we wanted kids right away and now I feel like everyone is kind of like “So…?” stupid of us but we had no idea. Our other friends got pregnant right after their weddings the year before us and already have babies, I feel like they will be on baby #2 while we haven’t even gotten pregnant yet 
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby Cherms » Mon Jan 12, 2015 9:59 am

I'm loving this thread! It's a little more of exactly where I am and feeling right now. If you do make a buddy group thread please direct me to it, I'd really like to be a part of it.

It took me forever to talk DH into trying right after we got married (May) and he still could've waited but I bumped up my insurance for 2015 for better birth coverage and I wanted to make sure we had time to get pregnant. And here it is, 2015 and still not pregnant with only a 3 month window to get the birth in that time frame. I feel so.. I don't even know. I can't believe it sometimes. A friend of mine got pregnant within 2 months of trying with all 3 of her kids. We drifted away and I can't seem to pick up the friendship again, with her new baby. It just hurts, and she's not the most considerate person so I know it will feel like it's being rubbed in my face.

I'm going to try to get in to see my Dr this week to see what we can start. I'm totally prepared to lie as well Adv, lol. Even though DH was a little against it, I just want to KNOW if something is wrong. If we have the money and are willing to pay for the tests to know why do they make you wait? That's the most mind boggling for me. If something is wrong, why wait 12 months to even test for it? That seems to @ss backwards to me I can't even begin to explain my impatience with it.

People are finally starting to ask about us, and I have no idea what to say. I've stuck with "we'd love one" for now but if they catch me on a bad day some one may get an ear ful. :)

As always, keeping everything crossed this is the cycle for everyone.
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby jeepgirl88 » Mon Jan 12, 2015 10:36 am

I have come a long way in positive thinking over the years which is really helping me, especially now that I am off my meds. I have been doing yoga and I also ordered a Peace and Calming essential oil that someone here suggested, just trying to doing anything I can to help myself relax through all this. But ADV, I think you are totally right, sometimes telling yourself to relax can make you feel more stressed!

That's cool that your DH grew up in Kingston...I went to Queen's for 3 yr's and Kingston is where DH and I met. I loved it there!!

When we started trying DH and I agreed we would not tell anyone until a few months pregnant. I did however get excited at first and mention to a close friend and also a co-worker that we are trying, which I sort of wish I hadn't now. Nobody else knows though, and my MIL has hinted quite a few times that she wants a grandchild. Back in November she said that was what she wanted for Christmas!! I just went home and cried and told DH that was all I wanted too, and I started to feel angry with her like why does she think we can just snap our fingers and make it happen. Of course she doesn't know we are actually trying so maybe she thinks we need persuasion. Still, it hurts sometimes that people just assume its so easy to make it happen.

It seems like we can relate in a lot of ways, also the fact that we are TTC #1 in this group. I don't mean any offense to anyone who already has children, but I have been feeling like it is a bit different going through all of this for the very first time. I see people here that while they are ttc keep busy playing and doing activities with their kids, and then I get sad that I don't have any kids yet to play with, you know what I mean? So yeah, it just definitely helps when you can find others to connect with that are actually in your exact same situation.

So Cherms, ADV, and anyone else who would like to join us, here is a link to our new buddy group for Late 20's and TTC #1!
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby ADV2014 » Mon Jan 12, 2015 12:28 pm

Cherms – I love this thread, I couldn’t agree more.

I had to plead with DH and we settled on trying 1 month before our wedding because I would still not be showing and be able to fit into my dress. My DH for some reason decided to be very old fashioned and insist that we waited until we were married, I’m bitter sometimes because I feel like he did that thinking of his family’s opinion and that upsets me that they would have had any influence and now here we are. On the other side, our friends got married exactly the year before us and they got pregnant within 2 months. They are both 31 so we thought we had 5 years on them so for us it should have been a breeze. Guess they were just plain lucky.

When we failed on our first cycle in July I contacted two people that had announced their pregnancies and they both said it happened the month they went off BC. I felt so upset because DH told me to reach out for comfort but the fact that they were the same exact age and got their BFP within 1 month made me feel even worse. That was 3 people I knew that got a BFP in less than 3 months. How could I read all these things online that it takes 6 months – 12 months or even 12 more when people around me got it in under 3 months!

I wanted to have a baby when I was 27 and have settled on being pregnant at 27 and having one at 28 but even that hasn’t happened yet. I keep thinking I will be 29/30 and still without a BFP, what will I do then! Some people may say that’s ridiculous but how can I feel optimistic after so many negatives. I read that the depression and anxiety experienced by women who are failing to fall pregnant is the same as women diagnosed with cancer and HIV and told they were going to die. It’s pretty huge and it’s insane that nobody takes this seriously and doesn’t see it as a medical condition that should be treated or covered. I think that is why we fall under unexplained because they fail to recognize the need to do even further testing and just say it will happen, whatever get over it. They want to save money that is why they let people wait 12 months and hope they won’t show up.

My DH was against lying too but I told him what this means to me and that I accepted trying to have a baby on his schedule and gave up mine so he has to help me calm my nerves. Now that we are on cycle 8, he says he is happy he lied because he couldn’t imagine going through this for a whole year and THEN starting all this and still being in the dark.

Honestly, when people ask just say something like oh we just had a wedding and (did you get a house) so we are saving or say we are enjoying our time together because when we have kids we’ll never have this opportunity. Or like I tell some other people to simply google how long it can take to get pregnant. My friend kept asking and I got annoyed and I said to her to google it, she said “Wow I had no idea” she hasn’t asked me again.

I know how it feels when it comes to drifting away from people with babies. Our friends who got pg within 2 months, their son is over 6 months now and we haven’t seen him. That’s because since he was born we were busy with our wedding, then we were away for a whole month and then the depression sunk in due to TTC so I couldn’t bear to see him and I knew the will ask us. His friend asked why we haven’t seen their baby but didn’t even ask how we are doing, I don’t want to have to justify to them why we aren’t pregnant yet or see them show off their baby and be happy about him, they have every right to be but I just can’t stand that right now.

My friend just told me she’s 27 weeks pregnant and she got pregnant the month that we started trying (July) it hurts me so badly because she invited me to her shower in March, of course I cannot go. I told her that for us it’s been bumpy and she just said oh don’t worry it will happen. What does she know I thought, she said it was a quick surprise. Lucky her, again she is 30.

I am not happy we are all in this boat, I wouldn’t wish this on anyone but happy we have found each other and are not alone.
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby ADV2014 » Mon Jan 12, 2015 12:39 pm

Jeep – that’s funny that you went to Queen’s so did my DH of course, what did you take there? You were probably there at the same time. I grew up in Toronto so I’m a U of T graduate.

I couldn’t have said what you said better myself. I HATE when people think you snap your fingers and make it happen, keep reminding yourself that these people had luck and that they have no idea how long it actually takes.

I know how you feel about other people making comments. My co-workers was 33 when she got married and she told me “I got pregnant the first month after our wedding, you will too just wait and see” Well, that didn’t happen. We got married at the end of August and were on our honeymoon for a month, when I got back to work all the women told me they were surprised because they had a bet that I would come back and announce I was pregnant. I went home and cried, that really hurt that people are talking about me that way and here I am struggling and suffering.

At the work X-mas party my co-worker said to me, well it’s nobody’s business if you and your husband have decided to not have kids right now. And I thought, my god, I’m already at the stage where people are a) thinking something is wrong with me or b) we don’t want kids now. We have only been married for 4 months, end of January and people clearly think if we wanted it, we would have snapped our fingers and made it happen so because it hasn’t we must not want it.

I see people and all I get asked is “Any news?” I play dumb but I know what that question means and get insulted and my blood boils that they even dare to ask.

I completely agree and I think that being on TTC for #2 is a bit different as to me maybe it wouldn’t feel as big and scary as it does for #1, I also don’t have the same distractions and would do anything to look at my first child and say well I have one already it will happen but I have none so it really hurts.

Does your work keep you busy, any hobbies?

We have done it all, yoga, cooking classes, photography classes, even signed up for interior decorating classes online.
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby unpatientwaiter » Mon Mar 30, 2015 6:36 am

Hey ladies I was hoping to be able to catch up with everyone. I hope everyone is still doing well. I am in contact with Jeep through another thread. ADV how is TTC coming along for you lady?
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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby jeepgirl88 » Mon Mar 30, 2015 6:39 am

Hey Kristina! I actually turned this group into a buddy group, and just started a new thread this weekend.

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Re: Late 20s and TTC #1!

Postby unpatientwaiter » Mon Mar 30, 2015 6:40 am

Cherms you got your BFP last month OMG :happyforyou: :congrats:
Me: 28
DH: 29
TTC #1
TTC for 16 months
Taking a break indefinitely
4/2014 - HSG showed both tubes are open and clear.
DH diagnosed with Low-Sperm Count - 18million - 6 million good enough for IUI
First IUI - June 15, 2014 - BFN
:bfp: 15DPO!
Beta #1 -356
Beta #2 - 1103!!!!!

Its a :babyb: !!!!!

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